Jamie-Lynn Sigler: I Wasn’t Scared of Childbirth

09/27/2013 at 09:00 AM ET

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If it takes a village to raise a child, Jamie-Lynn Sigler is all about turning to the wise ones for advice.

“I watched my best friend give birth a few months ago. I was in there, right behind the doctor,” the new mom, 32, tells WebMD magazine. “I was really panicking about all the things I needed to buy for the baby, and she was like, ‘You don’t need this, you do need this, try this and see if he likes it.’ That helped ease my fears.”

Despite her avoidance of typical tomes — she says, “Our grandparents did it without all these books, and they came out okay” — Sigler still took her time to research childbirth and prepare a birth plan.

Her doula, who was at Sigler’s side when she gave birth to her son, came into the actress’s life prior to her pregnancy and happened to be Hollywood-sent — literally!

“I did a show with NBC called Hollywood Game Night, where six celebrities are teamed with regular people to play games like charades,” she explains. “This girl on my team, we really hit it off, and she told me she’s a massage therapist and doula. We stayed in touch. She lives in Tennessee and she flew in for the birth.”

The support and presence of her doula were a big part in Sigler’s expectations of pain during her delivery.

“Birth is really judgy and people get really opinionated, and everyone’s entitled to the experience they want,” she explains. “My doula told me, ‘Let’s prepare in our minds for the level of pain we’re expecting and double that and see what we would want to do if that happens.'”

Sigler adds, “But I wasn’t scared of childbirth, I think because of my doula.”

Now that she and her fiancé Cutter Dykstra are the proud parents of son Beau Kyle, Sigler has switched from seeking out pregnancy tips to parenting advice — but is still determined to find her own way.

“I’m inspired by many of the different ways people parent and discipline. A girlfriend of mine gave me The Happiest Baby on the Block, and I want to watch that,” she says. “But I don’t want to be rigid and hold myself to expectations of how things should go. I want to see what he’s like and who he is, and he and my fiancé and I will figure it out.”

When it comes to baby boy’s cries, Sigler already has a plan in place. “I know a baby’s main way of communication is crying, so I have to not get frustrated about it,” the new mom explains. “A friend told me to get zen about it when you hear that sound: It’s him talking.”

After nine months of skipping sushi and champagne, Sigler is ready to welcome back some of her favorite foods into her life. However, what she’s most looking forward to is introducing baby Beau to his extended — and eclectic — family.

“[Cutter’s] family is from the South. My mom is Cuban and my dad’s a born-and-raised Brooklyn Jew,” she shares. “I’m really excited to bring him to meet all these different relatives and expose him to these different cultures and places in the country.”

— Anya Leon

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KellyGreen on

This sentence made me LOL: “…where six celebrities are teamed with regular people to play games like charades.”

Just a laugh of the day for this “regular person.” 😉

ann on

Something most people won’t tell you is that every baby is different and every momma is different. What works for one person and baby will not necessarily work for another. You read and listen and use what works for you and lose what doesn’t and don’t feel bad if you are a little different than others.

Lizzie on

Good for her to educate herself! I had 2 homebirths which I know isn’t for everyone. Follow your heart!

dudley doright on

i hate to tell ms sigler that she also is a “regular person”

Jones on

She is so right about the books. When I had my son I read several books and when I could not get him on a schedule I felt like a failure. It took me a while to realise that being that rigid does not work for every child and you have to listen to your own instinct about your child. Once I let go of that I felt so much calmer and happier and in turn had a much happier baby. Good for her to let her own instincts guide her path.

Melissa on

Doulas are amazing. Women used to all support each other in communities, but now relatives and loved ones can live hundreds or even thousands of miles apart. Now women are often attended to during this difficult and vulnerable time by strangers. Having someone you know and trust supporting and encouraging you is so important. Maybe this article will have other women learning about doulas!