DeAnna Pappas Stagliano’s Blog: Finding Out I Was Finally Pregnant

06/02/2014 at 02:55 PM ET

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Please welcome our newest blogger, DeAnna Pappas Stagliano.

The real estate agent and Bachelor alum, 32, was one of two finalists on Brad Womack‘s first season before headlining The Bachelorette, where she chose Jesse Csincsak.

Although the engagement didn’t work out, she met Stephen Stagliano through his twin brother Michael, who was a contestant on Jillian Harris‘ season.

After getting engaged in August 2010, Pappas and Stagliano tied the knot in October 2011 in Georgia.

In August 2013, the couple announced that they were expecting their first child. Daughter Addison Marie arrived on Feb. 6 of this year.

Pappas Stagliano can be found @DeAnnaPappas on Twitter and @DeAnnaStag on Instagram.

I am so excited to be writing this blog for PEOPLE alongside many other women who share in the common knowledge of motherhood — my best job yet!

You probably got to know me on The Bachelor and The Bachelorette, but I have since settled into a life off camera.

I met my husband, Stephen, through his twin brother, Michael, who was also on another season of The Bachelorette. Stephen and I were married in October 2011 and we welcomed our first child in February.

Stephen and I tried to get pregnant for almost a year. He and I would describe this time very differently — I was stressed, sad and losing faith. Stephen would say, “Practice makes perfect!”

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I remember it just like it was yesterday … I was late for my period. Eleven days late to be exact. On top of this, my boobs were so sore! This didn’t alarm me either, because sore breasts are a sign of a period coming.

I was also convinced I wasn’t pregnant because I had taken multiple pregnancy tests all of which said I WAS NOT PREGNANT.

It was a Saturday morning. Stephen and I woke up and were going to head out on our weekend ritual of walking the dog to Starbucks and grabbing a bagel at Noah’s. Stephen convinced me to try one more pregnancy test just to be sure.

I remember instantly seeing two lines. I started screaming. “Two lines, Stephen, there are two lines! Set the timer!!” I was like a crazy person hiding behind the wall in our bedroom as if the pregnancy test was going to jump out and scare me!

Two minutes went by and it was confirmed: I was pregnant. We were over the moon! We wanted to be sure so instead of grabbing coffee and bagels that morning, we grabbed seven more pregnancy tests from CVS!

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My pregnancy, for the most part, was great! Set aside the first few weeks of nausea and erratic strawberry Pop-Tart cravings, I think I handled it very well. I didn’t have sporadic mood swings (Stephen may beg to differ), and I only gained a total of 26 pounds. I felt rather beautiful up until the very last day.

With that being said, I definitely experienced some of the not-so-great perks of pregnancy as well. No one likes to prepare you for the acne (or back-ne), the constipation, the doubling of your breasts, the moment when you cannot see your vagina anymore let alone shave your legs, or the endless amount of urine your kidneys produce!

Contractions started for me at about 12:30 a.m. on Thursday, Feb. 6. One woke me just about an hour after I had gone to sleep — I was convinced it was the same nightmare I had been having for weeks. I woke Stephen and in his deep slumber he said, “Are you sure you don’t just need to poop?!” I still laugh about that today.

I stayed home until about 7:30 a.m. when I just couldn’t take the pain anymore. So, off we went to the hospital … at 8 a.m. … in rush hour traffic. The seven miles to the hospital were excruciating. I was bowled over in pain in the front seat of our car with contractions coming every four minutes. I was terrified that I was going to give birth on the 101 North!

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Alas, we made it to the hospital where I was given an epidural and after 15 minutes of pushing, I held Addison Marie Stagliano in my arms. She was beautiful, so tiny, and healthy. Perfect. She was absolutely perfect.

Stephen and I loved the name Addison from the first time we heard it. We knew we wanted to name our first daughter Addison early on. Her middle name, Marie, was my grandmother’s, my mother’s and my middle name. I wanted to pass it on to her because I wanted her to have a piece of my mother to carry with her forever.

Addison has been such an incredible blessing in our lives. Not a single person in the world could have prepared me for the love that I bear for this little angel.

