Marla Sokoloff’s Blog: Mastering the Art of Letting Go

06/30/2014 at 09:00 AM ET

A warm welcome back to our celebrity blogger Marla Sokoloff!

Since audiences first got to know her at age 12 as Gia on Full House, Sokoloff has had many memorable TV roles — Jody on Party of Five, Lucy on The Practice, Claire onDesperate Housewives — as well as turns on the big screen in Whatever It TakesDude, Where’s My Car? and Sugar & Spice.

Sokoloff, 33, most recently played Dani on ABC Family’s The Fosters

She wed her husband, music composer Alec Puro, in November 2009 and the couple — plus pup Coco Puro — make their home in Los Angeles.

You can find Sokoloff, now mom to 2-year-old daughter Elliotte Anneon Twitter and Instagram.

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My daughter’s life is moving fast — like, blink-and-you-will-miss-it-all speed. It’s moving at such a rapid pace, it’s starting to really bum me out. Some days I want to hit the pause button and just hold on to her like this forever.

Her baby days are long gone and honestly, sometimes I see more of a big kid than a toddler. We now have full on conversations where we talk about princesses (Rapunzel is the current favorite — sorry Ariel!) and discuss the day’s events (most likely the park, eating grilled cheese and playing with said Princesses.)

She’s strong, stubborn, outgoing and doesn’t take nonsense from anyone. As far as I’m concerned, I’ve never met a funnier little lady in my life. Feel free to chalk that last statement up to unabashed favoritism.

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She can feed herself, pretty much bathe herself (supervised of course!) and enjoys having her alone time (or as Elliotte likes to tell me, “Mom, I’m having a moment“) while reading books and playing in her room. Of course I realize that this self-sufficiency and enviable confidence is a good thing. It means that I have guided her in the right direction so far, and I’m not messing this mom thing up as bad as I thought!

But, a few weeks ago a major shift occurred in our home. Elliotte will no longer let Mommy leave the house or even take a shower without a serious meltdown. Twenty-eight months in, and we are deep in the throes of separation anxiety.

Most outings sans Elliotte end with her clinging to my leg and wailing like I’ve never heard before. Nothing pains me more than to have her ripped off of me so I can go to work. Or even just to go to the gym! I get in my car and hold back tears whilst feeling like the worst mom ever. (For more on how I feel about the ever present Mommy Guilt read this.)

When Elliotte turned 2 in February, she graduated to the big girl ballet class. That means, parents are no longer allowed in the room so that the teacher (the wonderful and ridiculously patient, Miss Kelly) can have the students’s full attention.

We get to (have to?) watch outside through a two-way mirror. My little ballerina danced into that room, waved goodbye, and plied away without skipping a beat. I was completely blown away by how easy it was for her. Moments later, she stripped down naked for the class because her tutu was “itchy,” but that’s a story for another day.

Last week in ballet, there were tears. Many tears. She wanted Mommy. No part of her wanted ballet. It was heartbreaking. We immediately left ballet and had a good cry over some frozen yogurt instead.

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In July, my little girl will be starting preschool. Yes, preschool. I can barely even think about being away from her while she colors, paints, and frolics with other children while I sit in my car and clock watch through tears. (Yes I’m an actress, but this is truth not drama.)

With this newfound anxiety — coming from both of us at this point — I can’t help but wonder if she’s ready for this major shift in her life.

With every milestone we reach I feel this intense mix of joy and satisfaction with a very strong dose of sadness. I will never change Elliotte’s diaper again. I may change another child’s diaper, but not Elliotte’s and that, as it turns out, is a very tough pill for me to swallow.

We are both very slowly learning the process of separating from each other, and with each day my heart aches more and more.

I guess I’m just now starting to realize that as soon as Elliotte was born, I began learning the art of letting go.

I let go of the newborn Elliotte. I let go of the breastfeeding Elliotte. I let go of the bottle-drinking Elliotte. I let go of the crawling Elliotte. I let go of the baby Elliotte. I let go of the 1-year-old Elliotte. I let go of the diaper-wearing Elliotte.

One day I will need to let go of the living-at-home Elliotte. (Insert sounds of fear and dread here!)

There are so many Elliottes that I will need to learn to let go of … the very thought of her growing up and leaving the nest simply leaves a lump in my throat.

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Being a parent has so many levels of emotions, I can’t believe how these growing pains make me feel.

