New Mom Jacqueline Piñol: ‘I Feel Guilty’ But I Need More Me Time

06/24/2016 at 01:30 PM ET

Jacqueline Piñol loves being a mom to her 4-month-old son Atlas with husband Jonny Blu, but like any new parent, she’s finding it hard to squeeze in time with just her spouse.

“We had one night date so far — last night,” the Bordertown star, 37, said 10 weeks postpartum on PEOPLE’s Mom Talk. “And I think we need to do more of that.

“And I think I need more me time,” she adds. “I feel guilty, as a new mom, taking too much alone time. Even getting my nails done … it’s a luxury now instead of, ‘I should get my nails done,’ ‘get a facial.’ ”

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As it turns out, there are some conflicting feelings moms can have when actually attempting to take that desired relaxation time for themselves.

“There’s a part of me that wants to [take time at a spa] so bad, but then I’m like, ‘I gotta go home — I gotta pump, I gotta breastfeed, I gotta change his diaper,’ ” Piñol confesses.

“My best girlfriend says that once you become a mom, you’ll feel guilty for the rest of your life, and I agree to some extent,” says NCIS: New Orleans actress Zoe McLellan, 41, who has a 2½-year-old son named Sebastian.

To make her point, McLellan goes on to discuss an incident that happened recently, while she has been away from Sebastian for a couple of nights for the first time.

“I woke up this morning hearing him say ‘Mommy!’ and he’s not even there, but I hear his voice and I miss him so much,” she admits. “And I feel like that guilt thing is [present] no matter what.”

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sal on

“I need more me time” WELL, then you shouldn’t of had kids. There will be not a lot of “me” time for quite some time. It’s more “us” time- time spent enjoying your kids because they grow up way to fast!

Hey Sal on

Every parent needs there ME TIME SAL. I think its important for parents to find their me time still even after baby is born. It doesn’t matter if your baby is a week old or 16. If mom wants to take an hour to get her nails done go do it if dad wants to go watch a game go do it balance the job off of both parents or if your single perhaps a grand parent. Everyone needs their time to keep their mind sane.

barnacle bille on

You selfish COW you had 37 years of “Me time” now its suppose to be family time..You should fell guilt your are guilty
PS SAL learn how to spell ..its their not there

She Is Correct on

I think me time for parents is essential. Helicopter parenting is a great disservice to both the parent and the child.

K.Davis on

@barnacle bille, sal spelled it correctly. You’re the one who’s wrong. In this case, ‘there’ is correct. Saying “Their will be” would be moronic. Get a clue, stupid. It’s funny that someone who misspelled Bill is making that kind of comment.

Kar on

So you’re tired of your four month old baby already? Not enough time for yourself? You didn’t even have a kid til you were 37 years old. That’s the problem with society today — the “ME” world. You shouldn’t have had a child. Unbelievable!

Court on

Dear She Is Correct: This is far from helicopter parenting. The baby is four months old. Mommy is just too selfish and self-absorbed to be a real parent. Parenthood is a joy and should be cherished not constantly looking for a way out.

Ana on

If you want to be a parent, expect to sacrifice until it hurts. Some ME time or couple time is not unreasonable. But seriously, if you are having such a hard time with it at four months, I don’t know what to say. At four months I don’t even know where the energy for a date night comes from. Bring on the pj’s by 6pm!

dodo on

She looks a lot older than 37!!

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