Eva Amurri Martino Reveals Miscarriage: ‘This One Little Angel Has Slipped Away’

08/15/2015 at 02:45 PM ET

Eva Amurri Martino has suffered a miscarriage.

The actress revealed on her blog Saturday that she and her husband, 36 Hours host Kyle Martino, had been expecting their second child — a little sibling for daughter Marlowe Mae, who just turned 1 — but their happiness turned to heartache earlier this week.

“I am sharing in the hopes that we can be a light for people going through similar circumstances, and to remind myself and others that there is no shame in voicing our heartbreaks and allowing others to comfort us. A couple of days ago, the baby I was carrying passed away. I was nine weeks pregnant,” Amurri Martino, 30, writes.

Eva Amurri Martino Suffers Miscarriage Pregnant Second Child Kyle Martino
Courtesy Martino Family

“When we found out we were expecting baby number two, we were scared and joyful all at the same time. Two babies under two! … While we were on vacation in Hawaii [last week], we took some ‘Big Sis’ photos with Marlowe. Towards the end of our trip, I began to experience some spotting, but once I returned to Los Angeles, I got the all-clear from my doctor. We heard the heartbeat on multiple occasions, and watched our baby growing at a normal rate. When we celebrated Marlowe’s birthday, we shared the news with our families and closest friends.”

She continues, “At my next visit for a routine ultrasound, however, the baby’s heart was no longer beating. Just like that, it was all over. I remained in the office and went through the procedure to remove the baby from my uterus. … My doctor told me that this was most likely a case of there being an underlying major developmental problem with the fetus, and that it had simply stopped growing. That nature had taken its course in the most brutally honest and simple way that nature sometimes works. He also shared with me that this is heartbreakingly common. … Of course the fact that it is common doesn’t do anything to help the pain.”

“I have realized in the past 48 hours how incredibly grateful I am for the magic that I have in my life,” Amurri Martino writes. “Of course what I don’t have, and what I never will have, is this one little angel who has slipped away from me. And while it will take time for me to make peace with that fact, it gives me a lot of solace knowing that I told — that I have shared its existence with you, that it mattered, and that we loved it. And that will have to do.”

For more on what the family is going through, read the full post at Happily Eva After.

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Guest on

How sad for her family, but a beautifully written piece.

Me on

Wow. Beautifully written and a thousand condolences.

Katie on

That picture of her daughter in the sand is eerie with sister being washed away. I’m very sorry for this loss.

shannon darnell on

Just the exact experience myself. I lost my angel on August 7 at 10 weeks. No, knowing it is common does nothing to comfort. My body still thinks its pregnant. Im.so.tired and emotionally I’m a wreck. But reading this brought me comfort to know someone famous feels the same.

mer on

I agree. Very sad for her and her family. But well written. And I’m glad people are more and more talking about it. If it helps to some people, they should be able to talk about it, maybe helping others, too.

dd on

i feel bad for her, but the picture of the toddler w/ the word “big” & the article she wrote is a bit dramatic

wellsap on

This is exactly what happened to me yesterday, at 10 weeks with my first pregnancy. I am scheduled for a D&C on Monday. Somehow reading this made me feel less alone. Thank you, Eva.

Shelly Lockhart on

I have also, sadly, experienced this 3 times. I’ve miscarried at 12,8, and 4 weeks. I am so blessed to have my 11 year old daughter, but i totally understand the pain of miscarriage. Thanks to Eva for sharing her story, and prayers to this family during this tragedy.

lori on

That was said with so much grace, and in the middle of such a sad loss. What a wise lady. I know they are grieving and will keep the whole sweet family in my prayers. I hope Eva is feeling OK physically too.

veggiemama on

Really written from her heart, with the hope to help other women in the same situation. I lost a baby in my second month of pregnancy years ago. It was very sad, I felt a connection already to her. But time heals. It must be much harder when a baby is already born, to lose them. Women can help other women to heal, just by sharing from their hearts and listening. Blessings to all the women who have suffered a loss of a baby at any stage,

kitteneyez on

so unfair nobody deserves this

such a beautiful family

Anonymous on

My first pregnancy ended in miscarriage at 10 weeks. It was devastating, but I went on to have two wonderful, healthy sons. That was 21 years ago, and I still remember the date. Prayers to Eva and her family.

