Moms & Babies

Celebrity Baby Blog
Celebrity Baby Blog

Ali Landry’s Blog: Some Honest Thoughts on Nursing from a Working Mom

08/17/2012 at 05:00 PM ET

Thanks for welcoming celebrity blogger Ali Landry!

A former Miss USA, the model and actress, 39, most recently starred in and executive produced Hollywood Girls Night on TV Guide Network.

Landry is also the founder of Spokesmoms, a product review platform for mothers, and is a supporter of SafeKids.org, which works to prevent childhood injuries.

Married to director Alejandro Monteverde since April 2006, the couple are parents to 5-year-old daughter Estela Ines and 10-month-old son Marcelo Alejandro.

You can find Landry on Facebook and on Twitter @alilandry.

Estela inspects her nursing brother – M. Design


I’d like to start off by saying that nursing was one of the most amazing experiences for me.

When people talk about breastfeeding, they’ll tell you about what a great bonding experience it is, how it’s the best way to make sure your baby gets the nutrition they need and antibodies to protect them. They’ll even tell you about how it helps you lose weight after giving birth.

But it’s hard to really describe how intimate and special it is.

Hair/makeup/nursing multi-tasking – Courtesy Ali Landry

Of course, in the name of honesty, there were also difficult parts that nobody warned me about. Nobody told me about insanely sore nipples or wrestling with a breast pump or how you cry the first time you spill some of that liquid gold.

Looking back, it makes sense that nobody dwells on having to wear nursing pads in your bra for months on end, because ultimately it’s a small price to pay for all the benefits.

In honor of National Breastfeeding Month, I thought I’d share a few of my stories: the good, the bad and the ugly.

My special cooler – Courtesy Ali Landry

I nursed my baby girl for 10 months, a memory that still feels bittersweet. I would come home, sit in my glider with her and let the rest of the world just fall away. I would look at her, see how content she was, and no matter what kind of day I’d had, I’d feel happy, too. Her little hand on my chest as she nursed — that memory will stay with me forever.

As a new mom, I was determined to do everything right and to nurse as long as possible, but when her teeth came in she started biting me. I talked to other moms, my doctor and a lactation consultant in search of a solution, but nothing helped. I even tried hand-expressing my milk directly into her mouth, in a desperate hope that I could nurse without letting her little piranha teeth anywhere near me, but in the end, I decided it was time to wean. She is now a perfectly healthy five-year-old with a new baby brother.

When Marcelo was born, I knew more about the challenges ahead. Alejandro and I learned a lot of lessons the first time around — some more expensive than others. (One time we stopped for gas, and while Alejandro was filling the tires I started the gas pump and then crawled into the back to lean over the car seat and nurse. Alejandro got in and drove away while the fuel hose was still attached. Talk about an expensive tank of gas!)

Pumping at Oscar Fashion Wrap – Courtesy Ali Landry

The second time around, I knew a few things. I went into it with even more excitement, anticipating how precious those first months would be, but other challenges presented themselves.

The biggest challenge was that I was back to work a lot earlier. Just two weeks post-partum, I traveled with the whole family to shoot my final scene in Alejandro’s movie Little Boy. I’d shot earlier scenes in 1940′s maternity wear, which was educational, but this time I was back with baby in tow. I nursed while sitting in the hair and makeup trailer. With my hormones doing acrobatic readjustments, the experience was overwhelming.

Only a few weeks later, I traveled to New York for a press event promoting Hollywood Girls Night. This was when the pump and I first became best friends. Later, while working on location on a film in Louisiana, my new BFF and I went everywhere together. Sometimes my trailer would be far from set, so I’d carry a small cooler around with a piece of tape on the top that read “Breast Milk – Do Not Open.”

Cocktail, anyone? – Courtesy Ali Landry

Whenever the production assistants asked if they could do anything for me, I would put them in charge of my little cooler until I could get back to my mini-fridge and tuck the baggies in between the bottles of Tanqueray and Patron.

Because I believe so strongly in the benefits of breastfeeding I decided not to be shy about what I needed. In addition to toting around my cooler, I was very open about when it was time for me to pump. I used a light blanket for cover, and if people on set got squeamish I just smiled and went about my business, knowing that my persistence was a shout-out to nursing mothers everywhere.

