Idina Menzel: Balancing Work and Motherhood ‘Tortures Me’

04/20/2013 at 02:00 PM ET

Idina Menzel Work Motherhood Balance
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Idina Menzel has a loving husband, a beautiful preschoolerย and a thriving career โ€“ but having it all is not easy.

“I think I do a decent job at it — or at least people tell me I do,” Menzel tells PEOPLE of balancing her work and family.

Walker‘s potty-training and handled it like a champ. He still has his pacifier — he’s 3ยฝ — and that bothers me. I’m trying not to judge — it’s because we travel so much that I don’t like to mess him up in too many ways.”

Menzel, 41, is currently workshopping the new musical If/Then in New York City, thousands of miles away from her home in Los Angeles where she and husband Taye Diggs are raising their son.

“It’s hard trying to make the decision to keep him in L.A. so he can go to school with his friends. He would be with a babysitter or have to travel to me to New York where I am rehearsing all day — but at least he’s with Mommy,” says the Glee actress. “It’s those kind of decisions that torture me all the time.”

Luckily, she has her husband of 10 years to support her.

“We work at it,” Menzel says of her marriage to Diggs. “I’m not going to glamorize it or glorify it — we go through tough times like everybody else, but we love each other very much. We try not to be away from each other for more than two weeks at a time and we try to find new ways to communicate.”

Menzel recently discovered her husband’s heroic side after he chased down a burglar whom the couple found in their home after returning from the SAG Awards in January.

“He was quite the macho man there,” Menzel says of Diggs, 42. “I was annoyed with him though because I thought it was stupid. The guy could have been armed and he could have been hurt.”

But that doesn’t mean Menzel did not appreciate his heroism.

“I was frustrated with him for doing it,” she says. “But his instinct came in — his child and wife were in the house — so afterward it was sexy to me.”

โ€” Patrick Gomez

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Anonymous on

It took me 3 1/2 years to get rid of my son’s pacifier, and only b/c he had a case of impetigo. He watched us throw his last/only remaining pacifier in the trash. He cried for it at bedtime for two nights then forgot all about it. Good luck to you!

Erin on

Love this family!

Amy on

I’ve never seen a high schooler with a pacifier- your child will give it up eventually ๐Ÿ™‚

My 3 year old carries an empty bottle around with her everywhere she goes. Doesn’t drink from it- just likes to carry it.

I get so many mean states and comments.. It amazes me how people look the other way when people mistreat their kids , feed them junk food or neglect them. Yet- people are quick to comment when a child has a pacifier / bottle at an older age or if a mom breast feeds her kid “too long”. …

When your kid wants to give up his pacifier, he will do do. I believe taking a kids security item away is mean :/

ccct0304 on

Wow Amy, I love your comment! I couldn’t agree more. My daughter stopped using her pacifier two months before turning 6. I don’t see what’s the big deal. I know of kids that were taken their paci away and replaced it with their thumbs so either way its a loose loose situation in some cases.

MJ on

I read someone post – they never saw a high schooler with a pacifier. Well, I personally have seen a grown man who sucks his thumb at night. It is a habit his parents never broke him from as a toddler. Parents have a responsibility to encourage and assist their kids to give up pacifiers and blankies, it is hard but it is real.

Amy on


Are you the grown man sucking your thumb at night ?

That’s wild.

Zeze on

No Amy, she is married to him, lol!

Teresa on

Blankies??? Really MJ?? I am a mother of three grown children they each had a favorite blankie and while they stopped carrying them they all STILL have them and use them in their rooms. We all need something when we are sick or stressed. Please.

derbot on

Teresa, I’m almost 38 and love to hold onto a stuffed animal still. I am very sentimental and also there’s a need for security for me. I’m not afraid to admit it.

Amy on

Maybe his parents took away his pacifier before he was ready to give it up. Think about it.