Shannon on

I am so thankful that she has shared this publicly. I lost my son at 17 weeks along. I went in for a routine check up and they could not find a heartbeat. An emergency ultrasound confirmed that he had passed away 10-14 days prior. I was able to labor my son, deliver him and hold a funeral. It really helped me in terms of closure. It is a hole in your heart that will never heal no matter how much time passes. What could have been will always be present in your mind. Miscarriage is so awful.

Ariel on

Beautiful and heartbreaking. I believe that it’s not “never,” it’s just not yet.

J on

Miscarriages are emotionally difficult. I had one in August 2012. Luckily for my husband and I we tried again months later and were successful. We have a beautiful daughter who was born in January 2014. She drives her big sister crazy! Never lose hope!

Kathy on

Why do these people feel the need to tell the world about this?

Anonymous on

I lost my baby June 4th. I was supposed to be 10 weeks but my baby stopped growing at 6. It’s a cruel experience, especially when I tried 2 years to get pregnant. I think I’m pregnant again, but the closest thing to another positive test is a white outline of where it’s supposed to be.

Denise on

So sorry for their loss. Beautifully written and thank you for sharing with us about your loss. God bless you and your family.

Diane on

I’m sorry she had a miscarriage. But a bit much to be sharing that news. Too much sharing people!!!! Some thing are better left unsaid.

Guest on

My deepest condololences. I went through the same thing (missed miscarriage followed by a D&C) earlier this year. I too had heard the heartbeat and taken “Big Brother” pictures of our son. I found that receiving the pathology results which told us our baby was not sustainable with life to be helpful, that it was not my fault and nothing could have been done to prevent it. I pray you hear the same thing and are at peace soon.

Ally on

Look, I’m sorry she had a miscarriage. That’s very sad. But how can someone who is liberal and pro-choice claim that this was an “angel” that slipped away. In their eyes, it’s not even human. Women seem to be deciding on whether or not it’s a life based on whether or not they “want” the baby. It’s a human being whether or not you want it.

West on

I agree with Diane.

WanderSong79 on

That is incredibly sad news for their family and loved ones. My thoughts and prayers go out to them.

KT on

Her words are so beautifully written. I know how she (and many other women who have posted comments here) feel. It’s a very hard thing to go through.

Anonymous on

Having had two miscarriages myself, I understand your sadness. Wishing you peace over the next few days, months and even years. Thank you for being so open about something that is so common yet not hardly talked about. I’m sorry for the loss of your angel baby!!

sue's on

My thought and prayers with her and her family.

Lisa on

Why do people think this is “too much sharing”? If it were the death of a child already born you would not think so. From my own experience, I know the pain, and the added pain of feeling like I am not supposed to talk about the lost baby. 2years later I have a beautiful 1year old boy, but on March first I felt like I had a little sorrowful secret. It had been a year since our miscarriage, and I kept it to myself, but felt it very much.

neb1997 on

Haven’t a clue who these people are, but I do feel bad for them.

Mollie on

Sad. For the person asking, this is Susan Sarandon’s daughter.

Mom of 3 on

It is a very heartbreaking thing to go through!! I lost three and it is one of the most devastating things I’ve ever been through!! It also takes the mind and body a long time to recover. I’m sorry for your loss and pray for peace for you and your family!!

Suzanne on

So hard to lose a child this way. Lots of guilt and feeling that you didn’t do enough. I lost a child through a miscarriage; you go to the hospital pregnant and leave empty. Prayers and understanding to Eva.

Truthfinder on

So very sorry for your loss…it’s a big loss, no matter how little your baby.