Unfortunately Marcelo followed in his sister’s footsteps when his teeth came in about a month ago. Knowing that he might, I had braced myself to push through, but the biting was just too painful. Having just weaned him, I feel nostalgic for that special time, but I also feel very blessed. I did my best for both of my kids, and really, what more can any mother do?

Nursing is hard work, sometimes we just need to rest – Courtesy Ali Landry

So if you’re a nursing mom, or soon to be a nursing mom, I’m here to tell you it can be rough, but it’s absolutely worth the trouble. You’ve got to hang in there as long as you can, and then give yourself a pat on the back, whether you nurse for three weeks, three months, or three years. Viva la leche!

We learn so much from each other as moms. I would love to hear your journey with breastfeeding.

– Ali Landry

More from Ali’s PEOPLE.com blog series:

Your Reaction

Follow Us

On Newsstands Now

On Newsstands Now

Robin Roberts: How Loved Saved Me
  • Robin Roberts: How Loved Saved Me
  • Emma and Andrew: All About Hollywood's Cutest Couple
  • Prince George! More Yummy Photos

Pick up your copy on newsstands

Click here for instant access to the Digital Magazine

Advertisement

Add A Comment

PEOPLE.com reserves the right to remove comments at their discretion.

Showing 89 comments

Ashley on

As a mother of an 11 month old boy with 8 teeth I know how hard it can be to continue nursing after the biting start but I continue on because I know that the breast is the best for my baby and soon enough he will wean on his own. I applaud Ali Landry for nursing as long as she did, and she is right breast feeding is an amazing bond that a mother and baby share!

kpmonkeymommy on

I hate that you couldn’t work through the biting… but you nursed as long as you could, and that’s important.

Cynthia on

I enjoyed reading your blog because I have a 15 month old baby and I still nurse her! I had a lot of trouble in the beginning! She had colic and would constantly come off the breast due to gas. I kept thinking something was wrong with her, when honestly it was me! I had so much anxiety over it and almost gave up so many times.

I was lucky to have a lactation consultant who I saw every week for the first 3 weeks of her life. I am so grateful for her because she gave me confidence every time. I felt so stupid when I was having trouble because I felt every mother should be able to nurse. I know now that is not the case. I even took Reglan to boost my milk supply and fenugreek. I also pumped from the beginning but I never pumped really well so I didn’t get out too much.

I went back to work after 3 months maternity leave and took my pump to work. It was hard to find the time since I am a nurse, but luckily my coworkers and boss were very helpful and supportive. I am proud of myself that I continued to nurse her through sore nipples and tears lol! My Breast Friend and The Hooter Cover were awesome for me.

My mom was also supportive and always told me “just feed your baby, if it is too much trouble, it is okay to give her formula”. There were times when I did and I am glad she told me that piece of advice because it helped calm my nerves!

lilapis on

It’s great to hear a story about the positive benefits and challenges of nursing (because those are many as well).

I’m sorry that the biting became such a problem for you, but glad you had such a positive experience otherwise. Perhaps other Moms with similar issues might try a trick my lactation consultant used when my daughter started to bite: I started to pull my daughter closer in to the breast. My skin would momentarily obstruct her breathing, and she would immediately stop biting and pull away. I’d latch her back on normally, and after doing this just a few times, she wouldn’t bite me for weeks on end (and then we’d just start the cycle over again). Eventually she lost interest in biting, and she weaned herself at 18 months.

Good luck to all the Mamas out there facing breastfeeding challenges. I commend you!

sapphire on

nursing is a wonderful thing! great blog post!

lovely123 on

Too bad people only like nursing when it is done in the privacy of the home. Take it public and everyone thinks a mother is flashing society! I breast fed and supplimented all three children. I had ten pound babies so they were hungry!

lovely123 on

Love the pictures.

jenny on

Thanks for sharing. If you have any tips on weaning I’d love to hear them.

Angelita on

Thanks for sharing your beautiful story. I’m sorry about the kids biting! But any amount you give is great. I wish every mom can experience the wonderful bonding. And it’s true you don’t mind the other things that go along with it! For me I have nursed 3 kids over 2 1/2 years each I’m nursing my 4th now 20 months and going strong. I’m a F/A so I have to pump on planes, airports, hotels, keep the milk cold to bring it home for my baby! I also donated milk with all my kids! To me it’s all worth it !!!! Because it’s just a small moment in time to enjoy !

