Alysia Reiner Gets Extremely Honest About Taking ‘Deeply Romantic’ Breaks Alone with Her Husband: ‘We Need Sex with Noise!’

05/10/2016 at 05:30 PM ET

The celebrity moms who participate in PEOPLE’s Mom Talk are nothing if not blatantly honest. One subject on the table? Noisy sex with your partner — and how it’s necessary even once you become parents.

And Alysia Reiner, who plays Natalie “Fig” Figueroa on the wildly popular Netflix series Orange Is the New Black and appeared as Wendy Parks in How to Get Away with Murder, is here to tell her fellow moms exactly how she and actor husband David Alan Basche make it happen.

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“I kind of suck at ‘Mommy Time,’ I just have to admit, between work and [parenting],” says Reiner, 45, who is mom to 7-year-old Livia Charles. “And my husband needs attention too! Early on, we were really good [about date nights], and we weren’t allowed to talk about the kid on the date.”

So how does that quality time with your spouse evolve when your baby is now a kid and “date night” just doesn’t cut it anymore? Simple: “date weekend.”

“Now we try and go on vacation, just the two of us, at least once a year,” adds Reiner. “Just for a long weekend. And have that deeply romantic, just-about-us time.”

“Just sex,” Nicole “Snooki” Polizzi, 28, cuts in knowingly, while the other women laugh.

“Sex with noise,” Reiner agrees. “Because it’s like … I had sex this morning, but it was really quiet!”

Jen Juneau

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Sandy on

TMI

Christina on

This is very true! I really do miss making noise and I am sure my neighbors all know when the kids have a sleepover at a friends house. Sorry, not sorry!

Sandra on

Yes, Yes, Yes…Noisy sex is the absolute best. I recommend it for everyone three times a week and twice on Sunday.

Mrs. B on

Some people talk too much. We all know how great it is to have a little getaway from the kids to just be a couple. There’s no need to go into detail about noises.

kelleye1980 on

Why is there a story about this women everyday?

Anonymous on

iT MUST BE TOUGH WITH THE RICH LIFESTYLES THEY HAVE. CELEBRITITES SHOULD NOT BE ALLOWED TO GIVE ADVICE UNLESS THEY WORK 40 HOURS A WEEK AND RAISE THEIR KIDS THEMSELVES WITH NO NANNIES.

Smooth on

She needs to go away

stinky on

agree with deena, sandy, really??, & smooth……………..who it this woman anyway

stinky on

typo: who is this woman anyway?

max on

TMI

Hahaha on

So he gets laid once a year basically? I’m sure they’re VERY happy.

jules on

These women literally just said they need to get drunk once in a while in order to stay happy. Really??!!

Olie on

In my world being extremely honest is more about finding a wallet full of cash when you’re so broke and give it back with the same amount of money in it. Whoever she is, she is not extremely honest, she craves attention and gets it the same way I take my garbage out.

Julia on

I have never heard of this woman before and who the hell cares if she is having sex??

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