Kristen Bell on Supporting Fellow Moms: ‘All of Us Are Wearing Yogurt and All of Our Hands Smell Like Urine’

07/12/2016 at 08:00 AM ET

Kristen Bell understands it’s easy to feel like a Bad Mom after scrolling through social media, but the mom of two wants everyone to realize that reality has often been polished.

“In the age of social media, when you can edit your life in beautiful pictures, it’s important to remind moms that all of us are wearing yogurt and all of our hands smell like urine,” the actress and humanitarian, 35, says in her cover story for Redbook‘s August issue.

“When you present an unrealistic idea of perfection to people, it’s not fair,” adds Bell, who has two daughters with husband Dax Shepard: Lincoln, 3, and Delta, 18 months.

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With both her children past the baby stage, the Veronica Mars alum is trying to find the balance between being a friend to her girls while still providing them with plenty of structure.

“Recently I’ve had an epiphany that if I’m as nice to my daughter as I want to be, she’s not going to respect me,” she confesses. “Giving your kids strong boundaries is good for them, because if you just let them do whatever they want, you raise a jerk.”

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Between parenting duties, a marriage, and a flourishing career, Bell is a busy woman — and as such, she has no qualms about saying no to the things that take her away from her children.

“I don’t let myself feel guilty about not committing to things anymore,” she says when asked what surprises her most about being a working mother. “How I position it in my head is that I have more of an obligation to my daughters than I do to anybody else.”

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The voice behind protagonist Anna in Disney’s hit Frozen has had her fair share of challenges in both parenting and her marriage to Shepard, 41.

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But their struggles — including overcoming hurdles associated with anxiety and depression for Bell and addiction and childhood molestation for Shepard — have only made them stronger.

“We fought a lot and I loved a dramatic exit. If I could slam a door, I felt so powerful. If I could get in my car and screech away, it was even better,” she admits. “He said to me, ‘If we have an issue, you can’t leave. We’re going to talk or I’m not going to do this with you.’

“I loved him so much that I was like, ‘I better get my act together,’ ” she adds.

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kittykatta on

… and alll of us have 3 nannies so that we can hang out with friends and go to fancy dinner parties and come back home to chef cooked meals in our spotless maid-cleaned million dollar mansions. See, I’m just like every other mom.

I like Kristen Bell and all, but I do find it humorous when celebs try to act like they’re raising kids just like everyone else.

Cathy on

Kristen, what do you mean “all of our hands smell like urine”?! Don’t you wash your hands after changing a diaper?! I always did when my kids were in diapers! That’s so disgusting if you don’t! I would never go to your home for a meal knowing you don’t wash your hands!

Willa on

Oh wow, kittykata that is such a stretch and the typical “go to” comment about celebrities. You have no idea what they spend their money on and who, if anyone, they have in their employ. It’s easier to assume huh? How do you know they aren’t doing it like anyone else?

Victoria on

I’m kind of sick of people pointing out that celebs use nannies. So what? What they do in their life and how they choose to raise their kids shouldn’t always be scrutinized and looked down atI. know plenty of grandparents who are just like nannies. They go to their children’s home, watch the kids, clean up, make lunch and dinner while the parents work. They do this 5 days a week too. Is that any different?