Tegan on

Good on you for breast feeding that long. I just want to add for anyone about to go through their baby getting teeth- when they get teeth it takes a while for them to figure out how to feed again so they aren’t necessary biting you they just have to figure it all out again so go back to what you did when they were first born and you had sore nipples for me that was applying lanolin after every feed, a week later and all was good. Just remember that you don’t have to stop just because they have teeth

Nina on

Good for you! I nursed my daughter for 10 months and it was really hard, but really amazing. I hope people become less squeamish about this beautiful, natural thing. It makes me so sad when people think it’s gross. I applaud celebrities who come forward and opening nurse!

lovely123 on

Doesn’t that last picture make you want to smell that baby’s head!!!!!! I LOVE NEWBORN SMELL!!! p.s. poop I can live without!

Mommytoane on

Cute pictures. Love them….and the article.

to Lovely….I think more people would be ok with breastfeeding in public, if it was done modestly like Ali is doing in the above picture. Many people get turned off by seeing the entire breast exposed all the time. Their problem..I agree. But, theres nothing wrong with a little modesty either.

Kelly on

I nursed my first for one year and I have been nursing my second for 7 months and still going strong! It is the best experience in the world. The benefits definitely out weigh the challenges. Pumping at work is definitely a challenge!

Mallory on

Honestly, I loathe reading stories like this. I desperately tried to breast feed my son, but due to thyroid issues, my milk never came in. We spent 3 weeks trying every possible resource and he kept losing weight and I still couldn’t produce. It’s hard to not feel like a failure and it’s hard to read others experiences of what a wonderful thing breast feeding is. So many moms judge those of us who cant breast feed without knowing the whole story. You wouldn’t believe the tears I shed over failing to breast feed my sweet son.

jessica on

Wow. Thank you so much for being an amazing role model. Beautiful, smart and tough…I love it. I hope your sweet babies thank you some day xoxo

Marky on

Mallory, it is important to realize that when you try your best, that’s the only thing you can do. You have not failed your child and you should never feel you have. I’m sorry it didn’t work out for you the way you wanted, but it is NOT a failure! Moms take care of their children the best they can, and that’s fine. Be happy, do your best in everything you do, and never look back, except to feel good about having done your best.

My daughter wasn’t able to BF her daughter because the baby was going into liver failure. My daughter felt terrible about it, but it was what it was, and she made a decision to let it go so she could be the mother she needed to be. I’m sure it was even harder because I was a lactation consultant, and had breastfed without difficulty, she assumed she would. She gave it her best, and that’s all anyone can do.

Lourdes on

Love the pictures! I have to kids, brestfeed the first one for 18 months and I’m still nursing the second one (14 months old). When those little teeth come in, it feels like when you first started to nurse. It hurts really bad, but like someone else mentioned before I went back to use lanolin and it helped me. I also used to grab their little nose for a second and they would stop bitting. After a week or so, they learned that mommy’s nipples were not a chewing toy.

I am also a full time working mom, so that pump became my new accesory for 9 months at a time. It’s not easy or comfortable to pump at work, even if you have the privacy of your own office. It still feels weird, but you do what you have to do in order to give your baby the best you can. I think the more we talk about this, the more comfortable we become with this topic, a lot more moms are willing to give it a try. Every idea, every comment, every suggestion helps a mom out there who is going through a difficult time.

Good luck to all the moms, who are willing to give it a try, it doesn’t matter if it is for a week, a month, or a year. We are trying to do the best for our babies.

Dawn on

I nursed my daughter for 14 months and my son for 20 months. By 14 months Lucy was chewing on me like I was a ham sandwich, so when she weaned herself it was definitely time for both of us. Jack never bit me, and even though at the end I only nursed him at night we kept going to 20 months. It was definitely a great experience and I’m so glad I did it.

That being said, Moms who can’t breastfeed, or who choose not to for any number of reasons, are still bonding with their babies. I feel bad that this whole issue has become such a controversial topic. I say feed your baby the best way that works out for both of you.

Oh, and I wish people were honest about how much it hurts at first! I was a mess the first week! Once that first week was over, everything was so much better.