Guest215 on

very sorry for the precious family and everyone else on here that suffered a miscarriage..very sad. my heart goes out to you.

Anonymous on

I just experienced a miscarriage at home 2 days ago. Absolutely one of the most difficult times in my life. I waited for 3 weeks after receiving the news that my baby stopped growing and the heart stopped beating at 7weeks 4 days. Thank you for sharing. I don’t feel as alone in my pain and sadness.

Christine on

Wow, her situation is almost the exact same to mine. I, too miscarried at 9 weeks and can totally relate to what she is going through. Her description of the procedure brought back sad memories of 10 years ago for me. I commend her for sharing such a personal story and for reaching out to those who have gone through this.

Moby on

I too suffered this loss at 9 weeks and 5 days pregnant. It’s the worst thing I ever went through in my life, it was really heartbreaking, so I can relate to Eva. But she has a strong supportive system. My boyfriend wasn’t supportive, he didn’t understand me, so I lost him too 😦

Tina on

Very moving.

Nycgirl437 on

Beautifully expressed. A brave family and sending our thoughts and love your way

Ruth on

To those who are callous enough to say that Eva should only share this news with her family must have never suffered such a loss. While I have never been pregnant, I have had many friends who have suffered miscarriages. For many women they feel alone and lost when they miscarry and never say a word. The loss(es) of a child(ren) is devastating, by sharing their story Eva and Kyle are opening a dialogue that might not ever shared.

MariaRegina on

I’m so glad to see people sharing their grief in this way as so many suffer in silence. “I will not hide my sorrow as I did not hide my joy” – deepest condolences.

Kristin on

Thank you for sharing Eva, as well as everyone commenting on their own miscarriage heartbreak. I’ve suffered three, although one was a chemical pregnancy. I will never forget my heartache and sadness. I felt like my body failed me, and it caused a deep depression, until I started telling friends and family. It seemed most women had experienced one at some point. I didn’t feel so lonely.

km sussman on

my prayers & thoughts are with you. i PERSONALLY know what a loss i is.Just want you to know-please don’t listen to the foolish,inconsiderate comments you will hear-your fellow sisters like myself know how you/others are going through. take it day by day & know you are in our thoughts.

Tonja on

It’s a hard thing to face. Her words are beautifully said.

T on

Wow, dd, “dramatic?” Obviously, you’ve never experienced a miscarriage or at the very least the miscarriage of a child you wanted greatly! The experience of loss IS dramatic. It’s traumatic. I’ve had three. This article is touching, well written, and appreciated unlike your asinine comment!

T on

Too many wonen suffer in painful silence. That’s the reason to share you heartless, ignorant women who are condemning her for doing so! If you don’t like the article or understand it’s message, just shut up, don’t comment, and move on to a damn Kardashian article which I am sure is more in your depth.

Molly on

Miscarriage is quite common in women. I have a close friend who suffered a miscarriage when she was a few months pregnant. But only few months later, she got pregnant again and gave birth a very healthy boy.

Cathy25 on

I lost a baby on 30th of March of 2014. I didn’t know I was pregnant and then started bleeding. At first I thought my period came but then it turned out that I was walking not even knowing that there was new life growing inside of me. I don’t have children and every time I see someone’s baby I think to myself I could also have one and I feel so much pain. What people forget saying is that there is a physical toll on the body too. My periods became irregular for the entire next year and I am still trying to recover from this horrible horrible loss. I am sorry that this family lost baby, truly sorry.

icky on

I had a routine doctor’s exam and was told I was seven weeks pregnant. I was in shock since I had been pregnant before but didn’t have the same symptoms as my first pregnancy. The next day I suffered a miscarriage. So within 24 hours I went from pregnant to not pregnant, and again was in shock. I didn’t know what to feel. I didn’t have time to be happy about the pregnancy before it was time to be sad that I lost the baby. My sympathies to Eva, Kyle and Marlowe.

