Why Molly Sims Is ‘Not Opposed’ to a Natural Birth After Previous C-Section

01/21/2015 at 01:30 PM ET

Molly Sims always knew she would be a mother, a suspicion confirmed during her frequent visits to psychics during her younger years.

But what she didn’t know was that her dreams of having a baby would come much later in life.

“I would have been a good mom earlier, but I didn’t find my prince until I was older,” The Everyday Supermodel author says in the February issue of Jeff Lipsky for Fit Pregnancy.

“I don’t regret starting later — everything I’ve wanted to do, I’ve done. I lived in Europe for six years, waitressed, worked at a book company and in a law office.”

Although she wouldn’t change the timeline of her life, Sims — who is mom to 2½-year-old son Brooks Alan and expecting her second child with husband Scott Stuber — admits her age has played a factor in her pregnancies. After discovering the couple would be welcoming another babya girl due in March — Sims decided to keep the news a secret until it was safe to share.

“I’m 41, so I had an ultrasound and blood tests to make sure everything was okay,” she explains. “We waited until we got the results at 14 weeks to tell anyone, but my in-laws came to visit early on and they said I looked green!”

Molly Sims Fit Pregnancy cover
Courtesy Fit Pregnancy

Fortunately, Sims has found a way to counter the morning sickness — which has become an all-day affair — with her fun sense of style.

“My mom taught me that if you look good, you feel good,” she says. “After Brooks was born, I wore sweats at first. But, for my state of mind, it made a difference to get up and get dressed in decent clothes even if I had nowhere to go.”

But other than feeling “hungover” from the moment she wakes up to the time she goes to bed, Sims’ second pregnancy has been relatively easier than her first.

“I had a difficult time with Brooksie. First, I had a velamentous cord insertion [when the umbilical cord inserts into the fetal membranes rather than the middle of the placenta, causing a higher risk of rupture],” she explains.

“The doctor monitored me closely throughout the pregnancy, and I had a scheduled c-section to protect the cord, which was necessary, but disappointing.”

The model and actress adds, “This time, I don’t have the same condition, so I’m not opposed to a [vaginal birth].”

The mom-to-be is also keeping her options open when it comes to breastfeeding. Despite her best efforts — including drinking fenugreek tea and a supplemental nursing system — Sims was never able to nurse her newborn son.

“When Brooks was born, my milk never came in, and I tried to breastfeed for three months. I felt awful and ashamed. I wanted to breastfeed because it’s so good for the baby, so I worked with a lactation specialist,” she recalls.

“After three months, she said, ‘You’re done. You don’t have any milk.’ I’ll try breastfeeding again, but if it doesn’t work, I won’t push it.”

Molly Sims Fit Pregnancy cover
Jeff Lipsky for Fit Pregnancy

Her struggles didn’t stop there. After gaining 65 lbs. during her first pregnancy, Sims worked hard to regain her body after baby. But, following months of hours spent exercising, shedding the weight didn’t come easy for Sims, prompting her to push for answers.

“On the day I went in for my c-section, I stepped on the scale, but I didn’t look. My husband saw the number — 204! — but he was afraid to tell me,” she says. “Three months later, I had lost just 25 lbs. … I wore a corset, tried acupuncture and went to a Chinese herbalist, and the weight still didn’t come off. My neck looked like a linebacker’s.”

It was then that Sims underwent a biopsy and an ultrasound and was diagnosed with thyroiditis, a condition, she later learned, that also had affected her milk supply.

“Fortunately, it’s treatable with medication,” she shares. “I feel good, but I still get blood tests every month.”

With only weeks to go until the Sims-Stubers officially become a family of four, Sims still has no doubt that her husband can take on the challenge of two children.

“I always knew Scott would be an amazing father and we became a team very early on,” she says, adding that the couple have weathered the highs and lows of having kids.

“One day Scott was trying to read the newspaper and got frustrated because he had to keep getting up to help with Brooksie. I said, ‘Our life isn’t the same anymore. We have no time to read the paper!'”

As for her own approach to parenting, Sims says her philosophy is simple: mother first, friend second.

“I’m all for time-outs and structure. I’m also for having a good time, but my toddler knows when I mean business,” she shares. “Some parents try to be their kids’ best friends and it can be detrimental.”

Molly Sims Fit Pregnancy cover
Jeff Lipsky for Fit Pregnancy

— Anya Leon

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LC on

I appreciate her honesty – good for her and congratulations on her second baby.

SAR on

Not all women are able to breast feed. My mother couldn’t nurse me because she was very sick after my birth. One of my friends tried to nurse both her daughters but was unable. So Molly shouldn’t feel guilty, although I know people can be incredibly judgemental if you’re unable to do so: “Just gut it out!” Well, that’s not possible in many cases!

And I had no idea she had such a rough time with her first child. My sister wanted to have my nephew the regular way but he was stubborn and refused to come out, so she had to have a c-section. Nothing wrong with that. Not all women can have vaginal deliveries.

Mary on

Wow, People. Molly talks candidly about the struggles she experienced with her first child and the only headline you can come up with is ‘she’s not opposed to a vaginal birth’? Really?

In any case, I had a VBAC with my second, and I appreciated the quicker rebound since I was older and had a preschooler to care for as well as the baby. I was wary of it at first, but the more research I did, the more it made sense.

krtmom on

Had 2 VBAC’s after a c-section. Much quicker recovery!

Mandy on

It can be disappointing when you can’t breastfeed when that’s what you had planned on doing. Your hormones are all out of whack & it just seems like everything is going wrong. Nothing wrong with not breastfeeding & you have to know when to give up when you tried. Best of luck to the new addition.

blessedwithboys on

Molly, even if the thyroid condition inhibits lactation again, it will totally be possible to use the SNS to feed formula at the breast, allowing for the emotional benefits of nursing.

If you can afford it, please consider donor milk.

And best wishes for you to achieve a VBAC!!!

nikki on

thats not a planned c section cause it wasnt up to her hope the next births gonna be easy