Tamera Mowry-Housley’s Blog: Hello, Third Trimester

08/27/2012 at 07:45 PM ET
At 29 weeks along! – Dean Foreman

Thanks for welcoming celebrity blogger Tamera Mowry-Housley!

Best known for her roles on Sister, Sister and Strong Medicine, the actress currently stars on Tia & Tamera, airing Mondays at 8 p.m. on Style.

She’s also working on a novel with twin sister Tia and recently wrapped filming on GMC’s Christmas Angel.

Mowry-Housley, 34, wed FOX News correspondent Adam Housley in May 2011 in Napa Valley.

Due Oct. 30 with their first child, the couple learned in June that they’re expecting a boy.

You can find her on Twitter @TameraMowryTwo.

My, how fast time flies! From the last time I’ve written to you all, much has happened. I can gladly say I have now learned to sift through all of the outside pregnancy advice and have found my OWN voice on the matter, which I will get into later.

But most importantly, I am now saying hello to my third trimester! I am 31 weeks pregnant! I’ve gotta say, that went by fast. Bye-bye energy and hello to puffy pregnancy cheeks and swollen hands and feet. However, I have learned from a wonderful doula, Latham Thomas, that eating watermelon, grapes and cucumbers help bring the swelling down. Trust me, it works.

Did I mention the pregnancy brain?! Man, the pregnancy brain is no joke. I have lost my car keys and house keys entirely. I have also lost my favorite diamond necklace from my teenage years and in some cases, my mind. Please don’t tell me I am alone in this.

Am I the only pregnant woman out there who can’t speak coherently? My poor husband. There have been many occasions where he would stare blankly at me, wondering what the hell I was talking about. Helplessly, I couldn’t explain myself because most of the time, I didn’t even know what I meant to say — much less remember it.

Anywho, I’m embracing my new body and its changes by constantly telling myself, “Chipmunk cheeks are cute, right?” RIGHT?! Additionally, I’ve been reciting, “My hubby loves a woman with curves.” Well, at least that’s what he told me when we first met. So what if my behind is spreading as wide as the continent of North America?

But seriously, all jokes aside, I am so excited to be in the final stretch and couldn’t be more thrilled to meet our lil’ angel.

My OB/GYN did say that as your pregnancy progresses, you will tend to sift out all outside advice and find yourself worrying less. I’ve found this to be true. Now don’t get me wrong, I still worry about my pregnancy, but not half as much I did before. I’ve gotten to this point by doing research of my OWN and just plainly standing still and looking within.

I began asking myself important questions and allowing myself to answer honestly with no judgment. Here are some examples: What is my birthing plan? MINE — not my mom’s, sister’s or my friend’s. Do I want a midwife or doula? How do I envision myself giving birth: home or hospital? With or without an epidural? What kind of mom do I want to be? What kind of parenting style will I choose?

There are so many endless decisions about pregnancy, birthing and a new baby. Just know it is okay to be afraid, to have concerns and have fears. Just allow them to arise and face them head-on. Please know that you are not alone. Women have been going through this process for years. Most importantly, it is key that you find your OWN voice and go from there.

Once you do that, you can free yourself up for the fun part of your last trimester of pregnancy: attending your baby shower and setting up your baby’s nursery.

I would love to hear your personal stories about how you have calmed the worried voices in your head. How have you examined all outside influences and ended up finding your own voice? Leave me a comment or Tweet me @TameraMowryTwo.

Till next time,

— Tamera Mowry-Housley

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Gigi on

I’ll take her maternity wardrobe when she’s done with it! Love her clothes.

Jo on

Im also in the home stretch of my third trimester , I’m 33wks and due October 12 and I just can’t wait . I’m feeling tired not getting enough sleep and waking up every hour to use the bathroom is a pain , I’m so ready that my bag is already packed ready to go 😊good luck Tamara

Rosanne on

I know how u feel, I’m 31 weeks with twins due october 28th, and the sleepless nights by going to the bathroom, I’m so ready to give birth. Good luck

tyty on

Girl now know its hard like hell and we moms have to be strong for our kids

Amy on

Love Tamera! Congrats to her and Adam. Cannot wait to see that precious baby boy. I bet he will be as adorable as his cousin Cree.

Monica Hutson on

Follow your instincts! Once you meet your child it all comes naturally. Trust in yourself! What works for one Mom might not work for the next. You will do great!

Dee on

I never freaked out, had any worries or concerns. I was 37 when I had my daughter. I think it was because I grew up around children and changed diapers and baby sitting. My sister had three kids and I was there when all three were born and had them all the time as if they were my own kids.

As far as raising my daughter I just go with the flow while incorporating some things from how I was raised as a child. You can’t over think it. I loved when my parents baby sat my daughter. I’m glad my Dad got the opportunity to spend a lot of time with her before he died. All I know is accept those opportunities for a sitter especially the grand parents. I’m extremely picky with sitters BUT as long as my parents were watching her I felt extremely comfortable. Just relax and not be uptight.

Betty on


First off, I want to say that I watch your show religiously. All I can say is that just do what is right for you and everything will be okay. Remember, nothing ever goes as planned especially childbirth. But I am sure you have plenty of support from your husband, who I think is absolutely adorable and so in love with you and your sister who has already been through it. Good luck and happy baby.

Joanna Gage on

My advice is to have a plan that you want to do, but in to the situation that something could come up forcing the plan to be changed. If you want a vaginal birth or else you might be forced to do a C-section to save either your life or the baby’s.

Stacie on

love her style, she looks so beautiful

Jill on

I referred to my pregnancy brain as Pregnesia! Best wishes!

