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She and her twin sister, Instant Mom star Tia Mowry-Hardrict, have enough resolutions for all 12 months.
“I want to find a balance of family and work,” Mowry-Housley, 35, tells PEOPLE. “I think that when you find that balance it just makes things a lot easier.”
Mowry-Hardrict — mom to 2½-year-old son Cree Taylor –agrees that continuing to make family the center of her life is key this year, but then there’s also the matter of that patch of grass in her yard.
“I am working on having my own garden as we speak,” she adds.
“A vegetable garden [filled with] tomatoes, cucumbers, carrots, and then some herbs like oregano — we love oregano in this family! I’m excited because I want my son to participate, he loves gardens.”
Even more important than a personal and professional balance for Mowry-Housley — whose talk show, The Real, returns this fall — is turning her house into a place where her 14-month-old son Aden John Tanner, who will soon be walking, can play comfortably with his friends.
“Kids can come over, my family members can come over,” she says. “There’s a difference between having a house and having a home.”
But there’s one resolution that pops up on both of their lists every year, and they are already well on their way to fulfilling it.
“Every single year I just like to find a way to give back,” says Mowry-Housley, referring to their latest partnership with the Let’s Bubble campaign created by Scrubbing Bubbles. Through an online contest, people can nominate a place that needs a cleaning with a little elbow grease — whether it be a preschool potty, a community center rec room or school kitchen. The winning location receives a grand-prize clean up and a $500 donation.
Just a few weeks in, 2014 has already been a year of coming clean for Mowry-Housley about something that has been plaguing her since she wed her husband, Fox news correspondent Adam Housley, in 2011. Twitter was abuzz when she revealed on Oprah Winfrey‘s Where Are They Now? show on Friday that she is the target of racist comments because she is married to a white man.
“People choose to look past love and spew hate,” she said. “I get called ‘white man’s whore.’”
Telling others about what she’s been going through – mostly via comments on Twitter — has been a learning experience.
“What I’ve learned, honestly, is people who are saying this, it’s their issue, it’s their hate,” she tells PEOPLE. “As long as you don’t pass that along and be a part of that hate, you can be a change in the world. And that’s the reason why, honestly, I chose to speak of it.”
Since going public with her struggle she’s feeling the love from her family and beyond. “My father is very proud of me, my mother is very proud of me, and also interracial couples are very proud of me,” she says. “It was very important to voice it, but at the same time move on from it and focus on positivity from now on.”
Mowry-Hardrict, who is married to a black man, actor/singer Cory Hardrict, has been a target for hatred too and looks to one of her idols for inspiration on how to handle it.
“My son is already being called names on Twitter, on Instagram, inappropriate racial slurs and names,” she says. “But how I raise my son is the way Martin Luther King would approach the situation, it’s all about turning the other cheek and all about just showing love.”
“I’m very happy [about] the outpouring of love from so many interracial couples and just people in general,” Mowry-Housley adds. “It’s great to know that love outweighs negativity and love always wins.”
– Amy Jamieson