Naya Rivera’s Blog: Getting Through the Second Trimester Slump

06/15/2015 at 04:00 PM ET

Please welcome our newest celebrity blogger, Naya Rivera!

The actress is most known for playing Santana Lopez on Glee and has also had roles on The Bernie Mac Show and in At the Devil’s Door.

Rivera, 28, and Justified actor Ryan Dorsey, 31, tied the knot in July 2014 during a destination wedding in Cabo San Lucas, Mexico.

In February, the couple surprised fans with a special announcement: they’re expecting their first child!

In addition to her personal blog, you can also find the mom-to-be on FacebookInstagram and Twitter @NayaRivera.

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Courtesy Naya Rivera

With my first trimester behind me, I was looking forward to the second phase of my pregnancy; a time that some refer to as “the golden months,” where things like nausea, extreme fatigue, and bloating are safely in your rear view mirror.

And guess what? They were right!

Well … for the most part.

During my second trimester, I felt like the black cloud of extreme fatigue had lifted and I was 100 percent myself again. I was ready to hit the town in a cute outfit, grab cocktails with my girls, have wild sex with my husband … Oh, but wait, I’m still pregnant.

There were times during my second trimester when I felt so good that I forgot I was still carrying a child. This mind f— of trickery led to what I believe should be called “the second trimester slump.”

Yes, it was amazing to finally not have to deal with the misery and discomfort most women face in their first trimester. But how awful is it to feel like your old self again, but not be able to participate in any of those fun activities you once took for granted?

During this time I had many a vivid dream about martinis and the occasional cigarette that felt so real I found myself panicking when I awoke thinking that I must have sleep smoked or drank. I didn’t of course, but was deeply repressing my urge for my old life.

Naya Rivera blog second trimester
Courtesy Naya Rivera

Other things changed as well. Things like sex with my husband became a bit odd for me due to the fact that I was now limited to about two positions in order to not squash — as my husband puts it — “its roof” or have the baby (my belly) staring him in the face. I feel like men are constantly imagining their baby winking at them when they make love to their pregnant wives thus making sexy times more few and far between.

Speaking of your belly, this is the time when most women really pop. You’re now sporting a full on bump, that albeit cute, comes with its own set of challenges. Now that my midsection was large and in charge I started to require assistance to tie a shoe, get up, and adopted a stop drop and roll technique for getting out of bed.

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With all of these massive, and sometimes difficult changes happening, there is one thing about the second trimester that makes it all worthwhile: Those first real kicks from your baby. I had felt flutters here and there throughout my first trimester, but by the end of my second, baby Dorsey was a full on kicking machine! I felt the baby all day, every day and it always made me smile. I will never forget the moment Ryan felt the baby kick for the first time. It truly was one of those precious memories I will have forever. It also serves as a great party trick when you can press a spot on your belly and watch baby kick back!

So enjoy all those little moments mommies-to-be, and look forward to the last few months of this incredible journey. I know I am!

Here are my favorite preggo products right now:

  • An essential oil cocktail for stretch marks (Mix 5 drops of frankincense, myrrh, and french lavender with almond oil and rub all over belly, butt, back, and thighs. Use only 100 percent pure essential oil!)
  • Baby Keepsake Book and Planner by Mindy Weiss
  • BellyBuds

Naya Rivera blog second trimester
Courtesy Naya Rivera

— Naya Rivera

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Katherine on

Why would ANYONE want to share their sex life with the internet? I’m sure their kid will be thrilled to have such details one day.

Bee on

Super classy blog post :eye roll:

Tracy on

TMI and classless.

nayanotearthmom on

Not to long ago she said she wanted to be private. Money for this boring blog?

Tracy on

Trashy!

Gina on

Yet again Naya finds it necessary to share details about her private life none of us needed to know…EVER.

Laura on

Thank you for being open and honest about your pregnancy.

Jaminica on

Yall better leave her alone before I bust a cap in some asses👊👊👊 if you don’t like it then don’t read damn

Pacen on

I love how she writes. Makes it fun.

Elle on

Cute blog post.

BAB on

OMG . Who ever decided NR should do a blog should be fired. Seriously, that was ridiculous, did they read it first. LOL. Please Naya, stop going for Shock value, Hey People Mag, raise your standards.

Pacen on

100 points for honesty and entertainment. I am really looking forward to your book now.

laylove29 on

I love naya and ryan..their baby will be a stunner

nelle on

Love your honesty!

nayanotearthmom on

$20 bucks she didn’t write this…

imaneassi on

Great blog,amazing writing and yes she did write it..can’t wait for her book…And those who don’t want details about her life don’t read….A pregnancy is personnal so of course when she writes about how it affects her and her life it’s gonna be personnal…Get over yourselves already.This is a smart lady sharing her experience.Loved it.

jillravae on

I’m not a mom, but a fan of Naya and prob one of the most straight laced people you’ll ever meet, but regardless of anyone’s thoughts I respect her honesty. Pregnancy is a different experience for everyone and when someone rights they have a “perfect” experience ect they are accused of being eye rolling or fake. So props 2 Naya for not beating around the bush. If you don’t like it or her don’t read! I can’t wait for her book and upcoming blogs.

jillravae on

jillravae on June 15th, 2015
I’m not a mom, but a fan of Naya and prob one of the most straight laced people you’ll ever meet, but regardless of anyone’s thoughts I respect her honesty. Pregnancy is a different experience for everyone and when someone writes they have a “perfect” experience ect they are accused of being eye rolling or fake. So props 2 Naya for not beating around the bush. If you don’t like it or her don’t read! I can’t wait for her book and upcoming blogs.