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Motherhood has been amazing so far. I have enjoyed the sleepless nights, the middle of the night feedings, the first time she smiled at me, our mornings of tummy time, the absurd amounts of pictures we post on Twitter and Instagram, her first bath, her coos, the moments when she freezes at the sound of her mommy and daddy’s voices, and the amount that my love grows by the second for our daughter.

As we say in Bachelor world, she is AMAZING. When used in description of my baby girl, that word will never get old!

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What is your birth story? Please share!

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Andrea on

You have enjoyed the sleepless nights? Seriously? It’s time for people to get real about motherhood. It’s hard and a lot of work. Amazing? Yes! But to paint it like it’s wonderful all the time is exactly why women feel guilty if they don’t feel those “AMAZING” feelings at first. I can’t fully believe that it has been all wonderful and it’s so annoying when people are fake.

Allison on

Gorgeous baby! Having just had my fourth and waiting for her for a very long time, I can also say I truly enjoyed the sleepless nights. It is possible to savor every moment!

Julie on

For a woman who tried for a year to get pregnant, maybe those sleepless nights are a blessing.

Angela on

Thanks for sharing your story with us, DeAnna. Trying to conceive is not always rosy and can be a trying time for couples. Your journey provides inspiration and hope to those seeking to have a beautiful baby and family like yours.

Sammyjo on

Sorry dont feel sorry for your year of trying to have a baby. I’ve been trying for three. A year is nothing.

Anna Cleverley on

SammyJo, there are always people in this world that are better or worse off than you. Doesn’t mean they’re not allowed to express the difficulties in their life. What if I told you not to complain about your situation because I’ve been trying for 5 years instead of only 3? Or that I knew I couldn’t have babies at all?

Mandy on

I never watched the shows she was on, but I do understand where she’s coming from when she says she has enjoyed the sleepless nights. My kids are 8 and 5 now and I love that I get a full nights sleep now (most of the time), but I truly did love the nights when I was up with my babies. I truly did.

She is simply telling her story and doesn’t seem to be asking for sympathy regarding how long it took her to get pregnant. She’s a mom and is happily telling her truth.

Saying those of us who loved the sleepless nights are somehow making other women feel bad about themselves isn’t fair. Congrats to her and her husband on their healthy, beautiful daughter!

Emily on

Aww! It was so nice reading this 🙂

Jenny on

So many bitter people on this thread!

carrie on

Sammyjo & Andrea – I tried for 5 years and never was able to have a viable pregnancy. I have empathy for anyone waiting for anything they ache for so badly. We were lucky enough to adopt our beautiful daughter this year, and I adore the sleepless nights!

Renny on

I enjoyed the blog post. I was never blessed with children but can remember my best friend saying how much she loved the sleepless nights with my godson. Before he was born, she was terrified she would sleep through him crying, but learned she would be instantly awake and loved sitting with him in the rocker while the rest of the world was quiet. She would just look at him and marvel. (What she hated was when he was a little older and would sob for her and shove his fingers under the door while she was trying to take a bath, but that’s another story, lol!) He is 25 today … it really does go so fast. Enjoy each stage!

Shea on

Did we trade in our humanity for the ability to disparage ‘anonymously’ even the most of innocent of posts? We all have our own struggles and stories but when someone can’t even share their obvious happiness and the trials they faced without being criticized….we live in a sad world.

Anonymous on

THANK YOU! My husband and I have been trying for 10 months. You just gave me a little hope 🙂

Christa on

Congratulations! Your family is beautiful.

Jen on

This could have been more story except mine ended with fertility treatments in order to get pregnant. 🙂 We tried for over a year and then move on to an RE. I also had an excruciating ride to the hospital with my first where I had waited just a liiiitle bit too long and was having contractions every 2 minutes in the car. LOL! Had an epi and pushed for about 30 minutes. Fun times.

I enjoyed my sleepless nights b/c I LOVED being with my baby and I LOVED the comfort I was able to give her when she woke up crying and hungry. I didn’t start to get annoyed by them until my 2nd was like…1.5 years old and still not sleeping through the night. Ha ha! By then I’d had enough.

