Gwen Stefani: ‘My Biggest Accomplishment Is My Marriage’

09/10/2012 at 11:00 AM ET
Courtesy of Marie Claire

She’s filled her shelves with countless awards, topped the charts with many, many hits, and even managed to simultaneously launch her own clothing collections, but this Friday Gwen Stefani will celebrate her biggest accomplishment to date: her 10-year wedding anniversary with husband Gavin Rossdale.

“A miracle … my biggest accomplishment is my marriage so far. Because it’s hard, everyone knows it’s hard,” the No Doubt frontwoman, 42, tells Marie Claire in their October issue.

“[Marriage] is something that I always wanted to do successfully. It was a dream of mine. I like the official-ness and the family-ness of it all, having the same name and making decisions together.”

Despite hitting the decade milestone, Stefani says their marriage — and the attraction! — is still as strong as ever.

“We’re learning about each other all the time. He balances me out,” she shares. “And he never stops liking me, which is awesome! It makes me feel happy, that someone likes me as much as he does.”

Calling Rossdale “an amazing dad” to the couple’s two sons Kingston, 6, and Zuma, 4, Stefani admits she had once hoped to expand their family of four.

“I really, really, really wanted one about two years ago. And it didn’t really work out,” she reveals. “So … I feel good with what we’ve got. Everything works out how it should. You can’t plan anything, right? You can try.”

But with two rambunctious boys, there’s been no time to dwell on her dream of a third baby. Although the brothers have formed a close bond, Stefani says, there is still plenty of room for (rough!) play.

“From the moment they wake up, they start beating on each other. I never knew they would be so physical,” she explains. “They’re just starting to play real well together, but with a lot of fighting. They do look out for each other — especially the little one, he really loves his big brother.”

Life for Stefani seems to be finally settling down; She reveals perhaps one of her hardest times as a mother was during the making of No Doubt‘s latest album, Push and Shove, which is slated for release on Sept. 25.

“I would be up all night because my second baby didn’t sleep, and he had a lot of ear infections. And then I’d wake up in the morning and do my workout … and then meetings for my three clothing lines, and then hang out with my kids, take them to preschool, da-da-da-,” she recalls.

“And then at 4 o’clock, I’d be like, ‘All right, I’m out of here, I’m going to go to the studio,’ and try to write a record. Sit on the couch [with my bandmates] and be like, ‘Let’s do this now because I’m missing time with the kids; I could be having dinner with them and putting them to bed.’ It was really hard.”

And while she’s the first to admit “every day someone is suffering because I’m doing other things,” Stefani has learned to lighten her load by placing her family first — and, occasionally, putting her career on the back burner.

“This last year I kind of stopped working out. I think my body just needed a break. And so I did that, and focused more on feeling good as opposed to beating myself up,” she explains, adding she has also taken a step back from her involvement in her L.A.M.B line.

I have learned to delegate. It still looks awesome, but did I pick out the buttons? No, I didn’t,” Stefani says. “I missed the last two Fashion Weeks because they were when school started; I can’t miss the first week of kindergarten.”

Courtesy of Marie Claire

— Anya Leon

FILED UNDER: News , Parenting

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Molly on

I can’t believe she’s 42. She looks absolutely amazing! 🙂

Karen on

I have never seen a photo of Gwen with her family when she isn’t fully engaged with them. She is a success in what matters most.

SusyQ on

Good for her! Refreshing to see a celebrity with their priorities in order.

Hello on

She is pretty grounded. And real. Good for her.

melissa on

i can’t believe she is 42. she still looks she is in her 20s. i love her

DDG on

Absolutely love Gwen! What a great role model she is!

Kate on

She is AWESOME. I really appreciate and admire her honesty. She is so down-to-earth, and EVERY working mom (and wife) can relate to what she says!!! Thanks, Gwen.

MyTwoCents on

I love her!!

Mia on

Would have loved to see a girl+ baby #3 – I guess being 40 made getting pregnant difficult. Love Gx!

Amanda on

Oh, so refreshing and awesome. Gwen’s great. Back in the day I was pretty threatened by her and her hot little body. And while she could still run rings around me in the looks department, I’m glad to hear that she’s a regular, loving mom with some of the usual struggles and many of the same priorities.

