Gwen Stefani ‘Would Be Blessed’ to Have a Gay Son: ‘I Just Ask God to Guide Me’

03/25/2016 at 06:00 PM ET

Should one of Gwen Stefani‘s sons come out of the closet, the singer’s love for him would not change.

“I would be blessed with a gay son,” Stefani, 46, says in a candid interview with PrideSource.

“I just want my boys to be happy and healthy, and I just ask God to guide me every day to be a good mother because it is not an easy job.”

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The mother of three — she coparents Kingston, 9, Zuma, 7, and Apollo, 2, with Gavin Rossdale, 50 — says it’s a topic that often comes up in her circle.

“I always ask my gay friends, ‘OK, so what was it like when you were a little boy?'” she explains.

The glamorous and energetic parent treats her kids to everything from manicures to fun trips to her boyfriend Blake Shelton‘s farm in Oklahoma, proving she’s up for any activity that her kids enjoy.

She explained, “As long as my boys are protected and happy and I’m spending quality time with them, whether it’s doing sports or doing nails, it really doesn’t matter.”

— Nick Maslow

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j on

SMH…

Wth on

Manicures? Really? It seems she is hoping for a gay son. I’d love my son the same either way, but I’d never hope for him to be gay.

sfmom on

Is she outing one of her boys? It sounds like she’s saying she thinks one of her boys is or will be gay…

Andrea on

What a weird thing to randomly say

Shocked on

Wow ..what is wrong with people?!

Anna on

Nr 1. She probably disnt say this out of the blue, she was probably just anwering a question Nr.2 having a pedicure as a child does NOT make a child gay! I have read that her oldest son (I think) is interested in stuff like this, dressing up and wants to wear his hair long…she is just doing what a good supporting mom does and making him feel that this is ok (and it is!).

Guest on

I like her and Blake together because I think they are a sweet, odd couple…… But I’m pretty sure his views on homosexualitu differ from hers (or have in the past) so maybe she will have a positive effect on his way of thinking 👍

Debbe on

Chill people with the negative comments. I DO have a gay son and her comment makes me relieved. She was not saying that she wants a gay son, she just said she would be blessed. Her point is, she is blessed if her sons are happy and healthy. I am glad she doesn’t raise her sons to be weird on gender stuff. Straight boys bullied the crap out of my son and if only THEIR moms would have taught them it is ok to be gay. I think moms are scared to teach their kid being gay is ok for fear THEY will turn gay. Truth is, nothing makes a child gay unless they were born that way.

Just Me on

She is saying that it won’t matter to her. I wish more straight moms would allow their sons to do what they want without gender issues. You are born the way you are and nothing will change it.

Debbe on

I like that she says that she would be blessed. My gay child was bullied by straight boys and if their moms had only said the same thing to their kids, and teach them that it is ok to be gay, then maybe they would not have bullied my son. Moms are scared cause they think it will make their child turn gay. But if you as a straight can’t turn who you are, neither can your child. You are born that way.

IMO on

What an odd thing to say. Actually what an odd question to ask someone.

Jena on

She asks her gay friends what it was like when they were little because she sees the traits in Kingston. She’s outing her son, but he should be secure in that since she seems to be helping along the way.

Fran on

This interview was with Pride Source magazine. She didn’t randomly start talking about this…idiots.

Lala on

She was interviewed by a gay magazine, people. Click of the hyperlink, and you can see some of the other questions they asked her.
As a mom of a son, and daughter, I frequently paint my sons toenails. He asked one time, while I painted his sisters, and I didn’t see anything wrong with it. He’s just a little boy, and liked the idea of having his favorite colors on his toes. It’s not a precursor to anything. Turns out, ‘manly men’ can be gay, too. Who knew….

Angel on

What in the heck is happening to this world? No wonder why women are becoming men and visa versa. Hollywood’s fascination with gay, lesbian and transgender culture is shameful.

nyc95 on

I have read some studies that indicate that the more male children a woman gives birth to (birth order), the higher the likelihood that the youngest of the sons could be gay. So with three sons, it would be most likely that the youngest son would be gay. Something to do with diminishing testosterone levels. Look up the topic and corresponding studies/research, it’s pretty fascinating.

rtk76 on

I have read some studies that indicate that the more male children a woman gives birth to (birth order), the higher the likelihood that the youngest of the sons could be gay. So with three sons, it would be most likely that the youngest son would be gay. Something to do with diminishing testosterone levels. Look up the topic and corresponding studies/research, it’s pretty fascinating.

Mia on

If only more people were as open minded as Stefani. There would be less pain in the world.

Paula on

I just find it a little invasive for a magazine to be asking about children’s sexuality. It’s really personal, regardless of their preference. I just don’t see how it’s relevant to her as a pop star.

Hea on

Paula – nobody asked about their sexualities?

trubaby on

Sorry to hear that your son was bullied Debb but I’m tired of the LBGT community acting like they are saints. When I was in high school there were SEVERAL openly gay young men who liked to get together and make fun of the way some of the girls were dressed. To the point of making them cry. LGBT children can be bullies as well. Although it is not PC to talk about any faults the community has. They are only portrayed as victims.

pep on

Why would that subject even come up . Unless she suspects one of the boys to be gay . Not that it matters .. I’m sure she will love her boys no matter what . But maybe its because Gavin has been in both types relationships .

Barbara on

These two are sooooooo cute together! I really hope Gwen and Blake stay on track and get married. Who knows, Gwen still might get a little girl to pass her crown down to. hahahaha 🙂
Good luck Blake and Gwen!!

kyra2170 on

I highly doubt she is making this comment out of the blue. She was likely asked, and is basically saying that she would be blessed no matter what, as long as her boys are healthy and happy, and will do whatever they are happy to do.

Also, painting a boys nails will not “turn him gay”. A great majority of heavy rockers paint their nails, and are not gay.

I am not a huge fan of her music, but I am liking her more and more. She is accepting, seems to really want to put her boys first, and is as down to earth a person of her fame can be. I definitely like her better than J.Lo.