Parents, weigh in on this: How do you/did you deal with separating from your children? And did your child have a hard time separating from you?

If you have any helpful tips with separation anxiety and getting through it, I want to hear from you! I know these next few months are going to be tough on both of us and your tips are always so helpful.

I know I’m not alone in feeling completely schizophrenic when it comes to these nuggets growing. One part of me is so proud of her for growing up into this precious little lady and the other part almost relishes her still needing me.

I wanted to end this blog by telling you about an amazing organization that has the ability to change many children’s lives. Milk & Bookies is a nationwide non-profit organization that has a mission to get books to children who don’t have any as well as exposing children to how incredible reading can be!

Elliotte and I attended an event for Milk & Bookies in May and had such a wonderful time—we are really excited to share this awesome cause with you all.

You can even host your very own Milk & Bookies party! For more information please check out: milkandbookies.org.

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Leave a comment below or find me on twitter @marlasok.

xo,

– Marla Sokoloff

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blessedwithboys on

She’s too young for preschool. Not being apart from a 2yo nanny is what is normal. Let the separation happen on her schedule.

This is why bf’ing a toddler is so important. It meets the need for closeness and allows them to separate more easily BC they have no doubt of their connection with mommy. If your not gonna nurse your baby as long as they need it, why on earth would they not still have a bottle at age 2?!

Gwen on

My almost 3 year old will be starting preschool in the fall as well, and it’s terrifying!!! He has a severe speech delay so as a part of our school systems early intervention he has to start early so he can get speech therapy there, as well as some socialization skills. I want to keep him at home, in my arms where it’s safe forever.

I don’t think there is a good answer as to how to let go. My plan……sitting in my car, balling my eyes out, waiting for the very short class to end while feeling terrified that my son thinks I abandoned him, no longer love him, and imagining every possible scary bully/bad teacher out come. Xanax here I come!!

shannon on

Both of my kids started preschool at 3 yrs old and neither had an issue with leaving me. They took a bus to get there and both got on the bus, waved to me and were gone! No issues. Not sure if that’s a good or bad thing…lol! My daughter is 8 now and has gone on sleepovers and Girl Scout camp for a weekend. My son is starting middle school and he has some anxiety about a new school but is still excited about going.

Once your daughter sees all the fun stuff she’s going to be doing and all the new playmates, she will be excited about going. Maybe you can start practicing now with her? Is there a fun place with kids and activities and hang back a little (still supervise just not be attached to her) or maybe take her to where she’s going to be going and hang back and let her explore on her own?

She is getting older, but a lot of fun stuff is still to come!

And blessedwithboys…why are you judging her? Everyone has the right to parent THEIR kids THEIR way! You do what you feel is best for your kids and the rest of us will do what we feel is best!

Why do people feel that they can tell other people how to raise their kids?

Cortney on

2 year olds do not need bottles because its bad for their teeth but go ahead and spend thousands of dollars on your kids dental bills so you can feel more attached to a kid instead of you know talking to them developing hobbies and whatever else two year olds are actually supposed to be doing.

I for one think the kids are having melt downs because they can sense it from you and are feeding off of it. Get a plan together that you know that you need your ‘moments’ too and keep yourself together and let them know where you will be and when you will be back so there is no need to panic..

Amanda on

My daughter has gotten better about separating from me, and while that is a “good thing”, it stinks emotionally to know that time is already upon us. She is going to be starting kindergarten next fall and I just want to cry at the thought of it. Emotionally, I am with you on this blog!

I love who my daughter is becoming (she is awesome!), but I wish she could just slow down a little bit. When you wrote about never having firsts again with your daughter, it perfectly summed up what I’ve been saying. I don’t know if I’ll have anymore, but even if I do, it wont be her and that’s the hard part. I just love her so much!

Erin on

blessedwithboys, 29 months old is NOT too young for preschool, and toddlers should not drink from a bottle at that age because of the real risk of dental issues. I don’t even have kids of my own and I know that…

Corinne on

@blessedwithboys You really shouldn’t try to make other mothers feel guilty for not breastfeeding. She stated she breastfed in the article and 2 year olds should NEVER still have the bottle or risk having bottle tooth decay. You should start weaning them off the bottle to a sippy cup at about 1 year of age. Even if they’re still breastfeeding at 1, they should have juice/water via sippy cup even if it’s just as a teaching tool.