Amanda on

OMG! I was the worst worry wart you could ever be while I was pregnant, between the worrying if your baby is ok and if your doing everything ok, to the anticipation of meeting your child, it’s all a part of being a mother and it starts immediately, but yes during my third trimester, everything sort of fell into place, I was calm, relaxed, and actually turned out to be a week past due :/ to me third trimester is the hardest, but the most rewarding:) I am very happy for you and love hearing from you .

Anonymous on

Hey Girrrl, I thought I would be the one to let you know…….. the pregnancy brain….. well umm,… it never goes away……..EVER. Best wishes for a healthy baby boy, and by the way you look fantastic.

Amanda on

Not much longer!:)

dawn on

I have had 3 boys 2 natural yes it was very pain full but it felt like I had more control over it even though my 1st was like over 24 hours all induced my 2ed was out in 8 hours also induced now my 3rd my hubby told me to do the epidural so I did it was nice till they broke my water and extremely painful and the anastisalogest was in surgery so I couldn’t get another dose he finally got there gave me a little but it mayed it hard to push

Neisha Grinton on

Congrats Tamera!! LOL.. I think I still have a little leftover pregnancy brain and my youngest is 5 months!!!

Renee on

Tamera; Amen to everything you said! I have found, even after having children, being flexible to change your ideals and what you thought would work ..is crucial!! It is great to have a philosophy and stick to it, but then again..I have found that I have changed my mind on discipline, times I put to bed, how I feed..etc… I have learned that nothing remains constant with children. Once you get something down, they are at a new stage. For someone like me, who likes things rountine and steady, this was a hard adjustment.

I also had my first at 39, my second at 41 and I am pregnant with my 3rd and will have at 43, God willing. This last one was a surprise. I think the best thing God gave us mommies is our guts. Never stop using them..I believe this is the Holy Spirit…and He is constantly guiding us and letting us know when we need to revise, change or think of a new way. Good luck to you!

lisa on

The one person I listened to was my mom. I had countless strangers offering me so much advice, as well as their terrifying birth stories. I finally got to the point where I would politely listen to what they had to say and then tell them “Well I’m glad everything turned out for you!” or something and get away from them.

Oi I remember pregnancy brain!! My husband would come home at 5pm and ask what was for dinner, and I had forgotten it was time to eat dinner!! 90% of those days ended up being take-out nights!

Bitsy on

I love Tia and Tamera! I’m so happy for Tamera. She’s going to be a great mom.

Me on

Pregnancy Brain is hell. I had it most of the pregnancy. They say the baby steals your brain cells and u never get it back, which I’d true. Anyone else lose their balance all the time I did. I would fall right into my husband

Shaia on

Seriously!!! You think North America it’s a continent!!!!!! Good lord, go read a book lady!!!

Lissa on

Really, Shaia?

Diva on

LMAO…. Looks like YOU are the one that needs some geography lessons! It is a continent loser!!! Got back to the second grade!

Anonymous on

you go Tamera I’ll be watching the show, Congrats

ACS1977 on

North America IS a continent that includes Canada, Mexico, and the United States……..

Katie on

I think you need to go read a book!! North America is a continent…

Trista on

Really lady? I guess you should go read a couple of books huh. One on geography and one on manners and how not to be rude, or at the very least how to be a jerk with out making yourself look like and ignorant fool!

Tonja on

Leave Tamara alone, cause she’s still smart,, she still has extreme talent and she really is a role model for women all around the world so get right…. Oh yeah have a nice day

Jeanette on

Honestly, I think pregnancy/motherhood is something you really figure out once you’re doing it (like so many things). I totally had a birthing plan, decided on something different the day of. Had envisioned the way I would parent, but now it’s something else…something much more wonderful than I had planned or could have planned.

Go with your instincts, you’ll know what’s best for YOUR baby 🙂

Anonymous on

Ha! I remember pregnancy brain! There were a few times I couldn’t spell my name. Worrying is part of motherhood. I find that it helps me to put my trust in God. Also, trust your instincts, what works for other moms may not work for you.

Diane on

Tamera, you are right on with everything you said. Listen to your inner voice. Also there is some great advice on here. I just have to say, at least you know what Tia was going thru when she was pregnant and had pregnancy brain during your wedding. Lol. She must be over the moon with you being pregnant and getting ready to give Cree a playmate. Congratulations to you and Adam.

JRW on

Shaia sweetie… North America is a continent….



here hun. here’s a lil help.

A continent is one of several very large landmasses on Earth. They are generally identified by convention rather than any strict criteria, with seven regions commonly regarded as continents—they are (from largest in size to smallest): Asia, Africa, North America, South America, Antarctica, Europe, and Australia.

anne on

@Shaia North America is a continent.. maybe you should take your own advice and read a book.

Mimie on

Shaia, I hate to break it to you, but you’re the uneducated one in this matter, but a 1st grade geography lesson should clear that up though. North America is indeed a continent.

(Sidenote: This is an example of why we don’t need to cut any more funding from education in this country.)

Katie on

My advice is to be open minded about your birth plan. I wish I had been because it would have saved me a lot of upsetting moments. But it’s true, women have been doing this forever. Trust in God. In the end, all you’ve gone through is so worth it when you hold that baby for the first time!

MRJ on

You’ve discovered the best advice on your own…listen to yourself and what YOU and Adam thinks will work for your little family.

Also even you decide at this point how y’all are going to raise your son, don’t get upset if you have to change that along the way. I was like “My child will NEVER sleep in our bed”….until I put her in bed with us because I heard weird voices on her baby monitor (we were near an interstate but I didn’t think of that at 3am) and she slept until 11am. Since I worked nights at that time it was HEAVEN and she slept with us until she was like 6. (I maybe exaggerating slightly)

DO WHAT WORKS FOR YOUR FAMILY! don’t worry about what others say. Also involve your husband as much as possible. You couldn’t have gotten pg without him.