JMO on

The longer you wait the harder it is to wean. By age 2 it should be gone atleast for the daytime & by 3 it should be gone for good. My niece was 3 & they had to just basically rip it away. Two days of whining and it was all over with. Now at 8 she has no recollection of having it taken away. And yes l also know adults who suck their thumbs!

Amy on

I think women get on their little high horses with taking their kids’ stuff away that they are attached to. Instead , maybe those parents can get a hobby or part time employment. And adults that suck their thumbs need to take up smoking or caffeine instead .

Shaksndn on

Amy, did you really just suggest that people take up a murderous habit?! Wtf?

Carol on

Amy, very intelligent answer there encouraging someone to take up smoking in order to break another habit. Are you for real? Smoking kills. I haven’t seen any die yet from sucking their thumbs.

Zeze on

Ummm…ya Carol, I think Amy was joking.

Ivy. on

I saw the picture before I read the title. I got super excited for a split second thinking she was expecting again.

To each his own. Some kids need a pacifier at an older age, some don’t. And like Idina said, they travel a lot so he may be more attached to it than an average child. I slept with a security blanket until I was 12. Eventually I noticed it would always end up on the floor when I woke up so I just decided to stop bringing it to bed.

Anonymous on

Amy- “It amazes me how people look the other way when people mistreat their kids , feed them junk food or neglect them.” How can you possibly compare feeding kids junk food to mistreating them or neglecting them?

While junk food can certainly be harmful if it’s all you feed to kids or if you feed it to them constantly, it’s perfectly fine in moderation. And we can’t possibly know which of those categories the mom buying her son a candy bar at the grocery store or the father taking his daughter on an ice-cream “date” at the mall fall into it. So we have no right to judge!

Anyway, as far as Idina is concerned, I love how “real” she sounds! And I’m sure Walker won’t be carrying his pacifer to Kindergarten with him!

nelly on

Way to go Amy!

Xan on

Since this is an anonymous post, I can admit that I’m an adult woman who sucks her thumb. I’ve got two advanced degrees, a husband, and am starting a new great career. No one but my immediate family and husband know.

Thumb sucking doesn’t rule my life, it’s just something I catch myself doing every now and again. My loved ones get a bit annoyed and always call me out on it, but it’s never been a deal breaker in a relationship.

Wish I could stop, though. I had to get braces as an adult and I’m worried my teeth will go back to looking awful if I don’t quit.

rockslikebob on

Good for you for admitting it Xan!

SLB on

No one thinks twice if a kid has a security blanket or stuffed animal that they drag everywhere. It is their security and it is no different than sucking your thumb or having a pacifier. My Dr. said the concern with thumb sucking or pacifiers is that it could affect their pallet/teeth however when there is no issue with either leave and they will outgrow the pacifier.

My son is 3 1/2 and still uses a pacifier. I don’t like him having them because he is quite obsessive about having them and knowing where they are. However, they are security to him and most of the time he is perfectly happy with just knowing where they are. If he is truly in a state of unravel he will actually use it and he never uses them in public so really what is the harm? It is old school thinking and only woman who are clearly uninvolved in their own child’s life care about what another parentโ€™s child has in their mouth. Chillax!

Marky on

This couple is just so great together, and I would hate to see them split, ever. They seem to just love each other so much and to love their little boy. It is hard, in their business, to keep a marriage intact, to figure out how to raise their child, and this couple deserves credit for working to keep their family doing well!

Sandy on

Believe me when I tell you this!! Your child WILL NOT die if you throw the paci’s away. Yes- your child may cry a little or ask for it- just say- Paci’s are all gone.

My daughter was totally addicted to her paci. I finally found all of them and threw them away. She was looking for one and pretended to help find one. Then I just said- I guess your a big girl now because the paci’s went bye, bye. She was fine.

Asked for them a few times- I just read her a story or found something fun to do to take her mind off of them. Within a day or two- she never asked again. I think it’s more for mom because those things keep toddlers quiet!

