Christine Lakin’s Blog: The Lesson My Daughter’s Delivery Taught Me

03/14/2016 at 04:00 PM ET

Christine Lakin is a new mom!

Best known for her role as Al Lambert on the ’90s hit series Step by Step, the actress also has a recurring role as the voice of news anchor Joyce Kinney on Family Guy. She will next appear in Mother’s Day and the independent film The Ledger.

Lakin, 37, and Brandon Breault were married in October 2014.

In November, the mom-to-be announced she was pregnant and expecting a baby girl.

The couple welcomed their first child, daughter Georgia James, on March 6.

Lakin can be found on Instagram and Twitter @yolakin.

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Jamie Arrigo

I had started having small contractions Thursday night and knew after my doctor’s appointment Friday that things weren’t far away.

I had scheduled a pregnancy shoot with my good friend Jamie Arrigo — and good thing because little did we know, it would be the very last day to capture my body 9 months pregnant.

My water broke the next morning.

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Jamie Arrigo

We headed to the doctor to get checked out and although I hadn’t really started progressing, there was a risk of infection and he wanted to admit me. I knew at that point we were in for a long few days.

I had wanted to labor at home for awhile and was fairly disappointed that things were already not happening the way I had hoped … but I wasn’t really in control, as I’m quickly learning.

We checked in and I started walking the halls and bouncing on my birth ball. My friend Alaa broke into the hospital and started a running text commentary with a group of my friends that is now being hailed as one of the most epic birth commentaries to be done.

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Jamie Arrigo

I was doing everything to help bring labor on. I knew now that because my water had broken, the risk of infection would give me about a day to labor naturally, which I really was hoping to do. Thankfully, big contractions started about four hours later and, with the help of my incredible husband, I got through the big ones as best I could into the night.

When they had been just a minute apart for several hours, providing no rest, I could finally take it no longer and decided to get an epidural.

Relief was imminent (to those ladies who do this without any intervention, I salute you, I bow to you — labor is not a joke!) but to my dismay, my progress was still pretty minor. I was stuck between 2 to 3 cm and then remained that way through the rest of the evening.

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Jamie Arrigo

I was incredibly disheartened. I blamed myself for getting the epidural, thinking that had stopped my labor. Pitocin didn’t get my big contractions going again and by the morning, the nurses were talking C-section. Exactly what I — again MY plan — was hoping to avoid.

I felt like a failure. And this is what I want to say about that … no one can tell you one way is better than another to have a child. For all of your preparation, mediation and desire, your body and your unborn child dictate what ultimately happens.

It was a bitter pill for me to swallow, being the type of person who has always worked hard and expected a lot from myself. Tearfully, I looked at my doctor and told him that whatever was best for the baby was of course what we would do.

He saw how upset I was and decided to check me again. He was able to miraculously coax my body into labor again and decided to let me ride it out for another few hours before we made the decision. I give my doctor all the credit here. He knew my body wanted to corporate, but unfortunately, as Alaa put it, I have a “lemon” of a cervix.

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Jamie Arrigo

Within three hours, I had progressed to a 5 and two more later, I was fully ready to start delivery.

It was fast and furious from that point out. I had started spiking a low fever and knew I needed to be efficient, for my baby’s health as well as my own. Twenty pushes later, and our baby was here … with the cord wrapped firmly around her neck twice. This may have been the scariest moment I have ever known. Again, I give so much credit to my doctor, who handled the situation quickly and calmly.

She didn’t start crying right away and I can’t express how utterly terrifying that was. The NICU team was called in and just as they got there, she cried for the first time. She was fine. Her breathing was rapid and she had some distress, but ultimately she was just fine.

I cried, my husband cried … and it was the greatest feeling I’ve ever known. Surreal … awesome, scary, amazing … all the feels.

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Jamie Arrigo

I share this story because I learned a lot about just how little control we have over some things in life and how it’s not a reflection on us as humans when things don’t go the way we want them to.

This wonderful little girl has inserted a world of worry into my heart forever — welcome to motherhood! I will never again know what it’s like to not worry and care about her and that’s a beautiful thing.

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My friend put it best: The days can be long, but the years are short. Enjoy it all while it lasts.

Brandon and I thank everyone for their outpouring of love and support for us and Miss Georgia.

— Christine Lakin

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Robinepowell on

Risk of infection from what? Why did she develop a fever halfway through labour?

