Ciara Responds to Ex-Fiancé’s Concerns About Their Son Spending Time with Russell Wilson

08/19/2015 at 09:00 PM ET

Ciara has spoken out after her ex-fiancé raised concerns about their 15-month-old son Future Zahir spending time with her new boyfriend, NFL star Russell Wilson.

The singer is making no apologies for having her baby boy bond with the new man in her life.

“Wouldn’t you want someone to love on your child, or love on the child that you’re speaking about?” the 29-year-old said Wednesday on CBS This Morning.

The singer/songwriter, who featured her son in her “I Got You” video last May, says her son is her top priority — and she’s primarily concerned about how he will respond to the comments.

“People are going to talk about me. I was built for this, this is what I’m supposed to be doing,” she explains. “But when it comes to your child, it’s something I don’t take lightly. At the end of the day, my son will be the one that’s affected the most out of this. I think people have to think about that versus just shouting out things.”

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Rapper/producer Future spoke out on Twitter earlier this month after images of his son hugging Wilson while visiting him at Seattle Seahawks training camp appeared on social media.

“Never make a permanent decision over a temporary circumstance. #umtoobossedup,” he Tweeted.

Ciara says she reached out to her son’s father afterwards to try to get him and Wilson to discuss the incident, but “he didn’t want to talk to me.” The couple ended their engagement a year ago.

“To speak on such a sensitive and real situation when you don’t have all the facts, that to me is the frustrating part of it all because again, us adults will be fine, but my son has to grow up one day and he has to see,” says Ciara, who confirmed she and Wilson continue to practice celibacy. “We didn’t get to talk, so that was that.”

Meanwhile, the performer admits motherhood has changed her entire outlook on life — and the result can be seen in her work.

“After having my child, it allowed me to be in tune with my true feelings and my true thoughts,” she shares. “I’m like, ‘I am who I am, take it or leave it,’ and I just poured all that into my music and allowed myself to just be free in the process.”

— Kathy Ehrich Dowd

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nope on

STRANGE expression.

“love on your child”?

no, i do not want someone to love on my child.

Tara on

This is the problem with many women today. They put their own needs before their child. I was widowed when my son was only a year old. He is now 6. In that time I have not even gone out for coffee with a man. I have made the decision not to date at all until he is out of high school. I will be 45 when that happens. Many friends have argued that it will be too late for me to find someone else. If that’s the case I do not care. Introducing random men into my life (and yes you can never guarantee the relationship will work) is taking a chance on my son’s welfare. He deserves better. He doesn’t lack for male role models as I have 5 brothers. It’s a choice many women refuse to make and this is why we see so many children being abused, murdered or end up psychological damaged from mom’s boyfriends.

Anonymous on

Future needs to get over himself. He cheated on her. She is moving on. Does he want her to be in a relationship with someone who isn’t good to his son? Grow up little boy!

nope on

I agree with you, Tara.

I also agree with the old school ” dont put a man over your child”.

As a parent you cant be too careful who you introduce intimately into your childs life.

Mrs. B on

I agree about the strange expression. Loving on her child sounds really creepy.

Tara on

@nope. The concern I have is not that mom’s should have their lives solely revolving around their children because that too is not healthy for them. However I am just very disappointed in this quest for fulfillment to the sacrifice of the child. Yes women deserve to have a life of their own and enjoy social time. However when you see people like Kate Hudson who jumps from man to man and countless others there is bound to be damage particularly if you have a son. That boy learns early that the mother finds men disposable. I expect to get slammed by modern feminist but I am willing to take the hits if it means my son has a better chance at a stable home environment.

Jen DC on

Way to take the high road, ma’am! I was glad Ciara didn’t entertain fighting this out in social media; that mess is childish and not the way to handle a disagreement one is having regarding the welfare of one’s child. And the fact that Future has chosen not to take Ciara or Russell Wilson up on the opportunity to discuss Russell’s contact with Future Zahir just goes to show that Future is not, in fact, actually worried, either about his son’s welfare or what kind of person Russell Wilson is. Which is clearly decent, kind and loving.

@nope: It’s not a strange expression; it’s actually quite common. You obviously haven’t spent much time in the South. (Ciara’s from Texas.)

@Tara AND @nope: How do you know that her relationship takes precedence? How can you tell? Simply because she is IN one? Is that the evidence you have? OK… She’s not putting a man “over” her child simply by maintaining a romantic relationship. That’s such nonsense. The fact that you are denying yourself adult romantic relationships doesn’t make you a better mother or person. If you feel good about your self-sacrifice and think it’s the best thing for you and your child, then great. But that doesn’t put you in a knowledgeable position from which to judge anyone else’s choices.