JS on

My son was stillborn at 38+5 weeks for unknown reasons so all you need to worry about is that he comes out crying. The rest doesn’t matter!

kissykiss82 on

Tamera god bless. You look splendid I pray you have a safe delivery and a healthy babY

AJA on

Shaia writes “Seriously!!! You think North America it’s a continent!!!!!! Good lord, go read a book lady!!!”…

Honey not only do you need a geography lesson but a regular elementary school english class would be great too. Instead of “it’s” how about “is”. Good lord, proofread lady!!

Now on to the good stuff—Tamera trust your instincts…as a mommy you’ll never do anything to hurt your little angel!! Enjoy your journey, now and once he arrives! This is the most amazing thing you’ll ever do. Congrats to your beautiful family. Nothing but best wishes for a safe, quick and peaceful delivery for you and your baby boy! God Bless!

Rae on

I could not agree with you more! It is your baby, your pregnancy and your life! Do not let anyone try to force their opinions on you. I had a home birth with my daughter, with no drugs and it was the most incredible experience I have ever had. I, of course, had a midwife. But, ANYONE who knew that I was having a home birth thought I was crazy..” what if something goes wrong?!” It did not matter what I said or how I felt, everyone tried to force their opinion on me and I fought back. It was my pregnancy NOT theirs! My advice, ALWAYS do what is best for YOU and not anyone else. Because at the end of the day you need to be happy with your decisions.

Em on

People.com — I absolutely LOVE the dress that Tamera is wearing in this picture!! Any idea where it came from?

Em on

I have that dress! I got it from motherhood. It was inexpensive!!

Stormy on

No you’re not alone, when I was pregnant I lost everything! I remember losing my purse, my keys and my mind with my 2nd baby !

sersomet on

I have pregnancy brain (I’m 26 wks). I can’t even say “pregnancy brain” without tripping over my tongue when I try to explain to people why I’m acting like a dunderhead. I use the word “thingy” a lot to describe something.

It’s hard not to worry, especially with your first baby. It really does help to have a go-to person or two who you trust and who doesn’t put you down. So for all my concerns and worries I’d call either my mom or my lil sister, and they really helped me out tremendously. Something else that would typically really calm me down was having some alone time. For example at night after my hubby would fall asleep, I’d lay there and just think about the little person inside of me, really focus on his movements, talk to him, and just think happy and grateful thoughts. At those times my worries would just sort of melt away, and I’d feel able to tackle the next set of worries in the morning (haha).

Also (I know this is getting to be a long comment, sorry!), if you haven’t already, prepare a little for “mommy wars.” What I mean by this, is it seems there is NO ONE more opinionated about how a child should be raised/breastfed/changed/bathed/etc than other moms (and by “other moms” I mean perfect strangers. And sometimes in-laws). I never noticed this until I had my first child, but there is intense pressure to do things a certain way, and if you don’t, well you must just be a bad mother. Don’t fall victim to that crap. Do what works for you and your baby, and shut out all that outside noise.

Kara on

I am 31 weeks also, however I am having pregnancy complications and am currently in the hospital. I wish you and your baby all the best!

wickerstaff on

Being a natural worrywart, being pregnant with nonstop advice from all angles was hard. It was so difficult to know what the “right” answer was for you, especially with that pregnancy brain – forget it! I spent so many hours online, researching every tiny detail on every website, and ultimately what helped me calm my worrisome brain was to sit down and talk it out with my husband. When we’d spend some quiet time talking about our goals and our preferences and what we wanted to do, it recentered me and reminded me that this isn’t a party I’m planning or a house I’m decorating – it’s a new life, created by both myself and my husband, and we would do what felt best to us. Just talking about our fears and our views on everything helped everything fall into place and made my relationship with my husband so much stronger. You are completely right, you have to find your own path.

I am so so so happy for you guys and wish you all the best in these last few weeks of pregnancy – enjoy it! They’ll go fast but also slow, and then you’ll have your new little bundle of joy. It’s the absolute best feeling in the world!

Summer on

Beautiful actress. Wishing the very best for a healthy pregnancy and birth.

Anonymous on

U just have to hold on strong for your unborn child it nt easy bt u just have to hang in there

Melissa on

Hi Tamera, I’m pregnant with my second child(my oldest is 6) and this has been a completely new experience. I’m expecting a little boy(Mason) October 17th and ive had pregnancy brain like crazy. My fiance looks at me like im nuts when i say its pregnancy brain, oh how i do wish we could pass some things on so they know how we feel. LOL 🙂 I haven’t gained much with this pregnancy only about 6 pounds but im very self conscious about my weight and my stomach although i love and embrace my belly. Im not so excited to hear people say wow you’ve gotten big, when i feel i look the same as i did a few weeks ago. Anyhow Congrads on everything. I wish you and Adam the very best. You have many blessings in store. Take care, Melissa

pedrn on

I used to go to the grocery store, stand there for awhile, have absolutely no idea why I was there, and just turn around and go home. I finally decided to take it in stride and not worry about it as there seemed to be no cure! Definitely think about what you want for a birth plan, but, just remember, the most important thing is a healthy mom and baby. I hope you have everything the way you want, but don’t be disappointed if things change. Keep your eye on the prize!!!

NickyAngel on

U guys are so right, her maternity dress style is fabolous 🙂

Heather on

The moment you hold your son for the first time, it’ll all make sense. You can read everything there is to read, hear everything there is to hear, but until they hand you your child to hold for the first time, it’s all just words. Trust in yourself and your strengths. It’s not failure to ask for help or for the epidural! Just remember to relax and to breathe. The getting up every two hours doesn’t last long and those are the most precious times you’ll get to spend with him. Take every picture you can and cuddle with him every second he’ll let you because those days scream by fast too! You’re going to be a fantastic mommy! Just take it all in stride and you’ll do great! Best wishes!!