Aisha on

Every child is different. Just because your daughter was able to deal so well, doesn’t mean other children will too.

Kyra on

My former babysitter made the decision when to take my security blanket away at an early age without the permission of my parents.

I’ve been told that the trauma eventually wears off. I’m only 36, so there is still time and I’m sure I’ll eventually stop internet shopping for a replica someday. ๐Ÿ˜•

caprde on

It’s a pacifier . . . let’s put this is the perspective with what happened in Boston and Texas this week. Common, why does anyone feel the need to even have an opinion about it. A pacifier is such non issue. I’m amazed at parents who parent so well that they feel the need to comment on other families. Enjoy the story for what it is. Entertainment. They seem like a lovely family who shared a bit a of their reality with us.

Stacey on

I let my 4 boys keep their pacifier’s until they were around four years old. Shortly before their fourth birthday I would start secretly throwing them away . When they had all been disposed of and they would start searching for one, I just told them that one would turn up sometime soon. They all accepted that and completely forgot about them in a few days.

jay on

As a dentist, I can tell you its NOT okay to let your child have a pacifier past the age of 2 although I tell parents 1. I cannot tell you how many kids I have to put braces on because of this. Once the jaw starts to form, a pacifier causes the gums to mold around out thereby causing the teeth that are coming in to shift. So if youre willing to spend thousands on orthodontia in the future because you feel its mean to take away “security”, that’s fine. But remember that when your child is in pain while procedures are being performed on their mouths. I see it almost every day.

Zeze on

Wow, I bet your patients love you jay!

Cheryl on

Thank you jay! My brother had to get a lot of work done just to get his mouth prepped for braces because my parents allowed it until he was three. We didn’t use a paci for either one of our children. When people acted shocked over our decision, we just said that they would never get attached to it or have anxiety over giving it up if they never used it.

Anonymous on

if you say he is handling potty training like a champ you are “judging.” Judging doesn’t mean condemnation, it means issuing an opinion. A judgment can be positive too.

Jean on

My mother soaked my pacifier in vinegar when I was 4 and told me it went sour so I would throw it away. I remember waving goodbye to it as my mother put it in the trash can outside. Not traumatic – much- but probably needed to be done. I think that was a pretty smart move!

Jen on

Celebrity Baby Blog: Where every article turns into an anonymous parenting debate…

Megan on

Marriage is work, but you make a choice and then you work at it. Love is a choice, in my opinion.

Guest on

Opinions (especially about kids) are like butt holes. Everyone has one.

nic on

We were told by our pediatrician that the sucking reflex ends at about six months, but kids don’t start to form an attachment until nine months. Armed with that info, I noticed all four of my kids starting spitting the pacis out at about five months. The day we noticed this, we threw them all out. It was the best way to do it.

I highly recommend that method for anyone with newborns, or who is expecting. My kids never cried for their Pacis never noticed they were gone, and it wasn’t the slightest bit stressful. I think not having a pacifier, also smoothed other transitions too. There was never a request to take drinks to bed, and switching from bottle to sippy was easy too.

lisa on

Pacifiers are gross… I say that and both my toddlers used them until the 12-18 months. As soon as they turned 6 months they were no longer allowed to have it outside of their crib. My husband and I took away their pacifiers cold turkey… it took a couple nights of crying (15 min or less) and then it was forgotten. When a child starts walking around and constantly has it in his or her mouth… they set it down anywhere then pop it back in… yuck. Children are a lot more adaptable than parents give them credit for… you just need to be there for emotional support.

BlueSkidoo on

Jay, you’ll pardon me if I don’t take the advice of a dentist online rather than my own dentist. We had a pediatric specialist actually say he preferred the pacifier due to the way my son ground his teeth, because it protected his teeth and jaw, and he was far too young to be fitted for a mouth guard without it being a choking hazard.

Also, it’s not harder to wean them of it when they’re older. It’s actually easier.

People who judge this stuff stink.

