Megyn Kelly: ‘We Set the Expectations Too High for New Mothers’
Balancing a career and motherhood can be tough.
But Megyn Kelly explains that a parent can find “harmony” between work and private life, inspiring fans with her “if I can do it, you can do it too” mentality. Hey, taking on Donald Trump and raising three children is all in her day’s work.
In the April issue of MORE, on newsstands Tuesday, the Fox News anchor opens up about her experience of being a new mom and the hardships she found when going back to work.
“We set the expectations too high for new mothers,” Kelly, 45, explains. “I’m always telling women, ‘Don’t expect to not hate it.’ You’re going to feel and look terrible, and you’re going to wonder if you blew up your life. The cruel irony of it is, just at the time you’re loving it and you’ve got it down, you have to go back to work.”
Just nine weeks after giving birth to Thatcher, Kelly returned to anchoring her primetime show, a decision which she now believes was too soon. She recalls one of her earliest assignments, an appearance on The Tonight Show with Jay Leno, during which both new mom and newborn had a breakdown.
“Five minutes before I had to go onstage, Thatcher was having a meltdown,” Kelly recalls. “So I yank my dress open and start breastfeeding as I’m mic’d up. And everybody’s like, ‘Ehhhh…’ ”
With conflicted emotions and parental worrying, Kelly eventually found her own “level of harmony” as she raised her growing family. “I see them thriving; our loving relationship is more than intact. There’s no more of that, ‘Am I going to screw them up?’ I’m not,” she confidently shares.
But it wasn’t always like that for her, revealing, “I did worry in the beginning, especially when I only had one kid, about whether I was a good mom, whether I was abandoning my duties.”
Now that she’s closer to mastering the idea of having it all, Kelly’s latest goal is to recapture the simplicity of life with her children. “We’ve already tried to drill it into their heads that they’d better be prepared to work hard if they want anything. I don’t want my kids to think that everything they touch is gold,” she says.
And Kelly’s competitive spirit may get passed down to her kids. “I try not to crush their spirits, but I don’t let them win all the time,” she shares. “I don’t tell them second place is winning. Because it’s not. It’s losing.”
— Karen Mizoguchi