Jessica Alba: Cash and I Are ‘Kindred Spirits’

01/08/2013 at 09:00 AM ET

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Love may not have struck at first sight for Jessica Alba and Cash Warren, but the pair’s instant connection was enough to last a lifetime.

“I just knew when I met him that I was going to know him forever. It was weird; He instantly felt like family,” the Escape from Planet Earth actress, 31, says in InStyle‘s February issue.

“I’d never felt like that with anyone. We got each other. We’re kindred spirits.”

Following their “very, very, very short” run as friends, the couple began dating and eventually tied the knot in 2008 before welcoming daughters Honor Marie, 4½, and Haven Garner, 16 months.

The spark between the sweethearts is still going strong, although Alba admits their idea of romance has certainly undergone changes over the years.

“On a weekend Cash might say, ‘Go get your nails done with a girlfriend. Haven is down for a nap and Honor and I will play. I know you work hard. You deserve some time for yourself,’” she says.

“That, to me, is romantic. He’s saying, ‘You matter,’ and that I’m more than just the mother of the kids or the wife who goes out to events with him.”

Blending their ethnically diverse backgrounds under one roof, the parents have made their home a true family affair, highlighting — and celebrating! — their ancestral roots.

“When Cash and I moved into our family house, we collected hundreds of pictures of our aunties, great aunties, moms and dads, grandmas and grandpas, and sisters and brothers,” Alba shares. “Then we mounted them in the foyer of our home, covering the wall from top to bottom. Our daughters are continually reminded of where they come from.”

Life’s not all play for the mom-of-two; In addition to her acting career and taking care of her girls, the multi-talented mama is also the mastermind behind The Honest Company, her eco-friendly line of home goods she cofounded with Christopher Gavigan.

With such a full plate to balance, the actress has been known to take on a bit more than she can handle.

“Sometimes I can take multitasking to a level of insanity,” Alba explains. “Then all of a sudden the bath is too high and I’ve forgotten to give my daughter the thing she needs for school.”

Fortunately, her family of four has taught Alba how to worry less about the mess-making and more about making the memories.

“Before I had kids, I was very responsible and serious. I used to be all about controlling my environment; Everything had to be just so,” she says. “Now my idea of perfection is different. You can label bins and have a place for stuff, but when the kids go into the playroom, you’re not going to say, ‘We can’t paint because how are we going to clean it up?’”

– Anya Leon

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Linds on

I don’t want to come across as a “hater”, but I met her a few years ago, and she was unforgivably rude. She came into our restaurant, was rude to the serving staff and extremely arrogant. When she was brought the bill, (which was not a lot, maybe $100?) she told the server that she rarely is expected to pay for meals because of who she is. We very nicely told her that all patrons are expected to pay for their meals. She huffed and puffed and when our poor server went to settle the bill, she didn’t leave a tip (yes, that may be considered optional, but when you’re a millionaire, you can’t leave a measly few bucks?). And yes, her service and her meal was more than satisfactory. She was just acting like a celebrity. Self absorbed and very “the-world-owes-me!”.

Katie on

I just adore her. I hope they have more kids :)

Karolina on

I really like Jessica. She seems unpretentious, stays out of the headlines for the most part and is photographed all the time with her family – seems like a normal woman despite her lifestyle. I will purchase this InStyle issue to read more about her.

Marie on

Years ago maybe she was rude and typical Hollywood, but having children changes you and obviously she has changed with marriage and children. Her family is beautiful and her marriage seems very secure. She seems to be going in a direction to help keep children safe and healthy and that is a great thing!

Joyful on

@Linds.,,,,,I don’t believe your comment at all! Jessica is not cheap and she never said or behaved that way in your made up experience! and while looks or taken into consideration, Jessica’s husband is handsome and unlike you, Jessica chose her husband on something more important than looks! Happy New Year and be real. Stop lying and stop being shallow!

LPW on

Interesting that she claimed to know right away that she would know him forever. As I recall, she had broken up with him when she learned that she was pregnant with Honor.

Noodles! on

@Linds – I absolutely believe you. Thanks for sharing!

Just Me on

We had the exact opposite impression of her Linds. She came into my sister in law’s small gift boutique while she was in the area filming a movie. She was with a girlfriend (assistant?) and they both were more than pleasant and personable. She fawned over my niece who was a toddler at the time, bought several items, and was nice as can be.

visitor on

Oh Linds, I never understood why people of that status don’t tip. I remember when a few members of an NFL team came to the club I was cocktail waitress in and I was assigned to serve them the entire night. Despite having to politely pass on their advances, they got great service. Everyone was attentive to them. The bartenders rushed their drink orders in front of all others. The were given tubs of complimentary Coronas. Our manager even called in the cook staff and opened up the kitchen for them, giving them a private buffet. And they tipped not one red cent at the end of the night. It’s not on subject per se, but Linds comment hit a nerve.

rhonda on

Linds I find your post full of it.

Jennifer on

I think Cash is freaking hot. I love the dark, not pretty boy look. He’s smokin. She’s gorgeous too, so are their children.

Jass on

Highly unbelievable story Linds… Stop trolling

Kelly on

She is constantly hocking her overpriced company.

boohoobytch on

I like her. She won’t be “friends” with her kids, she seems like she’ll raise them and when they’re of age, the friendships will take place. I can’t stand today’s parents trying to negotiate homework and sh** with a 10 yr old b/c they have zero b*lls. Mediocrity is rewarded and these kids can barely hold a conversation…this ADHD epidemic comes from letting the TV do the parenting…ok, don’t get me started

ASD on

@ Linds – I believe your story 150%. Kudos for telling it on here where people can be so unnecessarily rude :)

Donna on

I saw a FOX newswoman say that Jessica Alba was very unlikeable in the days before she had children. Maybe she has changed.

Lindsay on

I knew that she and Jensen buried the hatchet years ago, so maybe she used to be unlikeable but has changed.

Anonymous on

LPW- They DID break up briefly, but as I remember, they were back together when they learned Honor was on the way.

Anyway, I agree that just because she was unlikeable before she had kids doesn’t mean she is now! Also, I wonder if there are more kids in the future? I remember Jessica being very passionate about wanting to adopt after Honor was born.

Nikki on

My stepmother worked with her a few years ago on dark angel and everyone would always complain about how she is extremely rude and a total diva!!! I’m not a hater, just providing actual factuals!!!!;)

Jessica on

LMAO @ “Joyful”

it’s HILARIOUS that you can even make that statement to “Linds” like you have ANY idea what does or does not occur in someone else’s life ! Oh, I know, you must be one of those celebrity-obsessed-psychics that know everything about people you’ll never meet in your real life because you read about what they do in tabloids. I can’t stop laughing at your ignorance ! Thank you so much for bringing a smile to my face !!

Anonymous on

Jessica- And how do YOU know that she DOESN’T know what Jessica A. is like? It’s entirely possible that she works in the industry or at some “regular” business in Hollywood and has, in fact, had several encounters with Jessica A.!

rrtrack on

Being the big fat liar that she is, I’m not surprised to see that she omitted the little fact that she and Cash had broken up and then she magically turned up pregnant and they got back together. Kindred spirits don’t usually have to resort to getting knocked up to get their boyfriend back. We will see how long it lasts.

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