Anne on

What a great post! I am the mother of a 10 month old and can relate to her love of breastfeeding! I rush home from work to feed and in an instant I feel a connection feeding my daughter. As a working mom I lug my pump to work everyday it is annoying but so worth it. Did you know that a new law was signed requiring an employer to provide reasonable break time for an employee to express breast milk for her nursing child for one year after the child’s birth. The employer must also provide a place( other than a bathroom) for the employee to express breast milk. Yay!

pixy14 on

There is such a thing as exclusive pumping…

4mom on

You are a fantastic mom! I love hearing a positive breast feeding story! I also love the picture of you and both of your children in bed with you while the baby nurses, that was always my favorite way to breastfeed!

I have breast fed three babies each for 12 months and my fourth baby is 10 months old. He cut 6 teeth when he was six months old and I trained him the same way I trained my other babies. My pediatrician said when the baby bites down use your finger to pry their teeth open and then gently but firmly tell them “No biting” and put the baby down. If they are really hungry they will cry to eat and probably won’t bite you again at that feeding. If they are playing they won’t care that you put them down. I usually only had to tell them no two or three times and they quit. Maybe I was just fortunate that they were so easy to teach. I do know that I could not smile or they would burst into laughter, babies find biting very amusing when you cry out in pain or gasp too.

How lovely to read so many positives for breastfeeding along with some of the harder parts. I coould never pump very much even though I always produced plenty of milk. Fortunately my work allows me to have the baby close by and feed on demand. I will miss the bond I have with my son when I wean him in a couple of months. He will still love me but his world will open up to more people and adventures. That is the way it shouid be.

Chris on

I am currently breastfeeding my 8 month old son, and I plan on doing it until I feel like we are both ready to stop.

I love Ali’s strength for saying it’s time for her to nurse or pump and she doesn’t care who does not like it. I have encountered so many people who make faces at me and ask, “How long are you going to do that breastfeeding thing?” or “Youre still breastfeeding your son!”

I think it is an extremely personal choice a mother makes, and whether she does it for a few weeks, months or years it is her choice. I wish people would stop judging other moms choices for their children and just embrace each individuals effort, because everyone’s situation is different!!

jenni on

I can honestly say my son was about 6 months old before I experienced any of that amazing feeling about nursing. Up until then, it sucked. Nearly everything about it was so challenging, it was my least favorite aspect of motherhood. First tooth at 4 months old definitely contributed to the challenges.

But I was extremely determined to nurse for at least the first year. We still do it (before bed) at 2 years old. I’m so glad I was able to hang in there!

Susanne on

Good for you, well done!!!!!! I nursed both my sons for more than 11 months, and is was a wonderful time although there was hardship involved too (e.g. pumping during two hospital stays of our youngest). I am so happy I kept with it. I LOVED the experience. Thanks for sharing the pictures, you look gorgeous on all of them. So do your happy kids. BRAVO!!!!!

RoastLamb on

My journey was very similar to yours. My eldest daughter started to bite at 11 months and I stopped at 13. Luckily my second daughter did not bite and I was able to continue till she was around 2.5 years old. Also the sore nipples were a nightmare for both children in the first couple of months. I thought – naively – that I’d be fine the second time around but I wasn’t. It’s great to see a celeb mother celebrate and support breastfeeding – KUDOS!!!

Heather on

Whether to breastfeed should be a personal choice a mom makes, and women should not judge each other either way about it.

ladn on

I’m happy for all those who can nurse because its certainly the easiest, cheapest way. But it almost killed me after a few months. I’m happy to say my kids did well on formula, not sick all the time, and gifted in school program and now successful adults. So those of u struggling don’t feel guilty for not nursing, ur kid will n great either way.

Kat on

My son is almost 4 & still nursing occasionally. I plan to do it until he is ready to stop on his own. I don’t care what other people think. I’ve done tons of reading on the subject & believe it is the best thing for him. It is still a wonderful, bonding experience, & I am very grateful I’ve had no difficulties. The very first week it was excruciatingly painful, but I just grit my teeth through it, & luckily it didn’t last & it’s been a wonderful journey ever since!

Congrats to all the moms who breastfeed or at least try to.

cc0916 on

As a soon to be first time mom who intends to breastfeed and go back to work after 3 months, this was a great blog to read. I appreciate the honest, heartfelt writing. I think it’s so important that mothers support each other and recognize that as long as we do the best we can we should be proud. It’s not a competition, and we should all support each other.

Nic on

I am amazed when i read breastfeeding success stories. I had a HORRIBLE experience breastfeeding!!