As a sidenote to all the haters…talking crap about this rather benign post that simply describes a rather uneventful pregnancy and birth indicates that you have some issues that you need to resolve. I’d suggest therapy to uncover why you need to be so hateful toward a woman who’s done absolutely nothing to you or to anyone to warrant such disdain.

Kelly on

Oh poor little celebrity, tried for one year to get pregnant. You can make a stink when you are 8 years trying, 4 miscarriages, 3 Ivf treatments and $30000 in debt from it. I would give anything to experience a sleepless night.

Emilie on

I like this couple! The only feedback for future posts is that if you say “You probably got to know me on The Bachelor and The Bachelorette, but I have since settled into a life off camera”, then please stop referring to the Bachelor world every so often, and just talk about your life as a mom.

The “as we say in Bachelor world” comment was useless. You could still use the word AMAZING without pitching for this franchise.

Blessings to your family and the baby, she’s beautiful, God bless!

Unknown on

Seriously to all the stupid haters GROW UP!

travelsoul504 on


Why try to one up a fertility battle. That’s just as bad (if not worse) then one upping a birth story battle. Trying for “almost a year” does seem like an incredibly long time to a woman trying to have a baby. I’m sure if someone told you at your one year mark that you haven’t waited long enough because they waited longer, spent more money than you, and had more failed attempts then you, you would disagree. Trust me, there are women who’ve had it even worse then you.

Crazypeoplehere on

Wow!! Bitter much, ladies??!!

joanna on

Seven more pregnancy tests? WASTE OF PLASTIC AND CARDBOARD AND MONEY. those things are not recyclable jeez.

VERY CUTE baby, though. Take the headband off and let the baby just chill. It’s a human, not a toy.

As I understand it, a year is not unusual at all for people in that age group. Probably typical.

“the love that I bear?” Makes it sound like a burden. Well, I realize she’s not a writer.

Marky on

Andrea, not everyone is all bitter and miserable over every little thing. When I had my first, I had PPD, and can’t say I “Loved” getting up in the night, every time. When I was over the PPD, I felt completely different about everything I “had” to do. With my next, I had had such a struggle getting pregnant (several years of treatment and no results) that when I did get pregnant , I was so enthralled with every feeling, every movement, even labor, and when the baby came, I enjoyed every moment, even waking up with him. It is very different when it’s been such a struggle. Everyone’s feelings are their own, anyway. So you hated getting up at night…doesn’t mean everyone else does, nor should you be so judgmental.

Marky on

Joanna, there are multiple pictures without a headband on the baby, and one family portrait with a headband…you chose to jump all over the one with a headband??? What is the matter with most of the posters on here? Bitter, bitchy, rude people who can’t wait to say how much worse their situation is than hers. This is not a place for that sort of competition, so go elsewhere with it, or act like a decent human being and say, “Congratulations! Gorgeous baby, and love the name!”!!!!

ruthdw on

This is a beautiful little girl. I usually think all baby’s look alike and usually like some little old man, but your baby is especially adorable. I hope you enjoy every minute, day or night, with her. Noone should judge how you feel. If you enjoy nights, thats wonderful. Every minute is precious. Congratulations on adding a joy to your family.

Dawn on

Loved reading this! Beautiful family and blessings to your sweet little girl! I actually laughed a few times reading-especially when she went into labor and her husband thought may be she just had to poo. The picture of her hubby and daughter is just beautiful. Bet it makes her fall in love all over again every time she looks at it.

For those struggling to become pregnant, I hope you soon get your wish!

Asha on

Awesome story!!!! It is hard work being a mother and things can get hard but overall it is worth every minute. My baby boy was born on Feb 6! So happy birthday Addison! Congrats to you two and thank you for sharing your story.

Jessica on

Absolutely lovely post

Alayna on

One day I will share my story (that is when I have one to share). Thank you for sharing yours. It was truly inspiring.

Stormy on

Thanks for sharing your story , I had a similar first
Pregnancy .. And to the nay Sayers she is still a new mom
She will experience the lows too .but let her enjoy the high
Moments of new mommy hood

Ashley on

Precious baby! I love DeAnna too 🙂 Thanks for sharing!!!

