Audrina Patridge: Breastfeeding Daughter Kirra Has Been ‘More Painful Than the C-Section’

09/16/2016 at 01:45 PM ET

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Forget the sleepless nights. For Audrina Patridge, the hardest adjustment to new motherhood was getting used to nursing.

“Breastfeeding was the most painful thing,” Patridge, whose daughter Kirra Max is now 12 weeks old, tells PEOPLE exclusively. “For me, it was more painful than the c-section!”

The Hills former cast member — who now runs a lifestyle blog, AudrinaPatridge.com — says she learned to “push through” the pain, and eventually survived intact.

“The first two to three weeks were excruciating,” says Patridge, 31. “But I got through it!”

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“I slept on the couch for a week. My grandma came and helped for a week. It was crazy!” Patridge admits of some of the other difficulties she experienced in bringing a baby home for the first time.

But as any new mom would likely admit after coming out on the other side, the challenges are all worth it.

“Once I had Kirra, nothing else mattered,” Patridge says of her daughter, who is now sleeping six to seven hours a night. “I didn’t even care. I didn’t care about the dishes piling up or anything. I just let it go.”

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Now that Kirra is on the verge of turning 3 months old, the new mom can focus on the happier moments with her daughter, whose father is Patridge’s fiancé Corey Bohan.

“She’s definitely a water baby,” says Patridge. “Corey can’t wait to take her surfing. And I just can’t wait to get our nails done and take her shopping, the little things.”

It's the wknd. Pool party!! 🎉 #Kirra

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It certainly sounds like a good balance of hobbies is in the future for Kirra.

“She’ll be a tomboy with Corey and a full-on girly girl with me!” Patridge adds. “She’ll be a cute little tomboy who likes makeup.”

For more from Audrina Patridge, pick up the latest issue of PEOPLE, on newsstands now.

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cr on

Awesome job, mama!

It can be uncomfortable or even very painful at first. That usually means the latch isn’t just right, but as baby’s mouth gets bigger, the frena stretch, and the nipple skin gets tougher, the pain goes away. If it doesn’t, get help from an IBCLC!!!

I was 17 when I had my first baby and breastfed entirely 100%, never used a bottle fro pumped milk even. My son weaned himself at 24 months. I was in pain for about 8 months until an IBCLC noticed my son had an anterior tongue tie. It was clipped 2x and by 9 mos, the pain was completely gone.

My 2nd son was born 7 years later and after the first week there was no discomfort. His frenum was not tight at all.

#normalizebreastfeeding

Esme on

I felt the same way! Breastfeeding looks so easy, but that wasn’t how it was with my first. The latch was obviously all wrong. We managed to get it right, luckily, but I could easily see why some women change to bottle feeding.

Ellsberg on

It’s so funny to me that people will put themselves in pain to breastfeed when recent sibling studies have shown no difference in breastfed and bottle fed children. I guess as long as you get to play the martyr and act superior to bottle feeders, it’s worth it.

El on

People don’t breastfeed so they can act like martyrs – they breastfeed because it’s good for the baby. It’s also good for the mother, and for the environment, but I think that most people are motivated to do it because it’s good for the baby. If people choose not to breastfeed or are not able to, it’s not a big deal either since it’s a personal and family decision. No need to make assumptions (mean ones at that!) about people who choose to breastfeed.

Stefani Duke on

it’s painful for ALL the 1st few weeks. she is nothing special. it’s normal, geeze

Robin on

I like how she assumes what her daughter will be.

Tam on

Yes breastfeeding is very painful the first few weeks. My daughter didn’t latch properly and I got it fixed when she was two days old with the help of a lactation consultant. Now that she is getting teeth I have to teach her not to bite…

onemore on

sorry to add yet another breastfeeding comment to the scene here, but i wanted to chime in that pain doesn’t always result from improper latch. i also suffered pain that was worse than my natural birth and it had more to do with skin sensitivity and possible thrush in the nipple. sorry, tmi! anyways, it was incredibly frustrating to keep hearing latch comments, because my little guy’s latch was perfect. there are all sorts of breastfeeding issues that cause pain and being persistent and asking for help will get you through it!

Meena on

Bottle worked for baby and me. Good for her though.

Lyn on

@ellsberg

There are a billion studies that show the benefits of breastfeeding. Their immune system and general health is increased greatly. I get not doing it for medical reasons or extenuating circumstances, but beyond that, it’s laziness and a concious decision to not do the best thing you can for your kid.

Shell on

I totally understand. My second child didn’t latch on properly …very painful with bleeding. I didn’t think I would be able to continue, but we worked through it. I also had a C-section. Enjoy your beautiful baby!

SAON on

For some women, their nipples just have to adjust, even if the baby is properly latched. For me, it took about 6 weeks before it was no longer “excruciating”. But it was totally worth it!!

bugsforever on

I hope Kirra strikes her own path and Audrina has to grow up to come to terms with it.

Ema's Journey on

So the most interesting thing to do with your daughter is nails and shopping? I mean people are stupid but to proclaim it this publicly….Sorry baby girl.

helen on

@Ellsberg…seriously?? martyr? You apparently have a personal problem with breastfeeding. No, you’re not a martyr for doing it, it’s been proven that it’s better nutritionally for the baby, it’s much more convenient…no bottles to clean, always the right temperature, etc. For me, it forced me to stop, relax and the bonus was spend time with my baby. I see babies often propped up with a bottle and the parent is not near them, can’t do that when you breastfeed. AND….it is definitely more painful than childbirth..not because of a bad latch, but it assists in helping the uterus contract and that hurts like H#LL.

Eenie on

WHY is this a story?

JK on

I don’t understand why women feel like its some sort of competition when it comes to bottle feeding or breastfeeding. If you breastfeed, awesome, if you bottle feed, you are also awesome. Women need to stop bringing each other down. I bottle fed both my boys and they are perfectly healthy . I don’t feel like I missed out on any special bonding time with my boys because I bottle fed. You are bonding with your child no matter which way to choose to feed them.

G on

I thought women with implants couldn’t breast feed..

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