Alyssa on

Beautiful Story! Thank you for sharing, the miracle of child birth is so wonderful. Congratulations.

blessedwithboys on

@Robinepowell OBs tell women that once their water has broken, they are likely to die of uterine infection within 24 hours if not delivered. It’s a hugely overblown risk and just another intervention that causes healthy young women such as this blog author to believe that OBs are miracle workers who snatched both mother and baby back from the brink of death at the very last possible second. It is called The American Way Of Birth.

The author probably DID begin to develop an infection, but not simply because her water had broken. It was likely caused by repeated cervical checks by multiple nurses and/or the internal monitor and bladder catheter necessitated by the pitocin and epidural.

Had the author been better informed, she would have (used a midwife, not an OB but that’s another rant) politely declined to enter the hospital while not in labor, and just stayed home and kept all hands, feet, and other objects out of her vagina until labor was firmly progressing along. Instead, she fell victim to the medicalized model of childbirth and put her baby at risk.

Of course, there might some additional details of which we were not made aware that necessitated a more managed birth, but this is America, the land of birthrape, so that is much less likely than the idea that her doctor just admitted her to be safe. That doctor didn’t want her weekend taken up one minute longer than necessary. Shame on American-style birth.

blessedwithboys on

I posted “Of course, there might some additional details of which we were not made aware that necessitated a more managed birth, but this is America, the land of birthrape, so that is much less likely than the idea that her doctor just admitted her to be safe. ” but what I meant to say is that the actual need for a more managed birth is much less likely than the doctor just wanting to get things over with and get her weekend on.

Nina on

Finally she got everything right, very happy for her.

Bolina on

@blessedwithboys – not sure where you get your information from, but you are somewhat misinformed. The sack of amniotic fluid is what protects the unborn baby from outside pathogens. I know for a fact, because my daughter was born 17 years ago after my water broke and I was “allowed” to labor for 38 hours. She was born with an infection is both eyes, and lost her sight completely in one eye at about 8 weeks.

My family and I spent months gathering facts, and were in fact OFFERED a 6 figure settlement from the hospital and OB to NOT sure. They admitted their wrongdoing in allowing me to go undelivered so long after rupture of amniotic sac. My information comes from my father, who is an OB/GYN for 38 years, and my mother, who is an Neonatal pediatrician for 29 years. Fever is a common indicator of infection. I, myself, am now a NICU nurse.

As for Ms. Lakin, that you dear, for sharing your experience. What occurred is all too frequent – many mothers have to abandon their original “birth plan” when nature takes over. I am delighted to hear that all is well, and both you and your daughter recovered from the ordeal.

Vanessa on

So nice to see she is sharing her miracle! Her child is adorable.

Candace Edmonds on

Beautiful Baby…Beautiful Dress. Where did she get it from?

Razib Paul on

Beautiful Story, Beautiful Baby, Beautiful Dress,

Tania on

I liked her on Step by Step. I am glad everything worked out for her and baby. Am glad she shared her story

slicvic on

look at Al all grown up!! congrats to her !

Melanie on

blessed with boys, it always amazes me when people like you watch Ricki Lake (she’s such a world authority on childbirth because she had 2 babies, and decided all doctors are evil and their nurses are possibly worse), then you proceed to inform others that doctors don’t care about anything but money, they want women to have their babies yanked out asap, so they can make more money faster, and nurses are all related to Nurse Rachet.

To be honest, I have held the hands of women who took advice like yours, believed it sincerely, and had to bury their child. I have been the nurse caring for the baby whose other listened to people like you, and while I worked for days to help save their child, because they didn’t think doctors and nurses cared as much as midwives. I have no issue with CNM’s, but just because women have given birth for however many years, doesn’t mean they had a high survival rate, and their children certainly didn’t.

The reason for needing to make serious progress toward delivery within 24 hours is that too many babies don’t survive if they get an infection, and the risk is too high to take a chance. Maybe you are willing to risk your child’s death so you can have your “experience”, but most women want a live baby more than that “experience” if it risks their child’s life. And the fever was likely an indicator infection was starting….and I hate to burst your silly bubble, but people aren’t doing a cervical check every two seconds, and when they do, they aren’t doing it with dirty hand, and dragging mud up the vagina; they wash like crazy and use sterile gloves, as a rule. most people don’t have monitors, and have the right to decline them, if they want to.

“Birthrape”?? You should be ashamed of yourself; sounds as if her doctor had her best interests at heart, as well as being willing to work hard for a vaginal delivery, even if mom was willing to have a c-section. Ugh…. Your post about delivery is about as negative as the one when you said boys were better than girls, a bout 2 years ago. That was so irritating I never forgot it! End of rant!

Congrats to the happy couple who have a lovely baby, though you probably feel sorry for them for having a girl instead of a boy.

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