Lisa Loeb’s Blog: My First Year as a Mom of Two

07/29/2013 at 07:15 PM ET

Look who’s back — it’s celebrity blogger Lisa Loeb!

The musician, 45, and husband Roey Hershkovitz are parents to daughter Lyla Rose, 3½, and son Emet Kuli, 13 months.

In addition to her number one single “Stay (I Missed You),” Loeb also had hits with “Do You Sleep” and “I Do.” In the years since, she’s recorded two children’s albums, written two kids books, done voice overs, developed an eyewear line and started the nonprofit Camp Lisa Foundation (which benefits from sales of her Wake Up! Brew). Her latest record, No Fairy Tale, was released in January.

She can be found on FacebookTwitter @lisaloeb and Instagram.

In her most recent blog, Loeb catches us up on the past year and what it’s like being a touring musician with two little ones at home.

Lisa Loeb Blog Emet Lyla Happy birthday Emet! – Courtesy Lisa Loeb

I can’t believe my little Emet turned one!! Already!

In some ways it does feel like a year passed, when we look at all of the photos and the stages he went through: smiling, laughing, dancing when music comes on, sitting, pulling up, cruising, trying to talk (I think his first word other than “mama” and “dada” seems to be “Lyla”!)

In other ways, the time really flew by, which I think has something to do with Emet being our second child. Since we already had some experience with a baby, some of the decisions that we thought long and hard about with our first child were already made — which bottles, sunscreen, and baby shampoo to use (and when to use them), which brands of clothing we like best, what’s easiest to dress the baby in for sleeping, how to do a swaddle, and even getting through the tough first night out of leaving him with a babysitter during a date.

The crying on the way to sleep didn’t seem so extreme to us since we had gone through it once (and luckily, there wasn’t a lot of it), developing his nap schedule didn’t seem as complicated. We knew how to put together a balanced baby meal that gradually included finger foods, that he stuffs into his mouth himself in the cutest way!! (In fact, sometimes we have to keep him from stuffing too much of his grandmother’s meatloaf in at once…), which carseat to get when he was born and then which ones he’d get when he was tall enough to move out of his infant carseat.

In his case, we decided, with the help of a carseat expert I know, Tamara from Car Seat Savvy, suggested that we actually get larger, new carseats for Lyla and let Emet use the Britax seats Lyla had been using. They were very well-maintained, so they wouldn’t pose a safety issue, and Lyla will have new Britax seats that feel more like big girl carseats, while still providing the safety features we need.

We had a really sweet birthday party for Emet on his actual birthday. Instead of the larger, sometimes overwhelming parties we’d had for Lyla along the way, we decided to keep it more intimate, including the grandparents and friends who’d spent a great deal of time with Emet through the year.

Like Lyla’s first party, this was a backyard get together, but it was Emet’s birthday, so we included some of his favorite things: balls, music, and meat! A singer brought her guitar, some instruments and puppets and led the kids in a sing-along. She also brought a parachute to bounce around balls and Emet. We ordered chicken and steak burritos and other Mexican food, and the grandmas baked homemade cake and cookies too!

For his first birthday cake, I made Scott Peacock and Edna Lewis’s triple layer carrot cake, deliciously moist and chocolate-free… I think there was something in the rule books about not feeding the baby a lot of chocolate yet….

Now I can’t believe it’s already time to give away his little baby clothes and toys. We’ve been sorting through the onesies and footsie pajamas and some of the toys he’s already grown out of and giving them to friends who are expecting or other people who need things for their babies. With Lyla I felt like so many of her clothes had so many memories attached to them, but with Emet, it’s like time just zipped by.

Although I try not to hover over Emet and his sister at all times, it’s a little tough. They’re just so cute and smart and beautiful, and since I’ve been touring with my new record, the time I’m at home with Emet and Lyla is even more precious.

It’s been complicated figuring out how to balance my work as a creative person with being a mom. Since I don’t leave to go to an office everyday, it’s hard to carve out the space and time I need to get settled into writing songs, thoughtfully answering written interviews, or much of anything that takes a little brain space.

Also, I’ve been experimenting with how many days I can travel away from my kids. The kind of touring I do isn’t really great with young children: too much moving from place to place, strange hours, and if I brought them along, because of the strange hours of early morning promotion and later night concerts and everything in between that, I wouldn’t get real quality time with them. I’ve found that keeping them in their regular routines with familiar beds is a better plan.

