Kelly Rowland: I Take Being a Mother ‘One Day at a Time’

04/26/2016 at 12:15 PM ET

There’s one common virtue all good parents possess — and it’s a virtue Kelly Rowland once feared she was missing.

“When I found out that I was going to be a mother, I was the mother who didn’t know that I had patience,” she told PEOPLE while attending the Safe Kids Day 2016 event in Culver City, California, on Sunday. “I was really scared about being a mother, just simply because I didn’t think I had enough.”

But fortunately for Rowland, her trepidation about her shortcomings practically melted when she gave birth to son Titan Jewell.

“When my son was born, I was like, ‘Oh my God, I don’t know where this patience came from!’ ” she says with a laugh. “I was really happy, and that made me feel better about being a mom.”

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Not that being a first-time mom to 17-month-old Titan has been an entirely easy road to navigate.

“When I go to the pediatrician and he shows me this whole list of how to keep my kid safe, I’m like, ‘Wait a minute, I’m just learning how to breastfeed! I’m just learning how to do this, and I’m just learning how to do that. There’s more instructions!?’ ”

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But for Rowland much of being a mother is about being in the here and now.

“One day at a time,” she says when asked what advice she’d give to a new mother. “I think that immediately, when I became pregnant, the first thing you think [about] is just doing a perfect job.”

She adds, “You can’t think about it like that because love is the perfect job. It’s protecting them and making sure that they’re happy and that they’re going to be safe.”

— Reagan Alexander

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Tati on

So underated in beauty. Everyone makes such a big deal about Beyonce but Kelly is absolutely breathtaking.

Liz on

Kelly has really blossomed into such a beautiful woman.

stinky on

he’s a cutie, Titan is an interesting name…but Jewell? No.
I totally agree with Tati & Liz’s comments!

stinky on

that is a great picture of her and her son in the top pic

Mjj on

Titan looks almost identical to Blue Ivy. It’s uncanny.

Gwen on

Yes Kelly can be really big if she stop trying to keep Beyoncé held up with her crap trying to impress the world. Kelly comes off as really real and relatable. But there again, she really try to keep Beyoncé held up high. Beyoncé is cold, and only she can change that.

Sofia on

He is so cute! Love the name.

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