Kellie Martin’s Blog: Batteries Not Included

05/20/2013 at 10:15 PM ET

Kellie Martin Blog: Batteries Not Included
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Please welcome Kellie Martin for a one-time celebrity blog!

Best known for her roles on Life Goes On and ER, the actress recently played Army Captain Nicole Galassini on Army Wives.

In addition, Martin owns and operates ROMP, an online toy store, and is writing a book, set to be released next winter.

She and husband Keith Christian reside in California and are parents to 6½-year-old daughter Maggie.

You can find her on Facebook and @Kellie_Martin  on Twitter.

In an exclusive blog, Martin shares why letting your kids get a little bored is one of the best things you can do for them.

Technology is a magical thing for a mom. I’m very grateful that when I have to work on a show away from home, technology can bring my daughter’s sweet face right onto my cell phone for a virtual kiss goodnight.

I can run my online children’s boutique, ROMP, from my home office while watching my daughter play in the backyard. I tweet, I Facebook, I recharge, I download and I text.

You might say that technology is my friend, but when it comes to technology and my kid, I have major issues.

When I was pregnant I read every parenting book I could get my hands on and fired endless questions at my new mommy friends. I’m a type A person, and I thought I wanted to have a type A baby who would crawl early, form sentences by 10 months and learn three languages (not including English).

Technology seemed to be the key that would unlock this accelerated world. For my baby shower, I registered for a bunch of plastic, battery-operated, techie toys. Isn’t that what every post-millennium, cutting-edge, über-baby needs?

Things like their very own iPad that can operate animated yet educational games. Talking board books and blinking, bouncy exersaucers. Otherwise how will my kid keep up in this electronic, digital, battery-operated world?

I learned quickly that I was asking the wrong questions and reading the wrong books.

Over the last six years of my daughter Maggie’s life I’ve learned that my child can be über without any of that cutting-edge stuff — and I didn’t read it in a book. I got to know my kid and observe what makes her tick.

As it turns out, children have been hard-wired with something more amazing than a hard drive: an imagination.

Maggie spends much of her day as something other than a 6-year-old girl. She’s frequently a dog, a dragonfly or an astronaut. When you’re a kid, nothing is impossible, and everything is interesting. The best way I’ve found to support her natural creativity and curiosity is to leave her alone.

Dare I say it: I let her get a little bored. If she doesn’t have me or a computerized device entertaining her she comes up with fantastic ideas on her own. Maggie recently built a “snowman” inside our house using her old highchair and my UGG boots. She used her jacket and hat to “keep him warm” and spoons for the eyes “to help the snowman see his wife.” I didn’t help her do any of it. It was her own project — her idea, her creation — and she was pretty proud of it.

Kids will naturally turn ordinary objects into playthings if you give them the space. I decided to get rid of the flashy, tricked-out toys and instead stocked our playroom with things like wooden blocks, a dollhouse and a play doctor’s kit. I went through my closet to find some dress-up clothes, jewelry and hats. Crayons and paper are always available and Maggie’s shelves are stocked with great books (some she can read herself and some I read to her).

Doing this made it easy to clear away all the techie distractions like the television, computer and cellphone. I don’t miss for a second any of the blinking, bouncy post-millennium noise.

My daughter has taught me never to underestimate the power of play. I mean good, old-fashioned play where a kid makes a fort or digs up worms. On the surface those activities may not look as educational as a computer math game, but they are teaching a child countless vital developmental skills.

You never know what part of your house can magically morph into a classroom. For Maggie, her classroom is our backyard. It’s where she becomes a scientist and formulates questions like: “Why do pill bugs roll up?” and “Do stink bugs really stink?” or “How long does it take for an apple tree to grow?”

When she stumps me, we do occasionally grab the computer to research an answer. Just a little sprinkle of technology every once in a while can go a long way.

As Maggie grows and the world becomes even more technology-driven, she’ll have to learn to punch away at an iPad screen and eventually enter the computer age. There’s time for that. For now, my hope is that she gets to live the carefree, blissful life of a kid whose biggest job in a day is to discover shapes in the clouds — real clouds.

Kellie Martin Blog: Batteries Not Included
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— Kellie Martin

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Courtney on

It is so true what you said about children being hard-wired with imagination. We too stocked up on all the toddler toys that light up, sing, move, or whatever at the push of a button. Those toys are typically only touched to get them out of the way of the blocks or animals. Our little guy has just discovered cars, so he is always creating roads and tracks to drive them on and experimenting with speeds on different surfaces. He isn’t even two yet and he is creating and imagining. Technology isn’t going anywhere, so I think I will let his imagination run wild until the time comes where it is necessary.

MommytoanE on

Maggie is a doll! She looks so much like mommy. 🙂

I also agree that kids have this built in imagination that far excells an adult. My daughter is 10. She’s got a fully stocked playroom full of little dishes and foods, barbies galore, a table with a dresser full of paper, crayons, markers, and any other crafting materials she would need. It has a walk in closet stocked full of play clothes, and shelves full of puzzles and board games.

I honestly don’t think I’ve ever heard “Bored” come out of her mouth. When she’s feeling restless, I remind her to go play in her playroom and within minutes she’s creating a world for her barbies or dressing her Molly doll for an adventure on the prairies with Laura Ingalls. She reads, she colors, crafts, draws pictures, writes letters and even now and then an invite to a tea party. At 10 we still encourage imagination and good old fashioned play. And lets face it, after getting down and dirty, playing field scientist on a walk through the woods, she’s proven that even moms and dads still have the imagination to play.

Ariel on

I loved this line: “I learned quickly that I was asking the wrong questions and reading the wrong books.” I wish more people realized that many parenting books (that are very popular) are subpar.

Jessicad on

Absolutely agree and love this. We don’t even have cable any more, just Netflix for the occasional movie on the weekend. It forces us to be creative and explore other options!

I didn’t know Kellie had an online store, will definitely check it out:)

Whi on

As my daughter is growing up (she is almost 2!) I am finding this to be more true each and every day. We do not let her sit and watch TV, she does not play on the computer, and very rarely she gets a few minutes with a phone or kindle to play some toddler games or watch an episode of Strawberry Shortcake. Other than that, she is pretty tech-free, but not because she wants to be! But it’s amazing to see all the things she is figuring out for herself and what she learns by playing and imagining. It’s neat 🙂

Daffygrams on

What a cute little girl. Enjoyed the blog!

Nikita on

We need a Life Goes on Reunion!!! LOL Love you Kellie!