Krissy on

If you get an epidural, get it before they break your water if possible. Once they gave me my epidural, I calmed down and slept for a short time. When I woke up, they checked me and said I was ready to go. From the time they gave me the epidural to having my baby girl, was less than an hour and a half. Also, do not let them send family home when they say it will be a while, they told my sister it would be hours and to go home for a while…she missed the birth by literally 5 minutes 😦 good luck and enjoy every minute

kenelle on

My 10yr old & I love the show congratulations ur husband is wonderful
God bless u & ur future son.

Haley on

Keep up the good work n congrats to you n Adam. Gods gift! He always blessing us with new things. I know you n you family can’t wait to see your new born. Love joy with all happiest. Your friend Haley

Felice on

Tamera – I hate to break it to you, but the worrying has just begun! My daughter is 6 and I worry all of the time. Worry about the decisions that I make for her and how they will impact the person that she is going to become. I try to relax, but it is so hard to do so.

cmonppl on

Listen to what everyone tells you, even if you know you don’t agree. But then when your baby comes, do what works for you and your baby. Be open-minded because you might say you will do one thing, but when he’s actually here it’s a whole new ball game! Good luck!

sofie on

Pheew! i was scared of reading the comments part of the article after the snooki one. Americans seems they like this one

Melissa on

I so love these girls! So sweet, classy & down to earth!! Congrats girl, you look good pregnant! I’m 29 weeks & I’m so ready to not have kicks to the ribs, lol…more than anything, I”m ready to meet my 4th angel 🙂

Jamie on

We’re due on the same day and I am also having a boy. I have to say that I completely understand your pregnancy brain and inability to speak correctly. I’ve developed what seems like a stutter in the last 2 months. It’s so frustrating and people look at me like I’m nuts. LOL Oh well… not much longer now. Congrats! Can’t wait to see pictures of him!

Miranda on

I absolutely adore you Tamera. You and Tia are so down to earth and such amazing role models. Good luck for a safe and healthy delivery of your baby boy. Wishing you and Adam all the best wishes!!! Lots of love and sunshine!

Jana on

First of all, let me just say congrats. I just watched Tia and Tamera last night when you told Tia you were pregnant. I am looking forward to October when the show returns. I am curious though you are going to do the same thing Tia did and show everything leading up to the birth of your son. Love you both and I can’t wait to see the first of your little guy.

Stella on

Tamara, you r adorable preggos! You are simply glowing! I was ugly as hell preggos! My skin broke out and my hair fell out! Who Knew?! LOL

Julie on

My advice having now 3 grown children with children. Don’t fret the small stuff! Messy fingerprints everywhere, crayon drawings on the wall, laundry, and the occassional mud tracked into the house will slowly fade to time. So, enjoy! take lots of pictures and videos! Most importantly enjoy the time you have with your children. Thats what they will remember…

Debra on

I had 3 children in 4 years and it was insane! You know your own body and today you have the internet to go to for more information. You seem to have a great doctor and you are following his advice. I did all three naturally, but I stayed at home most of the labor so I didn’t have to be in the hospital too long before birth. You will do TERRIFIC and I wish you the best of luck with this new life God has granted you and Adam.

Mandy on

I know I thought I would never let my daughter have a pacifier. They gave her one in the hospital so I could get some sleep. My baby just likes to suck on something a lot. Now its her thumb mostly.

I also worried a lot for a long time, but at around 32 weeks I stopped. I got hospitalized at that time too because of a short cervix & they were afraid I would have the baby early. My husband freaked out & my family but I was calm. I knew getting too worried & stressed wasn’t good for the baby & I was in the best hospital in case she did come early & they had the best NICU around. I ended up carrying her until 3 days before my due date. She was very healthy & a happy baby.

I listen & use some advise, but I do what I think is right for my baby. I kept hearing in the begining from my in-laws that I needed to give her formula because they thought she was still hungry. She gained over 2 lbs in 1 month so obviously she wasn’t starving.

J on

Oh Shaia….. (shaking my head)

KmC on

they both seem like beautiful, smart, loving women. she seems like she would be an incredible mother (like Tia!) and she seems to have a wonderful husband. many well wishes and God bless!

Jen on

She looks so beautiful!! Pregnancy certainly agrees with her! All the best to Tamera and her family!!

Anonymous on

So proud of you, Tamara! I’ve been a fan of yours and Tia’s since your Sister Sister days. I relate to your struggle to find your OWN voice, and I’m so happy that you’ve finally found it!

Sheila on

My daughters and I love your show. We look forward to it weekly. You and Adam are such a great couple….do what your instincts tell you regarding your baby….more than any advice anyone can give….TRUST GOD!!! Hope you have a healthy baby. Can’t wait to see him.

Rhonda on

She looks great and I love her dress! Congrats to them both!

Holly on

U look amazing! With that being said all these moms are right.. You trust what you feel.. God gave us moms that instinct so put it to good use. Pregnancy brain does not go away.. So have a good calendar on hand at all times! Trust God and know that you & your little on are in his hands.. Do what you do best and smile.. Also if you bring him home and cry cause you feel overwhelmed its ok.. I did and I was a mess for 2 weeks but like some of the other moms said make sure you take the help your family offers. You will be glad you did.. Can’t wait to see pictures of the handsome new addition!

Annette Ware on

Hi Tamera, Congratulations to you and your husband. It’s been 24 years since I’ve had a baby, but as a mother all I can say is trust your instincts. Taking care of that little boy will be like breathing. He is a gift from God to you and your husband. Enjoy! Once again congratulations and stay blessed.

Co on

Tamera, take care of your needs as well as your family and have a support system because it can be overwhelming. You look amazing and I love how open you are with Tia! Raising a child is the most rewarding job great luck!