My first son would scream everytime I would try to latch him on. The second night after his delivery a male nurse came in and said that they had to feed my son a bottle because he was hungry and my milk had not come in. I refused at first and then felt awful because i didnt want my son to starve. By the time i took him home he refused me and would scream when i attempted to feed him. So being a new mom i just gave him bottles because in my mind i didnt want to starve him. I ended up pumping for six months and bottle fed him.

My second son was a great eater. But by the second week I had Mastitis from the open bloody sores on my nipples. Everytime he latched on my toes would curl and I could only do it for a few seconds at a time. I tried to pump and feed him but i had a 16 month old to take care of and couldnt pump while he was crawling the walls! I pumped for two months and gave up after getting mastitis for the second time. I cried for feeling like a failure! Why has this happened twice?!?!

Throughout it all I saw lactation consultants and the last one said he had a third degree tongue tie. She recommended I go get it snipped by a oral surgeon but my husband finally drew the line and stopped me from my craziness. I had taken my dream of breastfeeding over my sons well being…who knows what could have happened if I got it cut… infection, deformity, possibly death?!?! (It also wasn’t a serious enough tongue tie that would affect his speech).

My point is, try your hardest to breastfeed (because your milk is best) but let it go and enjoy your baby if it doesnt work. I have an amazing bond with both my boys and they are very healthy.

Ann on

So, so true! I am a Pediatric and NICU nurse and a mother of four. I have successfully breastfed, successfully pumped when one child could not medically take the breast, and I have come to terms emotionally when I could no longer feed breastmilk to that child.

Breast milk is great…only thing “best” is a growing, healthy baby. I’m all for promoting breastfeeding, but not to the point of ignoring the fact that every mother may not be able to and how sad it is when moms are put through the “emotional ringer” and made to feel like a failure or less of a mom.

Kudos to Ali! Beautiful children! (In no way do I believe Ali’s blog insinuates a poor view of a mom who cannot breast feed.)

Dorcett on

I cant believe all the hype about breastfeeding the past few years. What is the big deal?? People have been doing it since life began. Why a National Breast Feeding Month?? For heavens sake that is ridiculous. I get the feeling that this issue getting pushed down our throats, many women cant breastfeed and I don’t believe it makes any difference to the children’s well being, it is a personal choice, that’s all.

Jade on

Although it’s great to hear how wonderful breast milk is, I think Mom’s who formula feed get a bad rep. It doesn’t mean we love our children any less. I breastfed my son until he was almost 4 months. I wan’t producing what he needed and I felt there was something not right everytime I fed him, I cried. I was miserable and that in turn, made my son miserable. I felt I couldn’t go anywhere unless I was back home in an hour! We went with formula, and he’s been thriving ever since! A happy Mommy equals a happy baby!

Don’t knock the Moms who formula feed. It’s a very personal decision and what’s right for one family isn’t always right for another.

Melissa on

A beautiful post! Thanks for sharing. I nodded and smiled my way through the entire thing :)

Jude on

Heather I agree!! I chose not breastfeed and my children were as healthy as a breastfed child. And I wouldn’t change a thing. I have had some women give me a Discusting look becuse of my choice. But as long as my children turned out healthy that’s all that mattered to me. It was the right choice for me.

Lisa on

Nursing is indeed bittersweet. I had multiple problems in the beginning – latching issues that led to bleeding nipples, then scabbed nipples. But I would not give up.

At about 6 months, my baby decided to refuse the breast (we never used a bottle so it was not nipple confusion). I had to pump and I was totally distraught. I missed him so much. After about 2 weeks, I tried to nurse and he was fine.

He started to bite around 9 months, but I would just tell him “no” and he seemed to understand. It happened only a handful of times but it was no picnic being bitten.

I weaned him at 13 months and I miss it every time I think about it. The bonding, the closeness, the feeling that I was feeding my son from my own body. It is just so amazing and worth every ounce of the effort I put it.

I know that some people cannot physically do it for many reasons, so I don’t judge anyone who uses formula. We all do what we can for our children. But I do urge everyone to at least TRY it and then make your decision.

small fry on

Thank you so much for sharing this.

My 11 week old was born at 35 weeks and in order to preserve her energy, she was bottle fed exclusively for the first week (supplemented with expressed breast milk). I was allowed to begin breast feeding when she was a week old and she latched on well. I tried everything to boost production and took all the advice from the nurses at the hospital and from my baby’s doctor. I had a lactation consultant visit my house each week for the first 5 weeks after my baby was allowed to go home.

