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Amber Rose: Why I Ended Up Having a C-Section

05/01/2013 at 11:00 AM ET

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Long before she became a mom, Amber Rose came across The Business of Being Born — and instantly knew home is where her heart was.

So when the model found out that she and fiancé Wiz Khalifa were expecting their first child, the couple revisited Ricki Lake‘s documentary and made plans to welcome their baby boy with a home birth.

“I first saw The Business of Being Born actually before I was even pregnant,” Rose, 29, said during a Tuesday appearance on The Ricki Lake Show.

“I was like, ‘If I ever get pregnant, that’s how I’m going to do it!’ Then when I got pregnant, I watched it again and then I made Wiz watch it.”

The film struck a chord with the future father as well and, much to his surprise, the rapper quickly jumped on board for the birth.

“I thought it was really interesting being that me and Amber had a baby on the way,” he says. “I felt like it was important, but I didn’t think that I was going to be into it as much as I was.”

“When I had Wiz watch it, he was just like, ‘You have to do this, we have to do this together,’” Rose says.

However, nearing the end of her pregnancy — and already equipped with a birthing pool, midwives and a doula — Rose’s best laid plans began to unravel when she discovered her baby was breech. “At 37 weeks one of the midwives said that that big lump right there on my top by my ribs was the baby’s head,” she says. “My ideal birth plan was just down the drain.”

Despite the complication, Rose wasn’t ready to give up on her dream delivery. “I tried mugwort, acupuncture and then my last resort was a [external cephalic] version, which is when you go to the hospital and they manually try to turn your baby,” she says.

“They push his head down and push his butt up … It hurt a lot. It was very painful. I cried.”

But the medical team’s efforts were futile and Rose eventually accepted the reality that she would have to undergo a c-section to deliver her baby boy.

“At that point, after I tried everything, I was like, ‘I just want my baby, if I have to have a c-section, fine,’ ” she says. “But I told Wiz, ‘If we go to the hospital and my baby turns around, I’m going back home!’ “

Says Khalifa, “Of course it wasn’t … what we wanted to happen, but as mentally prepared as we were for the home birth, we had to get as prepared for the c-section.”

“When I went in I was terrified, shaking. I was so scared,” Rose says. “But then Wiz came in [and] he just talked to me the whole time.”

Moments later, the proud parents’ hard work paid off when their son Sebastian Taylor entered into the world. “All of a sudden we heard Sebastian cry and we both started crying. We were like, ‘Oh my gosh, our baby’s here!’ ” the new mom says.

Happy with her decision to put her son’s safety first, Rose admits she can’t help but look forward to a successful home birth for Sebastian’s future siblings.

“I feel like I made the right decision, but I knew right after having a c-section that [with] our next baby I definitely want to have my baby at home,” she says.

“Watching the documentary and seeing how the women pull the baby out and put the baby on their chest — that’s what I really, really wanted for me and Sebastian. That’s the part that I missed out on.”

– Anya Leon

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valeskas on

Sometimes we want something and then baby tells us different.

Colleen on

Why do doctors panic when the baby is breech at 37 weeks?? Give it time… My daughter was born 4 days overdue. Most babies turn around and come out when they are ready. There is so much medical interference now.

Natasha on

I feel for her. My son was also breech, they kept telling me head down head down for so long and then went “oh that’s his head up there”.

He’s here, safe and sound and that’s all that matters.

ok on

Good for her! I fully support women making smart and safe choices for their babies and for themselves.

If we give them the tools , the information, and the power 99% of the time moms to be make the right choice for their situation.

Home, hospital, or birthing center midwife or doctor are all great and safe options

p on

just be thankful and happy that the baby (and mother) are ok! too many people get all caught up with their ‘dream birth plans.’

kjc on

I understand the heartache of not being able to have that first moment with your child. I dreamed of delivering and then having my baby placed on my chest. I unfortunately ended up having a C-section as well. It stinks. It’s the only thing that I really feel like I missed out on with the birth of my child.