Nichole on

I remember walking around frantic searching for my car keys as I was already running late, needless to say, after frantically looking for my keys, they were in my hands the whole time!! Lol. Congratulations and welcome to motherhood! I have 4 kids and can honestly say the “pregnant brain/talk” doesn’t go away.. I think for me, after every birth…my children have sucked my brain..and ass out with them!

Anonymous on

my mother in law told me to relax and enjoy it. The best advice she ever gave me was don’t worry if you make a mistake, it’s a baby, it doesn’t know you made a mistake. So what if you warm a bottle a half hour later than usual, baby doesn’t won’t know or even remember. Forget to change a diaper on the exact hour you set your schedule too? No worries, baby won’t know the difference and won’t remember anyway. Listen to your gut!! It’s NEVER wrong. You’ll do great!!! Besides, once you have baby #2 – you realize how easy having one really was. hahaha

Barbie on

I’m so happy for you and your husband. Such an exciting time! I am in my second trimester with my fourth pregnancy, second surrogacy. It’s always good to get the opinions of others but when it comes down to it, it’s what you comfortable with and what makes the most sense to you! Good luck with your last months and birth!

Jan Parris on

Congratulations to the lovely couple. Regarding pregnancy, just go with the flow, and let nature take its course. God and made you and will take care of you, just let Him. Be Blessed.

Amber on

If we would all listen to our true inner voices we would be much more stable people. I found when I was pregnant that my inner voice was constantly telling me the truths I needed to know, if only I would listen to them. I would fear for my babies health, yet knew she was healthy. I was nervous about the sex, even though I ALWAYS knew she was a girl. Even today, that inner voice will say go check on her, and when I do she’ll be standing dangerously on the couch teetering. WE as mothers know what is best for us and our children, we just have to listen to it.

Montyquimby on

My advice is do NOT take any advice. Follow your instincts.

Connie on

Congratulations Tamera! I am so happy for you and your husband. I absolutely love the relationship you have with Tia. I so enjoy watching your show. Enjoy your pregnancy and your baby. As a mother of a 20 year old son who is in college and a six year old daughter entering first grade, I can honestly say the worrying never ends. Just learn how to take care of yourself and manage your stress. Always pray and prioritize! God bless!

Anonymous on

I just started watching their show this weekend because it was on a marathon on bravo. WHAT A BREATH OF FRESH AIR!!! These girls are hardworking, classy, and have respect for each other. Such a wonderful break from the Kardashians, Jersey Shore, and all the other GARBAGE reality tv shows.

Kia on

I had my daughter at 35… There were so many people with advice good, bad, and terrible!!! LOL!!! But no one prepared me for that special moment that is just between you an that child. I THOUGHT I was going to be Superwoman and go natural but she had another plan for me and that was a C section!! The only advice I give anyone is be flexible to whatever this experience throws your way but also know this is your special experience no one not even your Husband will experience exactly what you are… Embrace it and love all the joys of it because when he comes…. The advice I should have listened to was no sleep was coming my way!!! LOL!!! And know how fast they grow it’s just amazing…

Rg on

Trust yourself! You got this. Ive seen you with Cree,and you are a natural. God Bless you and your family. So happy for you. You’re lifr is going to be forever changed,you’re going to love like you’ve never loved before,and you’re going to experience Love at first sight. Embrace it girl, You are beautuful. And yes! Chipmunk cheeks are VERY cute,and so are the dimples in the other cheeks..lol. Wait…they will come

CCE on

I’ve been watching you and your sister since Sister Sister and have always loved you guys. Congratulations on the impending arrival of your son and getting through this much of your pregnancy.

I don’t have too much for advice other than please arm yourself with knowledge (and it sounds like you have been). Knowledge is power (as corny as that sounds). During labour I was able to have the natural birth I wanted and was able to advocate for myself (and my husband helped of course). Just find your inner determination and focus, you’ll be fine. All the best!

julie mears fuller on

tamara i was17 when i had my first child it was scary at first to me to but i found my inner peace within myself and family like you have just always listen to what they say and go from there love both you girls on the shows

Lisa on

Wow. People! It is so refreshing reading these positive comments. Kudos for showing some love to T. The destructive comments on these article are a little disheartening to read sometimes.
Spread the love..! 🙂
Good luck with the rest of your pregnancy girl. You’ll be fine.

MsPeaches on

Almost all the advice I’ve read on here is wonderful, (execpt for the North America coment….rediculouss!) congratulations ladies for being sweet and non judgemental. As a mother of a 22 yr old and 20 yr old, I can tell you the pregnesia never goes away, I think during pregnancy they steal your brain cells and never give them back because when they become teens they really think they’re smarter than we are (perhaps they are some of the time.) But don’t worry about the advice that people bombard you with, no matter what plan you come up with ready yourself and your husband for changes that might pop up, have your mindset be that the goal no matter the journey is the amazing prize at the end of it……that amazing blessing. I wish you all the best. Enjoy every minute because they do grow fast, I can attest to that.

Erin on

Tamera you and Tia are amazing women, I love watching your show and I never miss an episode. I’m a 23 yr old single mom to a 2 yr old baby girl. When I was pregnant it was the best feeling in the world menus all the scares I had. when I had my first ultrasound the tech was so off with the due date and what not so when I went in for my second ultra sound the doctor thought my daughter could have spinal bifida. I was sad and wondering what I did wrong. but I knew in my heart I would love her no matter what. The good turn out to all of this was the doctors were off again with there numbers and today I have a happy 2 year old. Plus with the diabetes scare Im sure you know all about that.

Amanda on

So would love to see more maternity clothes like that. ESP for larger people with VARIETY!! Tamera if u ever thought about it I would so be buying the clothes. People think big girls like a box for a shirt or something skin tight. But so excited for you. Love the show. And I’m due December 1st with a boy too. So excited!! My hips and legs are killing me but hey all in it for him!!

mrst on

I love your blog. There is such a new perspective and wealth of information out there now that I didn’t have when I was pregnant. Continue the good work and God bless the Housleys!!!