That being said, my work is partially on the road –I did several two week long tours, which were very satisfying as a performing musician with a new album out, but not so satisfying as a mom. I saw lots of photos messaged to me and called home to check in constantly, but was bummed to miss their everyday lives. I’m lucky because I know I have more choice than some other working traveling moms, but it’s still a struggle to figure it out.

In the meantime, I’m growing my at-home career in voice over work, hosting a radio show, and some other projects I can do from home. People tell me that the kids won’t remember me being away, but I’m not sure that’s true. I think they feel it in their beings. And more than that, I don’t like being away from home when they’re so small. When they get bigger I can travel more with them. It’ll be a big adventure.

I’d love to hear from you: Tweet me @LisaLoeb, follow me on Instagram to see what I’ve been seeing along the way: it’s often the small everyday things that yield the most joy and wonder. I’ll be out there touring a little too, so come see me!

Lisa Loeb Blog Emet Lyla With my girl Lyla – Courtesy Lisa Loeb

— Lisa Loeb

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alaina on

Lisa is a wonderful mom. i also love her music.

sky on

She looks great and so happy. What a beautiful baby boy.

Cortney on

Does this lady ever age?? Wow!

blessedwithboys on

Well at least you weren’t home to hear your baby screaming alone in his crib, wondering where his parents are and why they were ignoring him… Disgusting.

Claire on

I sure hope that while you were writing such hateful (and very likely untrue) things about Ms. Loeb that you were wearing and nursing all of your boys. Wouldn’t want them to be alone and neglected and crying! I’m sure that you are “Blessed With Boys,” but your boys sure aren’t blessed with having such a coddling mother that thinks children should never be allowed to learn self-reliance! I feel sorry for them when they get out in the real world and find that Mommy isn’t going to accompany them everywhere and hold their hands and give them whatever they want. Oh wait…you probably will.

Ha! on

Shut your mouth hater!!

Bree on

@blessedwithboys I don’t see anything in this blog about Emet being ignored by his parents while alone and screaming in his crib. Yes she has a job that takes her away from home but she is not the only parent who does (My own husband is one such parent). There is no mention of her husband (aka Emet and Lyla’s father) going on tour with her. There is also no mention of how she prepared for the trips and how often she phoned and possibly even skyped with her husband and children.

Maybe you should keep your harsh and unjustified judgment to yourself seeing as how I am sure you are not a perfect parent (Sorry dear, no such thing) and you don’t know all the facts in this case, in fact it seems you have created some to serve your purpose.

4mom on

I have never seen a photo of the dad to know what he looks like, but these are 2 beautiful children! Good for her trying to be a good mom and make her career work. I don’t travel, in fact I am home with my kids a lot of the time, but when I do have to leave them for an entire day for work, it is very upsetting to their routine and my own peace of mind. I guess that is just part of life, but I will never enjoy being away from my children.

Ulku on

I’m a mother of a 5 year old and 1 year old, Turkish and live in Adana Turkey. I’m a full-time teacher and ı can say that almost everything you wrote above, we experienced them too. I love being a parent, it is all so human, so universal, so without borders… so difficult and so wonderful. .. warm greetings from Turkey

Jen on

@blessedwithboys PLEASE get a grip. My husband routinely travels for work and can be gone for up to a week at a time. I work evenings at the hospital a few times a week. Family helps care for our 3 kids when we can’t be home. Not a single one of them screams alone in their crib wondering why they are being ignored by us. If your children do, perhaps you should rethink your parenting skills and why your chldren are so psychologically tormented.

Kim on

blessedwithboys is a troll who comes out a lot at the baby blogs. Ignore it.

Lara on

Lisa seems like a down to earth, hands-on mom and I enjoy her blog. I have been a big fan of her music for years. I still blast “Stay (I Missed You)” and sing along every time it comes on the radio. 🙂

Stacey on

In defense of blessedwithboys, when I read this she did sound more like their babysitter than their mother. Anyway, she does look amazing for her age.

tori on

Love Lisa,seems like only yesterday she had her own reality show and couldn’t find the right guy to marry and settle down with and now she’s married with two beautiful children. Dreams do come true!

mara on

Yes tori, I also remember her reality show way back when. Have always liked Lisa Loeb and so happy for her and her family. Somehow I totally missed the birth of Emet though! I totally remember her pregnancy with Lyla but didn’t even know she’d had a second child 🙂