That, and then not getting to hold him for nearly 2 hours afterwards was difficult. I’ve heard women say that having a C-section means that you and your baby aren’t able to bond as well as a baby born vaginally. That, I can thankfully say isn’t true. My son just turned two a few days ago, and that kid is stuck to me like glue. …nursing him for 17 months might have had something to do with that as well. :)

Anyway, I understand how hard it can be, but all that matters is that the child is born healthy. It truly doesn’t matter how they came in to the world, but that they are here.

justamom on

so tired of new mom’s having to justify their c-sections.

Margje on

I thought that after having had a c-section you aren’t allowed a home-birth anymore. At least that’s how it is here.

Sandra on

Well you know what they say about those best laid plans…..In the end everyone got exactly what they wanted, a healthy baby Bash!

RNmommy on

Please please do not try to have a vbac at home with your next child. It is much too dangerous. Many hospitals will not even let you attempt this in their facility do to the high chance of rupture. Do what is safest for you and your child. If you must have a “normal” delivery for your next, please do so in a hospital for safety’s sake. Best wishes, and congrats on your little one!

Lauren on

Before people start judgng, she is not saying she is not happy with her baby. She just had a vision for the birth of her baby and is allowed to share that. Get over yourselves everybody, Amber seems like a great mom!

BBB on

It’s great that she has an image of what she wants but she can’t be so determined to have it happen with the next kid. What if the next one is breeched too? She can have the bonding with the baby on her chest hours after instead of seconds after, just move on. She’s fixated on the trees instead of looking at the forest–she has a healthy baby boy, be in the moment instead of thinking of how you can make it MORE perfect next time.

JM on

Ug, I had that inversion with my second son…my husband said it made me think of “that aliens movie when the thing pops out of the stomach”, thanks dear. Luckily, it worked for me and I was able to deliver vaginally, wouldn’t want the inversion again though. Glad everyone is well!!

Megan on

That’s what I thought too Margje..I was told that after my c-section that I’d always have to have my babies that way, it sucks but I’d rather not ever risk my child’s or my life to have my “dream” birth

Simone on

My mother gave birth to my sister who was also breech vaginally without Epidural.

lh on

Amen p! Birth plans drive me up the wall! It’s like oh you want 10 billion things to happen just for you?! Ok……Here’s the birth plan everyone should have: baby out with mom and baby alive and well, then end….

Jane on

I’m happy the baby is healthy, but 37 weeks for a first time mom is way too far out to say the baby won’t turn around. I could see if she was 40+ weeks give her the c-section. My son was still laying across me at 38 weeks and he turned before I went into labor. The C-section rate in America is ridiculous and they are way more of a high risk than vaginal births and only should be used in life or death situations. She should try for a VBAC but probably not at home. She could find a birthing center so at least she’d be close to a hospital is something happened.

Jen DC on

see, how wonderful: She (1) had a birth plan (2) intimate to her (3) realized, after CONSULTING WITH HER OWN DOCTOR that (4) it wasn’t gonna work so she changed her plan. isn’t it wonderful how we all have the freedom and (many of us) opportunity to do what’s best for our individual families?! now let me read what psycho posts are actually down here…

domino on

I had my son via c-section because he was breech. I didn’t feel like I missed out on anything! I don’t know what labor even feels like, and you know something… I’m happy with that. We scheduled it, piece of cake, healthy baby, and I don’t feel any less of a woman. You do what you need to do at the time for your baby, no one needs to judge what course you take.

twinsmama on

just to clarify (i am a labor and delivery rn), it is called a “version” not an “inversion”. and you cannot plan your delivery to go EXACTLY as you want, babies will come when and how they desire. i am all for women trying a VBAC, we do them all the time where i work. however, i would not do one at home….too many risks. the most important thing in the end is a healthy mommy and a healthy baby.

zaida-bird on

I’m sure many women have the “ideal birth plan” that just doesn’t work. I gave birth to my daughter at 34 weeks (surprise!) And that wasn’t part of my plan…however instead of being selfish, I did what was best for her safety. She turned out great now at 4 and is thriving beyond her age.