Ms. Riki on

Tamera, you seem like you’ll be a Great mom and I believe your son will have a Great dad to lean on, as well!!! To be honest, I didnt really worry until I heard the doctor say “PUSH”…then I freaked out ( with my inside vc, at least–couldn’t let them see me sweat)! LOL…and it’s been non-stop worrying eversince, but life seems so insignificant before I became a mom. It’s the best worry in the world, but my son actually tells me to relax nowadays (he’s 12) O_o! Being a Mom is undeniably the BEST feeling in the world and I promise it’ll all fall in place because it’s what God created us to do! GOD Bless you and your family on this profound journey:)… P.S. Tia&Tamera is the BEST SHOW ON TV, hands down!!!

Raini on

Good luck with all the unsolicited advice that will be thrown at you from friends, family and even strangers. I smiled, said thank you and kept some of it in the back of my mind and the rest, well lets just say “pregnancy brain” lost it. Which by the way does eventually go away but it takes some time. It took months before I was able to form a complete sentence but it does come back…most of it at least. ; )

Not knowing what to expect with birth and being a parent is what brings all those natural worries. It’s OK to worry, I’d be worried if you weren’t. As many have said before me a LOT comes naturally. If you do have a question you have the luxury of asking your sister who has time as a mom under her belt. My friends with kids helped tremendously. Also the book What to Expect the 1st Year is great, I referenced it often! Enjoy these last few months because it flies by and before you know it you will be wearing vomit on all of your clothes proudly.

Jen on

She is so sweet. I cannot wait to see the baby!

Kica on

Shaia….North America IS a continent…….now YOU go read a book. woooow..

Kaye on

Too long to tweet but congratulations! Having a baby or being pregnant is an exciting adventure but nerve wrecking. The physical and mental changes are no joke. I just want to say you and Tia inspire me. I started a blog all because of you too. How I wish I could just bump into you one day and be the type of woman you are. Awesome role models and an inspiration to many. I’m do glad I got to see you blossom this season. Made me like you more knowing who you are.
To answer your question God helped calmed my nerves. I never prayed so much in my life. My pregnancy was fairly easily till 3 weeks before birth I broke out in a pregnancy rash called PUPPS. It was the worst. But my faith in God helped me through. My son was born June 2, 2011. I am blessed.
It is hard to not listen to others cause as a first time pregnant person everything is new, but by 6 months I had alot of stuff figured out that I was semi calm delivery day.
I just say having faith and knowing you have people around you that care makes it easy to tune out those voices of unwanted advice. It’s out of our control so give to God and he will deliver (no pun intended). Safe delivery.

Anonymous on

Last night’s Tia and Tamera was my favorite show. Tia was so cute trying to guess and Tamera was so cute trying not to say. Any chance we’ll get to see you telling your mom? Now, that would put the icing on the cake!! I have two grandbabies and I jumped up and down, shouting each time I was told about the pregnancies.

Lisa B on

Well-written blog! Couldn’t have said it better myself! And I was the queeen of blogging while pregnant. There was not an appointment or a tummy tickle that the world did not read about. Enjoy your 3rd trimester and best wishes on a healty delivery and baby! Congrats!

nat on

Hi Tamera!! You must be so excited that the time is drawing near! My son just turned 1 year old a couple of weeks ago, and let me tell you time flies even faster after they come out! But it’s so much fun. When I first found out I was preggers my mind was racing a thousand miles a minute. I had just started my master’s program, just bought a new home, and my husband was also finishing up with school. But, at the end of the day I figured that God could never give us more than what we can handle. Having a child does change everything but, when they are here you can never imagine what life was like before them! It’s the most amazing feeling! And guess what? All that worrying, forget about it, because everything just falls into place. Nothing is perfect but, it all works at the end of the day.

As far as your birthing plans and parenting style go, keep an open mind and heart. Trust your decisions, and never feel that one choice would’ve been better than another. Every mom and every baby is different. Only you know what feels right for you. Enjoy your pregnancy, birth, and baby one moment and day at a time. Cherish the beauty around it! You will be an awesome mom to that precious little boy! Many Blessings to you, hubby, and baby!

Holly on

You go girl!

Shereen on

Tia and Tamera,
You’re both beautiful inside and out, and your kids will also be beautiful. Just love them and discipline them from the get go! They grow up quickly, enjoy every moment, teach them their manners, and teach them right from wrong, but always show them that family comes first and forever!!

Where would I be able to get a picture of the two of you? You’re both an inspiration to many young adults, and even though I’m a grandma now, I’ve watched you both grow up to be awesome adults with great values!! Stay close to one another even though you have your own families. Life is short, treasure every moments with the people that you love!!

Olivia on

Love her dress!

shauncie on

I can certainly relate to everything you’ve stated. I was really excited when I found out I was pregnant. I now have two boys and must admit that I am a great mother. 🙂 I can’t say I had no worries. I had complications during birth ,but I am not going to tell you about those because I fear they’ll only add to your worries. Everything yet turned out perfectly fine. I knew I would certainly have a hospital birth because I knew the nursery was going to be needed on my first night. I could hardly open my eyes after birth. I don’t remember having that much exhaustion for a while. I rested comfortably knowing that pediatric nurses were watching over my little bundle while mommy caught up on some much needed rest. Being spoiled and waited on hand and feet were also a hospital bonus. lol I am such an individual. I have lived my entire life trying to not reflect anyone else image, trends, etc. I knew I wanted to raise my boys the same. I want them to be able to be comfortable in their own skin. I teach them that it is ok to change ,if there is something you do not like about yourself. Just make sure it is to make you happy. You can’t make anyone else happy ,if you’re not happy within yourself. I’ve heard criticism and praises on my parenting tactics. I always listen ,but I also wave my parent wand to let people know that this is my child and my decision. I pray you have a blessed and stress free pregnancy/delivery. Maternal instincts will kick in once your bundle of joy is here. I am sure you’ll be a wonderful mother.