We were never able to make the switch to only breast feeding. I quit when my baby was 8 weeks old and I still feel awful that breast feeding didn’t work out. I’m so happy to hear when women can make it work, especially celebrities who must be so exhausted from their day-to-day activities.

Kudos to you and thanks again for sharing!!

Dawn on

Very nice, Ali. I did not nurse my now grown son, and he is just fine, but if I could do any thing different about his infanthood, I would nurse him.

Always nice to read the thoughts of other mommas and realize that famous or not, we are all the same women.

I love, love, love the picture of you and your babies in bed while you nurse.

Betsy on

Thank you Ali for sharing! My 18 month old is now fully weaned but is still getting “frozen” breast milk from my freezer stash! I am proud to say that my son was breastfeed until the age of 15 months while working full-time (10 hr days) as a therapist in the medical field. I was fortunate to have a job that provided a lactation room for the frequent pumping I was doing but I had my fair share of pumping experiences in various bathrooms, cars, airports and closets!

I too requested small “refrigerators” in my hotel rooms; traveled with “coolers” and fiercely protected every drop! There were times of stress when my supply would drop and I missed my “nursing” sessions with my little one. Many tired sleep deprived nights included late night/early morning “extra” pump sessions to try to catch up. It was exhausting, an incredible sacrifice and wonderful all at the same time.

Thank you Ali for highlighting breastfeeding for working moms!

HouMom on

I was surprised at how eager the nurses were to push formula on both my babies. My son spent the first 2 days in NICU and were feeding him formula even tho I specifically stated I wanted to nurse. I had a pump in my room and had set my alarm to get up and pump every few hours yet they still put him on formula. He was only in the NICU for a fever at birth so there was no real reason for this – only nurses convenience.

It was quite the battle once we got home to get him to nurse but the breast eventually won out and I was able to nurse for 7 months. I was told to stop when I found out I was pregnant again. I had a similar experience when my was born but it was the gen nursery that put her on formula during the night rather than bring her to my room. Luckily she switched easily to breast milk and nursed for 9 months. I stopped as stress caused my milk to dry up.

Even though I worked in an all male environment I was able to pump at work. The guys were awesome and even gave me my own office to use as needed. They jokingly called it the milking room. I nursed in restaurants and malls and occasionally got THE look but I never let it bother me. I was however, shocked to find out how many of my friends were anti-breast for no reason other than they thought it was “gross”. I am grateful that my mother was such big supporters of breast feeding otherwise I might not have made it through.

Dian on

I don’t mind breastfeeding, I just don’t want to watch it in public. If a mother wants to breastfeed in public, she needs to make arrangements to cover herself and the baby with a light blanket or such. Please be mindful that other people don’t want to see a baby sucking on a boob in plain sight.

ForeverMoore on

When my second child started biting (soon after he got his first tooth) he would just chomp down. Talk about pain, yeow! I finally figured out that he would bite down when he was done nursing and just ‘playing around’. Once I just pulled him off when he seemed like he was going to bite, he stopped biting like magic. There is NO WAY I was going to stop nursing and I’m sorry she felt that needed to, maybe she really did try everything she could. At least she went for as long as she could!

Zoe on

Breastfeeding was one of the most difficult things I have done- and the most rewarding. My daughter had a lot of issues in the beginning, would not latch and lost weight. I also had mastitis and severely lacerated nipples. I resorted to pumping for many months as I was in so much pain.

The one thing that helped me the most and enable me to continue my nursing experience (still going strong at 20 months) are silverette healing cups. Pure silver cups worn all the time, just slip them off when nursing. Healed my lacerations fast and eliminated all pain- I still wear them occasionally if my daughter is going through a growth spurt- miracle healing.

I wish more women were aware of these, I believe it could help many women continue their nursing relationships-free from pain!

Hope on

My experience with breastfeeding was very different than most of the people that have commented here. Due to unexpected life-threatening circumstances, my son was born early by c-section. He was five pounds at birth. I half-heartedly tried nursing him for two days in the hospital. I will be honest… while I was pregnant, I never really wanted to breastfeed, although I purchased nursing pads and nipple cream because I thought I “should” breastfeed, and felt that’s what “good mothers” do. Before his birth, I read books on nursing and sought encouragement and support on the how-to’s of breastfeeding from my midwife.

