Soleil Moon Frye Agrees It Takes a Village to Raise Children: By My Third Baby I Was ‘Throwing Him into People’s Arms’

09/22/2016 at 01:00 PM ET

As a mom, it can be hard to relinquish control when it comes to raising kids — but even the stars have learned that sometimes it’s okay to accept help.

Garcelle Beauvais, Soleil Moon Frye, Molly Sims and Haylie Duff got together for PEOPLE’s Mom Talk video series, which is now live on PEOPLE/Entertainment Weekly Network, to discuss when they do — and don’t — take advice from other moms.

“I believe in it takes a village,” Beauvais, 48, admits, “so I love when I get help from my friends, strangers.”

It’s a sentiment Frye — mom to daughters Poet Sienna Rose, 11, and Jagger Joseph Blue, 8½, and sons Lyric Sonny Roads, 2½, and Story, 4 months — definitely echoes.

“I’ll take all the help I can get. The first time, I held on to the baby and wouldn’t let anybody else hold her,” she says, laughing. “Now I’m like, ‘Please take him.’ My third child, I’m throwing him into people’s arms.”

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Soleil Moon Frye
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Sims, however, was initially hesitant to take on help — and admit she needed it.

“I always thought I was quite sure of myself about certain things,” she says. “But I think the one thing I’ve learned being a mom is to try not to judge. And it’s hard, some people will give me advice and I’m like, ‘There is no way, girl, I’m doing that.’ ”

And for some, all it took was a pacifier for a change in attitude.

“For me, the big turning point was deciding to give [my daughter] a pacifier,” Duff says. “I called one of my girlfriends and I was in tears because she really wanted it, I was like, ‘Beverley, what do I do?’ and she was like, ‘Get her on a pacifier, who cares!’ ”

— Lindsay Kimble

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Jeezuss..... on

That is a horrible thing to say, but if you do feel like throwing him into other people’s arms, maybe it’s a clue….. Stop having children. Such an ungrateful thing to say. There are women who would give anything to have a baby but can’t, and you just keep popping em out and complain about it. Tell your husband to have the snip. That would solve your problem

ddnj on

Take it down a notch there, Jeezuss.

Sam on

Jeezuss….you took that wrong. She didn’t mean she doesn’t care, it’s just that by the third kid you are more relaxed and appreciate others helping. With my first, I sterilized everything in sight, made my husband change his shirt when he got home from work before holding him! By the third, meh I was giving the bottles a quick rinse and off you go. You realize babies are a lot tougher and it’s hard to break them.

red on

Omg that is a big toddler! Wow and not in a good way

Duh on

Lady, if you are throwing your kids in others arms maybe you should stop having kids. Just stating the obvious.

Robin on

I noticed that Story doesn’t have any middle names like his three older siblings do.

Heather on

Omg! The cute, chubby one is a BOY?!

maggie on

She needs to cut back on how much that 2-year-old is eating! Good lord!

JessinSeattle on

I think the throwing the baby in other’s arms comment, means she is more relaxed. And 4 kids is not too many. Jeez. And my nephew was a chunky monkey like her son, and now at 8 he is a string bean. In fact most of the babies in our family were chunks thru their toddler years. Then they stetch out.

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