Vanessa Lachey: Why We Had Date Night on Father’s Day

06/26/2013 at 01:15 PM ET

Vanessa Lachey Father's Day
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What started out as family fun on Father’s Day turned into a chance to rekindle the romance for Nick and Vanessa Lachey.

When the 98 Degrees tour bus pulled into Brooklyn for a concert, Vanessa put together a special celebration to highlight all things close to her husband’s heart. And the balance couldn’t have been any better.

“That morning I surprised him with a boat ride around Manhattan, and we just had lunch on the boat. It was me, him and [Camden],” Vanessa, 32, tells PARADE.

“He did the show that evening, and then that night we had a date night. Honestly, without sounding super cheesy, it was kind of the perfect mix — just being well-rounded and having work — his love — and his family — his other love — and then having ‘us’ time.”

Keeping the spark alive has been particularly important for the couple since welcoming their now 9-month-old son Camden John. “I think people sometimes get lost in their kids and they may have forgotten what got them there in the first place, which is their relationship,” she says.

But Vanessa isn’t the only one completely smitten with Nick. According to his wife, the first-time father already has a big fan in his baby boy.

“I think Cam just loves anything that Nick does — he’s such a little Daddy’s boy, it’s adorable,” Vanessa says.

The strong father-son bond began when Camden was in the womb, explains Vanessa, who shares the two’s favorite tune has since been “Sleepy Eyes,” a track that now appears on Nick’s album, A Father’s Lullaby.

“Nick used to hum [it] to him when he was still in my belly, so that one to us is kind of special,” she says. “He hummed the melody and then when Camden was born, he added words and lyrics to it. So, that one has a special place in our hearts.”

These days, the first-time mom is juggling a full place — aside from being a wife and mother, Vanessa is also gearing up for the premiere of her new show, Dads, in the fall.

But her growing list of responsibilities both personally and professionally doesn’t faze her in the least. In fact, Vanessa happily embraces the opportunities to switch up her roles throughout the day.

“I’ve always loved being busy, and I’ve always loved having a creative outlet,” she says. “For me, it’s awesome that having a baby doesn’t stop you or slow you down. As a woman, as a wife, as an entertainer, I just love keeping busy … and because I love all of those things, it’s a pretty easy juggle for me.”

However, at the end of the day, Vanessa’s top priority remains her greatest job to date — motherhood — and the actress is determined not to be pressured into focusing her attention on the more trivial parts of parenthood.

“Part of the problem that we have is that we’re constantly telling these new moms to lose weight and look good and do this and do that, instead of just letting them be moms and enjoy having a child, and having their family, and having this new role in your life!” she says. “It’s one of the hardest, if not the hardest, job in the world, and all the emphasis is placed on everything else as opposed to what’s important, which is loving your baby, and loving yourself and your body.”

She continues, “My biggest tip is to know that you are beautiful and know that you are wonderful, and absolutely amazing for raising a child.”

— Anya Leon

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THEIR SON IZ SOOOO HANDSOME but How many times are they gonna talk about dis child 2 stay REVELANT????

MR on

Veronica your comment was half nice half idiotic.

Anonymous on


Sarah on

I do not like Vanessa at all since I found out that she uses Gary Ezzo’s abusive child rearing methods. She has admitted to using two of his books. I feel very sorry for her child who has to endure the psychological abuse just to fit into her schedule.

JB on

Judge much??

Gigi on

Oh give me a break Sarah. Putting your baby on a schedule is not abusive. Maybe you wouldn’t raise your child that way but plenty of people do and their kids turn out just fine. How about agreeing to disagree?

Moms judging other moms piss me off. We’re all just doing the best we can.

Pam on

Eww just googled him and that sounds very creepy! Your baby needs to eat and etc when they need to, sounds very selfish to deprive them of that so you can sleep more and when you want.

Seriously? on

Get off your soapbox Sarah. It’s her right to screw up her own kid just as much as it is your right to screw up yours. Why parents have a constant need to judge other people’s parenting styles baffles me.

blessedwithboys on

I was planning to post exactly what Sarah said, but she said it so perfectly I’ll just say DITTO.

Anonymous on

VERONICA- Um, how is them talking about their child any different from any other celeb talking about their child? And obviously PARADE asked about them about him and they were just answering the questions (and the interview was likely done as part of the promotion Nick is doing for his tour).