Luvmylife on

Great interview! I love her honesty. I felt the same way with my first born who was breech. I felt cheated out of having the all natural birth that I wanted.

My second child was born vaginally, without an epidural, less than two years later. I was happy to get the birth experience I wanted this time. In the end, I still have two beautiful kids no matter how they came into the world. Not choosing a csection the second time has allowed me to have many many more kids (we want at least 4).

hbm on

My dr told me if you only have one c-section your next baby may not have to be a c-section, Margje. May not be the case for everyone I’m new to all of this.I’m only 4 months pregnant so most of y’all know more then me.

_Kristine on

Depending on what type of Caesarian you had, you may or may not be able to try a VBAC for your next birth. MOST women CAN try for a VBAC after a C-section. The risk of uterine rupture is approximately the same as the risk for placenta accreta (a complication where the placenta attaches too deep on the uterine wall due to the presence of scar tissue. You know, from things like C-sections).

Sometimes you have to do what’s best for the baby. And that sometimes doesn’t mean things going exactly the way you planned. But, that’s life with kids. Not always going the way you plan.

bb on

I had a home VBAC with a very experienced Certified Nurse Midwife and it was an amazing experience. It was not “unsafe” or “dangerous” I did endless amounts of research and found my chance of rupture to be less then 1%, roughly the same chance of having a rupture from being artificially induced.

Every mommy should have the option to have the birth that feels the best and safest for them and not be shamed or judged for it. It’s insane how much women judge other women for their birth choices. I choose a home birth because it was right for me and my baby, but I by no means think every women should do that. Same with a c-sections…who cares. As moms we make the best decisions we can with the information and feelings we have at that time.

T on

thank god her kid has a normal name

Cat on

It’s so nice to see someone who knows that what she wants isn’t always what’s going to be best for the baby and I’m glad she was able to accept that. I feel bad that it didn’t go the way she had hoped and speaking form experience of not getting it the way you would have liked I can empathize. I hope she is able to make that work next time but I think from what she said she will take the doctors and midwives advice and do whatever is best.

kay on

fyi….its called an external cephalic VERSION…not an “inversion”….

LizzyM on

Love this awesome, real story. A lot of times our babies don’t enter the world in the way in which we planned, but the most important thing is to get them out safely.

My second child was delivered via emergency c-section at 29 weeks; it was a completely different experience than my first who was born normally after a 24 hour labor. But, both are healthy and happy and that is truly all that matters.

Anonymous on

RNMommy, HVBACs are very common and plenty safe. Please do not try to scare people out of their educated choices. The “high” chance of rupture is less than 1%.

Lisa on

Plenty of women go on to have a VBAC with their next child and have no complications. The main thing is taking enough time to heal from the C-section in the first place.

kitty62862 on

Inversion?

That sounds absolutely horrific, given that there is only one way to reach the baby.

Sounds more like ‘insurance doesn’t want to pay’.

Glad it all turned out ok.

ew on

she looks so trashy

Kasiae on

My first son was delivered via c section. My doctor said there was no reason why I couldn’t have a vaginal birth the next time around. My second son and my daughter were delivered vaginally with no complications. Just because you deliver via c section on your first birth does not mean you have to do it that way again.

Emily on

C-sections are not the worst thing in the world. I was quite relieved to have mine, thankyouverymuch!

joan on

I had two vbac after c-section and the first one hurt like he!!! The third one was much easier. What I missed out on was having my water break and going into labor as I was induced. I hope she takes precautions during any other children, because it can produce complications.

courtney on

I also had a c section for breech presentation in Dec 2009. But I had a VBAC in September 2012. You can have a home VBAC. I know lots of women who have and many planning one now. If you educate yourself it is possible AND safe. And yes we all want a healthy baby because that is what matters. BUT the experience matters too! A positive birth experience is important too.