BlueSkidoo on

Oh and we were told different information on the forming of teeth and jaw than you give, since pacifiers are not a fixed item like a thumb, they mold with the mouth. Not a single one of my four children have orthodontia issues, so I guess you can count them out of those you claim to see every day. It’s amazing how many dentists disagree with you as well. Starting something with “as a dentist” and then stating your opinion still doesn’t make it fact. You can say you PREFER your patients not use it after a certain age, but to state it as “it is not okay” is just arrogance and misinformation.

Anonymous on

I had trouble with sucking my thumb through college. I was always so embarrassed. I still catch myself doing it when I’m sick every once in a while. I wanted my kids to use a pacifier because I knew I could take it away, then they wouldn’t have to go through what I did growing up. Worked like a charm when I took it away at 18 months with the first one (Just a little extra fussy at night) Then when I took it away with the second she didn’t cry, she just quietly ripped out a bunch of hair that night in her crib and ended up with a large bald spot. Point being, every kid is different and what works for one may not for the other. Don’t assume that just because it was easy or hard with your kid, it will be the same for another!

Aisha on

Oh my! Good point & excellent story to prove it!

Momto2 on

I had to read this article twice to realize that her child is only 3- why does it really matter if your child is in school with their friends at the age of 3? What your son needs is his Mom!!

Kevin on

Momto2, I think the use of the conditional “would” means that she was speaking of the future situation. She and Taye want to live in L.A., but Idina is most often working in NYC. I think she’s saying in the future, it would be an issue.

janey on

Son had soother at bed time till he was 4.5 and he survived ๐Ÿ˜‰ Only reason I finally put foot down was because he kept stealing his twin baby sister’s!!

Sound like a great grounded couple and wish them all the best.

Mar Mar on

What a cute couple.

As for pacifiers, I think it depends on the child. My husband said no pacifiers for my daughter before she was born & now she’s 17 months. He realizes now, it’s a security thing for get. I was talking to him about weening her off it by the time she’s 2 & he was like she’ll stop when she’s ready. (She only uses it when she’s extremely tired & cranky.

Hateful People on

I lucked out with my son because he never used a paci. He went from being nursed to a sippy cup so we didn’t have a bottle issue either. But you know what – big damn deal. If he used a bottle or pacifer or walked around with a blankie. every kid and parent is different. what I find sad are the people who complain that parents don’t parent and when parents do parent they get hammered by the holier than thous louses out there. Pretty sad people pretty damn sad.

Abby on

Beautiful couple, beautiful family! Both parents are so talented, little Walker hit the musical gene pool lottery.

Lisa M. on

I LOVED the pacifier for my 1st daughter. I could control when and where she could have it. I got rid of it at 22 months because my 2nd daughter was due the following month and I wanted it forgotten about before the new baby came (I knew I wouldn’t have time to break her from it then). Well, my 2nd daughter REFUSED the pacifier, no matter how much I tried. She’s 2 now and is a constant thumb-sucker. It’s A LOT easier to take away a paci since you can’t take away a thumb!!

pug_lover on

I love them and love RENT! The original broadway cast was definitely the best cast!

Windy on

My daughter was like 2ยฝ when we got rid of her binkys. I basically switched the binky for a stuffed animal or doll. She’s now almost 4 and can’t sleep without her stuffed mickey mouse doll.

SuzyQ on

She shouldn’t pay attention to other people. She knows her little boy. I never gave any of my kids pacifiers, but the youngest one sucked his thumb. His grandpa was upset about it and wanted me to put something nasty on his thumb, but I assured him that he would stop when he was ready, and he did, somewhere around 5.

Anonymous on

My son was so dependant on his pacifier that he used it 24/7 (and he was getting way too old for it). He wouldn’t even talk to people. I finally cut the very tip off of it and the next time he put it in his mouth, it didn’t feel right when he sucked it. He declared “it’s broken” and walked over and threw it in the garbage. Problem solved.

jay on

Blue, then thank your lucky stars. I was not passing out advice, I was telling you what I see on a daily basis at MY practice in NY.