LdyLeo731 on

Congratulations Tamera. I have two beautiful boys and it was not an easy journey for me. 2 miscarriages before my first son and two more before my second. I have to be honest… They say God does not make mistakes and I truly believe that I was meant to have the sons I have. People tried to give me advice on both pregnancie, but I found that every woman and thier bodies are different. One may have no problems while others are sick all nine months. I just took it one day at a time and listened to my body like I did before I was pregnant. One thing I did cherish was quiet time with me and my belly. I would talk to them and even sing them songs. I did not know what I was having either time so I really tried to connect with them even more. When your baby is born and you have that alone time whisper your prayer and wishes you have for him into his hear.

Enjoy your pregnancy and just take one day at a time. You will learn to be a mommy on your own. You will not parent like anyone else so just walk slowly through the process and ask God for guidance. Best Wishes and I know your son will love you to pieces. God Bless.

Krystle on

@Shaia hahahha ROTF LMAO you got served trying to be cool but you ended up looking like a fool. hahahahaha

Trish on

Motherhood comes naturally to most. Trust yourself, relax and enjoy every moment. Common sense and the immense love you have for your baby will see you through. You will be a great mother and stop worrying. You will have the rest of your life to worry!!!

Danielle on

Tamera, just loooove you!
Trust yourself..you will be fine! God is watching over you. May the baby boy bring you and Adam lots of joyand love!

LuvBigCity on

Love her bump and her clothes too : )

Anonymous on

You can have a Certified Nurse Midwife in a hospital and bring a doula with you for support, or my favorite reason massage!

Sandra on

Hi! Tamara, I’m your #1 fan I just wanted to say congrats to you & Adam wish you both the best with the baby coming soon. Ya now you & tia are mommies now!!! hooray!!! may God be both of you on your labor day.

Sandra on

Hi!! Tamara congrats on you 1st baby. Hooray now you & Tia are mommies. God Bless You Both.

Vanessa on

Yours and Adam’s marriage seems so loving and true! I love watching the two of you together and the way he looks at you. You make a great couple and will make great parents. Congratulations on a great marriage and your soon -to- be family.


Tamera don’t worry it will come naturally. Just be the sweet person you are . Love you and tia show . Lisa

Anonymous on

I am sooooo happy for you and Adam. Congrats from Louisiana.

Ashleigh on

Congratulations to you and your husband! Tamera now that you are a mom to be, maybe you owe your sister an apology. It seems to me, that you were very hard on her during her pregnency. Now that you know what it’s like, you should tell her your sorry. Congratulations again, you will be a great mom.

Lisa on

Birthing plan? I say wing it.. you never know with births.. lol

Jamie on

You will never know everything you need to know about your baby. Everyday will be a learning process, but go easy on yourself noone gets everything right. So just live, laugh and love and you will be alright. Congrats and we cant wait to see pics!!!

yweight on

Tamera congratulations on your marriage and your new baby, my daughter and I watch your sister and your show all the time. And I can we love the the family bound, and although you’ll don’t always see eye to eye no one is pulling hair out or fighting and screaming. You two are the most normal behaved young women on tv and I love it, grew up through the celebrity of tv drama unharmed awesome. As for baby advice, I read a lot and I had lots of child interaction before I had my child. I based a lot of my child rearing on what I wanted and didn’t want in my up bringing and what I saw around myself as a child. Glad to say my daugher turned out just wonderful, keep up the great workk and take care.

Jennifer on

For myself I took a lamaze class. I heard the stories of the pain as a child my mom wanted good mothers day gifts lol. seriously though in the lamaze class we learned about the different ways to handle the pain I chose the ITN. I didn’t really have many worries in my pregnancy. I did things the way I was comfortable with. but I have three kids and I did learn one important thing that nobody ever tells you. Every pregnancy you have will be different. I take back my previous statement about not having any worries, in my first pregnancy there was a minor complication the umbilical cord was wrapped around my babies neck. But everything turned out fine my labor was helped along with pitocen and my son is healthy and happy. back to my previous point do what works for you. believe me you’re just begining.

rosemary nixon on

I just luv you and Tia,I’ve watch you from sister/sister,being kids up til being young ladies,and haven’t your own families. Keep doing what you are doing. Can’t wait to see the next series of Tia/Tamara. Take care. God bless…..

Susan Miller on

First and foremost Tamera, congratulations to you and Adam. I have been watching you on TV for a very long time, I am a mom of three daughters, ages 26,22 and 17. I am 52 , have been happily married to the same man for 28 years,. I love you even though I don’t personally know you. In addition to being a mom, I am a registered nurse and my specialty has always been pediatrics. There are a couple of things I want to share with you. First and foremost trust your instincts. Every person in the world will want to give you advice, tell you horror stories of labor, just politely nod your head, and let it go in one ear and out the other. You and Adam must find your own way with this wonderful gift from God. 2. It is really hard being a parent, but the joys outweigh the hardships a hundred fold. Just remember time will fly by, and you will be saying how did this all go by so fast? Try and stay present in the moment and enjoy all of the wonders of being a parent. Lastly, it is the hardest job in the world, so be kind to yourself. I have never subscribed to the new trend of ,”if I don’t take care of myself first, I cannot be a good mom” Sorry all of you younger generation. My kids always came and will come first. That is a commitment my husband and I made when we chose to have children. We have gladly made plenty of sacrifices for our girls. They have been well worth it.And frankly, by being a good mom to my kids, made me feel like a good person, and that was all I needed. Sure my husband and I hired baby sitters, but don’t feel like you have to leave a young baby or child for a long period of time because others tell you too. Be kind to yourself Tamera, especially when the baby is crying, you are crying, and it feels overwhelming. Call Tia, or your mom. You will get through it.
I am so happy that you are going to experience such a wonderful gift in your life. We wish you and Adam, health, peace , and happiness, Love, the Miller Family

sarah on

As we speak I am trying to breathe through morning sickness. I am 2 1/2 months pregnant and I just watched your show where you discovered you were pregnant and it really made me laugh. I am the last one to have children in my family of 7 and most of them have 3+ and so I am constantly hearing the advise of everyone around me and I listen to all of the dangers and try to steer away from the negative horror stories, but your right it is hard finding your voice when it comes to what is right for you as I am sure that I will discover more and more as this pregnancy progresses.

