Michael Bublé: My Son’s Birth Wasn’t ‘Life Changing’ – Until the Next Day

09/09/2013 at 11:00 AM ET

Michael Buble on Son Noah's Delivery
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Like any other father, Michael Bublé was looking forward to seeing his son for the first time. But, despite the build up of emotions, when Noah arrived on Aug. 27, the new dad admits it wasn’t exactly love at first sight.

“I didn’t have that overwhelming feeling of love. I’m being honest with you,” the singer, 38, said during a Wednesday appearance on The Social.

“I’d heard all of these stories about how this moment was life-changing, but it wasn’t like that for me. I was nervous for my wife, and I was happy that he was healthy … but, that day, it was like meeting a stranger.”

A day later, while spending time with his baby boy, Bublé says the reality of fatherhood finally hit him. “That next night, it really clicked,” he shares. “I was looking at him and all of a sudden, I got it.”

Since that moment, Bublé has played the part of doting daddy perfectly, learning how to soothe his son with his singing skills.

“I sing to him all day and all night. When he’s crying with somebody else and I hold him and I sing to him, he just stops. It’s really cool,” the proud papa says. “The songs I’m singing are not my hits — that’s for sure. My number one go-to right now is ‘Down by the Bay.'”

Among his other newly acquired skills? “I’ve become a master at changing poopy diapers. And I can swaddle — I enjoy being swaddled myself!” he jokes.

Now head over heels for his first child with wife Luisana Lopilato, Bublé won’t be trying to convey the feelings of fatherhood anytime soon. “It’s the greatest thing that could ever happen,” he says. “You can’t explain it until it happens — it’s like telling somebody what water feels like before they’ve ever swum in it.”

And while he’s received a fair share of advice, Bublé has adopted a live and learn approach to parenting. “Every single person in the whole world tells you how to do it a different way,” he explains.

“At first it confuses you, then it drives you nuts, and then you realize that there is no right way. You just do the best you can and hope it turns out okay,” Bublé adds.

— Anya Leon

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Tara on

I think the title is a little bit misleading… he said he didn’t ‘get it’ until the next day, not ever..

Emily on

His wife is GORGEOUS!

Norah on

Yeah, very poor choice of title. There’s so much in the story that could have been highlighted, yet that misleading title leads the way… SMH.

LadyV on

I think it’s very different for fathers to immediately connect with their child, so I think it’s understandable. For moms it’s different, we have that maternal bond from the moment we conceive.

Amelia on

I totally get what he’s saying and had a similar experience. I admit that I’m a control freak, but with my second child, I had to just LET IT GO.

Nursery wasn’t done – too bad, I went into labor 3.5 weeks early. Wanted a natural birth – too bad, I got an emergency c-section. Wanted my first son at home with my (out-of-state) mom while I recovered in the hospital – too bad, she hadn’t arrived yet and we didn’t have a sitter, so he spent most of the time in my room. Thought breastfeeding would be as easy as it was with my first – too bad, I developed mastitis within the first week.

If I am being perfectly honest, it wasn’t until almost week three when I was at home with my mom running the show, had the cradle set up, got rid of the mastitis and was off the c-section painkillers that I was finally emotionally settled and available enough to bond with my baby in person. I had NONE of these issues throughout my pregnancy or with my first child. Meanwhile, my husband was completely obsessed with both boys from day one.

It happens, and a lot more often than you would think (or people admit to). I think a lot of people place expectations on themselves and their partners as to their feelings, but you have to remember this is a huge change for everyone involved (parents AND baby) and there is an adjustment period. There is NOTHING wrong with you if it takes a little longer than you think it “should” – you will get there, eventually. Glad it only took him one day! He and his wife seem very sweet together.

toi on

Amelia, you have the best post I have ever read here… I loved every word.

Kelly on

What an awful thing to say about your child.

Sylvia on

The experience is different for everyone Kelly. He didn’t say anything horrible – but you obviously misunderstood his point.

When you become a parent (if that is your wish) then lets see how you respond to your newborn.

Anonymous on

I love him! So down-to-earth!

Take it at your own pace on

Congrats! Other babies are jealous and want Buble to sing to them, too! I think Noah will turn the tables and sing to his parents, as soon as he can manage to!

rhomowena on

Yep. I like that he’s singing.

My son’s dad fell in love instantly; I didn’t, not for a while.

mama on

when my son was an infant, I often sang Bobby McFerrin’s version of the Beatles song “From Me To You.”

When baby was still fetus, I sang “A dream is a wish your heart makes” and “I can’t give you anything but love” and “When you wish upon a star.”

Holly on

Thanks Amelia, that’s the reality of things and it helps to hear it from other parents. When my first son was born, the word “stranger” came to mind. I really didn’t bond right away, it took a little time and I was relieved when I finally felt like I did.

ImALadyToo on

His wife is gorgeous, and I am sure that Noah is, too.