Eli on

This chick is about a dumb as they come. Watching her on the Bachelor was literally painful as her desperation for validation and attention came through every second. Bleh.

Anonymous on

Trying to get pregnant is the biggest emotional roller coaster. The longer you try the more faith you lose and the more you simply think something is terribly wrong with you. I have empathy for ANYONE going through it and i’m so happy she has a happy story at the end. Some of the woman on this thread are awful. I would give anything for sleepless night right now.

Ellen on

Congratulations and all the best to DeAnna & Stephen, two very sweet people who are obviously embracing this wonderful gift. I wish you all the happiness in the world. Yes the sleepless nights are like heaven to parents who had their children because they wanted them.

To the people with nasty comments…did you ever wonder why you haven’t gotten pregnant? A higher power knows that whatever deep part of you that nasty and cruel is coming from, is not the stuff to make a good parent. There are already too many people out there who had babies that shouldn’t have. Nuf said.

Tay on

Nice post, glad to see they’re from Bachelor and Bachelorette show have a happy ending.

John on

She got lucky! Stephen is a saint!

Marisa Beatriz on

Would’ve been cooler if Stephen was the contestant on the Bachelorette. Then they both would’ve been Bachelor alums and we could sort of count them as a bachelor success story.

dukegirl1992 on

I am 35+ weeks pregnant with my second son. I am 41 years old. I know how hard it is to be happy for others when all you want is your own baby. I spent 11 years as a labor & delivery nurse but had to change specialties because it became too painful to see the happy families when that was all I wanted. But I kept my bitterness to myself. Why ruin someone else’s joy? I have been, and continue to go through, hell during this pregnancy. None of those problems relate to being pregnant, but nonetheless it has been incredibly difficult. I choose to focus on the good and remember that there are people who have worse struggles than mine.

Stacy on

I have never posted a comment in my life, but when I read all these negative comments, to what’s supposed to be a positive and uplifting story, I was shocked!! Are people seriously this petty??? Just be happy for them. Seriously!!

Reg on

@Andrea, just because you hate your life does not mean others hate theirs. Please keep your miserable opinions to yourself.

Robyn on

It is quite sad that everyone has to up the next person when it comes to their stories. Creating a baby is wonderful, stressful, and an exciting experience for everyone despite how hard or easy it was for that particular person.
With that said I would like to congratulate DeAnna on her BEAUTIFUL baby! Thank you for sharing your story!

jamie on

My gosh, so many mean people on this thread…my husband and I have been trying for over 2 years…we got pregnant, but miscarried and then pregnant again but was a chemical pregnancy… forward 1 year and were trying still….we have been going to fertility doctors….my doctor just prescribed me Follistim and I have a good feeling about this month. ..(please god let this be my month)….and to be honest, even if is 1 year or 5 years trying, each month is heart breaking when you get that big fat negative on that stick!….come on people, have a heart for those who are struggling!!

Carrie on

Isn’t her 15 minutes up yet?

Beth on

I tried for 7 years to have a baby. At year 5 we adopted a beautiful daughter. We believed pregnancy would not ever happen. Then year 7 I got pregnant. I took a pregnancy test that was positive but I didn’t believe it. So I called my 4 sisters and Mom and asked what does a positive test really mean! Then I went and bought 3 more tests, all positive. I went to the doctor the next morning for a blood test to see if it were true. The nurse called me back and said I know you will not believe this, so I ran the test twice, and you are pregnant! I was so excited, I called everyone who would listen and told them. 5 days later I was bleeding a lot and was told I had a miscarriage. I spent the entire weekend in bed crying. But when I went back to the doctor 2 weeks later, he said he thought I was still pregnant. Waiting for the days and weeks to pass for them to get a heartbeat was brutal, but they got it. My daughter was born 7 weeks early, very small but very healthy. It isn’t always easy or perfect, but every single minute of being pregnant and raising my 2 daughters has been all I could imagine. Enjoy this time – it goes way too fast.