Anonymous on

Ally- It’s not that simple. My mother is liberal and pro-choice like Eva (as am I, at least the liberal part. I tend to lean more to the pro-life said, but believe there are some situations in which an abortion is understandable. For instance, I think it’s very unfair and unreasonable to expect a woman to carry and give birth to her rapist’s baby- especially in cases where said rapist was her own father or brother or such!) . And, like Eva, she has suffered the heartbreak of miscarriage (she and my father, unfortunately, had to go through that horror twice).

She was devastated by the losses (as was my dad!), but they did not change her pro-choice stance. What she mourned (and what I am sure Eva is mourning) is the children that COULD have been, the lives that never really had the chance to even begin. Whether that’s right or wrong (the answer to that depends on people’s personal beliefs, obviously!), I don’t think you can really say it’s being a hypocrite regarding pro-choice issues.

With that out of the way, I’m so sorry for your loss, Eva and Kyle (I’ve noticed that not many people have included the latter in their condolences, and that makes me sad. Miscarriage affects fathers, too!). May you feel God’s loving arms around you!

Melanie on

Some people are wondering who this couple is. Eva’s mom is actress Susan Sarandon. Eva is an actress too and was in the Adam Sandler movie “That’s My Boy”.

Ally on

Anonymous, it is simple. It’s either murder or its not. I have worked in OB/GYN. I’ve been to ultrasounds at every single week of pregnancy. I have had three children of my own, and two miscarriages. These are human babies, and it doesn’t matter if it was a product of rape or not. I feel horrible for women in these instances but it’s not the babies fault. And these pro-choice women seem to give human qualities to these babies even while voting for policies and programs in which they are deemed only fetal matter. That’s fundamentally wrong no matter how you try to justify the behavior. Woman can’t keep playing this sick game with the lives of children.

Lisa on

It was God’s way of taking care of something that was not meant to be. So many of us have experienced this. Let your body recover……have 1 or 2 cycles and you will give birth within a year-year and a half. It will all work out for you Eva. You are blessed with a beautiful family. Look ahead to the future and don’t dwell on this.

Zol on

Good for Eva to open up about her story. Many women have these experiences same like her. Fortunately she can try again, she could give birth to another baby in 1 or 2 years or so.

Kat on

To the posters that don’t understand what pro-choice is – it is that you support others’ right to make their own decisions. It has nothing to do with your own personal and spiritual beliefs, just an understanding that you do not have a right to force them on other people.

Condolences to her and her family, and hopefully knowing she is giving support to others will help her in her healing.

aly on

im so sorry for your loss. i recently lost my niece and nephew in January
my older sister was about 5 or 6 months along. my thoughts and prayers are with you guys.

Anonymous on

Ally- I understand where your coming from. But what I forgot to mention before is that I think expecting a woman to carry her rapist’s baby is unfair to BOTH her and the baby. Personally, I can’t imagine anyone wanting to live with the knowledge that that their father is a rapist and that they were conceived in an act of violence rather than love (or even worse yet, that their father is also their grandfather or uncle or what have you!).

And in the case of familial rape, you are dealing with a child who may also very well suffer physically from day one- as the result of birth defects resulting from inbreeding.

That being said, now that we’ve both said our piece, I think we’d better agree to disagree on this. This isn’t really the place to be discussing this (in fact, I feel kind of bad for bringing it up in the first place!), and as I said last night, “right” or “wrong” in this instance depends on an individuals personal belief (and therefore there is no clear-cut answer).

Kat- That’s an excellent way to put it! It’s just like with marriage: Plenty of people (myself included!) are very much for it but understand that they don’t have the right to force those views on others. 🙂

Ally on

Kat and Anonymous. I understand what pro-choice is. I just happen to completely disagree with it. Number one, rape accounts for a small percentage of all abortions. Less than 1%. Number two, what about the rights of the baby? The ones too defenseless to speak for themselves? Does their opinion count? Who are you or anyone to say that they “might” not want to live knowing that they came from rape…that’s just not true. A lot of people grow up with all sorts of trauma and end up doing wonderful things with their lives. But seeing as how most of these innocent babies are slaughtered to make it so that a woman doesn’t have to raise it and take responsibility, then it’s a moot point. The rape card just doesn’t hold much water for me anymore.

