Holly Madison Doesn’t Want Her Daughter to Be a Playboy Bunny: I’ve Raised Her to Know ‘She Has Value’

10/07/2015 at 01:30 PM ET

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Every parent wants their child to follow in their footsteps, but Holly Madison is hoping that 2½-year-old daughter Rainbow Aurora‘s future path steers clear of the Playboy Mansion.

“When she is an adult, she will be able to do what she wants, but from day one I’ve tried to raise her to know she has value, her body parts have value, and she doesn’t have to do something cheap or tawdry to get attention,” Madison told Yahoo! Parenting.

“If she wanted to [be a Bunny] — and God forbid she did — I would tell her my whole experience with it and I’d be honest that it wasn’t what I thought it would be.”

In fact, Madison reveals, one of the reasons she wrote Down the Rabbit Hole, her tell-all book about her time as Hugh Hefner‘s number one girlfriend, was to make sure that Rainbow knew the whole story about her mother’s time in the mansion.

“I wanted my side of the story out there. I never had a voice. It was always shaped by the TV show or by Playboy or Hef himself. But I want my daughter to know why I made the decisions I did,” Madison says. “Since writing the book, I’ve had a lot of practice defending myself and the choices I made and I think that has been good practice for discussing those decisions with her.”

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And if there’s anything that Madison wants her daughter to learn from those decisions, it’s to “not be in a hurry. Don’t feel like you have to have ‘made it’ by a certain age. The missteps I’ve made have usually been about being really eager to make it by a certain age, and taking shortcuts or opportunities whenever I could instead of thinking, ‘Is this the best thing for me?’ ”

She adds, “Now that I’m older, I don’t rush into anything because I see how bad those decisions can go.”

That includes not rushing into having another baby right away, as Madison originally planned when Rainbow was born. But now that she’s a toddler, Madison and her husband, Pasquale Rotella, are hoping to give their daughter a sibling very soon:

“I feel more pressure [to have another baby] from my husband! We definitely want more kids and I think it will happen next year,” she shares.

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Banaads on

She sure is a cutey pie.

Jill on

Holly has pimped her body and personal life on reality TV, Playboy and her sex themed Burlesque. Named her daughter Rainbow…. how can she not think her daughter wont end up on Playboy

Kathleen on

With a name like Rainbow, the sky’s the limit…

julie on

Jill, it sounds like she wants a better life for her daughter. Don’t we all?

LC on

Amen, good for her!

Godiva on

That baby is adorable, what a gorgeous little girl!!
Best wishes to you, punkin!

rubyovertherainbow* on

Holly realizes she wouldn’t be who she is without taking those clothes off and screwing the master, doesn’t she?

mamaofthree on

That baby is just precious! It seems to me like having made some poor decisions, thinking through the reasons why you might have made those decisions, and then hoping better for your child is pretty much what we call “becoming an adult.” I’m glad she has a happier life with her husband and little one.

Anonymous on

Seriously what a hypocrite!!!! If it wasn’t for Playboy she wouldn’t have the career or exposure that she has!!! And if a person is so miserable you don’t stay in a relationship. She was spoiled rotten while she stayed there being catered to hand & foot. She’s just a bitter Gold Digger who wants more money. Pathetic!!!!

Liz on

Seriously what a hypocrite!!!! If it wasn’t for Playboy she wouldn’t have the career or exposure that she has!!! And if a person is so miserable you don’t stay in a relationship. She was spoiled rotten while she stayed there being catered to hand & foot. She’s just a bitter Gold Digger who wants more money. Pathetic!!!!

regulatory on

Playboy bunnies were waitresses. There’s no shame in being a waitress

Twee Dao on

I could relate to Holly on this topic. To avoid arranged marriage, I went against my parents will to marry my husband at age 20. Since then, my husband and I both tried very hard to lead a righteous life. I used my own life experiences to teach my 3 daughters very early on saying: ” RESPECT YOURSELF FIRST THEN OTHERS WILL RESPECT YOU!’ And so they did. My oldest was still “pure” at her wedding 3 years ago, at age 26, my second one 26 and my youngest age 17 are following the same foot steps . My son-in-law and his family cherish my daughter and we are celebrating their 3rd wedding anniversary in 2 weeks time.

Anonymous on

Liz- It’s not that simple. It sounds like Hef is, at the very least, emotionally abusive. And women in abusive relationships often WANT to leave but feel like they CAN’T. Also, being Hef’s girlfriend was pretty much her whole identity at that point. She may have opted not to leave as soon as she would like because she literally didn’t know where else to go or what else to do.

Also, yes, living at the mansion gave her the career and exposure she has now. But was it worth it? I think that’s what she’s exploring with the book.

Anyway, kudos to her for growing up and and not wanting her daughter to make the same mistakes she did! And seeing as how there are only two months left before it’s “next year”, I wonder if she’s pregnant already (celebs who make statements like that often are!)? 😉

Anonymous on

She shouldn’t be biting the hand that fed her so much. I’m not saying it was all fun and games but give me a break with her hard luck story. Hugh Hefner didn’t have a gun to her head, he can’t even muster up enough energy to put clothes on!!! How horrible that she got a reality show out of her time there that made her rich and famous. What an ungrateful bimbo!!

Zolla on

As a former playboy bunny glad she is raising her daughter right!

karen on

In 15 1/2 years she will be just the right age for Hefner. Read her book and she portrays herself as a victim in every decision she made.

button on

Twee Dao – I’m glad you escaped arranged marriage and you sound like you have a wonderful family. Only thing is your comment about your daughters being “pure”. You sound like you are still hung up on some of the old fashioned elements of your culture. If your children have sex before marriage (in a loving relationship) it doesn’t make them any less of a human being. I hope you can find in your heart to give them a little more freedom in the choices they make.

Anne on

Then she better hope that Rainbow didn’t get mommy’s’ brains or her thirst for attention. I always love how these people seem to be experts on parenting even though their first kid isn’t even potty trained.

Gia on

‘I would tell her … it wasn’t what I thought it would be.’
What DID you think it would be Holly? Was there ever any chance that you would graduate from the mansion with a phD in nuclear science? Or that you would end up happily married with a man 60 years your senior playing daddy in his nineties? Please… Just say you outgrew it, admit you effed up, deal with the consequences of your actions. But don’t try to make us believe that you thought for one second your staying in the mansion would be a fairy tale come true.

Barb on

She’s 2 1/2, you don’t know what she will be. Holly is crazy.