Every relationship a mother has doesn’t end in abuse or death of the child. Utter hysteria. If Ciara is satisfied with the caliber of man Russell Wilson has proved himself to be (a rich football player choosing celibacy? Alright, bruh!), then who are you to cast all these insupportable, vague aspersions?

Kathleen on

Don’t wear celibacy as a badge of honor. It’s a choice, like anything else. But it’s not necessarily the right choice for everyone.

kardsofkano on

Mommy hate is a societal tragedy. This woman has to deal with how her son copes with her new relationship. They have been dating since the beginning of the year. Not a booty call. Your situation and decisions are yours. Not anyone elses. Future needs to get over himself. He squandered his family, not her.

Tara on

Ah yes…women cannot take criticism. What a shock? Contact me when your children are running off in every direction leading questionable lives. Touchy touchy aren’t we now?

Meena on

Nope and Tara-I think there is a middle ground, but good luck to you both.

Karen on

Celibacy my foot! He’s probably gay.

DeeDee on

@Jen DC You make some very valid points.

dinamarieburnett on

One of the best thing you can give a child is showing them a loving relationship. You don’t have to have a revolving door of men sleeping over.

J on

Good for her. Ciara has met a man with integrity and meanwhile her ex who has kids with 3 other women talks smack about her. I bet she married Russell. He’s awesome!

Sandy on

She talks like she did not make it past the 4th grade. Does not sound very intelligent. Also, she named her child Future. WTF. Yeah sure lady, you’re very concerned about his life after saddling him with that freaking ridiculous name.

nope on

JenDC is unnecessarily strident in her comments.

Love on your child is a strange expression… to me.

Your assertion that it is a common expression will not change my perception.

This is afterall a matter of opinion and no one opinion is greater than the next.

Dolemite on

@Jen DC: Thanks for submitting a logically well thought out post. It is a breath of fresh air compared to the irrational condescending BS normally posted in these comments.

tempme on

Jen DC! Valid points and I could not agree more. If you want to put your life on hold, good for you. However, don’t get on a high horse and thank what suits you suits everyone. If you are afraid to breathe that is your problem. Single parenting has many issues that are often overlooked. No one can teach a boy to be a man like a good man. There are bad men and bad women in the world but such is life. Life is about taking chances and living by hope not by fear.

nope on

Meena, there is a middle ground and there is also tragedy in getting your children’s lives involved with EVERY SINGLE PERSON YOU DATE.

dva4de on

@Jen DC THANK YOU!!! Certain people with certain beliefs need to realize God made their choices and decisions perfect for THEM. No mother/father is perfect but who are you to judge. And as a proud single mother who has raised 3 beautifully talented, intelligent, and well-rounded young women I will say it is ABSOLUTELY POSSIBLE to raise children and have a relationship. It’s called living. Be smart who you choose to be with and ask questions. Be nosey!! When you’re satisfied with the answers and they have proven worthy of your time and your kids time let the introductions begin.

Please for the love of humanity stop taking everything so literally. Love on is a southern saying. Nothing more nothing less. I have a wonderful fiancé who I am marrying in 3 months. He and his family loves on all 3 of my girls. They have loved on them from the day I decided to bring my girls into my relationship. I know they will continue to love on them just as I love on my babies.
#stopjudging #acceptanceisthekey

Anonymous on

Jen DC, u r so right. Just cos Tara doesn’t want to date doesn’t mean she is the best mother. I was a single mother and I made sure I got to know the guy I’m dating before I introduced him to my son. I’m married now. I hope when u turn 45 u don’t regret the decision u are making now. I think u are insecure because u think no man would love a woman who has a child. People with 5 kids still find love. I sure hope Russell is a good man cos if he makes them happy then good.

syndeytish on

Jen DC, u r so right. Just cos Tara doesn’t want to date doesn’t mean she is the best mother. I was a single mother and I made sure I got to know the guy I’m dating before I introduced him to my son. I’m married now. I hope when u turn 45 u don’t regret the decision u are making now. I think u are insecure because u think no man would love a woman who has a child. People with 5 kids still find love. I sure hope Russell is a good man cos if he makes them happy then good.

Anna on

@nope: The expression “love on your child” is very southern. I know because I live in the South and you hear native southern women use it all the time. It means that you really adore and love your child, and show them a lot of affection. Taken out of Southern context, it may sound strange, but there is no ill intent in its meaning. Bless your heart!