Anonymous on


You are truly an airhead. Not only is North America a continent, but you probably live on it if you’re in the U.S. Just in case you didn’t know, U.S. is your country. We have countries, continents, cities, and states. Hope that wasn’t too much for you. Not sure how old you are and don’t care, but you are a perfect example of why school is important and why additional funding doesn’t need to be cut. My son is 11, and he could’ve told you that N.A. is continent. I think you’re the one who needs to read dearheart smdh.

Tiffany on

Wow, Tamera looks stunning!! I just adore her. OMG, she’s due on my Birthday. Yay!!

Cupcake's Mom on

another example of how the school system FAILED Shaia. If you can’t read a book, just watch a few episodes of ‘Are you Smarter than a 5th Grader’

Tamera – so happy for you and for opening your lives with your sis and letting us in. I watch you both on Style ‘usually record the episodes on DVR’ as I juggle my new title ‘Working Mom of a soon to be 1yr old’

You look FABULOUS!!

Tarah on

Just embrace the journey you are about to embark on. Don’t worry about what kind of parent you plan to be because that may set you up for disappointment. There were many things that I said I would and wouldn’t do when parenting that changed once I ACTUALLY became mommy! You will always do whats best for YOUR child. A big thing I think moms forget is, to be a good mom you must also take care of yourself. So I leave you with my favorite quote. ” In the happiest of our childhood memories our parents were happy too!” Best of luck!

Taj on

Tamera is beautiful, positive, and quirky and that is why I love her and her sister. I can tell she is beaming with joy and Congratulations on her pregnancy.

Tawiah on

Congratulations, Tamera! God bless you & the family!

Sydia on

Tamera it will all be worth it end the end.

Maria on

In the US you are taught that North America is a continent and that there are 7 continents…in the rest of the world, we are taught that there are 6 – North and South America is classed as one continent as they are technically one land mass…and if you are in France – Antartica isn’t a continent and there are 5…so lay off Shaia!!!!

As for Tamera – just go with the flow…remember plans need to be flexible and you need to be flexible with them. Just enjoy the rest of your pregnancy, and those precious first few weeks because babies grow up so fast…

guest on

First, congratulations on your pregnancy. It is such an amazing experience! Although I literally threw up every day including delivering my two babies I loved it! Second, since having my children, I have lost some of my vocabulary. My husband looks at me like I am insane when I am desperately trying to find a word to say in the middle of a conversation. It has now become a ‘charades’ moment when family and friends try to guess what I am trying to say. Enjoy every minute- it is a beautiful experience! ❤

Quita on

I have to agree, I had the same concerns during the pregancy. Everywhere you turn, you get advice from friends, family to strangers. By my last trimester, I was more confident and knew going into labor what I wanted and made sure my husband and best friend was aware just in case anything happened.

It seems as though me being active helped to calm nerves and I surely had them (first pregnancy). I actually took pre-natal yoga and water areobics to help me and it placed me around others who were pregnant. We would talk and you built a connection with someone who understand you. You could discuss fears and excitement.

Liberty on

Wow! I just found out you are pregnant!! And we’re due around the same time. I’m due October 31! I used to be obsessed with Sister Sister!!

Amanda on

Tamara, I am so happy your going to get to enjoy motherhood..it is one of the most amazing moment you could ever experience. With everything almost coming to an end, there is really no way you can prepare yourself for everything. But you can try to remember as much as possible and always always ask questions! Follow your intuitions. I lost my mother a week after I found out i was pregnant, before that I miscarried@17 weeks of pregnancy. So when I found out I was pregnant with my daughter I was very scared. I didn’t get to enjoy my pregnancy like I wanted and needed too. Especially losing my mother I didn’t really have that one person I was extremely close too..at 6 and a half months my daughter amarah had open heart surgery unexpectedly..which shocked me bc my pregnancy had some complications, but doctors seemed that the problems that were arising at first was gone..amarah is almost 6. So I will leave you with this: each pregnancy is different, things happen out of no where, and there is no easy way to prepare yourself for everything..but what I will tell you is to keep your loved ones close, cherish the moments like their your last and live day by day. Keep god by your side and have faith..and enjoy your little boy!! Congrats

Jessica on

Just enjoy these last weeks and every kick, movement, etc! Labor and delivery is not scary actually a lot easier than you think. It’s just the fear of the unknown that gets you. Keep an open mind about your birth plan and breast feeding that way if something unexpected happens or if you are unable to nurse you won’t be let down. Enjoy every moment it’s amazing!

alyssa on

I am about 3 weeks away from being done with my first trimester. Currently 10 weeks along. I am getting sick all the time and so exhausted but still so excited to have our first baby. Congrats on your little boy. And I look forward to your able all the time.

Celine on

Wow Tamera you are glowing girl!!! I absolutely love u and your sister I’m obsessed with your show.Congrets on the baby and god bless you and your sista mwah!

Khumi Masilo on

Congratulation to you and your family I love you guys very much. Children are a blessing.