Anyway, I love what Vanessa had to say about the pressures put on new moms to lose the weight. Way to go, Vanessa!

A anonymous on

On Becoming Baby Wise is anything but abusive! Get your facts straight. The entire basis of the book is making your child happy, feeding if they’re hungry, etc., but encouraging a routine to take place during the day so baby knows what to expect and doesn’t need to eat to fall asleep. My daughter is almost 1 and the happiest healthiest girl in the world. I used a lot of tips from babywise to help cope with a very unhappy newborn, as did my sister and a few of my friends. I could say some nasty remarks about dr sears, Ferber, longterm nursing, attachment parenting or baby wearing but as long as the child is happy, healthy and loved – who are you to judge?!?

Jessica on

I’m sure it’s easy to say that parents forget what bring them in parenthood. But i’m a mom of 2 1/2 years old, 7 month pregnant, and I don’t have a nanny, I don’t have family around (i live in Canada my family is in France) so i cannot have “date night” 😦

Don’t judge parents Vanessa we are not living the same Life…

Julie on

I would prefer to get advice from a woman that has been a mom longer than 9 months.

Stormy on

It couldn’t have said it better Vanessa love yourself love your Family love your life

Kat on

Of course it’s pretty easy to juggle everything and do what you want, since normal people usually take responsibility of their own children and care for them 24/7 instead of paying someone else to pursue your own goals and dreams. Poor child, being raised by strangers so mommy and daddy can do what they want.

Ellison on

First of all, Dr. Ezzo’s books are not even CLOSE to abusive child rearing methods. Just because you don’t “agree” with the things that are in those books, does not mean it’s anywhere close to abusive. To be honest, I used those same methods and had AMAZING luck and my children are the happiest, well-behaved children I’ve seen around and I get complimented on their behavior ALL THE TIME. To be honest, it’s the parents that let their children do whatever they want, whenever they want and however they want that we have the kind of children we have today… Bratty, Entitled, Rude, Lazy and Obnoxious.

Vanessa sounds like an amazing mother who loves her child with every ounce of fiber in her body. Rant Over.

Melissa on

I never used the baby-wise method. My daughter slept through the night from birth almost. My sons were another story. They woke almost hourly until almost 6 months old. They had full bellies and were comfortable, they just didn’t stay asleep. It was brutal.

Looking back, I now realize some sort of sleep training may have been a good idea. The exhaustion I faced daily due to lack of sleep actually hindered my ability to be the best parent I could be. My lack of rest also kept me sick with colds almost constantly which would then make the baby sick.

Lori on

You mean juggling a full plate not ( place)

Alisa on

Is it just me, or do they really like publicity?


I AGREE wit U 101%!!!!

Typical on

Veronica- I would venture to guess that you are not a mom. It is not unusual for new parents to talk about their babies- for a long time! Plus, she is being asked questions about motherhood in an interview- not like she called a press conference!

just my opinion on

Can we say Jealous!!!! Haters on this great person. Honestly this is sad

Alysa on

Sarah and Blessed I can not imagine Nick Lachey allowing that baby to be abused and IF anyone really thought the child was being abused I’m sure child welfare would be ALL OVER THOSE two. Stop judging people like you are some sort of expert on what they do or don’t do. THIS is what is wrong with the world today. You THINK you know these people. YOU DO NOT!

Anne on

@ Sarah…psychological abuse?? Seriously? Have you even read Gary Ezzo’s book? If you did, you’d know the whole premise is based on flexibility with parental leads/guidance.

Pia Razon on

Vanessa admitted that she didn’t bond naturally with her baby after his birth and I personally think she has some resentment issues with Nick’s natural bond to his son. Of course in this article she pretends she doesn’t, but if you read between the lines you get a clear picture of her insecurity as a mother. Her scheduling alone time with Nick on Father’s Day is another example of her need to control his bond with his son and his other priorities like his own family. She needed Nick to prove that she was the priority – not their son. “I think people sometimes get lost in their kids and they may have forgotten what got them there in the first place, which is their relationship,” she says. It’s not like their child is six and she has been dutifully catering to his needs at the expense of her own for six years. The boy is only six months. Parents are supposed to get lost in their newborns. All this “balance” talk is just a manipulative warning to Nick to keep her first at all times.

klutzy_girl on

@sarah and @blessedwithboys care to elaborate, you perfect mothers, you?