When I did try to nurse my son after he was born, my nipples were very sore and I found the whole experience to be painful and frustrating. The lactation consultant on staff would latch him on for me, and would then leave my room. Of course, he immediately popped off my breast, and I struggled to get him back on by myself. I sat in my hospital bed crying and feeling guilty for secretly not wanting to nurse, and hating every minute of it. Because of his low birth weight, I worried over whether or not he was getting enough milk and stressed out over not being able to gauge how much he was actually getting.

My husband, who was very positive and supportive, really affirmed me and we immediately made the decision moving forward to use formula. For our family, it was the right decision. And I was so relieved to let go of the myth that a mother is only trying her best if she breastfeeds and conversely, the unfortunate myth that if a mother decides to never attempt nursing and exclusively uses formula from the beginning, that she is not doing the best for her child or that she is selfish.

I absolutely support women who breastfeed their children, and in fact, most of my friends have and do breastfeed. I also support a mother’s right to choose formula. I am sure that my next statement will be viewed upon by some as blasphemous, but I’ll say it, anyway: Formula feeding has been very beneficial for our family. It means that my husband is able to help feed our son without waiting on me to pump, my breasts aren’t sore, I can measure how much formula he is taking without wondering if he is getting enough, and I can once again indulge in the occasional margarita.

I reject the idea that by keeping track of the number of sacrifices I make, the number of times I go without in favor of my son, forcing myself to endure painful nipples – that this will equate to being a better parent. Do I sound a little defensive? Maybe I am. Reading news stories such as this one probably contribute to it: http://www.foxnews.com/politics/2012/07/29/nyc-mayor-wants-hospitals-to-lock-up-baby-formula-to-encourage-breast-feeding/)

Don’t misunderstand me…I love my son fiercely. My heart leaps every time I see him, and he is the light of my life. I feel very bonded to him, and when I look down at his sweet face while I’m giving him his bottle, I’m reminded of his preciousness. However, I believe that had I bought into the idea that I could only bond with him if I nursed him, that would actually have interfered with our bonding, as I would have been filled with dread every time he needed to eat.

For the record, I am a licensed professional counselor and my specialty is in the areas of adoption, and attachment and bonding. For obvious reasons, the adoptive families I work with are unable to breastfeed and I do not believe this has impacted their ability to attach to their children.

By the way, I do agree with studies that suggest breastmilk is better for babies than formula. It probably is. And sure, it offers babies those antibodies that formula can’t. That said, I believe today’s formulas are of excellent quality and are able to provide babies with all the nutrients they need. My son is four months old now, and weighs over 12 pounds now. He is healthy, happy, and meeting all his developmental milestones, and I am a happy mom that is (mostly) secure with her decision to formula-feed.

Anonymous on

I like that you include the honesty part – society makes it to be so bonding/special/natural…yes BUT, it is SUCH a struggle for so many moms with consultants, without consultants…I was told so many opposing things when I nursed my son…and then when my daughter came along, something entirely different again.

My son was an amazing latcher and I don’t recall any huge struggles with him but with my daughter, different story. You’d think it’s old hat with the second but not always. To this day, she often doesn’t latch properly but I’m still at it, determined to make it to 9 months as I did with my son (who got teeth at that time too – YEEEEOWWWCH!!!!).

It’s worth it totally, but it’s not all roses and smiling faces. I don’t regret a thing though…these moments are so precious and fleeting.

Anonymous on

I have to add as well that here in Canada, we are lucky to have an entire year maternity leave. The US needs to get with the program. 6 weeks is ridiculous.

Hope on

Breastfeeding didn’t work for me.

lisa on

Beautiful post! I have three girls and it has been such an amazing experience. I nursed them 12 months, 14 months and still going strong at 14 months with this little one. Pumping is awful and I admire any woman who exclusively pumps!! Aside from a date night I avoid it at all costs- such a pain.

I think the hardest thing for me with nursing has been that none of my girls slept through the night until they were weaned so I have lots of long nights which can be hard. But then again, sitting alone in bed or in the rocker, with your sweet baby, knowing you’re all she needs… I can think of anything I’d rather do!

Stephanie Henry on

Great post! So nice to see a celebrity show positive, loving pictures of breastfeeding. Awesome!