K on

How refreshing. Thank you, People, for this wonderfully positive article.

Pam on

What a great Momma! Putting her kids first before her career. So many in Hollywood get that wrong. It’s so nice to hear that she does everything for her boys herself, instead of just having a full time nanny raise them. It sounds like it was tough too, 2 boys and 3 jobs. She should be proud! 🙂

Kat on

Yup, for marriage to work in this day and age you have to want to stay married. Too many options out there, and people are crazy!

Kris on

I knew that I always liked her. You Go Gwen!!!

doseedo on

Priorities in order, absolutely. Congrats on doing it all, and so well, Gwen. That’s no easy feat…even for us “regular” folks.

Alissa on

Gwen has always been one of my role models. She knows what’s important in the right order. Her quirky bubbly style is her own. She’s not one to be ‘trapped in a box’ shes ‘just a girl’ wanting a ‘simple kind of life’ ‘underneath it all’ has her family life to ‘settle down’.

* for real no doubters you’ll notice the sentence is in order of the coordosponding cd in order of release!!

Love you Gx!

Kelli on

I have been a huge fan of Gwen Stefani & No Doubt since their Tragic Kingdom album In 1995-1996. I love Gwen Stefani!! I knew she was in her early 40’s but she sure doesnt look it! She is absolutely gorgeous. And I’m so happy for her & Gavin’s decade long marriage. Congrats you guys!!

Misty on

She’s fantastic!

kitty62862 on


Marriage is work, hard work. The rewards are many. Wishing you a wonderful tenth, and many, many more.

Julie on

Nice to see all positive comments. Gwen is definitely a good role model. My oldest son and I saw her in concert 12 years ago with No Doubt. They put on a great show. She’s a hard working woman, that is for sure.

Ladyjane on


Jess on

Just hit my 10 yr mark and I have to agree it is hard but it is very worth it. I feel the same having the same last name and solidarity behind being married is important to our family. I know it isn’t for everyone but it is what works for me and my hubby. Everyday I find him more attractive then the day before.

Way to go Gwen and Gavin! I look forward to congradulating you on your 20th in 2022 just like mine!

Vicky on

It is very nice to see a star that is grounded. Best of luck in the future.

Laughing Mama on

I’m going to change my name her to GwenStefani Fan. She is amazing.

Britt on

It’s very nice to see a celebrity who truly does put their kids first. It happens, but it seems so rare. Good for her! 🙂

em on

42 and still looks super hot. What a great mom. I love my Gweny!

tm on

I have never been over actors or singers but there is something about this family that I just love!!! They both seem so real and totally involved with their adorable kids. Just looks like a wonderful loving family!!! LOVE Gwen, Gavin and their adorable little boys ……………….

Noneya on

Always knew she was awesome! Her hubby is SOOO HOT! But knowing that she is who she is – makes it hard to be jealous! ROCK ON Gwen & Gavin!!


Gwen ROCKS!!!!!!!

BBB on

Marriage really needs to be number one, even before kids. It’s the foundation of a family. Without happy parents with a health relationship you can’t really provide the best life for your kids. Best case scenario is two married, in love parents. But, if that ship has already sailed and you’re divorced two happy parents is still very important! Keep the relationship healthy, don’t put your kids in the middle, be amicable and look for relationships that set good examples for what you want your own children to experience.

Tasha on

Love her! She is my absolute favorite!!

Amanda on

Wow she looks amazing for 42, i hope i look that great at her age. She looks early mid 20s. Good for her.

Kansas Poker Wife on

I seriously love her!

kira on

love her!

Amy on

Love this article! I feel like I can identify with her more now. Before I hated her clothing style because it’s just so outrageous but knowing this little bit about her really shows she is struggling like the rest of us.

Grace on

“every day someone is suffering because I’m doing other things” – sooo true of working mamas – it is really hard, it doesnt matter if you’re famous or not- we are pulled in so many directions. I admire her and everything she stands for!

Beautiful kids on

Good for her. she is my fav celeb. She has such a beautiful family and marriage which is rare in hollywood. May God continue to bless her family.

Mixueer on

If she doesn’t work out, what does she do for that hot bod??? Yoga maybe?

SoNotHollywood on

She is always with her family. So nice to see what her priorities are. And she looks amazing for 42, I don’t think not working out for awhile will hurt her much. Love her! Way to set the bar for successful Hollywood marriages and families. XO. Wish you all the best.