Lily58 on

LOL @ haters trying to act prude. It’s not smut kids, get over yourselves. It’s just a woman sharing about her pregnancy life. You know she had sex, you see she had sex, the proof is right there staring at your face, but you draw the line with her saying she’s having sex? SMH

Lulu on

I’m loving Naya Rivera’s baby blog, it’s very informative.

Anonymous on

Loved her blog!

Abbie on

Wow why are people being so rude. She is being open and honest about an aspect of pregnancy many have issue with.

Heather Roo on

Disgusting, why on earth would she share her sex life with people?? I thought she said she was a private person? Talking about sex positions is NOT private. Anything for money, huh?

sam on

I’m not a mom, but I’ve heard so many stories from my pregnant friends and each of them are completely different. Why slam a person cuz she writes a blog about her pregnancy??? If that’s the case, you better start complaining about K-dash, Kristina cavalarri, carrie underwood and every other mother out there (who’s a celebrity) who’s everyday life gets put out there too.
She just wants everyone (woman) to know her take on her pregnancy!!! Seems like a good idea to me:)

charlotte on

SKANK.. Nuff said.

hollymac0207 on

Wow. White people experience that, too. Now, she’ll change her whole story.

Guest on

Yikes–you guys are brutal critics. Do you let your friends have honest conversations with you? This just read like a girlfriend chat to me, with a few honest, very mild overshares. Would you make these nasty comments to someone’s face?

Jessa on

Will People Magazine be in the delivery room with this D list actress?

Cruz on

Her greatest fear is that she won’t be able to get anymore plastic surgery to look like Kim K while she is pregnant

karen on

TMI skank

kitty62862 on

I remember the second trimester well!!!

Hormones raging, no such thing as enough sex!

Enjoy!

Sara on

I love her honesty. This blog is cute & funny.

july smith on

Do you want to discuss any other personal details we don’t want to hear about? You might think you’re so sexy but : Are you having more gas? How are your bowel movements? Are you growing any hair from your belly button down. Any hemorrhoids or varicose veins? Come on, be real.

Melliebean on

Loved this. Being in my 3rd trimester with my first, I got sick of reading frilly, enchanting tales of pregnancy. I love when other women write about real issues and feelings. She hit a few right on mark!

Dont like it, move on. None of her critics are perfect people, regardless of how they seem to think they are.

Kim on

If she is having a hard time giving up cocktails, cigarettes, and going out after only three months… she is not going to be able to handle it as a mom. Hopefully she makes enough money for a nanny because I don’t see her doing much.

Bem on

I hope it gets better in the 2nd trimester (which starts a week from now for me), because even without having morning sickness I have felt no desire for intimacy. It’s a frustrating time.

Pam on

Wow she comes off as super selfish! You can’t let go of drinking and smoking for awhile for the miracle of a child? I happily gave up coffee and the occasional glass of wine when I was pregnant and all through breastfeeding. It’s not about you anymore. Your child should come first.

JD on

@Bem. The second trimester will be so much different. Hang in there. No intimacy turns into “OMG, I really shouldn’t wake up my husband again for sex…but I’m going to.” Hormones will be raging.

Pnut on

Yikes. Kinda classless and crass for People. Not the mommy-blogger I’m used to. I mean, I’m all about speaking freely, but what’s this about the baby winking at you during sex? Ew. Way way WAY too much.

Limo Liberals UGH on

She’s not intelligent enough to write like that. I don’t mean disrespect but these actresses are uneducated and don’t have full command of grammar and spelling etc. I’m sure they have a ghost writer, or major help, in crafting such a well written blog. EYE ROLL!

Pepper on

I dont know who she is, but I find the stop, drop and roll out of bed technique funny. Ah..much to look forward to.

MeMe on

Like it or not, everything she says is spot on. I’m in my 3rd trimester with my second and can’t wait to see what she thinks of this phase. The stop drop and roll out of bed only gets more interesting!

Nancy on

LOL!!!!!!!!!!!! WHY does ANYONE CARE about her F’ING SEX LIFE?????????????? OMG.

heather on

Can’t tie her shoes? She’s not THAT big yet.

gigi on

A lot of essential oils can be harmful to your skin unless they’re super super diluted first. So do some research before you try that “essential oil cocktail”.

Cidney on

I think this is funny to read about. It may be a bit TMI, but I can appreciate her honesty told with a comical point of view!

Bem on

@JD – Thanks for the encouragement🙂

rena on

Ummm are the people commenting negatively NOT having sex or are virgins? Hello we are all adults and sex while pregnant is very NORMAL not SKANKY…she is married and if you are so offended by sex or the topic of sex then go read something on Mother Theresa..grow up…This chick is just blogging about HER OWN PERSONAL experience why preggos …whats so bad about that?
Ignorance and Negativity is so ugly.

rena on

did someone truly just ask why someone would share their sex life on the internet? Do you live in a cave?

Casey on

Wait…you guys do realize she and her husband had to have sex to create a baby, right? But now that she’s doing it for pleasure, she’s a skank? You housewives need to get over yourselves.

EnoughAlready on

Honestly – please keep your sex life to yourself. We have our own to think about!

orangecountyresident on

Oh, looky me, I’m a tramp! I’m an attention whore! I’m so insecure! I want people to talk about me!

That’s the message I get reading Naya’s blog.

Nostromov on

@rena It’s a pregnant woman talking about her problems of ‘squashing’ the baby (?!), while having sex… How was it possible to any more disgusting than that – perhaps you can think about what was going on here, lol, ffs.

*preggos, there’s -even- a slang term for it; how did it not make you wanna throw up (I love women, sex & babies, btw., heh)