Olivia Wilde on Body After Baby: I’m a Mother, and I Look Like One

03/31/2015 at 03:00 PM ET

Olivia Wilde is talking straight about what it’s like to be a new mom — after giving birth to son Otis Alexander 11 months ago, she has embraced her post-baby body.

“I am not in perfect shape. In fact, I’m softer than I’ve ever been, including that unfortunate semester in high school when I simultaneously discovered Krispy Kreme and pot,” she says in a profile she wrote herself in the April issue of Shape, on newsstands now.

“The photos of me in this magazine have been generously constructed to show my best angles, and I assure you, good lighting has been warmly embraced. The truth is, I’m a mother, and I look like one.”

Olivia Wilde Shape Magazine Cover Body After Baby
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Wilde, 31, who is engaged to Jason Sudeikis, is unapologetic about the transformation her body has gone through and doesn’t mind sharing very intimate details about the first few weeks after delivery.

“First of all, you haven’t seen your vagina in months, even though it’s all her fault you’re in this situation,” she writes. “Now that you can finally confirm that she is, in fact, still there, she isn’t the gal that you remember, and would rather you back off and give her some space (and an ice diaper) for the time being, thank you very much.”

Olivia Wilde Shape Magazine Cover Body After Baby
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The actress says she does find time to exercise — she prefers 2Fly, a dance fitness workout taught by her sister-in-law Kristin Sudeikis — but admits she also likes pizza and beer. “And these two ingredients are not found in the purely fictional book I like to call How to Look Like You Never Made a Human: A Guide to Socially Acceptable Motherhood,” she adds.

I believe in a world where mothers are not expected to shed any physical evidence of their child-bearing experience,” Wilde says. “In that same world I believe there is space for exercise to be as much a gift to your brain as it is your body. I don’t want to waste my time striving for some subjective definition of perfection.”

Olivia Wilde Shape Magazine Cover Body After Baby
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— Sheila Cosgrove Baylis

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charlotte on

when is she going to look like a WIFE too? just sayin…………………….

kaye on

The lady doth protest too much, methinks.

Elle on

Oh Jesus. Another body after baby article.. What is this fixation with stretch marks and body after baby??? Please stop😒

Rebeccah on

Soo tired of these ‘body after baby’ articles. Having a baby is a biological process and, of course, your body is going to be affected. Don’t act like it’s such a shock.

Callie on

I can’t stand this chick (using that word loosely). She is so liberal and such a big-mouth. I’m also surprised she likes men seeing as how she acts like a dude and talks like one. Really quite tacky and classless.

Melissa on

Umm, did anyone actually read the article? It’s pretty great and she seems like a tells-it-like-it-is fun friend to have. Not really understanding the bitchy comments on this one.

Ann on

Goodness, I can tell from the comments so far, that people are just going to complain and whine. So obnoxious “another body after baby article”. Yes, and the title clearly said it, so stop clicking just to b!tch about it.

Ann on

@Melissa, so true!

Jen on

Callie, are you on glue?

Annie on

I think her comments make her seem very down to earth and relatable. I guess some posters just saw a hot actress on the cover and used their energies to vent their jealousy rather than actually read the article.

Jane on

Wow, SO many of the women on this board are remarkably judgmental and nasty. She is simply speaking her mind. If you “can’t stand her,” find her “tacky” or think she speaks “like a dude,” don’t click on the article; it’s that simple. Here she is speaking about how women should be celebrated for bringing new life into the world, and you tear her down? Did she say she was superwoman or somehow special? No, the exact opposite! For once, can we be kind to one another as a gender and not feed into the stereotype of pettiness?

bowers1220 on

Lol, Callie and all the trolls in here, must be pretty miserable to be sitting here talking trash about a celebrity, cyber bullying is all around you people even in a post baby body article, I just came in cause I hoped there was going to be baby pictures, you guys really don’t have to be so harsh in her, even though she’s a celebrity nobody deserves to be bullied.

hw on

I do not mind the article, I do think it would be nice for these women whi claim to embrace thwir stretch marks or so called motherly soft bodies to show them. Thats where the stigma is, that they are not protesting the mags airbrushing of these dimples or stretch marks and cellulite.

I will believe the women who claim this when they show it off.

Tiffany on

hw- Agree with you. All I see is a super skinny woman who doesn’t look like the norm of women who have just had a baby.

mollymom on

As much as I love what she’s saying, seems to be easier said by those who look the same as they did before they got pregnant. And mothers come in all shapes and sizes. Anyone could look like a mother.

LOL on

I hope it’s just this quote being out of context but the whole: I look great in these pictures because of photo magic but “The truth is, I’m a mother, and I look like one.” Comes off as mother=looking less than ideal. That’s kind of insulting and I’m not even a mother lol. Plus EVERYONE is photoshopped in magazines. Models could equally make the same statement but replace “mother” with “human being”.

Also with the other commenters that if you’re going to write about how you’re cool with your changed body yada yada then you showcase it and not someone’s photoshop skills. Lighting and angles are one thing but these are also clearly airbrushed and altered.

Elle on

Freedom of speech???!! Anyone heard of that??! We can click on what we want and btch about it as much as we want duhhhhhh

Olivia on

Show off!! What’s that even mean “looks like a mom”?? What’s a mom suppose to look like?? Obnoxious.