Shiela kerr on

Why is it so necessary for these entertainers to discuss the intimate details of their lives? While you applaud on one hand on the other you question the need to share mentality they have!

What??? on

You are one pos justamom…justify a c-section? I had a c-section when my son was 2 weeks overdue. I had zero contractions and even with inducing drugs-nothing. It is surgery with a long recovery so buzz off.

sarah on

Why does inversion even exist? She shouldn’t have tried it. It’s mean, painful to both mom and baby, very selfish and rarely works.

lucy on

Oh shut up, you dumb celebrity hunter. You got pregnant. Billions of women have done the same. So quit whining that you didn’t get to pull it out. Gross.

courtney on

I had a version and I dont think I was being selfish.

Stacey on

Megan, you can’t be stopped from having a baby vaginally even if you had a C-section. The dr just think you should have them from now on due to scar tissue making it more difficult for the baby to be pushed out. You can give birth how ever you want to give birth, a dr can’t stop you from it. They can only suggest what they “think” is best. Sadly some times they think a C-section is best for their schedule or pockets and not for the baby.

Charli Mabriel on

Justamom, Emily & Blair, thank you! I am beyond tired of hearing this debate. I had both of my babies via elective c-section. You should have seen the looks we got when we went on the hospital tour and were the only couple that raised their hands that yes we were having a c-section. Truth be told I’ve always felt that these pro-natural birth women (my aunt & mother-in-law included) are just jealous they blew of their you know whats to stand on some principle.

What???, you have some issues. The birth is a very small part of a child’s life and yours really – regardless of your “long recovery”, I was home in 48 hours to the minute both times. Talk about scaring women – grow up! You must be a really fun mom moping and complaining even though your child is healthy!

Jessica on

She sounds almost apologetic! She has nothing to feel bad about! The important thing is that she did the best thing for her baby’s safety. A healthy baby is all that matters – not how they were brought into the world.

Lali on

so tired of judgmental “moms”

Victoria on

@Shiela kerr She appeared on the Ricki Lake show, so i’m assuming one of the questions she askes Amber was how she delievered even after having it planned out. Personally, I don’t mind her sharing her birth experience. We are all women. Most of us have went through the process. Her story could help another mother in the same position.

y3lL0w on

I think her wishes of having a natural delivery are out the window now. No big deal. I had a c-section and glad I did (had to) I miss that I and the fam missed those first moments, but it is what it is, it’s about your health and baby’s health. He looks like he’s gorgeous tho! All c-section baby’s usually are bcuz they’re not pushed thru the canal. Good luck in the future!

Amanda on

My sister had an emergency c-section and a VBAC. So it is possible.

Eva on

The risk of uterine rupture during a VBAC for a woman who had a low, transverse incision with her prior C-section is less than 1%. Do your research RNMommy.

lisaisalefty on

Awe man, I feel for them. Cesarean is a last resort situation, and to plan a home birth, have the midwife and doula, and then have to abandon that, it’s rough. Still, she has a healthy baby. She and baby are healthy, so in the end, everything was successful. I wish them well…

Sara on

I had an inversion with my daughter, and I can totally relate. It’s extremely uncomfortable and very painful. Thankfully, she decided to cooperate & stayed head-down until I delivered 2-1/2 weeks later. Not sure I would go through that again though. I was bruised for over a week & felt like I was going to puke the whole time. The only fun part was watching her on the ultrasound screen for the hour before & after the procedure to make sure she was OK!

Good luck to you Amber!!

