Matt Lauer on Parenting Teens: ‘Remember You’re Their Parent, Not Their Best Friend’

10/16/2015 at 06:05 PM ET

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His kids may give him a laugh a minute, but Matt Lauer knows when to get serious.

“I’m lucky, I have very funny kids,” the 57-year-old Today Show host told PEOPLE Thursday in New York City, where his longtime friend Bryant Gumbel was honored with Marist College’s Lifetime Excellence in Sports Communication Award.

“They make me laugh every day,” he adds of his three kids with wife Annette Roque: daughter Romy, 12, and sons Thijs, 8, and Jack, 14.

Lauer says a humorous attitude is essential as his trio approaches the teenage years.

“I don’t think anything can prepare you for it,” he shares. “There is no owner’s manual and you just have to have a sense of humor, but you also have to remember you’re their parent, not their best friend.”

But Lauer did get to learn from the very best when it comes to broadcasting.

“He is also my best friend so you don’t want to talk in these terms of awe about somebody you also hang out with, but he is someone that has probably shaped my career,” he tells PEOPLE about learning “how to present yourself, how to be both a broadcaster and a journalist,” from Gumbel.

And Lauer says Gumbel’s fans can be assured what they see on camera is the real deal.

“If you can be who you are on camera, which is not easy, then I think you’re going to be successful,” he explains. “If you ran into Bryant on the street corner, he’d be the same guy you see on Real Sports or on The Today Show or anything else he does.”

— Lydia Price

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Guest on

Mark Consuelos said the same thing about raising children several months ago! As a “journalist”, I would think you would do a better job of checking your sources! At least giving credit to the original source of information!

Katie on

Guest, almost anyone who has had teenagers says the same thing, so Consuelos isn’t the only person to say it…so did my neighbor! Why the anger over such a small thing?

Paige on

Yes raising teenagers facing similar problems almost in every household and he is right that a humorous attitude is essential to raise children when they approach the teenage years.

sunny on

Jack’s the only one with a normal name. How do you pronounce Thijs?

lilly pond on

Can’t stand this man. He is way too full of himself.