Lu on

My son had a pacifier until 3 & a half, didn’t really talk much until then, was toilet trained about the same time. He was a State of Ohio honor student, an Eagle scout, had the most community hours for his graduating class, received a full NROTC scholarship & completed 2 tours of duty in Iraq as a Marine. Don’t worry, just love your child.

Anonymous on

It all works out in the end. Just love hard… and don’t listen to anyone but your own hearts and gods. All will bless you and will be good. God bless you both.

Anonymous on

To the mom who let her 6 year old have a paci- sounds like you just didn’t want your daughter to grow up. Sorry but a 6 year old walking around with a paci is pathetic and I’m sure everyone who saw her was laughing at you both

Steph on

I love this comment thread! I sucked my thumb until I was 12- damn thing was attached to me and couldn’t be yanked away! There- I told all of you:)

Anonymous on

Because this is anonymous I can admit I still have a security blanket I sleep with and I am 21 years old. I will say the only reason why I cannot bring myself to give it up is because I have had it for 10 years and in that 10 years one tragic thing after another has happened to me. I needed it to stay connected to my family. It does not matter how old you are you need something that connects to something safe and familiar to you. A pacifier for a 3 1/2 year old well maybe it is a bit to long its nothing to criticize about. I know kids who still suck there thumbs at 5 1/2 and 3.

Andrea on

I sucked my thumb until I was ten years old. Now, when I say I sucked my thumb, I mean I did it all the time. At school, home, and in bed. My parents fought hard to break the habit but nothing ever worked. Yes, even hot sauce did not stop me.

Now, my teeth are horrible. My jaw is not lined properly, there is a gap in my front teeth, and I have a moderate over bite. I’ve had three sets of braces and not one was successful. Even with a retainer, my teeth went back to “normal.” Yes, sucking your thumb can be bad. It’s okay to let your kid suck their thumb or have a binky but until a certain age. I highly suggest before they turn 10. Lol

m on

Amy, both of my parents were diagnosed with cancer this year. Are you suggesting that instead of really parenting their kids, they should take up addictive, unhealthy, vices, such as smoking and caffeine? Really?

guest v on

Famous last words, they’ll be divorcing next. When people start talking about how hard they work on their marriage, something is wrong. Marriage is work, working on it is not exclusive, to anyone in particular. But if you have to tell people that you do, then there’s problem.

krtmom on

I’m surprised the kid doesn’t have buck teeth! Get rid of the pacifier, he’s too old for it. He’ll get over it!

krtmom on

I am a teacher and I have seen a first grade girl ride up to school in the car with a pacifier in her mouth!!! I was astonished. Not to mention what her front teeth looked like! So those of you who think it’s okay and that he won’t go to Kindergarten with a pacifier, think again!!! Lazy parenting!

krtmom on

By the way, he shouldn’t still be potty training at 3 1/2. Grow some balls parents! Who runs the show here???

Mary on

Children are not born with a book of instructions. We all do our best and do what we feel is right. There are no right and wrong answers. Love and cherish your children and the rest takes care of itself.

Jessie on

Disagree, Mary. There is an abundant supply of child developmental psychology books that one can pick up and refer to, much as one would do with a manual. Those who might find such material intimidating or inaccessible can find simplified, yet sound parenting information from books like the “What to Expect” series. I’m quite frustrated by the “kids don’t come with institutions” position, as it often accompanies questionable parenting choices.

norosecoloredglspls on

I absolutely loved my pediatrician in H-Town…back in the day…

1) she asked how I felt about schedules. (pregnant with first child) I respond” I don’t do I feel about schedules?” She asked me “are you hungry at the same time everyday?” “no” “well neither is a baby, baby will let you know when she/he is hungry, next question?”

