Marla Sokoloff’s Blog: The Bittersweet Firsts of Your Last Baby
Celebrity blogger Marla Sokoloff is now a mom of two!
Since audiences first got to know her at age 12 as Gia on Full House, Sokoloff has had many memorable TV roles — Jody on Party of Five, Lucy on The Practice, Claire on Desperate Housewives — as well as turns on the big screen in Whatever It Takes, Dude, Where’s My Car? and Sugar & Spice.
Sokoloff, 35, played Dani on ABC Family’s The Fosters and also starred in a two-episode arc on Grey’s Anatomy.
She wed her husband, music composer Alec Puro, in November 2009 and the couple — plus pup Coco Puro — make their home in Los Angeles.
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We just celebrated my last baby’s first birthday. To say that this milestone has me feeling a bit blue would be an understatement.
Even though I constantly reminded myself to be present and soak up every nap on my chest, every sweet baby coo, every delicious smile and giggle — it still doesn’t feel like I stared at her sweet baby face long enough while I held her in my arms.
In all fairness to the chaos of time management and the schedule of having two kids, these moments are a little harder to savor the second time around. If the baby is napping on you, the 4 year old is going to want a snack or a toy at the top of the shelf in the playroom — it’s just inevitable.
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My last baby is about to be a walking toddler, and I know the days of her letting me hold her as she falls asleep on the same glider I’ve been soothing babies on for four years are numbered.
Of course there are complete joys in watching her become this precious little person with a personality that’s all her own, but the baby phase of both of my girls’ lives is a time I will always cherish and forever miss deeply. As the baby “firsts” start to fall away, I can’t help but feel a little sad that my babies are just not babies anymore.
The firsts are falling away and everything baby seems to feel like a last. This is the last time I will pack away sweet smelling newborn clothes. This is the last time I will feed my baby their first food. This is the last time I will happily weep watching those first wobbly steps.
I will obviously get to experience these moments again through my friends and family’s children, which is also such a joy, but this last first birthday was the last time I will stand next to my husband, and proudly watch our 1 year old take her first messy bite of cake. I am clearly needing some more time to recover.
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My husband sees this inevitable child growth as a good thing (not sure what HIS problem is) and keeps reminding me that soon the pacifiers and bottles will be gone and our family of four can move out of the baby zone and into the adventure zone. You know, the zone where you don’t have to change diapers or worry about nap schedules. He seems pretty ready to say goodbye to the diaper bag and hello to life with kids that talk and walk and have no desire to be swaddled.
I understand both sides — early on, we made the decision to have a family of four, not a permanent nursery filled with babies — but I guess I’m just having a little more trouble wrapping this part of life up.
Of course, I too, am loving every second of watching our daughters grow into these adorable little people, but I wasn’t prepared for how quickly (seriously, I blinked twice!) their infancy was going to pass me by.
All of this being said, I really love our foursome. I feel complete and whole when I look in the back seat of my car and see those faces staring back at me. Even though my heart was heavy as I gave away my maternity clothes, I have no desire to be a permanent pregnant person. It’s the perfect number for us and I can say that at this moment*, we are set. (*Covering my bases here in case my words come back to haunt me.)
- Marla Sokoloff’s Blog: Mom in Progress
- Marla Sokoloff’s Blog: Olive’s (Early!) Birth Story
- Marla Sokoloff’s Blog: Welcome to the Threenage Years
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These sweet sisters share a bond that simply blows my mind every day. During my pregnancy, I was so worried about how Elliotte would feel about having a little sister and how it would change our household. The change was truly the best thing that could have ever happened to us.
Olive was and is the perfect addition to our family and completed us in the most magical way. Elliotte is such a loving big sister; she truly cares and worries about Olive constantly, and yes, I know that the sibling rivalry will kick in at some point. But for now, I’m relishing every second.
I also feel it’s important to mention that I know just how lucky we are to have these two little ladies. I know there are so many families out there struggling to have kids of their own, and I just want to acknowledge that every single day I think about you. I’m truly sensitive to how difficult your situation is and how fortunate we are to have our girls.
I suppose all of these heartaches and joys are part of the process of watching our kids grow, watching us grow. It’s equal parts beautiful and hard for me because it’s really showing me how life just moves at lightning speed and before I know it, these children of mine will be full on adults.
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My pediatrician, Dr. Peter Shulman, once said something to me when Elliotte was a screaming 6-week-old baby with severe acid reflux that truly resonated with me. He said, “The days are long, but the years are short.” Man … was he right.
I am blown away that the years of being in the trenches of new motherhood and newborn life are behind me. I’m done. I did it. I feel accomplished. I feel proud. I feel like crying. I feel like I need a nap. I feel incredibly lucky.
Parents, do you relate to this feeling? Was it hard for you to say goodbye to the baby phase or were you ready? Really looking forward to hearing your thoughts. Find me on Instagram @realmarlasok and Twitter @marlasok.
— Marla Sokoloff