Anonymous on

I had miscarriage few years ago, I can relate to her. Hope all the mothers out there take care themselves.

Lyanna on

Wow, the fact that people don’t realize that she lost a baby get my pity. Losing a baby/child : there is nothing worse in this world. My prayers go out to her. The idea that we can somehow “replace” that child is laughable. I have 4 children and never replaced the one that died. So terribly sad for her. They are in my thoughts and prayers.

Lyanna on

Wow, gutless Anonymous. I have a son who was conceived from a rape who just graduated from college with a major in Computer Science. You don’t speak for those of us who have been raped or incest survivors. If you go to “group”, you would know that the woman who gave their children life have turned out much better than those who chose poorly. We did the one good thing to come out of a horrible experience: we didn’t blame our children from the crimes of humanity. People like you want to make babies a scapegoat as opposed to what they are – babies. I hope and pray that you meet another woman like us who opens your eyes and heart to the truth.

Kate on

I just had my 3rd consecutive loss. My D and C was last Friday. It’s so painful. Her telling others is a way to say it’s ok to talk about. Most people don’t talk about their miscarriages. I don’t share with others. But her being a celebrity might help someone else.

lola on

Years ago women would never talk about this.

So wonderful that times have changed and thank you for sharing your story even through your pain you are thinking of others. Others should note… no matter how many children you might go on to have, no one will ever take this child’s place. It is my wish that you and your husband find comfort and peace at this time and in the years to come.

mer on

This comment section only proves that it is a good thing to talk about miscarriage as the sharing seems to lessn the pain if only for the tiniest bit.

I am sorry for all of your losses ladies. You bear one of the biggest pains of human race and that you were able to get up and go on, that makes you real heroes in my eyes.

To Ally and her “pro-life” rant: you claim to understand what pro-choice means, but clearly you don’t. It means that a woman has a CHOICE to feel however she wants and needs about her preganncy. Some choose it happening no matter the circumstances and some choose it’s not the right thing to happen. That doesn’t mean they don’t feel bad about it and that they made the choice light-heartedly. Stop pushing your own views on others.

soncee on

I’m in awe of the courage it took for her to share such heartbreaking news..sending my heartfelt condolences to the family on their loss.

Ally on

Mer: murdering a baby is wrong. It doesn’t matter what you or anyone else thinks about it. That’s the whole point, and why I’m pro-life. And it’s you liberals who are incessantly pushing your views on others. Why should I pay for other women’s abortions when I know that’s it murder? This was just the perfect article to point out the narcissistic hypocrisy of liberal thinking.

And to the woman who posted about her son coming from rape, thank you so much for sharing your story. How wonderful that you overcame a terrible crime and turned it into something positive. Many blessings to you.

Anonymous on

Most people don’t talk about miscarriage because its very personal thing. Glad Eva is sharing her story to public. If it helps other women feel better after miscarriage, that’s a good thing.

mer on

Ally: I see that you don’t want to debate, only hate on. Still, I’m gonna point out this incoherence in your logic, though I see now you won’t get it: I and my fellow liberals want every woman TO CHOOSE. You insist that there’s only one way and every one has to act according to your view. So you’re pushing your opinion on others while we want to provide them with choice. That abortion is a murder is YOUR OPINION not A FACT. But you’ll never accept this, I guess.

Rain on

Pro-life or Pro-choice, people needs to have their own rights to decide what they wants before the child is born. This is new society not 100 years ago that women didn’t have any rights.

Edie on

Some things can be held between family members and friends — sometimes, it is best to keep one’s private life private. This falls under the category of over-sharing. What an odd world we are living in at the present.