Anonymous on

Too bad she didn’t try chiropractic care- there is something performed by chiropractors called the Webster Breech technique and it is non-invasive and does not hurt at all! The treatment is very relaxing and helps realign the pelvis to allow the baby to turn. Sometimes it happens in 1 visit, sometimes it takes a few! There is a very high success rate too!

Whi on

Good article. I don’t know much about her but I know there are a lot of haters, but you have to admit, they both seemed to really have taken the pregnancy to heart and really get in and learn about it.

I also watched The Business of Being Born – first on my own, then again with my husband – and we both had the same reaction. For us, we just connected so intensely with the documentary and I really enjoyed it. Up until I watched it, I was scared about birth and how it would all work, and afterward I felt calmer. Yes, I was still worried, but that movie gave me more insight on what it is to labor and give birth and be connected.

I realize all birthing stories are different and not all go according to plan, but it’s great to be educated and realistic about what you want and what you can expect.

Kim on

Does anyone know the most dangerous time in a pregnancy??? The last 5 minutes! Do we need to medicalize pregnancy with what feels like 100′s of appointments? No! Is the safest thing for Mom and Baby to have a baby in a hospital with a Dr? Yes! As my OB said….you don’t want to know what I can do…but if there is a problem, you want me there not down the hall. When I had my daughter the Dr had to go down to the ER because a Mom came in with a botched planned home delivery…I believe the baby died! So think about that before considering have a home birth or even using a midwife….really, really bad choice! You hear the happy stories, not the sad. Btw…I have medical training myself.

AmyPondThat'sWho on

The number one rule about parenthood-Whatever you expect and would like to do isn’t going to happen 99% of the time. I’m glad all was okay with the little guy.

sarah on

When she was pregnant she said a doctor wouldn’t be touching her baby. That was extremely immature of her to say. Obviously, God showed who is in charge.

dk on

Part of the issue is with women automatically assuming it wasn’t necessary, justamom. It’s sad.

Msmittie on

Actually, you know what stinks? Not being able to have a baby at all. I would do anything for me and my husband to be able to have a child, c-section, water birth, home birth, whatever. I don’t want to read many of you on here complaining that your birth “plan” didn’t work out. Count your blessings.

MR on

You are full of it really.

stephanie on

@bb…. a certified nurse’s midwife would not do a home delivery with a patient trying to vbac… it’s a felony. they have to be working under an attending who is on hand if needed. you are comparing your abruption rate to that of being artificially induced … yet most doctors do not induce patients tryng to vbac and most won’t give the option the patient having epidural. the risk factors are much higher for patients to deliver vaginally after having a csection.

Chrisesmom on

Congratuations to Amber Rose on the birth of her baby son! Thankful they are both healthy and doing well! Congratulations to Wiz Khalifah also!

To all those women who have had C-Sections, is there any way to get rid of the pocket of skin that’s left over? My stomach jiggles uncontrollably every time I laugh too. These are just the a couple of the after affects I had. Was just curious if other C-Section mothers had similar experiences. What did some of you do to bounce back?

sookie on

As long as the baby is healthy, doesn’t matter how it is born.

What??? on

You CHARLI are one of the reasons that other women bash people who have c-sections. Most of us do not CHOOSE to have a c-section and schedule it like they are getting a haircut. I love my child and did what was best for him, NOT WHAT WAS EASY. A major surgery was hardly easy.

Tami on

As an RN I would say that it is not really safe to a VBAC at home. Can it be done yes but why risk your health and the babies? Uterine rupture is not common but it can happen and I would not take that chance you can give birth vaginally in the hospital and they will put the baby on your chest and give you a chance to bond just as easilly as home.

Some people get so caught up in their birth plan they get disappointed when it doesn’t happen. When I had my two kids I hoped for a vaginal birth but prepared for a C-section as well that way I wouldn’t be shocked if it happend. Just be happy that the baby is here and everyone is healthy.

M on

Mine also turned Colleen! – at 39 weeks.