Tiffany on

I just googled the Ezzo connection to fact check, and yes, there is an article where she says she used it to get him sleeping through the night at 6 weeks. So sad. Those are horrible books and methods that have been condemned by the AAP.

Too bad she cuts herself slack in the weight department but not for her newborn child in the sleep department.

Lisa on

Why does she think anyone cares?? Good thing they had a baby so they can use him to stay in the media.

karen on

I love them together and individually…people judge a good looking couple harshly. They look good. We get that. They’re son is amazingly handsome like his father and good looking like his mom with excellent hair! (O:*…I am happy that they share with us that LOVE them together and as individuals as well. GO LACHEY’S…catch that light and love! God bless…#cuties

sarah on

Shouldn’t having a baby be a reason to slow down? Sheesh. I am so sick of celebrities talking about how they “Juggle it all…” like it is normal, or something to aspire to. How about taking the time to be a presence in your son’s life. What a concept.

bkable on

“when he was still in my belly” …. ummm you are a grown women. “when I was pregnant”. If you were speaking to your kid, sure go with belly but when you’re doing an interview, you can say pregnant. We all know you were.

Finally, Fathers Day should be about your child, not about playing shows and rekindling the romance.

(I figured since they talk about their parenting so much, they really want us to judge so I’m just giving them what they want lol)


Vanessa acts like she’s the only mother in the history of mothers to gain weight, give birth and have fathers day with her husband. Who cares PEOPLE magazine? Who gives a crap?

Debbie on

She is a bad Mother. And she is looking old and tired. Motherhood must not agree with her. Nick could have done better.

Me on

She is so full of herself. Why does she think she has ALL the answer in life? Isn’t she the crazy, party girl from TRL? Now she’s a Saint?

JR on

Some of you people are just plain rude! I think her message is refreshing and lovely! She is a mother who is head over heels in love with her baby and husband! With so much hate in the news, can’t we just be happy she’s happy and a good mother! The baby whisper is far from “child abuse” read the book before you make comments or judge someone on it! I too am a mommy who at any chance gushes about my boy…especially when asked! Stop the hate!

Crystal on

THIS WAS AN INTERVIEW!!!! She is not talking about her family to stay relevant. She WAS ASKED QUESTIONS AND SHE ANSWERED THEM!!!! What a bunch of morons!

Also, about Gary Ezzo’s method why wouldn’t you put your baby on a sleep schedule? You put your children on a sleep schedule when they get older? Or do you just let them go to sleep @ all hours of the night? To me that is child abuse because your children need sleep. It is a well known fact that children who get appropriate amounts of sleep do the best in school and are more well rounded individuals. They will have to adhere to a schedule their entire lives so why not start them as babies? My child will most definitely be on a sleep schedule. It’s not only better for the child it’s better for the mother too. Anything I can do to better myself will help my children in the long run. Those that let their children do whatever they want end up having bratty, non self control having kids. Who the heck wants that????? Some of the mothers on here are complete psychos! Get a life! Deal with your kid the way you want to and Vanessa will deal with HER kid the way she wants to! Ugh!

Anonymous on

Hahah this is comical. I’d be thoroughly embarrassed by my behaviour if I was any of you that are being so mean and negative. That is way more damaging to a child than make them understand a schedule.

Women of the world could do such influential things if they just stopped being catty, judgmental, and gossip hounds. Such disgusting attributes you’re displaying.

Anonymous on

Amen crystal!!!!! I thank you in advance for having a good child :)!

Sandy on

Sarah below is the kind of un-educated mother who allows her kids to run amuck, scream, throw food and make huge messes at restaurants- and allow them to be bossy, spoiled, entitled and lazy. The best thing you can do for your child is to get them on a schedule and stick with it- along with lots of discipline and love.

klutzy_girl on

The whole world runs on a schedule. School, work, etc why wouldn’t you want to teach your child these fundamentals as early as possible is beyond me?

So many kids are messed up this day and age, no wonder why! Spoiled, entitled, undisciplined brats!