2) I say, “I don’t like binkies” she said “(since you’re breastfeeding) you’re the pacifier”…”besides babies won’t miss what they never had” (no separation trauma here)

3) “sippee cups?” I replied “got a few at baby shower” “not sure they’re a good thing” she replied “use a bottle without the collar and nipple. the opening is smaller. they’ll make the same mess transitioning from a sippee cup to a regular glass. this way you’re bypassing one more useless cup to clean and keep up with the pieces”

My girls are just fine. Had one thumb sucker, but she took care of that on her own.

Love you Blanca Azios!

Kate on

I LOVE her honesty about balancing motherhood and work and working on her marriage. I have been struggling with these same issues, and I am grateful to her for being SO REAL!!!

marie on

I just LOVE LOVE LOVE Idina!

Kevin on

I’m not a parent, but did help raise my little brother as I am 12 years older than he. What I always did when it came to his security items (never a pacifier, but thumb sucking and blankies), we would talk openly about the feeling he got by having his thumb in his mouth or holding on to his blankies, why he felt he needed that feeling, and what else might give him that feeling.

Kids are much more open to honest discussion than you might think. He stopped his thumb at about 4, and stopped blankies at about 10. The other side is that when he answered perfectly rationally to my questions, I would not bother stopping the behavior. When he told me he was ready, then we all helped him.

Anon on

I think my favorite thing when a toddler asks for a pacifier/bottle is to say very innocently, “Oh, the mouse took it way.” Or a rabbit, or a duck. For a two year old, somehow a small animal running off with their pacifier is perfectly logical.

RiRI on

omg..He still has a pacifier.WTF! Learn to structure your child not to be dependent on a pacifier. ugh.

Anonymous on

they are a super sexy couple, wow/! I cut my little girls passi, like a 1.2 inch for a few days, then a little more, then more, took about a week she was fussy but got over it

hbm on

Im 21 years old married and I’m 4 months pregnant. I take my Hannah Montana throw cover every where i go. I hate rides in cars so it helps me. So I have no problems with kids and their bottles or paci.

lola on

Pacifiers and blankies?! No, No, No. Life will not always be kind and patient. A child learns at a very young age how to cope and deal with life. You as the adult cannot continue to allow your child to use these as a crutch. I can’t believe some parents just want to give in to their children.

Jood on

Wow there sure are a lot of perfect parents on the internet. You probably have to brag on the internet because nobody in real life wants to hear your holier than thou bragging. It is a sign of immaturity. When you get older and more mature you will realize there is no such thing as a perfect parent

Angie on

I’m not judging but I don’t agree either. A child that old shouldn’t be sucking on a pacifier still but it is better than a bottle. With all 3 of mine, I took their pacifiers away at 6 months and their bottles either at or before 1. I would introduce an empty sippy cup as soon as they could hold onto something (around 4 months) so they could get used to the feel of it and eventually, the way to use it. It worked great with my 3 kids. In fact, my youngest was off the bottle at 10 months old (he still drank his formula through the cup though).

I sucked my thumb until I was 12 and I know what I went through with that..I didn’t want my kids to have the same teeth problems that I did..and do. I do think every child, and every parent, is different though. We have to do what is best for our children and us, no matter what anyone else thinks.

Michelle on

When my daughter was two, I cut the tip of her pacifier off, and when she realized she wouldn’t suck right anymore, she threw it away herself. Worked like a charm!

K on

A story about a mom trying to make it work and you.are.all arguing with each other. You are the same people shocked by all the violence you read about too right? :/ Change starts with YOU.

pia razon on

They’ll be divorced within two years. Whenever a woman gives an interview proclaiming she has to work at her marriage . . . is annoyed that her husband fought to save her and her child . . . and makes sure she and her husband are never more than 2 weeks apart . . . divorce is soon to follow. They have some issues and he will be stepping out with another woman a little more willing to make him a priority and offer him more praise in the near future.

