Anders Holm Has Advice for Anne Hathaway: Sleep Train Your Baby

02/04/2016 at 05:05 PM ET

Workaholics funny guy Anders Holm says the “terrible twos” aren’t so terrible after all.

The 34-year-old actor told PEOPLE on Wednesday at the How to Be Single premiere in New York that his 2-year-old son is the reason he is becoming a nicer guy.

After having his first child in 2014, he says, “Now I don’t want to be an ass—- anymore. He’s gonna be a little ass—-, though. Like, I can tell.”

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But the little guy is “the man,” according to the proud dad.

“He crawled in bed with us the other morning and we were trying to keep sleeping a little bit, and he just starts singing, ‘I like to move it, move it. I like to move it, move it,’ ” he explains.

“I’m like, ‘All right. We’re dealing with a force of nature here.’ He’s going to be a cool young man someday.”

Holm, who also starred in The Intern with Anne Hathaway, offered the mom-to-be some parenting advice.

“Sleep train. When they get to 4 months old, you can start sleep training them. Do it and then you will have your life back. Hi Anne!” he says.

— Jessica Fecteau

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Emily on

I don’t agree with sleep training an infant. Anyone who needs or wants to “have their life back” shouldn’t have children in the first place!

wendyw2407 on

I sleep trained my daughter but she was like 15 months old. I don’t think I would sleep train a 4 month old.

guest on

What works for one child possibly won’t work for another. My son was the best sleeper. I’d sit in the rocking chair and feed him then rock until he was almost asleep. He conked out every time and I never had an issue. My daughter was the opposite. She didn’t like to be rocked much, HATED her car seat with a passion and she needed to just cry to sleep. She quickly learned to fall asleep after a few minutes of crying. I hated it and felt horrible but that’s what worked for her. I refuse to judge parents because I don’t know their child and their needs. My kids are both well adjusted kids and sweethearts, but they had different needs as babies.

teammom on

24 years ago my pediatrician gave me the best advice: If everything else is fine, and there are no extenuating health problems, never wake a sleeping baby, and always comfort a crying one. Both of my kids slept through the night early on, and neither of them ever had to cry themselves to sleep for my convenience.

Winky on

The French sleep train almost from birth. It’s all about what the parents feel comfortable with. I personally think a lot of it has to do with what culture & society deems socially acceptable.

Claire on

I think the best gift you can give your baby is the gift of a full night of sleep as early as they are able to do it. If the baby sleeps through the night, and the parents sleep through the night, then everyone wakes up well rested and happy. Why wouldn’t you want that?? My parents sleep trained me and my siblings at that age and we all turned out fine. We are not psychologically damaged and we didn’t have issues “trusting our parents to meet our needs” growing up. A bunch of hooey.

spsati on

Actually, no doctors recommend it before six months at a bare minimum, and only after all other methods have been exhausted. He’s not wrong on one point though – he sounds like an as***le.

Guest on

I agree Emily

L on

Time to think about what’s best for that scared little precious baby who crys for its mothers arms… Not time to think about getting your life back.

Peabrains on

Yeah cool put your baby in a cage and walk away and let them cry to exhaustion. So sweet. A sign of the times. No natural instinct left.

Gina on

No winky. At this point it’s not what the good ol parents feel comfy with… It’s what the baby feels comfortable with!
It’s mother.

Sara on

Sleep training is child abuse. Nice that we live in a society where people can advocate child abuse and it’s totally accepted. If you don’t want to parent then don’t bring a child into the world! When you choose to have a child, you choose to put your child’s needs before your own.

Carmen on

I started laughing when I read his advice on sleep training the baby at 4-months. This guy is gonna get grilled by all the mommy experts out there. Dear celebrities, don’t give parenting advice on a public platform. You will get stoned and shamed.

Anonymous on

So here is a tip for all of those mama’s who are saying, “Yeah, right.” It doesn’t work with all babies. However, my second (of four) would scream for hours, even though we did all of the “sleep training” suggestions. Then I read in a paper that research shows that if an infant hears an older child cry it doesn’t affect them; if they hear another infant crying, it makes them cry; if they hear their own crying, it puts them to sleep. I thought, “I have nothing to lose!” So I recorded him screaming for about 20 minutes (with me going in every 10 minutes to reassure him). Then played the recording back to him. He was out-cold in 2 minutes. (Hallelujah!) That night, I let him cry for about 10 minutes, then played the recording…again, he was asleep in 2-5 minutes. Did that every night for about a month and then he just went to sleep by himself after 10 minutes. Tried it on the rest of my kids, worked for them as well. Sleep sweet tonight, Ladies:)

talkdtwo on

So here is a tip for all of those mama’s who are saying, “Yeah, right.” It doesn’t work with all babies. However, my second (of four) would scream for hours, even though we did all of the “sleep training” suggestions. Then I read in a paper that research shows that if an infant hears an older child cry it doesn’t affect them; if they hear another infant crying, it makes them cry; if they hear their own crying, it puts them to sleep. I thought, “I have nothing to lose!” So I recorded him screaming for about 20 minutes (with me going in every 10 minutes to reassure him). Then played the recording back to him. He was out-cold in 2 minutes. (Hallelujah!) That night, I let him cry for about 10 minutes, then played the recording…again, he was asleep in 2-5 minutes. Did that every night for about a month and then he just went to sleep by himself after 10 minutes. Tried it on the rest of my kids, worked for them as well. Sleep sweet tonight, Ladies:)

jessiemaystorm on

I hope she doesn’t listen to this man’s advice. Sleep training and cruel and unnatural and teaches a child that when it cries out for its parents no-one will come. What a sad prospect. If you “want your life back” that soon after having a child maybe having a child wasn’t the right decision for you in the first place. You cannot spoil a child with love and affection, and they are only little for a short time. Answer their cries when they need you.

teammom on

24 years ago, my pediatrician gave me the best advice: barring any health issues, never wake a sleeping baby, and always comfort a crying one. Both of my kids slept through the night early…and they never had to cry themselves to sleep alone in the dark!

teammom on

24 years ago, my pediatrician gave me the best advice: barring any health issues, never wake a sleeping baby, and always comfort a crying one. Both of my children slept through the night early, and never once had to cry themselves asleep alone in the dark.

End Rant on

I came for the comments….

Love the guaranteed judgment and snarkiness that is sure to come when a topic like this comes up.

Yes, please don’t do anything to help your child adjust to any kind of schedule, instead breastfeed them until they have teeth and can fix their own food, let them co-sleep/become co-dependent for life, don’t let them make decisions on their own, and helicopter parent the h e l l out of them. Yep, THAT is what a great adult makes.

You are doing the world a great disservice making kids think they are special snowflakes that can never do wrong. Honestly. Tell them you love them and they are great to you, but the rest of the world owes them nothing. The sooner they learn that the sooner they will be able to function like competent individuals. “Parenting” today is an absolute joke. I’d guess the majority of you claiming this is child abuse have no problem forking an iPad over to your kid to pacify them so you don’t have to deal with them…..

blessedwithboys on

my heart is warmed to read all the responses here

#sleeptrainingischildabuse

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