Melissa on

Wow… people are really bitter. I don’t watch this show (ever) but I clicked on this article because my husband and I were trying to have a baby for almost a year. Finally, after 11 months, we found out last week we’re pregnant. I’m sorry for all the people that have tried longer, it’s a horrible when you want something so bad and you can’t do anything about it. However, my 11 months were filled with lots of money, painful procedures and tears. It’s not fair to judge another woman’s journey.

Catbyrd on

This truly is a sad world we live in if anyone can find anything negative to comment about DeAnna’s story. Very sad.

DeAnna & Stephen, your daughter is beautiful, and wishing you many years of happiness!

J on

Wow. Anyone should be able to express their struggles. Just because her struggles were not as long or as expensive as yours really does not give you the right to put her down for sharing her feelings about the process. It is so sad that it takes some people longer than others and I’m sorry for your pain but being bitter toward others who were successful is not going to make your efforts any easier. She should be able to enjoy her new addition without people attempting to make her feel bad about it.

Tracey on

This is not reality. This is reality TV’s version of reality. Motherhood is not amazing, it’s a lot of thankless days and nights that will (one hopes) result in a self-sustaining, good-hearted, adaptable adult. Saying you enjoy every minute is simply a lie. It’s like saying your shortcoming is being too much of a perfectionist. Please post something real.

lizzy3433 on

In response to Andrea, I have to disagree. It’s not up to DeAnna to change her reality to make others feel good about themselves. Like her, I also enjoyed those sleepless nights after many years of trying to have a child. I wore rose colored glasses the entire first two years and if that’s my reality then that’s ok. I for one find it refreshing to see an article from someone with such a sunny outlook.

J on

I feel bad for those of you who feel that being a mother is not amazing. It is truly a miracle whether you get pregnant on your first try or it takes you years, or you adopt! Many moments are frustrating and cause a range of emotions, but it is all amazing. You have created a human being! Everyone deserves the chance to express how they feel. If you don’t like to read about people’s joys of parenting and their happy lifestyle then don’t read it! Problem solved.

Michele on

Don’t feel sorry for you. My husband and I have been trying for eight years. Lucky you!

Erin on

My husband and I are trying to conceive and at 7 months reading your blog is really reassuring. My husband is definitely of the lets keep practicing mindset! Hope we also get to have the success story. Congrats on your daughter she is absolutely beautiful!!!

Kal on

Love the name Addison, cute name. Very happy for them.

justme on

I didn’t watch DeAnna’s seasons, but I appreciate she’s just telling her story here, regardless of what anyone else’s is. She isn’t trying to compare hers to anyone, she’s simply sharing the story of her little girl. All babies have a story and that’s what makes motherhood beautiful. She also has one beautiful little girl! I am sorry so many people have fertility issues. Keep the faith. There is a reason for everything even if things don’t go the way we plan. Peace to you all.

Anonymous on

As an adoptive mom who tried for years to get preggo I can honestly say that I enjoyed the middle of the night feedings with my newborn. Such a perfect bonding time when it seems as if you and your tiny bundle are the only 2 ppl in the world….I actually missed it when he started to sleep thru the night at 9 weeks. It’s all in how you look at things I guess….

Kate on

My husband and I have been trying for 3 years. We did conceive this past September only to miscarry at 7 weeks. I was left devastated. For those 3 years my husband was the same, let’s keep practicing. No pregnancy since the miscarriage 9 months ago. We finally are getting assistance with a reproductive endocrinologist. We have our second visit in a few weeks. It’s nice to know I’m not alone in the struggle to have a baby. It’s so heartbreaking. Let’s all try to be positive and say nice things about each other. I never watched her show, but I like her after reading this article. Congratulations to her and her husband. A beautiful baby girl she is! What a gift!

Stacy on

I’ve never posted a comment on anything. Ever. After reading these comments I just couldn’t NOT say something. She didn’t ask for anyone’s sympathy because she tried for pregnancy for a year. Good grief. I work in the fertility world and see it everyday. Feeling sorry for yourself and being bitter toward women who are pregnant or have children isn’t going to help your struggle.