Heidi Quayle on

They sound like a humble, real couple who understand what marriage takes.

Re: the pacifier, I had a friend who took her daughter to a toy store and told her that she could pay for a toy she wanted with her pacifier. Don’t stress the small stuff, they grow up before you know it.

JJ on

I’m going to be 22 in a few days and I still have my same baby blanket from when I was a newborn! It keeps me safe and I feel good with it. It’s been with me to France, Russia, Argentina, Chile, and Peru! I will have it forever if I can! I’m perfectly normal aside from that haha ๐Ÿ™‚

Steph on

I have a very sexy ex boyfriend who brought his blanket to college! He slept with it most nights and it didn’t go to class with him! Some ‘crutches’ are okay and really rather sweet and harmless!

Amber on

They have a beautiful relationship and son. The seem like real, genuine people who work hard like everyone else. I wish them all the best!

Jennifer on

Just sharing my paci experience…decided to take paci away shortly after 2 because I thought my daughters teeth were starting to form a “v” shape. What I did was cut the nipple almost all the way off all her the look on her face was priceless when it kept falling out of her mouth. She tried a couple different times then was over it bc they didnt work anymore lol

Anonymous on

pia razon- She said she was annoyed with Taye for chasing down the burglar because she was worried that he (Taye) might have gotten hurt or killed in the process. That sounds pretty loving to me (plus, she made it clear that she understood after the fact why he did it and now is grateful that he did!)!

And Matt and Luciana Damon also have the “two-week” rule (Matt has said so in interviews), and they have been married for nearly a decade now (an eternity in Hollywood)! So I’m sorry to dissapoint you, but a celeb admitting that they and their spouse have to work at their marriage like any “normal” couple doesn’t always mean trouble in paradise!

Anonymous on

krtmom- Not being completely potty-trained at 3 and 1/2 is hardly the end of the world! I wasn’t completely potty trained until I was four, and guess what? I’m just fine! ๐Ÿ˜‰

Every kid is different, and there is no one size fits all method for parenting!

lovely123 on

Pacifiers are betters than thumbs. Our last child sucks her thumb – she is now two. Does anyone have any words of wisdom regarding thumb-suckers? The doctor said we should start preventative measure around the 3 year mark.

Anon on

I never gave either of my sons pacifiers and neither of them sucked their thumb. If pacifiers are used to ‘quiet’ your child down, why can’t comfort or cuddling or providing what they really need be used? Why start your child on something that will have to be ‘stopped’ at some point? I don’t get that. Just like baby talk. Why baby talk to them??? Eventually you’ll have to re-train them to ‘speak’ properly…makes no sense.

jillianblackburn on

I love it when stars can be honest about their everyday struggles! It’s nice that she’s willing to admit she has to work on her marriage like everyone else.

Jessica on

There was a comment regarding your children not dying if you took their paci away. My sister was very attached to her paci and also had a lot of medical issues relating to asthma. My Mom tried to take it away from her at about age 3 my sister ended up in such hysterics that night she had to be hospitalized after having an asthma attack. She did give it up eventually on her own but at that time it was her security and she needed it. Why not stop being so judgemental on everyone elses parenting? None of us ahve all the answers nor is there a perfect parent out there.

sherry on

I can’t believe how many adults on here have crutches like blankets and stuffed animals!! That is astonishing!! Time to grow up and deal with life! Too many parents are also lazy and don’t want t take the time to get rid of the crutches that their children have..Sorry to say no one ever said parenting was easy!!

smiavs on

Guest V and Pia, they always talk about working hard on their marriage in interviews, it doesn’t mean they’re having problems. Interviewers seem to constantly ask any showbiz couple that has managed to stay together more than a few years how they make it work; it’s likely that whoever she was talking to asked a question along those lines. They’ve been a couple since they worked together in RENT, (in 1995) and have spoken about making it work and staying in the same city as much as possible since then. The two week rule has to do with their kid, because they realize he needs both his parents.