Truthfinder on

I felt her comments were thoughtful but the reality is, she looks like all the rest of the Hollywood mamas who show off their bodies after having a baby. I also know that much of it is photo shopped, camera lenses, make-up, etc. If you are true to what you say, REAL courage would be to show yourself in your REAL image. Having said that, it is Hollywood and this is how she makes her living by showing off only the good parts. But ladies, let’s all just give it a rest. Aren’t we weary of all this useless palaver. Celebrate motherhood and all that comes with it!

Moe on

Pretty sure she needs to leave the comedy bit to Jason. She just comes off as an arrogant arse. Sure all “soft” moms are on the cover of a body mag in a leather bra and skirt. Suuuuuure.

casmia on

Oh yeah. She looks awful. Get this girl some Mom jeans and a short haircut while we’re at it!

Kim on

I love her and how sad all the negative comments. Sounds like jealousy to me! You go Olivia and enjoy your son and family!! You look great, as always!!!

Me on

She tries to sound smart in everything that she says. I don’t see it.

Jen on

So by the logic of some of you women, if, after having a baby, I appear to look “exactly” the same as before and I’m skinny, that must mean I can’t talk about my “body after baby”?

Newsflash: The bodies of skinny women change after giving birth too, and just because it doesn’t look like it to YOU, doesn’t mean it’s not an adjustment for ME (or any other women). Yup, I lost all my pregnancy weight within 2 weeks and probably looked to everyone else like I hadn’t given birth (except for the huge knockers of course 😉 ). But the truth was that my skin was stretched out and didn’t look how I remembered, my muscle tone in my abs was mostly gone, and everything was distributed differently. My clothes fit differently whether you ladies on the street noticed or not. And please, let’s not talk about my lady parts during the healing period.

Just because she’s thin doesn’t mean she doesn’t get to acknowledge or talk about the changes to her body or how it was something to adjust to. Sure, advocate for postpartum bodies of other sizes to be shown, but don’t knock her because of how she looks.

Ella on

I understand what she is trying to say. She is trying to say her body has changed and she has accepted that change. However she still looks incredible and she may have some softer spots. But I don’t know what a “mom” is suppose to look like, they come in all shapes and sizes and for her embracing attitude that statement just puts her in a box and welcomes comparisons which is not positive.

SarahJane77 on

She was thin to begin with, and didn’t pack on the pounds during her pregnancy. She is entitled to look good. I had 2 babies, was on the thinner side of average to start, and didn’t use being pregnant as an excuse to eat a dozen donuts and 2 large pizzas in one sitting. Surs, your body is softer after having a baby. Skin is looser, and there’s definitely a fine layer of baby fat, but she’s talking about embracing the fact that you created a tiny human & it’s ok to not look exactly like you used to.

shelia on

How did she get her body back after having a baby? Why she had a personal trainer and most likely a personal chef like all of us new moms…right

racoon61 on

First of all, if you have seen the pics of her with Jason in Hawaii in her bikini, she is not as thin as the pictures AT ALL. Slim, yes, but not what you see here. Photoshop.

Secondly, you’re all missing the point. Shes shouting to everyone that she doesnt want to be “that woman”, you know, the “I’m going to starve and try to hard”, but you berate her anyway because of her beauty. She’s wicked smart, sassy and funny. She dresses like a normal girl, sans makeup, most of her free time and does a ton of charity work.

Most of you decided to gain well over the 35 lb limit during your pregnancy and want to berate those of us that chose to work on our health and exercise after kids. Get over it. 25-35 pounds isnt hard to come back from. I dont know one woman who says “My kids ruined my body” that takes care of herself. They eat second helpings, are Starbucks addicts, chip addicts and cry how its pregnancies fault. Please.

Olga on

Yes she is a mother and her body should look like a mother after the baby, its natural, nothing to shame about.

Suzie on

While I enjoy her take on “body after baby” I’m still calling BS. She looks like she is back down to her stick thin self. I think it’s more insulting for her to claim to look like a Mom than just coming out and saying “oh I have a nanny so I can exercise two hours a day and a chef so I can eat delicious healthy food!”

LLS on

LOVE HER!!! Now I just wish I could have looked as good as her post-baby! She seems like she would just be awesome to hang out with. Not pretentious and catty like most women seem to be…

kaye on

@Suzie – right. You seem to be one of the few that’s not drinking the kool aid she’s offering. In fairness, “Humble bragging” is not unique to Olivia – many celebs in an effort to appeal to the masses have done the same thing, going on and on about their flaws and how they refuse to succomb to the Hollywood ideal.

Kelli on

I like her. She seems like she really has it together, which I would assume to be very difficult considering the superficial standards of the entertainment world. Thanks for being real!

Aliana Wood on

I’m a mom and I look like it? Umm, no you don’t. You look perfect and that’s perfectly fine. Some people do bounce right back after a baby and she is one of them. It’s nothing to be ashamed of. But, don’t come talking to regular moms trying to relate about post baby bodies when you still look like a supermodel.

Zabe on

Charlotte, what is a WIFE supposed to look like?

And, yeah, sure… she does look… softer… :S

She looks great as always.

heytheregeorgy on

‘Cause the haters gonna hate hate hate… Good on her for telling her own truth. All I can do is laugh at some of the bitchy comments here – “She’s so liberal” – is that supposed to be an insult?

Lo on

My mom after having me and my brother in her late twenties lost all the weight she had gained two weeks after having both of us.. No work out or diet change.. She was just a skinny as Olivia.. So its possible.. I like Olivia as an actress. But it seems like shes a ” sell out”.. She has talent to act but yet, does all the nudity and sex scenes. It just starts to become un-appealing and limits her true character. You can watch Cameron Diaz in movies with out all the tacky graphics…