Babies Rock! on

I can’t have children of my own, but I have three amazing nephews & I enjoy their company when they visit [they live out of state]. I feel like we have it both ways: when they get sick of me, they can go home to their parents & when I get tired of them, they can go home to their parents. They are very empathetic, funny & intelligent little boys whose parents are teaching them to become kind gentlemen. Everybody wins!

BBB on

@Babies Rock!, I totally agree with you on the aunt position. I LOVE my nephew. He is brilliant and sweet and I just enjoy spending time with him. But it’s lovely to not have to worry about his private school tuition, his annual check ups, etc. Nothing serious, just pure enjoyment.

Glojean on

I could not have children. My nieces and nephews spent a lot of time with me from the time they were babies. Now I do the same with my great-nieces and great nephews. When I get worn out, they go home! 🙂

renee on

Michael, rock on with your bad self. Parenting doesn’t follow a book. Parenting adapts to everyone’s lifestyle. it doesn’t matter when you clicked, just that you clicked. Haters don’t judge.

M on

@Kelly Read the article for Pete’s sake

Anonymous on

Felt the same way right after I gave birth to my first. 22 hours and I was exhausted and remember watching the way my husband immediately adored our son and I didn’t feel it. Felt just relief and exhaustion. However the next day when I went to get him from the nursery and held him I was hooked. Will never forget that moment.

Anonymous on

I was a young mom 30 yrs ago and had read everything I could get my hands on. But there were 2 things I didn’t expect: not losing the weight right after giving birth, and how gross my baby looked after she came out. I didn’t even want to hold her. She had white waxy stuff and blood on her. Not the picture I had of a cute newborn. But mother natures maternal instinct kicked in after some rest.

linda on

I can understand a father not being emotionally close right away. However as a mother, you feel your baby kick….move……and just grow.

Isabel on

Kelly, there’s nothing awful about what he said. In his case, those feelings came rather quickly but for other parents, it can take months. Unfortunately, no one tells new parents this so if they don’t have that instant, overwhelming feeling of love the first time they hold their child, they feel like failures.

Marla on

I totally get how he feels. I felt the same way immediately after giving birth to my son 14 years ago. The day of was a tiring whirlwind; the next day I was able to absorb more of the whole experience.

Congrats, Michael and Luisana!

SKM on

Refreshingly honest. Love you, Michael and congrats!

Alexa Lee on

Michael, you are not the father of the baby that is why you did not feel anything the day he was born! LOL Kidding aside, that is usually the case coz the baby is covered with placenta and stuff, their eyes are closed, etc. And for a male, it is overwhelming at first. For them the connection they feel with their child is when he carries him and the baby opens his eyes, etc…

Anonymous on

Anonymous- That white waxy stuff on your baby is known as vernex, and all babies have it in utero to keep their delicate skin protected from the amniotic fluid). Most shed it before birth, but some are born with it on. I’m surprised your books didn’t mention that.

Lynette on

I also agree with the posts that say they didn’t feel that overwhelming emotion of love with their child the instant they were born. I didn’t and it took days, months to get there with each child. I loved my children more than anything but wasn’t swept away. For the first year, some days I felt like the caretaker.

But as each child grows, my love for them is stronger and stronger. My love and the bond for my 6 year old is so strong and unbreakable. It is the same with my 3 year old. I can’t imagine what I will feel for them when they are grown! I would take what I feel out over what I was “supposed” to feel then anyday.

Lili on

Reality is for most parents it’s an adjustment…. Not everyone can just instantly turn on parent mode, I totally get where he’s coming from it took me a couple of weeks to totally fall in love with my daughter… I had no clue what I was doing I had a c section and it took time to bond with her, it doesn’t make you a bad person at all… It’s a different experience for everyone

rik317 on

Kelly – really don’t understand your comment. Did you read the whole article? What was horrible about what he said? I felt that his comments were heartfelt and honest.

Gina on

What an arrogant P—-!

Rachel C on

Loving the honesty!

cynic1018 on

Refreshingly honest! Best wishes to the family!

Sara on

His honesty is refreshing. His wife is so cute!

Anonymous on

Kelly and Gina, what is so arrogant and horrible about what he has said? First, he was honest. Second, he didn’t say he didn’t love his child, he said he wasn’t overwhelmed with love. Third, the reason was bc he was so worried about the health of the baby and his wife. Parenthood isn’t a switch you can turn on for all. If only!

Deb on

Just so he did fall in love with his son, and obviously he did, that’s all that counts at the end of the day. Its probably different for 1st time dads, maybe he was worried about his wife, who knows. Anyway, lucky little bubble guy, to have his crooner dad singing him to sleep. Love MB, have all his albums, going to hear him in concert for the 4th time in October, cant wait. Congrats to you and your significant other Michael on the arrival of your little guy, glad he is healthy and happy.

Lindsey on

What an asshole. If you were to not feel love at first sight after the birth of your child, you pretend you do and you keep that shit to yourself. That guy is a douchebag.