Anonymous on

@ Tara, well lest just hope that by the time you son is out of high school, you still have what it takes to land a halfway decent guy, but I hate to break it to you the dating pool begins to shrink significantly for women over 30 in this age of Social Media. I disagree with your premise that by not dating you are protecting your child from harm. Studies have shown that kids with no siblings, in a single family home is more likely to be molested / engage in illicit acts with someone outside of their immediate family. Kids tend to grow close it friends in school / Sports before they choose to be close to uncles or cousins. Your child as well as you deserves to be involved in a healthy, intimate, loving relationship. I you choose to deny yourself that don’t think you are doing him a favor because he will resent you for it. That is the way we are built. Children recognize love above everything else, and more importantly they don’t like to feel like the odd one out, especially at a young age. And no I don’t mean; Love from an uncle, coach, friend’s brother etc. The want to feel like someone love them enough to consider them a son or daughter. So do your son a favor and seek after a healthy relationship and hell, give him a sister or brother while you still can. Otherwise, you are being selfish and guilty of just what you are accusing other women of doing.

Sandra on

@Jen DC, Good response, Thank You. I think that we see and hear so much in the media about men and women that place their children in harms way with who they are dating that some of us fail to realize that there are still those of us that have enough common sense to not allow our romantic partners to overshadow our parental duties. Personally I don’t date because I have two kids and two jobs, there isn’t room to fit anyone else and their stuff into my life.

Anonymous on

@Sandy, you can’t find anything negative about Ciara, so you resort to insults. Well I would say good job to her if she didn’t make it past fourth grade. The way she speaks has not hindered her from being on prime time TV giving an interview. What she has accomplished at a very young age is something for you to strive towards; but we all know it has nothing to do with Ciara. You are just bitter that she has stolen the heart of one of the most eligible bachelor in America so join the club of bitter women, like she said she was built for this! So continue hating and Ciara will continue to be herself.

Guest on

@Sandy, you can’t find anything negative about Ciara, so you resort to insults. Well I would say good job to her if she didn’t make it past fourth grade. The way she speaks has not hindered her from being on prime time TV giving an interview. What she has accomplished at a very young age is something for you to strive towards; but we all know it has nothing to do with Ciara. You are just bitter that she has stolen the heart of one of the most eligible bachelor in America so join the club of bitter women, like she said she was built for this! So continue hating and Ciara will continue to be herself.

Guest on

@Tara Kids tend to grow close it friends in school / Sports before they choose to be close to uncles or cousins. Your child as well as you deserves to be involved in a healthy, intimate, loving relationship. If you choose to deny yourself that don’t think you are doing him a favor because he will resent you for it. That is the way we are built. Children recognize love above everything else, and more importantly they don’t like to feel like the odd one out, especially at a young age. And no I don’t mean; Love from an uncle, coach, friend’s brother etc. The want to feel like someone love them enough to consider them a son or daughter. So do your son a favor and seek after a healthy relationship and hell, give him a sister or brother while you still can. Otherwise, you are being selfish and guilty of just what you are accusing other women of doing.

Guest on

@ Tara, well lest just hope that by the time you son is out of high school, you still have what it takes to land a halfway decent guy, but I hate to break it to you the dating pool begins to shrink significantly for women over 30 in this age of Social Media. I disagree with your premise that by not dating you are protecting your child from harm. Studies have shown that kids with no siblings, in a single family home is more likely to be molested / engage in illicit acts with someone outside of their immediate family.

Sandy on

@Anonymous, I actually can find something negative about Ciara. Her child’s name is FUTURE. Why not Dreamcatcher or Refrigerator or BeautifulLandfill. As for being jealous of her “new man,” I have actually never heard of him. I’ll google him and see who he is. Sorry for the fact that I was just pointing out that she doesn’t sound very bright. If that’s an insult, so be it. Truth hurts.

Bree on

Russell Wilson is fine upstanding guy. A true Wisconsin boy!!! I would rather have my son be with Russell Wilson than being around Hip Hop and Rap crap drama and high ball lifestyle. I think she has made a fine example of a man in Russell Wilson. Cheers!!

Anonymous on

It is so clear to me that Ciara’s son is the top priority in her life because he is everywhere she is. It is also clear she chose a great man to be in her and her son’s life. The more love a child receives, the better. They are modeling a beautiful, healthy relationship for him to immulate and it is clear he is happy, healthy and thriving. Any opinion to the contrary is just concern trolling.

I was a single mother of 2 very young children when I met the man who would become my husband and their stepfather of over 16 years now. He has added so much love and happiness to our lives. As a mother, I found that my qualifications for a man entering my life were much more stringent than they had been before because I had to consider my children’s well being as well as my own desires and needs. It seems that Ciara has evolved her list of qualifications for a mate after having her son as evidenced how very different her current beau is from the types of men she dated prior. She has matured beautifully and that will of course benefit her son.

Mimi on

even if RW is gay- he’s also the best guy she ever had.

