Hilaria Baldwin: ‘I Prided Myself on Being a Super Breastfeeding Mommy’

07/14/2016 at 10:30 AM ET

Hilaria Baldwin knows it’s not fair to expect perfection — especially as a mom.

She herself had this realization when she couldn’t breastfeed her son Rafael Thomas, now 13 months, for as long as she’d initially wanted to — and she’s using the experience to talk about the unrealistic expectations moms can put on themselves and how to treat themselves better.

“I prided myself on being a Super Breastfeeding Mommy, but I was only able to breastfeed Rafa until he was 10 months old,” admits says the 32-year-old yoga instructor — who is currently expecting her second son with husband Alec Baldwin — in the August issue of Fit Pregnancy and Baby.

“I got pregnant again, and my milk supply went way down,” continues Hilaria, who adds she was able to breastfeed now-2½-year-old daughter Carmen Gabriela for 15 months. “But the fact that I didn’t breastfeed him for as long as I’d intended is okay.

“We beat ourselves up for not being perfect, but there’s something to be said for letting go.”

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Hilaria also knows her body so well she could sense when her first son was going to be born — four weeks before his due date.

“Alec was doing a play that night, and I said, ‘Don’t go. The baby is going to be born, ‘ ” she says. “He talked to the doctors, and they said, ‘No, definitely not.’ Sure enough, I went into labor that night.”

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Their newest little boy will be the third child for Hilaria and Alec, 58, in just over three years. But even though they don’t plan on having any more kids, Hilaria knows she has the final say with her youngest.

“In the delivery room, I pointed to Alec and my doctor and I said, ‘From now on, you and you will always listen to me. Do you understand?’ ” she recounts. “They both said yes.”

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Hilaria’s approach to motherhood — and her idea of supporting fellow moms — applies to childbirth too: She is all for moms doing what is best for their families.

“I’d originally wanted to have my kids without drugs, but I ended up having epidurals for both,” she says. “It gives you just enough relief, so you feel happy and present but not numb. With Rafa, I labored without one for 15 hours, and I was in extreme pain. Then I got the shot, and suddenly I was smiling.

“I love giving birth, probably because of the drugs,” she adds jokingly.

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The soon-to-be mom of three also doesn’t pretend it’s easy to stay in shape during her pregnancy. She shares that she practices yoga every day, jogs four miles four days a week and takes barre classes three times a week — all while taking care of two children under the age of 3 and handling the physical hurdles that come with pregnancy.

And she’s confident that other women have the power and ability to tap into their inner health-conscious selves, too.

“So many women give up. They think, ‘I’m a mom now, so I’m always going to be out of shape.’ No!” she says. “I’m of the opinion that just because we’re pregnant doesn’t mean we’re sick. Let’s be strong and in the best shape possible.”

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Heather on

She looks much better with lighter hair.

cj on

She looks fantastic! But she has the time to put into staying fit. There is no way she doesn’t have help and can afford to pay for it. I’m not bashing her at all. I’m just saying if I had 3 kids in 3 years I’d be overweigh for sure and not have that type of energy. So good for her and I wish her family the best.

gymluv on

Hilaria is queen of the humble brag. She does it with her daily post baby body pictures in her underwear. ‘My belly isn’t flat yet’, when it is. ‘I could only breastfeed for 10 months.’ She knows many moms can’t nurse for more than a few days/weeks, so she announces she did it for nearly a year. Staying in shape is much easier with a full staff cooking, cleaning and 3 nannies on hand.

Chweener4 on

Cannot stand this woman or her husband. I would have more respect for her if she would admit to nanny help. For how many hours she claims to exercise and be supermommy, impossible without collapsing!

Anonymous on

I get where some of you are coming from….however – I don’t see her saying that she does not have a nanny. I would agree that with three kids that young – you definitely need help. There would be absolutely no time to exercise. I do agree though that she looks very pretty with lighter hair. She is a a pretty woman. I like Alec – not his temper – but I like him. He is one of those real men.

Tin on

My oldest was 3 1/2 when my third baby was born. I wasn’t over weight. I can’t eat when I’m pregnant so no need for exercise 😜

Nelle on

Why do people put so much pressure on themselves to breastfeed only and give birth without drugs?! It doesn’t make you a better mom if you breastfeed yur child or give birth without drugs or do not have a c section. What makes a good mom is how you treat and raise your child, the lessons you teach them and raising right if you are able too. All t his unneccesar pressure is crazy!

