Tiffani Thiessen Is ‘Sad’ the Baby Stage Is Over

08/21/2013 at 11:00 AM ET

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They say growing up is hard to do. But when it comes to kids, White Collar‘s Tiffani Thiessen thinks it’s even harder on the parents.

“There’s nothing baby about that kid anymore — which is hard!” Thiessen told PEOPLE of her 3-year-old preschooler Harper Renn at Disney Junior’s Doc McStuffins interactive Doc Mobile visit on Wednesday in New York City.

“It’s sad at the same time because the baby stage is definitely over.”

While her daughter skipped the infamous terrible twos, Thiessen, 39, says, “She’s definitely hit the independent stage: she’s a rumble-tumble. She loves putting bows on, but she loves to climb.”

The most surprising thing little Harper’s doing all by herself: water sports. “She’s fully swimming across our pool! No floaties, no nothing — it’s crazy,” Thiessen says, adding she or actor husband Brady Smith are always on hand with a watchful eye.

As for Harper’s go-to swimming hole? Aside from their own pool, “We were just in the Hamptons. She loves the beach,” Thiessen shares.

— Jeff Nelson

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Anonymous on

I feel her pain! I’m in the exact same boat with my 3 1/2 year old daughter.

LC on

Maybe its time for another cutie for that family!

Christine on

I understand it. But as the mother of a now 6-year old only child I can honestly say that despite mourning those special times, these times are even better. She is her own person and we have the most wonderful conversations. She asks really smart questions and seeks to find answers. She shows great empathy and independence, which makes me so proud. She still wants me to carry her, which is tough, but warms my heart nonetheless. Her little hand is still fully enveloped by mine. My husband and I have only her and that is how it will remain, a tight circle of three. She’s a joy most days and even in the struggles of clothes selection, brushing teeth and bath time, she is growing into such a great human. It’s everything I want it to be and more.

Marla on

Better to be out of the baby stage sooner than later. While I get what she’s saying, it sounds like her daughter is more the independent type and not very needy; that’s a big plus. Cute kid!

Aussie Girl on

I hear you all the way. 2 kids close together and now suddenly babyhood is gone and it makes me sad. to much time has gone for me to have another I don’t want a large cap of 7 years between number 1 and 3. Oh well I will have the kids I teach to love.

Rena on

I wonder if she will have another?

heather on

My 3.5 year old is a nightmare. Please tell me it gets better!!

Kash on

I don’t get this sort of thing. Why mourn what your kid was? Celebrate that they’re growing and developing! When your child learns new things or masters new skills, it’s a sign you’re getting this parenting thing right every now and then. It’s a great thing!!

I never miss having babies. I love sleeping all night, not having weird boob issues, being free from diapers and actually having conversations with my kids.

Tara on

@christina- your post made me cry. Oddly enough I was just lamenting that my only child, a boy, will turn 5 next month. I have adored every minute he has been on this earth(give or take a few YEARS of no sleep;). I agree it does get better, he is becoming his own person and is such a wonder to watch. Thank you very much for reminding me the treasures that lie ahead.

Fe on

She isn’t mourning she just simply misses the sweet yet need me stage and I get that.

genesis on

i know how she feels. i have a 5 yr old in kindergarten this year. i wish he was small again. πŸ˜‰

Brandi on

@ Kash to each their own. Everyone’s journey to motherhood is different and we all have our own thoughts, feelings and experiences about being moms. Though your perspective is a logical, positive way of looking at a child getting older and becoming more independent, someone could just as easily say that they don’t understand how a mother wouldn’t be sad in seeing her baby outgrow being a baby. It’s good though that you didn’t have any issues watching your child go through that transition πŸ™‚

Anonymous on

Time to give Harper a sibling, I think!! πŸ™‚

Heidi on

It’s Harper Wren and I absolutely love that name.

As for not seeing the baby in Harper anymore, you are wrong Tiffani! She’s still so little and enjoy every moment πŸ™‚

Lisa on

On an off note…Tiffani’s hair looks awful in the pic.

ugh on

No. It’s Harper Renn actually.

Renee on

Her middle name is actually spelled Renn, they got it right. πŸ™‚ Harper is just the cutest little girl! hard to believe shes already 3! 3 is still pretty little though. she has a little baby in her still. πŸ™‚

Marcia on

They are adorable as babies but it’s an exhausting stage for parents. I’m happy my kids are older and we can talk and be close.

Becky on

Awww, maybe it’s time for #2? Women are having babies well into their 40’s. I’m 39 and just found out we are expecting #3. Sort of an oopsie, but happy and excited nonetheless.

jackie2830 on

Wow, she’s def a mini me……right down to the cute little chin! β™₯

Anonymous on

I totally understand where she is coming from. I’m at the other end. My kids are grown and just out of the house so I am an “empty nester”. I am not liking this lol. But I know I have done right with my kids. They are beautiful smart strong young ladies and I am so proud of them. Would I do it again? Maybe but only because I do miss the school drop offs the play time and snuggle time. But I do like my “me time” and I am not sure I could give that up now.

Susan on

Holy cow. That little girl looks just like momma!

Concerned on

Same boat here.. My little guy is 3 1/2 and I just want to go back again! I enjoy each moment but even having him potty trained is just one less baby thing to do. No more feeding him, burping him, rocking him to sleep, falling asleep in your arms, and now when I try to help him he says “No, tank you, I wanna do it all by myself!”. Sniff.

Nicole on

Only in Hollywood would they refer to the Hamptons as a “swimming hole.” To us “regular folks” a swimming hole is that boggy lake from our childhood, that you used to swing into from a rope, hoping you didn’t get bit by a water moccasin.

taylor on

Love her! Her family is adorable! so lovely!

Zoo Movies on