Justme on

@tara what you do is your choice and from your comment you need to seek counseling.

Justme on

Jen dc, I so agree with you. So tired of idiots giving their opinions on what they don’t know or think they know. plus the media isn’t that great anymore. They have a tendency to stretching the truth into lies.

Socialyte on

Sigh. Some of yall sound crazy as hell. I can’t believe the comments that she’s “putting her own needs before her child’s”. You don’t know her stoy
@Tara. You sound like she was out looking for a man. She also said her child comes before anything. Just because you don’t mind being lonely, everyone doesn’t feel the same way. First things first, her father acts as her “manny” 95% of the time, and I know that he, or Ciara would never let harm come to the baby.
@Karen, did you try to come onto him, and he didn’t want you? Russell isn’t gay.. move along.
@Sandy Ciara never pre-screens questions, and sometimes one needs to take time to get their thoughts together. As far as her son’s name, my female friend had the same name in High School.. It’s really none of your business what someone else chose to name HER child, but since you have such an issue, go talk to Fifi Trixibelle, Apple, and Pilot Inspektor’s parents.

Brandy on

Ciara, be happy. If there is a man in your life and he is responsible and positive, go for it. No man can come into a child’s life and replace his father IF the father is active and present in his life. Future needs to stop being petty and be a man. It’s obvious that Russell is in it for the long haul so what a mature man would do, is to meet and talk to the man that is a big part of his son’s life. We’re not talking about a friendship but know the man that is around that is around your child. All this criticism of her choice’s, live your life…she seems to be doing fine!

Vida on

I honestly think there is nothing wrong with letting your child bond with the new man/woman in your life if you are considering something long term. People use kids as a pawn or a reason to keep drama going. I am not feeling Future rant because at the end of the day if you did not want another man around your child maybe you should have been more committed and married the mother of your child. However he has four kids by four different women and I doubt he raises hell about them being around other men. It’s just because they are both entertainers and she is making him bad due to the broken relationship.

Eli on

Wow, there is a striking amount of misogyny in this thread. A bunch of judgmental people dumping on this woman when it appears that she has done the best she can in a bad situation. Her baby’s father made this issue public instead of being a man and handling it like a grown-up. The fact that she introduced her kid to a serious boyfriend of many months has everyone clutching their pearls? Frankly, if my mom dated a Superbowl-winning QB, I would be real mad if she DIDN’T introduce me. Frankly, even though I am white, the amount of backlash that this lady is getting for her (perfectly reasonable) choices makes me wonder if this isn’t about race. I don’t see this many hateful comments in the posts about white single mothers.

Brandy on

@Tara, Ciara’s choice to have Russell in her son’s life has nothing to do with her putting her needs before her son’s. You should get out and live your life. It is okay to have male friends. Not every guy you meet, wants a relationship and if you make it clear that you aren’t looking for a relationship, I’m sure it will be respected. Too not have a male friend has to be a miserable life. Wishing you the best.

@nope, you cannot compare Ciara to Kate Hudson. Ciara isn’t sleeping with Russell and he is the only man that is a part of her son’s life. She is not putting a man before her son. They all spend time together so where did that come from?

Dee on

Her ex CHEATED on her while she was pregnant and she made the decision to leave. She is moving on with her life and he is nothing but JEALOUS and wants to use his son as a tool of CONTROL. That is what this is about.

She is with someone who is a public figure, someone who has a career, is successful and seems to genuinely care for her and her son. For whatever reason his life has not turned out the way he expected it and he now wants to make her life as miserable as his.

If he were a good and decent father he would concentrate his efforts on co-parenting with his ex and helping to raise his son as opposed to getting on Twitter and carrying on like an immature, spoiled asshat!!!
He should be thankful that his son seems happy and that his mother is taking care of him.

All you self righteous women on here going on and on about putting your child first!!! Give it a rest and get off the podium already!!! You are a mom, you are also a woman and while your child comes first it doesn’t mean that you should not live your life as well. And how dare you JUDGE the moms who do? Just because you all cannot find decent men who will love and respect you and care for you and extend that love towards your child does not give you the right to judge the women that do.

We women don’t need men to drag us down, we do a fine job dragging each other through the mud.