Tee Tee on

This story saddens me. Babies can easily turn on their own and even if baby doesn’t, (certain types of) breech babies can safely be delivered vaginally at home! I wish Amber Rose had had a midwife willing to continue with her. Still might have ended in a surgical birth but it wasn’t guaranteed that a natural birth was out.

J Diesel on

It depends on the reason for the c-section, Margje. Some women and doctors are fine with trying VBAC, others have more serious reasons for not being able to try. There is a risk with VBAC involving rupturing your uterus.

Charli Mabriel on

What???, I have to say huh? So are you saying I chose the easy way because to be honest, I do find scheduling haircut easy, or the hard way since your surgery was oh-so terrible?

I have no idea what about my comment invites bashing. Whether it’s a mom working vs. staying @ home or bottle vs. nursing, or this issue, I always stand on the right of a mother to choose what is best for her child. I support women – I choose not to judge their decisions because I certainly don’t want anyone’s nose in my business.

shanice on

Wiz and Amber are so beautiful together, you can just feel the love between the two. Their baby is gorgeous as well.

Melisa on

I had a C Section on my fourth son. I was not intending to do it. I started going into heart failure so it was a no brainer. To be honest, I just wanted it all to be over by then.

Lisa on

hbm, the main reason why Dr’s recommend future c-sections after you’ve had one isn’t b/c of the scar tissue making it more difficult, although that is part of it. It’s mainly b/c the previous scar is at risk of rupturing due to stress of labor. It’s not common for that to happen but it does & most of the time it results in death. I work for an OBGYN & can tell you I’ve seen a number of women that this happened too & unfortunately most of them did not make it. Obviously dr’s can’t force women to have future c-sections but they recommend it with the thought in mind that “what if this woman is the rare case where her uterus ruptures”? The whole point is not just healthy baby but healthy mom as well.

Lisa on

Eva, so if someone put 100 guns on a table & 99 were empty but 1 was loaded would you pick one at random & put it to your head & pull the trigger? I know I wouldn’t!

Schae on

I’m not even pregnant and I already know when I do become pregnant that I will have to have a C-section after having had multiple hair-line fractures in my left hip as the result of an accident. I’ve been told that by several doctors already. As long as the mom and baby are healthy, it’s really no one else’s business!

Someone's Mommy on

My son was breech but ended up turning on his own so my planned c-section was cancelled. My doctor refused to do the version procedure…said it was far too risky to the baby. But from what I’m reading here it seems fairly common.

Monica on

Sarah – Versions, while painful, are not mean. Keep in mind a person requests a version. Agrees to attempt a version in the hopes of having a vaginal delivery. A version is never forced on somebody. At least not where I work. And while the success rate isn’t fabulous with primips (first time moms) success is possible, and multip (second or more pregnancy) success rate is even higher.

Sophia on

I don’t understand why a breech baby automatically equals c-section, or why she immediately thought she couldn’t have the peaceful, natural birth she wanted??? Breech babies are delivered vaginally- and safely- every day, it’s just a matter of having the right information and not creating a fear in women that doesn’t need to be there. Not trying to make anyone feel bad, but it just seems like having a c-section, particularly in the US, is the go-to/easy-way-out if there is anything at all to suggest that a birth may not be a nice, neat 5-hour affair.

Just my two cents, the main thing is that she has a healthy baby, I just think there’s a lot to be said for the way a baby enters the world, and the respect that is given to a mother’s wishes regarding her birth experience.