Mommytoane on

Cute bathing suit! I love it. Too bad as they get older the suits get skimpier. No suggestions from me, other than to love on your girl as much as you can. They grow fast.

ITA Corinne, Blessedwithboys is out of line. My daughter was bottle fed for various reasons and she’s perfect imo. She’s the smartest kid in her class, she is rarely sick and we did not have any seperation issues with her at all. Some kids are just clingier, some aren’t. Bottle feeding still gives that wonderful cuddle time. Its not as if we just hand our babies bottles and say “Oh have fun” we actually cuddle and read and love on our babies while they use their bottle. Bottles aren’t suggested as an older child, but there isn’t anything wrong with it. Some just take to the cup easier than others. Blessed needs to take a step back and remember she’s not perfect, and that judgements are out of line.

Gracie on

What a beautiful little girl!! I always love reading this blog.

joan on

bottles at 2? are you serious?

joan on

kids can have separation anxiety at any age. My youngest had it at 2 1/2 when she started pre school. Her older sister was at the same school and was 4. Both had some separation anxiety..sometimes it was real, sometimes it was for sympathy. But you establish a routine, and kids learn how to cope. My youngest needed to be holding teacher’s hand. Every kid is different. But preschool or playgroup, or mom’s day out is important so kids can learn how to play with one another, and socialize. then come home and cuddle and play and talk with mom and dad. Every kid is different. IF she is good with it, and you are good with it, then all is good.

lovely123 on

Let’s be honest ladies, two and three year olds do not attend “pre-school”. It is called CHILD CARE!!!

Anonymous on

” I let go of the bottle-drinking Elliotte”. She is saying her daughter no longer drinks from a bottle. Not that she still has a bottle.

Raini on

I try to explain everything ahead of time. If we are going to “school” I let them know in the morning that we’re going to school that day. I tell them what my expectiations are, nice hands, listening to their teacher, etc. So far it seems to be working well for my 3 yr old, my 18 mo old still clings to me like a spider monkey though. LOL Good luck and don’t listen to all the haters on here, some are not being nice.

4mom on

The youngest of my four had severe separation anxiety from about 18 months until he was 2 1/2 or so. He would scream and shake and cry. I hated it. I also knew he wouldn’t be scarred for life when I did leave him. I just stayed with him when I could but when I had to leave him to work I found the routine made it easier for him. Maybe as she starts school the daily routine and familiarity will make it easier for her.

I say you do whatever works for you and your family. After four with completely different personalities and quirks, I try not to judge anything parents do to make it all work. Good luck and remember, this too shall pass.

Abby on

Hi Marla,

I am a 31 year old woman living alone in Brooklyn running my own successful business. I was exactly like your daughter when I was a kid, and I remember exactly what it feels like, what she is feeling. Every time my mom left it felt like what we adults feel when we go through a breakup: powerful all consuming grief and loss. It doesn’t matter that I knew my mom would be back in an hour, my mom still had to pull me out of ballet at the same age for the same reason.

What my parents did is made me feel ashamed of my feelings. Not only was I then in excutiating pain from being separated, but I also hated myself, at 3 and all the way up until I was 7 when the separation anxiety got better. What u can recommend is make sure her feelings are validated and she feels she can safely emote to you and that you give her sympathy. Talk to her when she is calm about what it feels like when mommy leaves and why she feels that way. Build a prize oriented chart and for every minute alone she gets a gold star. For ten minutes she gets a nice cream, for half an hour a new movie etc. (or come up with a similar model… Stickers work well. Display the chart somewhere in the home so she can be proud of her achievements. Tell her how much you miss her and maybe make a similar chart for yourself so she feels that she is not alone and that the sadness and anxiety us shared equally by you two. She should feel like you are partners in an exciting project to overcome the anxiety with big rewards. She should also never ever feel shame and always love herself n be proud of herself even when she is too sad or scared to leave you. I hope this helps. Good luck and feel free to contact me, I have many vivid memories of what it feels like to be the child in the situation.

Abby

angie on

Great blog and well written on sharing her feelings.

overly on

I happen to agree…why do people have children when all they want to do is put them into an organized institution, call it preschool or child care, rather than raise the child themselves. Children are in the education system until at least 18, what is the rush? Why don’t mothers want to be mothers anymore? I am sure in this situation she can afford to be with her daughter. So terribly selfish.

lovely123 on

Overly,

You called it well. There is a neighbor of mine, they had a child 5 months ago. The husband is gone 8a-5p, and the mother is gone from 8a-7p. They have a nanny that stays with the baby for the entire time. Sad to think that your work/home is more important than your FRESH AND BLOOD. I don’t care what people think, but they have a nice house, two really nice new cars, but don’t have time for their newborn. SAD!