I think Ciara is doing a great job balancing her personal and professional life and staying classy by not belittling or disrespecting the father of her child despite his pathetic actions.

theshoppingdiva on

Tara get over yourself. If that’s what you chose to do that is your business and good luck finding a quality man at 45. Having a child does not mean you give up your life entirely it means you make good sound decisions for yourself and your child. Russell is a quality god fearing man that comes from a very good family and treats Ciara very well and her child like his own, that should be your goal and not locking up your coochie for years cause you got a kid, that not good sense that’s extremism. Ciara brought her son around Russell when she felt it was appropriate and she was heading toward the altar (which she is), so it is important for her future husband to bond with her child now, not later. Ya’ll comments gonna be looking stupid after the wedding.

nope on

and bless your heart is southern for “eff you”.

right back atcha.

theshoppingdiva on

If you are not an African American you will not understand the term ‘loving on my child’ so please white folks, don’t take that term and translate it into what you think it could mean. 9 out of 10 times you will be wrong. She has a solid relationship with Russell and everybody will deal. Do what you think is right for your relationship and Ciara will do what she thinks is right for her. End of story.

southernsistah on

Maybe Future should have thought about what he wanted for his son before he cheated and left his sons mother. At this point he just has to trust her judgment because so far, looks like Future’s judgment is the only one we can point a finger at and say “bad call man.” Looks like he left a good woman and his child to chase tail, and now he wants to try to control Ciara’s life via their son. Glad she isn’t putting up with his mess and is getting on with her life. From what we’ve heard so far, sounds like Ciara has found a good man and I will stand in their corner until I hear something different. Future needs to focus on getting himself right and co-parenting their son, because I bet you a million bucks Future isn’t planning on being in a committed, celibate relationship…so what will the kid be around at Future’s house? Hmmmmm.

Guest on

Tara, be careful you don’t set unrealistic expectations for your son. The fact of the matter is he will have to learn that life is journey and will need to understand that people come in and out of your life and how to emotionally cope in the future as he develops relationships of his own. Children learn by example and showing him healthy adult relationships is not a bad thing as long as they are healthy. Trust yourself enough to know that you are allowed to date and you may not necessarily bring every one home, but you will know in your heart when it is right.

theshoppingdiva on

@Tara do what you have to do for you, that’s how you feel you need to handle things (and good luck finding a quality man after 45) but YOU are not Ciara and you do not have the right to pass judgment on anybody. You want to wait till you’re a middle age woman to look for a man, great! Ciara had a child by a man she was engaged to that cheated and broke his commitment to her and his son (and damn sure didn’t have a problem doing it either) and now she is in a solid relationship with a god fearing respectable man who comes from a good family and is a multi-millionaire who is planning to marry her. I say she’s doing everything RIGHT! Maybe jealously is staring to creep up in your chest and hence the judgmental comment. Maybe you wish it was you.

virgochic on

Future is her first child! Why doesn’t she just focus on him. Her son wasn’t even 1 when she had him around the kid, so many women do that too soon, smh. Than less than 6 months later, they’re taking family portraits. I wouldn’t want a guy loving on my child after only 4 months of dating. Everyone keeps trying to make Russell a stepfather already. Remember, he is younger than her and has been married before, if he wanted children we would’ve had them.

virgochic on

HE not we lls…. Darn auto correct

theshoppingdiva on

@nope – you probably don’t even have any children. Just looking for anything to judge this woman on. You and Tara are just besides yourself with jealously it is more than obvious by the paper thin excuses you are using to pull this woman down. Haters is the category both of you seem to fit into quite nicely. It also obvious that neither of you have a man, that’s problem No. 1 right there. Trying to put your own personal failures and bad experiences on a celeb. Ciara is winning right now hence the hate. This is why woman have it so hard, some of us work harder than men to tear each other down cause we can’t keep that green-eyed monster in check. Can’t be happy for nobody when your own love life is a bust.

SMH on

Who the hell is looking for a boyfriend, let alone thinking about wanting a boyfriend after just having a baby?? Priorities all messed up

theshoppingdiva on

@virgochic – you don’t know how long they were dating, Ciara never gave specific as to the year and month they started dating. So please kill all that mess. How do you know she is not focusing on her son? Her son is with her everywhere she goes. There are hundreds of pics with her son on her hip, hundreds. Again, making assumptions just so you can make your bitter betty point and you all kinds of WRONG! She is doing what is the best interest of HER child. You so concern, have your own and handle it the way you want, do something you can control.

theshoppingdiva on

@SMH – again, another fool with very little information (or hi Nope and Tara). Ciara wasn’t looking Russell was interested in her. He is going to marry her. At least do a little research before you come on here talking about a situation you have very little background on. You probably don’t even know who Ciara is or anything about her career just spewing your misinformed fake self-righteous babble on this article. Please find a rock to kick.