Anonymous on

Wow, never thought I could like her even more than I do now. Wishing you all the best!!

HoundDogDigs on

Bragging about your marriage. Famous last words in Hollywood.

Krissy on

I love this lady! It is so refreshing to see a celebrity prioritize her marriage and children over everything else! She is an idol! ;0)

Savannah on

Congratulations, Gwen! I hope you continue to make it work! A successfully family and the ultimate fashion icon. I love her style. She pulls off tough, but feminine too, which seems to have tone by the wayside in a lot of cases

djg on

Love her even more!!

kimber on

So love that she keeps it real. Most people BS about their marriage and their perfect kids…not her, and that’s what is so cool, the fashion and the music, well…ah ya…pretty F*cking cool, too.

Sam on

Gwen is a rare celebrity. Down to earth, honest, and family first. Half of Hollywood should take note.

veggiemama on

Beautiful. May your successful marriage continue and evolve. It is like a rock in a wild storm. Blessings! Stay together and make the world you live in brighter with your love. And putting family first is always going to invite the highest Light of all

Kat on

Love her!! She is probably one of the most real stars!! Love seeing pics of her family together!! I have been married for 18 years and love seeing other people who are happily married! You go girl!!!

lilly on

She looks way better without the ruby red lipstick.

Julie on

I love Gwen. Great singer and seems so sweet and down to earth.

Child Safety Products on

There we go folks, the reason behind every committed parent’s success. If Gwen can sacrifice a large part of her career, make quality time for her family and still recognize fulfillment, what’s stopping everyone from doing and gaining what’s desired in life?

Ruby2 on

Gwen looks amazing and she and Gavin make a great couple. And their boys are too cute! Too bad they didn’t have another little one! It could have been a little girl and I’m sure she would be the cutest punk baby ever!

Anonymous on

This interview makes me both happy and sad for Gwen. Happy because she clearly enjoys her husband and boys, but sad because it appears she struggled with secondary infertility (going by what she said about wanting another child but that it didn’t work out).

Also, I didn’t know that she goes by Gwen Rossdale in her personal life (her comment about “having the same name” being one of the things she enjoys about marriage makes that pretty clear!)! Cool!

geniej on

Love Gwen!

Monica on

Good for her for putting her family first. I wish more celebrities would prioritize and realize that they don’t have to “pick the buttons” for everything to be pefect. I really love that she has missed 2 fashion weeks because school started. That shows just how much she cares about her family. Good for her. Good luck on a very long happy marriage. I’m going on 9 yrs with 2 kids and know it’s not always a walk in the park.

Donna on

I love her attitude about marriage and family – and with Gavin as the her life partner, it’s got to be fun, too!

Mira on

She looks great for her age. And she has a lovely family. Good for her!

I don’t quite understand it, though, when people proudly announce that their marriage is hard and takes work. I mean, I get it that they’re proud that they’ve stayed together, but the underlying implication is that there are some problems in this relationship. Without problems, why would marriage be hard? I’ve been married for over 15 years and I wouldn’t call marriage hard at all. I’m married to a great person and life with him is wonderful, not hard. I feel bad for people who see their marriages as “projects”, rather than as a natural way to achieve happiness.


Good Lord she looks fabulous!! She hasn’t changed a bit in 10 years; she’s a natural beauty…

Denise on

I love and agree with everyone’s comments. She is an inspiration and most awesome!

Tiffany on

I think she is pretty and I absolutely love when she goes more natural with her make-up 🙂

kmypetlover4 on

It is nice to see a celebrity marriage that is successful. She and Gavin always seem to be happy, loving parents to their children. They also always seem to think of each other first. Congrats on their successful union.

Leslie on

I’m a widowed mom of 3. My husband died 1 month after our 10th wedding anniversary, while he was deployed to the middle east. I LOVED those 10 years we had together. Now I’m a full time single mom to my 9 year old son, and my 11 month old twins. I think you’re doing an amazing job Gwen!

Michelle on

I agree, she looks amazing! Good for her for having her priorities straight. Family first! Everything else will fall in to place.

Mia on

Gavin said Gx is traditional – her legal name is Rossdale. Stage name is Stefani.