Janet on

Hilaria is such a pretentious tool being marketed as a “hands on” mother and health “expert.” Please. People mag. must have a deal with CAA — ” …all while taking care of two children under the age of 3″ with the help of a FULL TIME corps of nannies. She obviously married Alec so that she could launch her career. He’s a fool.

Katherine on

Remember when Hilaria went on a social media rant after Alec thanked their team of nannies? She wants us to believe she does it all herself when nothing could be less true. She also wants us to believe she has expertise in health. She did yoga for 4 weeks before starting to teach it and her form is terrible (not to mention her ridiculous ego). No one intelligent is buying what she’s selling.

Gwen on

Hilaria’s diet is TERRIBLE which is why she had trouble breast feeding. If she were really in touch with her body, her pregnancies wouldn’t be the “surprises” she claims they have been. But she also claims her daughter started talking as an infant. So Hilaria + Reality is not a real equation.

Nan on

Where are all of these supposed “body shaming” women that Queen Hilaria claims to be an advocate for? She is so pretentious and smug. It looks like People is taking over the Daily Mail with this ridiculous woman.

mypiecesandbits on

I can’t quite figure out what it is but something about this woman is really irritating.
I absolutely love her husband but she just rubs me the wrong way for some reason.

guest on

@cj.. exactly!
if you are so wealthy/secure financially that you can 1) not work 2) have all the private trainers, nannies, housekeeping help, prof’l gym equipment, gym clothes, etc you need/want.. that’s another universe from most of us!?
level the playing field!

Shay on

This woman is such a fame who re. She’s a passive aggressive piece of shyte, just like her husband. Shut up, and go away. The only reason you are relevant is because you married a wife beater.

Pinky on

My first I nursed for sorta three months and went back to work, so no more nursing. My second I nursed for over a year because I no longer work and formual is expensive. So we nursed because it was easiest. With my third we are at 6 months and now with three kids he will continue to be nursed too because it’s easiest and economical. Not because my self worth is tied to how long I can produce milk. My diet plan is called I chase kids all day and maybe get a chance to feed myself. That’s keeping it real Hilaria not the version your celebrity wife world believes is reality.

Valentina on

I have three sons. I nursed too. Job! Heavy! This is the health of my children!

Gag on

Why do celebrity spouses think they are supposed to be a thing? They are not the ones who had the talent to become famous for something. All they are doing is riding on coattails. Gag.

Marsha on

Hilaria says she does yoga/jogging/barre classes “…all while taking care of two children under the age of 3…”. but in her Twitter rant she said she has help when she is “working, working out, going to an event…also has help with one child when I am with the other.” Sounds like she has nannies like when we would have a sitter when we go out, but needing help with one child “while she is with another”?? Wow. She can’t handle being with two kids at the same time. Just wow. How is this person any kind of spokesperson “supporting Mothers” – a total phony. This is the last time I will click on any story relating to her.

stinky on

i’m not necessarily a fan of A Baldwin, but i think this woman was good for him. He fought so much K Basinger over their daughter…it must be a relief for him to make a family with this woman. And H Baldwin is a pretty & healthy woman and it looks like she has a good personality too. Good for him. He had alot of stress b4 she came along.

WeAreStars on

She seems nice. She and Alec have a rotating staff of five nannies and have never tried to hide it. I think Hilaria does most of the cooking if not all because it’s all healthy stuff. She seems to be pretty hands on and who wouldn’t have help if they could afford it? I know I would. No point in being jealous, but a little envy is okay!

Sanna on

I have followed Hilaria on Instagram for quite some time now. She is a very authentic person. Yes, she does have babysitters that help from time to time, but she and Alec are VERY hands on parents. If you took the time to read her daily entries you would find her to be lovely on the inside and out. Hilaria and Alec are great parents. Her pictures and stories that she shares are both heart warming and comedic. It’s a real pick me upper to follow her on Instagram.

KT on

Wow, this article (or Hilaria) fails to mention they have a TEAM of nannies working for them. Makes it easier to work out that way, huh!?

Kelly122 on

OH please. She has someone to cook, clean, shop, do laundry and look after her kids for her! No wonder she has time to concentrate on thing but her fitness level. Wouldn’t we all?

Veritas on

If Hilaria were such a good cook, Alec wouldn’t be obese (which he is). Hilaria is such a fake. Too bad she’s not like Steve Martin’s wife, Anne. Anne is educated, accomplished, beautiful, talented and NOT a mediawhore. But then Steve is a better man. Hilaria and Alec are a “team” that self-promotes things that are of no real value. Anyone who falls for their “curated” life is a fool. Sorry, but it’s obvious.