SMH on

@Diva, maybe you should actually read what I typed before trying to come at me with your long paragraph. I never said she was looking, thank you. You must know her personally since you “seem” to know what is going to happen in her future. I need to hit you with a rock because you definitely didn’t need to respond to what I wrote.

theshoppingdiva on

Do not try to play me chica, you implied it. Don’t try to get all specific now, that’s what the hell you meant, so own it! Expect a read if you gonna come out your mouth with nonsense and no knowledge of the real situation. Just being reckless with no insight. Lawd you are so clueless you don’t even know what ‘kick rock’ means LMAO

Shanarama on

@Tara, your decisions are yours and yours alone. You don’t get to pass judgement on others for their choices.
My ex husband cheated & left me for someone else, making me a single mother of a 12 year old boy. I have only introduced him to two of the men I have dated after my divorce. One of them we ran into at a mall long after the relationship was over, the other is laying beside me right now and has every night for the past 5 years. My son has learned more about being a good man from him than he ever learned from his father. He also went from being a lonely only child to having two younger step-brothers who worship the ground he walks on. My son is now a sophomore in college, living in a dorm and has never done drugs, been arrested, or gotten anybody pregnant. He gets excellent grades and even chose to take a full course load over the summer instead of wasting his time. He tells me all thw time that he is grateful that I brought his step-father into his life so that he would have an example of a good, strong, loving, healthy relationship to look up to. Plus, he has a step family that couldn’t love him more if they tried.

I think it’s you who can’t take anyone criticising YOUR lifestyle choices as you are the one who is getting defensive.

As for the person who claimed the term “loving on” is a black thing that no white person could understand… it’s actually a southern thing and has nothing to do with race. I am white, as is my family and we all use that term.

Heather on

I literally lost brain cells reading this.

theshoppingdiva on

@Shanarama – Preach! I betta Tara wouldn’t want anybody judging her for a having a 6 year old with no man in sight. I betta she couldn’t take the criticism of her making a poor choice which is why she is single with no man to be found or father figure for her son. I betta she couldn’t take the backlash of knowing she is not providing a strong male role model for her son but is making a piss poor decision by trying to raise a man alone and a woman is not built for that. I betta she could get angry as hell if someone told her she should have kept her legs closed if she couldn’t make a sound decision in finding a good husband and loving environment before bringing a child into the world. Yeah ‘I Bet’

maryhelenc on

It’s a tricky thing, but if they’ve been together for some time & Russell is good with him, then it should be fine. I generally wait a year before letting my kids interact with anyone. But my ex does the same thing: yells & screams if I’m seeing someone but then introduces our kids to a girl he just met. It screams control.

D on

Interesting how @nope knew what “bless your heart” meant but not “love on your child” 😉 Come on people, even non-southerners know what those mean @@

Anon on

As a mother, I can understand the instinct to put your child first, but these people saying that they refuse to date anyone until their child is grown doesn’t necessarily mean they’re putting their child first or that they’re a better mother than anyone else. It just sounds like someone with a martyr complex. Folks need to stop vilifying this woman for living. If she and Russell are getting serious, then he should spend time with her son. If you want mommy, then baby comes with her, too. I see nothing wrong with what she’s doing, but I do think the ex is acting childish and bitter.

Also, as someone who has had a great step-father for the last 26 years, I would hate to think about the great family life I would have missed out on if my own mother had made the choice to not date until I graduated. Allowing another man into your life can turn out to be a wonderful decision for you and your kid(s).

Jen DC on

@ Tara: No, not touchy at all. Just don’t entertain the idea that what is right for me or for you is right for the whole world. I don’t like high heels; do I need to preach that everyone else who wears high heels is doing something inappropriate?

When (read: BIG OLE IF) Ciara’s son ends up in trouble for whatever reason, you are welcome to your “I told you so”s.

Lucky I Guess ... on

I wanted to respond to the comments that are basically implying that women should not be in a relationship if the biological dad is out of the picture. I had the same mindset when my husband walked out on my son and me shortly before our son’s 4th birthday. I thought, I’m not going to even date until my son graduates higher school. I had this mindset because in the media you do see so many women jumping relationship to relationship where they are exposing all these men to their child(ren). I see it with some people I know as well and it always bothered me. That mindset changed when I met the right man. He asked me out probably 10 times before I said, “If I go out with you will you please leave me alone then?!” He said of course. That was 8 years ago this last June. As of April 2015, we’ve been married 3 years. And as of today, it has been 1.5 years since that man adopted my son. If I’d not gone on that date, my son would still be without a father and healthy role model in his life. Women can absolutely date when they have kids. There is nothing wrong with that. The problem is when women start introducing their child(ren) to these men after only dating a week or two. My son didn’t meet my future husband until we’d been dating almost a year. He understood why I wouldn’t bring my son around and I believe respected me more for it. And my time with my son was never any less because I’d be with my husband when my son was on trips with his grandparents or having sleep overs at a cousin’s house. So you see, it is possible to be a single mother and have a life of your own. And I was lucky enough to find not just a man, but a great man who accepted and understood my rules regarding my child, who because our child.

