A.J. McLean and Wife Rochelle Are ‘Talking About’ Baby No. 2 (Possibly Adoption!)

01/26/2016 at 06:45 PM ET

A.J. McLean has babies on the brain!

The singer and wife Rochelle are talking about giving their 3-year-old daughter Ava Jaymes a little brother or sister. There’s only one issue: Ava is adorably making it a bit difficult.

“[Ava] just moved to her big girl bed about a month and a half ago,” McLean, 38, told PEOPLE at the Los Angeles premiere of The Finest Hours Monday in Hollywood.

“She now knows how to get out of her big girl bed in the middle of the night, [knocks on the door], ‘Mommy, Daddy?’ So Mommy and Daddy are trying to figure out when we get Mommy, Daddy time. We are talking about [baby] number two so it’s trying to figure out when and where!”

He adds, “We also talked about adoption possibly as well, to give a child a home. We’re in the process of figuring this out. We’ve given ourselves March 30th [as] our deadline to go one way or the other.”

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While McLean is busy recording the Backstreet Boys‘ ninth studio album, his solo album seems to be a favorite of his little girl.

“What’s really uncomfortable is her favorite song off of my new album is a song called ‘Sex,’ ” the singer says. “She doesn’t know that’s what it’s called, but she knows the words. She just sings along. I’m like ‘Oh God. Don’t. That’s so weird! It’s awkward. You’re making it awkward!’ ”

Though the baby deadline is coming up fast for McLean, he says bandmate and close friend Nick Carter‘s preparation for fatherhood is going well, despite his recent legal trouble.

“We’re all human, we all make mistakes,” McLean, who has had his own troubles with alcohol, says of Carter’s recent arrest.

“I work hard at being sober — people know that I struggle with my disease. If I mess up publicly … people are harsh but it’s understandable. When you talk about it so much and then you turn around and get caught drinking … people are going to be judgmental. The media has no idea what really happened, or what he was going through at that moment.”

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As for the son Carter is expecting with wife Lauren, McLean already knows the first-time father is going to be an “awesome dad” to his baby boy.

“I told him, ‘You’re never going to get it right. It’s a learning process.’ My daughter is 3 and I’m still learning,” he shares.

“Whatever our next child is, boy or girl, you would think that, ‘Oh I did it once, I’ve got it.’ No. It’s hard. It’ll make it easier, but it’s still going to be a brand new learning process. He’s going to be a great dad. He’s already a great husband, a great bandmate.”

— Christina Dugan

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Anne on

It’s so awesome that AJ cleaned up his act and found such a wonderful woman to start a family with. We all though Nick had done the same thing…he needs to rethink his priorities and stay away from alcohol for the sake of his wife and baby.

Hea on

While I do wish him all the best with his sobriety I must say it surprises me if known addicts are allowed to adopt? Sobriety can be from day to day. It is not allowed in my country as far as I know but our then rules are pretty strict.

bb on

I love reading about married-father-happy AJ. I did worry for him back in the day, but he really seems to be in a great place. I hope he can take Nick under his wing and help him stay on a positive path. Nick shows us that sobriety can be a hard thing to hold on to, not even a stint on DWTS or a baby on the way kept him away from temptation. I do worry for him, but hopefully this was a wake-up call and the final push he needs to stay away from people and places that threaten his sobriety.

Anonymous on

As a huge fan of BSB when I was in high school, I am so glad to see AJ doing so well these days. And being a happy family man! Huh, who would’ve thunk it. Hopefully, Nick will learn from his fellow bandmate and find the strength and support he needs to clean up. I wish them all nothing but the best. Maybe one day, if the group tours close enough to where I live, I might even be able to see them in concert!

Anonymous on

Loved his music and Backstreet Boys! Very happy that he is sober and cleaned up his act of past troubles.

blobs on

nothing to do with this

Maha on

People think sobriety is a one step final push, it’s NOT. Alcohol addiction is a day to day struggle.
Hope Nick takes this as a learning opportunity, and uses it to get himself even better…we all stumble sometimes. So proud of how far he’s come.