Aden on

She is sooo cute! My 2 year old is in full on mommy mode right now too – tough stuff! I’m impressed she’s already out of diapers – that is def on the early side.

momof2 on

First, all the judgements, really ladies? How about each parent is different, and for the most part, neither right or wrong. Next, I have a 2 year old daughter who is in daycare 2 days/week. Sometimes she has a hard time with the separation, but I’ve found the best thing for her is redirection. Once in her “class” I immediately give her her favorite toy, blocks. She’s excited to play because it’s something special I don’t have at home (on purpose) and its easy to slip out knowing she’s having fun. All you can tell yourself is that you are doing what you believe is best for your child.

Kelli on

A few of these comments remind me of why I strongly dislike most women. Such bitches.

Stacey on

2 is way too young for preschool. 3 is a more normal age or even 4, I think people these days just want their kids to grow up too fast. Separation anxiety is normal, its hard at first, but I have 3 kids now so I drop them at daycare and then may cry and cling to my leg, but I just walk out the best I can and they forget about it after 2 seconds. I just am used to it now so it doesn’t bother me as much anymore.

Kris on

I think most toddlers go through a phase of separation anxiety. All five of my children did at some point between age 2-3. As difficult as it may have been, It was short lived. Stay strong. Give your daughter a hug and kiss, a see you later wave and then be on your way. Break down in your car out of sight of your toddler. All five of my children are now independent adults. So I couldn’t have been too far off. Keep up the good work.

Terri on

All the women being judgmental need to take a break. Why can’t women be kinder to each other? I became a single mother when my daughter was 18 months old and had to put her in daycare. She was fine but I cried ever day for 2 weeks as I drove to work. She made great friends there and as an only child learned social skills she would not have learned at home with me. Today she is a happy 10 yr old and in a program for gifted children.

Everyone needs to do what is right for them. Every family is different and thank goodness for that. I would hate to meet people who were only like me every day.

J on

You’re def not alone! My son hit this a little earlier (about 18months) then again around 3yrs old. Was hard (even though when I was leaving him, he was home in the day with Dad, who works 3rd shift) he just wanted Mom. I too cried many mornings on my way to work. We started him in preschool at 4yrs old. He did great. I debated at 3yrs, but he needed to be fully potty trained (he was stubborn and was not!) to attend the 3yr preschool. First day he walked right in, said goodbye to us and started playing with the other kids. We stood there shocked. I was ready for the breakdown (from him and us) but there wasnt one. Once he was playing with friends and coming home telling stories of the day, it was great. We both loved hearing that he loved it and was doing so well being away from us those 4 hours. It’s not a long phase, you’re doing great!

Amy on

Wow, women what nasty comments. Some women have to work to support their families and do not have the luxury to stay at home all day with their children like you are suggesting. It is hard these days to make it off one income, even if the husband/dad is in the picture and working full time. Get off your high horse, not everyone is as blessed as you and able to afford to stay at home even if they want to.

Teammom on

Don’t listen to blessedwithboys! You are doing what is right for YOUR family, not hers.

I have a boy and a girl, four years apart, both in daycare from 6 months because I had to work. My son developed separation anxiety at 3(!) much to everyone’s surprise – the daycare transitioned to pre-school and he knew everyone there. He hated to let me go, but when I came to get him, he’d keep playing with his friends and not want to leave. My daughter never had separation anxiety – at all – go figure! They both are fine young adults now, my son works and my daughter is leaving for college this fall.

Do what is right for YOUR family, and your family will be fine! Pay no attention to the women passing judgment, this is Elliotte’s journey, and she will make it in her own way. Loved the blog, so funny and honest and true!

Momoftwoboys on

Your words could have been my own! It warms my heart to see another mom who cherishes her babies instead of complaining about them. Know that your baby girl will always be your baby. She will have moments where she wants to act like a baby and reminds you of how things used to be, but you are going to be so proud of her at school. She will learn and grow so much and make you beautiful art projects.