Marie on

@Tara – my best friend lost her husband when her child was 4 and she was 29. Her son did have male role models in uncles and grandfathers. She did date yet she was there every night to tuck her baby into bed. She read him bedtime stories, she made him dinner, made him breakfast the next morning. She didn’t introduce every man to her son, she was very selective in that. When her son was 10 she was remarried to a wonderful man. Her son was thrilled. He remains thrilled. They have now been married 18 years and her son calls this man “Dad”. He’s told her numerous times over the years he was happy she dated after his dad died. I’m not saying that women, or men, who choose not to date after a spouse passes or after a divorce are wrong, but just because someone chooses to date does not mean they aren’t putting their child first. It’s a personal decision and there is no right or wrong in my opinion. Every situation is different.

Surrina on

@Tara Sometimes though that man turns into a awesome father figure. My Dad is an example of this. My bio dad didn’t want (and still doesn’t want) anything to do with me. My mother met a man when I was 4 years old. This was her first and only reltionship after she had me. They got married, and he adpoted me. He has been my dad for almost 30 years now, treats me like I AM his child and I wouldn’t have it any other way. Your way works for you, but not all women. Sometimes it can work out.

guest on

Sandy you are one miserable person. Kudos to Ciara for raising her child right we all make mistakes i don’t no how you think you are.

Lea on

I agree with what Tara posted. I am a mother and feel the same way.

gellie on

@Tara I’m so sorry for your loss. But you cannot put your decision to check out on love on your child. Essentially, that’s what you’re doing. Sure, you’re dressing it up nice, making it seem like you’re doing something noble. But the TRUTH is that you’ve checked out on love. Own that. Don’t put it on your son.

Ali on

I know what it’s like to deal with a petty, immature ex that can’t deal. My husband loves my son and is his “Daddy”. He was there while my exhusband was in prison for crimes against me. My ex brings different women and their kids in and out of my child’s life constantly. Which one is worse? A Mom that is happy in a loving relationship or a Dad that doesn’t pay child support, ignores his kid and knocks up other women occasionally? Ciara deserves to be happy and so does her baby. Future is looking like a dummy with his rants.

brinksh on

WOW! Its really sad to see the negative comments that seem to come from a place of Double Standards and Racism. Women can be so brain washed that they take on the same behavior of men imposing limitations and control over a women’s life!
Also it is just ignorant to call someone ‘gay’ because they have committed to living a Christian lifestyle.
You are speaking about Ciara as if she has had her son around multiple relationships, when in fact its only been Russell Wilson. Russell pursued Ciara and I am sure he understood all that would come with her. They appear to be extremely happy with one another, even with all the adversity that is thrown their way. Russell and Ciara are beautiful inside and out, wealthy and have very bright futures before them. Folks stop all the hatred and jealousy!!!

Go On Live on

Tara, while there is no doubt someone will come along when you are 45,but you aren’t thinking logically about the impact that choice will have on your child either.
I grew up with a parent like you, and I don’t think the lonely nights and celibacy helped. It wasn’t healthy to build a world strictly around a child to the exclusion of romantic love. I remember thinking – my mom has no one and is alone, and what happens when I leave her.
Live, take a chance.
I will admit I broke up with my ex when my oldest was a baby, and met my husband when he was a toddler, he was the first man I allowed around my son. My son is now a man, he loves his 2nd dad, and is an amazing dedicated big brother. Obviously I made a different choice to my mother’s, one that brought me a child I never expected to have, and 20 years and still going of happiness.

Anonymous on

@Sandy, the fact you don’t know who Russell Wilson is shows that you are in no position to comment on Ciara level of intelligence. You obviously must still be living in a cave or under a rock. Whatever she chose to name her child is her prerogative. His name didn’t stop Barak Obama from becoming POTUS. You sound like a bully who will end up being a parent of a bully. I bet you go back far enough in history; your name was probably not as common. You’re just a natural born hater. Hating on someone you don’t know for no valid reason. Get a life and do more yoga, it’s calming.

Anonymous on

@virgochic – Wow Ashton Meem, Russell’s ex wife really! Born: September 6, 1987 (age 27), Richmond, VA , Spouse: Russell Wilson (m. 2012–2014). You need to move on and stop constantly embarrassing yourself…commenting negatively on an article about his current love, Ciara is not going to get you back your ex. I mean, really how dumb could you be giving yourself a screen name that is your zodiac sign, using “We” when referring to Russell wanting kids and I quote “if he wanted children we would’ve had them,” and then trying to lie on auto-correct for you accidently ousting yourself. Move on already! You have been caught numerous times trolling Ciara’s fan pages on Instagram and accidentally like pictures. You even went so far as to like pics on her Ex Instagram as well. It’s not a good look, it obvious you are still hurt that he divorced you, but you were the one who allegedly cheated on him! Change your social media names stop pretending that you are still a Wilson, when you’re not and move on. It’s pathetic if you ask me! Everyone knows Russell loves kids and wants a big family. He talks about it all the time during his interviews.

