Nicole Richie: I Don’t Know How to Mother a Teenager – Yet

03/19/2015 at 02:15 PM ET

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When it comes to parenting, Nicole Richie is taking a trip down memory lane.

The mom of two recently told Sydney, Australia’s The Daily Telegraph, “I get to live my childhood all over again. My daughter is 7, so we’re starting to watch all the fun movies together, like The Sound of Music.”

Richie, 33, adds, “You know, I’ve been wanting to re-watch those movies, but I’ve been too embarrassed to watch them by myself.”

The fashion designer, who has two children, Harlow Winter Kate, 7, and Sparrow James Midnight, 5, with husband Joel Madden, seems like your typical mom, trying to figure it out as she goes, but loving it all the while.

“Every day I have to leave the house before 7 a.m.,” she says. “I have kids and I have to go straight to work. I can’t be that person who spends hours getting ready … I don’t like to do that.”

However, being a working mom, Richie finds that balancing it all can be tough.

“A common conversation I’ve been having since my eldest started school, one I’m constantly hearing from different moms, is: What’s the appropriate amount of time to be at work and what’s the appropriate amount of time to be at home?” she says.

“First of all, I think it’s so incredible that we’re in a time when we can be open about these things; be vulnerable with each other — because I know my mom didn’t have that … Women are no longer ashamed to say, ‘Oh, this is so hard! I’m worried I’m not doing a good job.’ Women are supporting each other in that space, which I think is so awesome.”

The fashionista herself had a bit of a rocky youth, which in turn, may be beneficial in her parenting skills. “Look, I believe everything in your life is an opportunity to learn and grow, and that’s what I was probably doing [back then],” she explains of her days with Paris Hilton on The Simple Life.

With her little ones growing quickly, Richie reassures herself that there is no need to stress. “Right now, I know how to be a mother to [a 7-year-old]. When they were born, I knew how to be a mom to a baby,” she says.

“I will have to see how I’m going to be when they’re teenagers, but I think it also depends on who they end up being. I don’t believe in black-and-white parenting … I’m going to have to figure it out as it happens.”

— Christina Dugan

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Bowers1220 on

I remember seeing her on that stupid reality show with Paris Hilton and thinking wow, these girls are going to be sluts and divorced 5 times by the time they are 40, I was wrong about Nicole, she turned into a very wonderful mother, and to think she was a heroin addict also, she really has turned her life around. The same can’t be said for Paris but at least her 15 minutes of fame are over with because it’s HOT that she’s not famous anymore. I love Nicole’s kids name’s also.

Guest on

Watching her on The Simple Life I would have never imagined she would be a mother – a good one at that – to two children. I’m happy to see she turned herself around, it’s funny when you see her now and how far she’s come and then you look at Paris Hilton and she’s still acting like she’s 21 years old. You go Nicole!

guest on

Happy how much her life has turned around. But if her teens are anything like she was, best of luck!

Guest1 on

Happy to see hiw her life has turned around from her previous days. But if her children are like her, BEST OF LUCK!

Lenora on

Give it time, you will do well. Take advice if offered, relax, and Joel
will be there to also parent. Moms are Moms, no doubt about that.
Relish being a mom – which you do – and relish being a mom all of
your life – and the rewards – which you already have – will multiply!

Lenora 🙂

julz on

And that’s the problem with parents today! Your kid has to grow up sometime, and you’re saying you don’t know how to raise him? Idiot!

Guest on

Why she said something incredibly right, she will have to wait until her kids are teenagers before she can comment on what type of mom she will be. My son was a perfect child, he didn’t have tantrums or crying spells when he was young and people were always jealous of my good child. I took the credit that it was me who sacrificed so much for him to be a good child and was so hands on. I guess that may have been a little cocky because once my son became a teenager I had zero control. He was mad at me all the time and what we had was so gone. It broke my heart. He is 21 now and finally finally coming around and being that sweet boy he used to be. WHEW. I thought it would never happen. So, she is right. It depends not just on the mom but on the child.

Commentor on

Doesn’t matter who you are. Parenting is nothing but OJT (on the job training). Being willing to learn as your children grow is the best parenting gift there is.

Andy on

To embarrassed to watch them on your own? Girl, I’m nearly 25 and watch the Sound of Music, Disney, and Don Bluth movies ALL. THE. TIME. With a few exceptions that haven’t been released on DVD, I have all of the movies I had as a kid. You should never be embarrassed to watch good movies, even if they’re for kids.