Cathy on

After 17 hours of hard labour I had a non-planned c-section. It was what was best for me and our son. In the end all that matters is you and your baby have a safe delivery. It’s awesome if you can give birth naturally but some can’t. And at the end of the day you don’t get a gold star to wear the rest of your life telling the world you did it au natural.

josy on

What’s it to anyone? seriously, I had a C-Section and it’s no ones business WHY I had one. I am sick of having to “explain” to the world why I HAD to have a C-Section because I feel like they are looking down on me. Kids don’t remember their births and what REALLY matters is how you raise your kid AFTER the birth not during. Now days pretty much any way you go is safe and we shouldn’t judge others for their choices because no one knows the full story. Yes, maybe if she waited a little longer her baby would of turned and then again maybe she waits and it doesn’t, you weren’t there you weren’t feeling what she was feeling and at the end of the day you know what is best for you and your child.

jj on

Kind of bizarre to be so concerned about having a natural childbirth experience, yet putting all that chemical sh!t on her face, lips, hair, every single day. Stupid.

Sara on

I love Amber Rose. She is so absolutely gorgeous and refreshingly real. Whoever judges her and her man as a couple needs to step back and take a look at themselves first as the Bible says “Let he who is without sin cast the first stone.”

Just because he raps and is heavily tattooed doesn’t mean anything about his character. They are clearly a normal couple who are in love and just had their first baby.

Wishing them all the best. I LOVE Ricki Lake, too, and am so glad she has her own show again! She, too, is so refreshingly honest and down-to-earth. Watching the Business of Being Born during my two pregnancies really changed my life, too!

Andrea on

I had a successful VBAC 3 yrs after a C-section, and I was SO glad I went that route! There was no way I could have recovered from major surgery and looked after TWO kids at the same time. Most women are good candidates for VBAC, but sadly you may have to hunt for a hospital that’s willing to try it even if you are a low-risk candidate; many hospitals shy away from it for insurance reasons, but the fear is overblown for women who are low-risk for a rupture.

Honestly, after having done both (and my vaginal delivery was ROUGH) I can’t understand why anyone would choose a C-section. Best of luck to Amber!

Sarah on

Good Lord! Aren’t women supposed to be supportive of each other? Yet we are constantly tearing each other down. Do what you believe is right for you and your child. Why does it matter to you what someone else does? It drives me crazy when people make judgements on those without knowing the situation. So quick we are to judge.

I had two vaginal deliveries but epidural both times. Want to jump all over me for that? I know most of you would. I had very good reasons but many of you will hear that and get judgy without knowing the rest. Same with formula v breast. A stranger made me cry because she yelled at me in public for formula feeding my 2 month old. How could she have known I had just started after my pediatrician said to because he wasn’t thriving because I wasn’t “producing”? She couldn’t. Please stop tearing each other down because it’s situational for everyone. Women be supportive of each other and our choices!

Side note: these conversations always remind me of that scene in “Bsby Mama” in the birthing class…”whoop whoop!”

Anonymous on

Chrisesmom, I had the same lovely pocket following my two csections…sorry to say but after busting my butt at the gym etc it was going nowhere. Just stretched skin. I had a tummy tuck once I knew we were finished having kids.

Stacey on

I had a c-section because my daughter was breech and they tried the inversion with no luck. Three years later I had a VBAC, best decision I ever made. Recovery with vaginal birth is half of that with a c-section. Both of my kids are healthy.

Emily on

I’m a labor and delivery nurse, and we do VBACs at my hospital all the time. Most women are candidates, depending on their history (you can’t safely VBAC if you have had a vertical uterine incision, because that greatly increases your chance for uterine rupture; however, that incision is rarely used in the US unless the baby was VERY preterm). If your first c-section was “the baby’s fault” – such as malpresentation, fetal distress, multiple gestation – you’ll probably have a higher success rate than, say, a woman who pushed for 3 hours but just couldn’t get the baby to descend.

The risk of uterine rupture is between 0.5-0.9% on a scarred uterus. From what I understand, the problem most hospitals run into if a patient wants to VBAC is staffing issues – if a patient wants to VBAC, an anesthesiologist must be readily available in the hospital, just in case the worst happens. Given the length of time it can take a woman to dilate and push a kid out, especially if she’s being induced, many hospitals just don’t want to bother with it. But they don’t want to lose your “business,” so instead of referring you to a capable hospital (like mine! Benefit of working in a teaching hospital) that WILL let you VBAC, they’ll scare you into a repeat section.