Anonymous on

he is younger than her and has been married before, if he wanted children we would’ve had them.

@virgochic you’re Russell’s bitter ex-wife Ashton

Real Gurl on

@virgochic why do you care if they are taking “family pictures”. You miss you ex-husband or nah?

Anonymous on

virgochic is Ashton Russell’s ex-wife. She is really bothered about Russell and Ciara. Move on Ashton your desperation is showing aned people are laughing at you. He divorced you with the quickness and it speaks volumesabout you. Your time should be invested trying to remove that awful alligator mouth picture of you on the www.

You were stupid to follow Ebro and company they said that you are ugly.

thegypsiesoul on

@virgochic
Ashton, sweetie, you’re going to have to move on. Don’t you feel dumb sitting up responding to articles written about your ex’s (much more successful and much more attractive) girlfriend? Especially under a dumb username when your birthday/zodiac is readily available online. Clearly he likes Ciara and her child. If he didn’t want children when he was with you, the problem might’ve been…YOU or your horse-like genetics. No one knows for sure, but we do know that you’re not fooling anyone and this post officially solidifies that he did the right thing by leaving you behind. Have fun following someone on IG who called you ugly (Ebro) and someone who could not care any less about your existence (Future). PS You might want to create a new profile, so next time you accidentally like a pic of Russ & Ci, the world won’t know you were creeping.

Jay on

I am not sure why Ciara and Russell ‘ s rship got alot of people’s panties in a bunch!! Sheesh! In response to someone saying what kind of name is Future, here is a partial list of strange celebrity baby names..
Pilot Inspektor, Kal El, Fifield Trixibelle, Apple, Sage Moonblood, Memphis Eve, Blanket, Audio Science, Moon Unit, Diva Thin Muffin, Moxie Crimefighter, Tu Morrow…..and the list goes on.
Let Ci and Russ live their lives. There is no cookie cutter to life.
Someone saying she didn’t sound educated in her interview! SERIOUSLY!!

Sashaxoxo77 on

This is to Virgo chic AKA Ashton Wilson! Stay in your own lane! The time you spend stalking Russell and Ciara on social media outlets you could be finding a new relationship! Hiding behind aliases you sound crazy and you look even crazier! Apparently he didn’t want kids with you if so you would have had some before he divorced you!

Sashaxoxo77 on

I guess a few of us figured out quick that VirgoChic is Ashton Meem! She still had pics on Instagram as if her and Russell are still together! Sorry Ciara and Russell are soulmates. Even pics of you guys you can tell the connection was off! Try a better alias next time you try to make a negative comment about their relationship chic! Be blessed Ashton Meem and find a man!

fd on

I think it’s a good idea to keep kids away from your dates until you know the relationship is truly compatible and solid. So many people have a revolving door of partners – the kid gets attached and then the relationship is over – that is not good for children because it makes them feel insecure and fearful. Waiting a year to introduce your partner to your child is a good rule of thumb.

bajgirl on

I’m a big ciara fan and a single mother. At least I was till I met my husband when my son was 4 at the time. He’s now 14 and the relationship between him and my husband is great. He knows who is biological dad is but thinks of my husband as his true father. It wasn’t a relationship I forced. I’m saying all this to say change your sins name if u want cause I think future is not a real name but to change it to your boyfriend’s name is just wrong and I think your doing it to make his dad mad. But please think of your son first and dont put him in the middle of your feeling for his dad. Cause u doing this tells me your still in love with his Dad!!

londerek Shannon on

Hello there this is what wrong with the world today let’s face the real issue here future problem is that he lost his family to a man who is loving and supportive to this beautiful woman and son.he still this kid father and he need to realize that want change just because she move on. He shouldn’t have taking her for granted she deserves to be happy.furthermore she dating she getting married to this man. Be father brother quite hating on your ex life goes on but some ppl can’t handle when they lose a good thing. And for russell ex if the rumors or true if u cheated on this guy after all yall been though then u don’t have room to comment on his life u was unfaithful u betrayed your wedding valves and commitment so if u want to hooked up with future which is childish cause u couldn’t be faithful u deserves each other both of you two wrong don’t it right grow up.

plastique on

jpeux pas jouer, j’ai pas dcheveux