I had separation anxiety too and planned a nice coffee date with a friend to take my mind of off missing my two year old. Then I started looking forward to having time to myself and getting stuff done so my guy could have my full attention when I picked him up. Everything will be great! Hugs :-)

mastertkdmom on

Don’t listen to the haters…they are closed minded! And just to set the record straight, it’s FLESH AND BLOOD, not FRESH…thanks for the LOL!

My son, who is in middle school now, was in daycare from the age of 3 months old. Fortunately, he did not have separation issues when he started pre-school at 3 years old, but my advice comes from the perspective of how we handled changing daycare providers when he started pre-school. I recommend that you work with the pre-school provider to help Elliotte become comfortable with the new surroundings. I am sure she is not the first student the teacher has encountered with separation issues. (NOTE: If the pre-school will not work with you on this issue, I would think twice about Elliotte attending that school).

Remember that she will react based on the way you feel about the situation. Kids are very perceptive…if Mom is stressed about a situation, they will be stressed too. Share with her all the fun things she will get to do when she goes. Be positive with her and let her experience the pre-school facility before her first day of school. Take her to the school a couple of times before she starts so she can meet her teacher and get comfortable with her surroundings. Play up the fun factor and don’t address the separation issues.

I agree with the advice on redirection as well as the rewards system…both great ideas!

Good luck!

Raquel on

My 3 yr old son starts preschool in a few weeks but we had him in a 4 week summer program because it was suggested as a nice transition to get him ready. My friend who watches children @ her church said to make goodbyes short & sweet b/c the parents that linger make it harder on the child and teacher/care giver.

I never got a chance to worry about it b/c on the 1st day he didn’t even say goodbye to me he was so excited to be around the kids & explore the room & @ pick up the teacher had to point out I was there & he could go home. The 2nd day he said goodbye to me walking out our front door & I had to remind him he needed me to drive him to school.

We also took a mom & tot class together for a few semesters (starting after 18 months) @ the school so he was really comfortable there but has had separation anxiety @ different ages & different situations. Not knowing he would do so well we promised & took him for ice cream after his 1st day so he could tell us all about it & my husband took him to pick out a small toy @ the end of the 1st week for being such a big boy, going to school all by himself.

Good luck to you & your daughter!

nonny on

My child has been going to daycare since he was a baby since my husband and I both work full time. He is now three. Separation anxiety has been off and on.

What I’ve learned is – his teachers have told me he is always completely fine after we are gone, his acting out is mostly a show for us. But as he’s gotten older, it seems it’s just a show for me. Mommy evidently is the one he knows he can manipulate with tears and therefore he let’s them flow freely when he wants my attention and that will keep me from wanting to leave him. When I drop him off it’s tears and clinging and not wanting me to go, and it is hard every time.

However, my husband, who has established a loving, but non nonsense relationship with him, has zero problems when he drops him off for school in the morning. It’s just a “Bye Daddy!” high five and he runs off to join his friends. He’s always fine when we pick him up and he has a great time at school.

When I took him for his first day of daycare as a baby, I was in tears. But the teacher told me – he will be just fine. It’s much harder on the parents. And she was right. School and daycare is important to give our kids a chance to learn independently and socially interact with other kids. That moment of separation anxiety is hard. But you have to think of the big picture for your kid’s long term growth. As nice as it would be to keep him safe with me all the time. I want him to learn how to be a self assured person who is comfortable with making his own decisions. And I don’t think you can start too early with that.

2 Angels for Me on

I have been blessed with 2 beautiful girls now ages 14 and 11.

I read your article and feel like I am reliving my own younger years. We are embarking on new chapters in our lives this year too, High School and Middle School! Yikes! As a mom who like you, is very involved in their child/ children’s upbringing, I will tell you separation never gets easier you just seem to cope with the inevitable a little better.

Watching my children blossom from babies to beautiful adolescents are the most bitter sweet memories I have. There are many days I too have begged to hit the pause button. I teach my girls to live in the moment, enjoy every second of every day , and be the best person you can be. Each day I encourage them to offer a smile to a someone. Everyone is on their own journey and one smile could positively affect someone’s day. So I offer you a smile today :)!