I just bored myself with my own comment. Bottom line, please educate yourself before you make a decision!

VanessaGa81 on

Um…FYI, I had both of my children vaginally and I can assure you that, a) my “hoo-ha” is not “blown”, whatever that means, and b) I am in no way jealous of anyone’s c section. No, I do not understand why anyone chooses an elective c section, which is riskier for both mother and child, but if that’s what you wanted to do, own it and get over yourself. Other people gave you looks? If you’re secure in your decision, that shouldn’t matter.

blossomclinic on

As a VBAC mom, I encourage you to try for a vaginal birth next time. And if the baby is breech again, begin acupuncture and moxa at 34 weeks when the baby still has room to turn. Many blessings!

Jen on

One of my twins turned 3 days before he/she was born. Yeah, have a back up plan for the c-section, but unless there is a medical emergency or the water breaks, or she goes into labor, wait it out.

Magnolia on

Colleen, I was almost 2 weeks late and still breech. Plus, you don’t know if there was nuchal cord issues where the cord wraps around the baby’s neck… That’s an EMERGENT situation! You need to get that baby out!

Magnolia on

Megan, the right kind of doctor will encourage you to have what’s called a VBAC (vaginal birth after cesarean) as they think it’s very healthy… At least around my area…

Jennifer on

I have never, ever understood this desire for a “perfect” natural homebirth. I honestly didn’t give a damn how my son was born as long as he came out okay. And he did.

Ricki Lake’s documentary is actually quite dangerous, and it creates a lot of pressure for women to try to create some mystical birth experience that, in reality, does not exist. Birth in nature is NOTHING like privileged Western women would like to think it is. My OB/GYN travels overseas to underdeveloped nations and has done work repairing fistulas and other complications resulting from labor that goes on for days and sometimes results in a dead baby in addition to damage to a woman’s body. Thank God for modern obstetrics.

Jane on

I had my son in a hospital, epidural and whatever other drugs I needed. When he was born I was 100% aware and not half as tired as I would have been if I didn’t get the epidural and sleep all night. When they pulled him out he was put immediately on my chest. I felt really lucky because I know anything could have happened that would have made that moment impossible. My point is you can still have that without a home birth, but I know it’s not for everyone. Do what makes you comfortable but always be willing to change your birth plan for your baby’s safety.

Carly on

The risk of uterine rupture during a birth after someone has had a c-section in a previous birth is 1.6%. So for those ranting that the risk to mom and baby is too high, too dangerous, etc… please know the facts before using scare tactics.

For those of you not being offered a trial of labour after a c-section, GET A SECOND OPINION ELSEWHERE. Success rates of VBAC range from 60-85%.

Manda on

Breech babies can be born vaginally, you just have to find a provider who knows how to do it. Regarding VBAC and home birth, be sure to do lots of research. I personally know at least a dozen women who have given birth at home, and some of those were VBACs. Oh, and several of those VBAC home births babies weighed over 9 pounds — one was over 12! Mom and baby are fine.

Kia on

No way I would VBAC at home. My birth “experience” is to have a live, non brain damaged baby. I’ll be having my VBAC in a well equipped hospital with constant monitoring, and where I don’t have to worry about a transport in the event of a rupture. And I’m perfectly OK with being rolled into the OR to have another section if plan A doesn’t work out.

In addition to that I’m tired of the whole natural birth movement. This people have got to be the most judgmental, arrogant, narcissistic, moralistic people ever. They have created an illusion of the mystical natural birth. In reality, women died and babies died….a lot….in so called natural child birth. Birth is one of the most dangerous times for a female and the offspring. Nature is dangerous and unpredictable and when the bad happens to you, it happens to you.

You’re “birth experience” shouldn’t over-ride your child’s well-being.

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