Know that the milestones you and your daughter are creating will make a lifetime of fond memories.

readyfor#2 on

elliotte is precious!! would love to see her with bangs :) matching mommy, daughter haircuts? so sweet!

anonymous on

To all the commenters who are shaming Marla and other working parents for having jobs and “not raising their child like they’re supposed to”: some people don’t have the mortgage installments and the child’s college fund handed over to them on a silver platter. Some people have to work to make their money…in the end, the working parent works to contribute to the long-term benefit of their child.

Nobody really works for the fun of it… Some children are spoiled rotten because of this sort of “stay-home-with-mommy-and-get-breastfed-until-you’re-3 years-old” mentality. Children have to learn that things are not simply given, but they’re earned.

Sarah on

I’ve worked part time (3 days a week) as a lawyer since my daughter was a few months old. She goes to a great daycare in our neighborhood. In some ways, it’s hard to separate for the day at that age, but there are also benefits. My daughter loves her teachers and other kids at school and we’ve at very minimal separation anxiety so far–sometimes a few tears at drop off but she is happily playing by the time I walk out the door!

Missy on

Hey, Moms,

Mothering is THE hardest job in the world so let’s cut ourselves and each other a little slack. I don’t remember my daughter having separation anxiety as a youngster but it hit when she went away to college last fall. Her brother, 3 years younger had it bad when it came time for daycare and preschool. As a 1 year old, I could only leave if he was in the arms of the Director. Years later we bumped into this woman in a store. After so many years, I still felt such love and gratitude for this woman.

After hugs and kisses and omg’s he taller than both of us we went down different aisles. That’s when my son asked, “Who was that?” The point of the story? What is understandably upsetting to mom and child now is actually something the child will not even remember in a few years! There is no scarring if you leave your child with a mature, responsible, loving caregiver!

I always held the belief that the more loving relationships my babies had, the quicker they would learn the world is a safe and loving place. Luckily my job was fulfilling to me so I wasn’t threatened by my child having loving relationships with other women. Good luck to all the parents and children out there—remember they grow up and won’t remember half of what you will!

wintergirl27 on

Great blog! These comments are awful- how is any mom going to to judge another mom and tell her how to parent?!?

Lauren on

First of all, I must say that you sound like an amazing mom!! I am a mother of 4 grown children, my oldest is 32 and my youngest is 18. My first child talked full sentences at 1 and potty trained herself by 2! She was very independent with no fear of separation. My 2nd was the one who never wanted to let go! My 3rd was like the first and my now 18 year old who clung on for dear life has grown to be a very independent young woman!!

I feel your pain!! Just keep repeating to yourself “this too shall pass”! Enjoy every moment you can with her because, as you are already finding out, time does fly by so fast. Good luck and enjoy your precious little daughter!

amyinoaktown on

She is absolutely adorable. Nothing wrong with starting preschool early….she gets to be around kids her age, learn a thing or two and develop socialization skills. A nanny is fine, but I think anything that gets kids learning at an early age is a great idea.

guest on

She wasn’t saying that her daughter currently drinks out of a bottle…she let go when she had to transition from a bottle to a cup.

Heather on

I know how you feel. Growing up I always saw my future as me being a Mom. I am one and I love it. I have started to realize lately though that I don’t like where this is going. At all. I want to be a Mom. Of children who live at home and cause chaos everyday and that I am constantly fussing over.

I never saw myself as a Mom who didn’t have children around. I am not one of those people that just can’t wait for the kids to get out on their own. I’m dreading it so much. My daughter is 19 and my son is 8. She is still home, but I now realize this is going to be him before I know it, and it will be over. I really think I just need to have a kid every 10 years!

Heather on

Also, I agree the comments are ridiculous! I have opinions on when kids should be potty trained, bottle fed, and go to school. So I did it the way I thought was right with my kids. Once they are all grown up it REALLY doesn’t matter which one of us had diapers or binkis longer. Does it? Look around your office, your neighborhood, or your church. Can you tell who started school at 27 months or 32 months?

KA on

How terrible to see so much judgment in these comments. Every mother makes the best decisions she can for her family – we should be supporting each other above all else.

Roo's mommy on

I had the same epiphany the other night about my toddler. I walked past the baby section at a chain store and realized that my daughter would no longer neee to shop from that section…no more diapers, wipes, Gerber snacks, nursing supplies, binkies. She’s a “big girl” now and I am very sad about that.

Rachel on

I agree with 2 points commenters are making: 1. Kids take emotional cues from their parents, if you are anxious they will feed off it, and 2. A 2-year old goes to DAYCARE, not preschool.

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