J.F. on

I can appreciate pumping in the strangest of placed and just letting people think what they want. I travel for my job every week and pumped during those trips during the 13 months I nursed my son. I have pumped everywhere from airport “family” restrooms to out in the gate area when there was no where more private. [I feel lucky I never had to pump on a plane, but would have if it was necessary.] I carried my Bebe Au Lait cover and just went about my business. At hotels, I had no qualms about asking for exactly what I needed to store my milk.

Jen on

I nursed all four kids–two for a year, one for 17 months, and one for 2 1/2 years. Sore nipples put off a lot of people, but I would encourage all to persevere. They do go away–expressing some milk and rubbing it into the nipple frequently helps, as does lanolin for some women (I preferred the first “natural” way of doing things–personally I didn’t like putting anything other than my own milk on the nipples the baby was going to suck.)

It also helps to put the baby on the least sore nipple first–that’s where the champion hungry sucking is at first. :-) In time, they “toughen” up and the soreness goes away.

It was mostly a problem with my first child; after that it was largely fine–and there are 3 years between my first two, nearly 5 years between child 2 and 3, and 2 years between child 3 and 4.

I’d encourage people to do it for at least a year if they can–it’s a wonderful thing, and most of the babies do just great. :-)

Melissa S on

My little one turns 7 months tomorrow. I was unable to breastfeed her and was unable to breastfeed my firstborn, who is 7 years old, due to flat nipples. I too, like Mallory, feel heartbreak when I know what I missed out on when it comes to the intimacy and bonding with your child.

I pumped for 6 months with my first born and am still pumping with my new baby. Both of my girls are getting the best that I can give them, but it’s still hard to not feel like you’ve failed. I plan to pump for a year. I am also a working mother and find it difficult to pump at work, even though my colleagues are supportive.

I know I am doing all I can to do the best for my baby, but hurt inside when I see how some breastfeeding mothers take their ability to breastfeed for granted. Someone once said to me, “Don’t say you can’t breastfeed, just say it’s not for you”. Well that’s not the case at all! When you’ve committed to exclusive pumping, I am proving that breastfeeding is for–because I have to work harder to do it!

In the end Ali, I wish you all the best and am happy for you. :)

Melissa S on

I did forget to share that I had the worst case of mastitis with my first born that sent me to the hospital for three days with pain so bad that I wanted to die and still continued to pump.

Nursing and/or pumping exclusively mothers are the hardest working mothers out there!

Well done Ali!

Tricia on

Kinda tired of reading all these articles about how breastfeeding is “perfect” or the “right” thing to do. It is not “perfect,” or the “right” thing for every mother. I, personally, had ZERO desire to breastfeed, so I didn’t. My OB/GYN actually encouraged me not to since I had a strong desire leaning that way. I had three children- all formula fed, and to this day, at ages 18, 16, and 14, they are very, very healthy and happy children and always have been. Not one ear infection- not one!

There is nothing wrong with formula, and nothing wrong with those of us who are sickened by the thought of breastfeeding. When the right decision is made for that particular mother and family– all will come out winners in the end, and no judgment should be cast. It would be similarly unfair for a mother who chose not to breastfeed to judge a mother who does.

I am no less of a mother than any other mother because I chose not to breastfeed. I am proud I stayed true to myself and my own feelings and did not cave due to societal pressure. Amen to all mothers just for being good mothers- breast feeders or not!

Vivgo on

MALLORY -
No one MADE you read this story. You knew it would be about breastfeeding based on the title, so why would you open it, read it, and then decide to comment? You had issues – ok, we get it but that doesn’t mean that those that are ‘able’ to breastfeed or choose to work through the issues need to tip-toe around you.

Laura on

I have 3 children ages 9-21. I worked part time with my older sons and worked fulltime with my daughter. My oldest son went through a bting stage and even drew blood. When my daughter was born, I worked fulltime and nursed her for 1 1/2 years. I was proud that I was able to breast feed all my children and they have never had formula. It was a huge sacrifice and not alway easy but I am so glad I had that special experience with all three of them.

eggplantskitchen on

I get that she breastfed and it was beautiful and meaningful to her, but it also seemed like there was a healthy dose of self-righteousness in there too. “…if people on set got squeamish I just smiled and went about my business, knowing that my persistence was a shout-out to nursing mothers everywhere.” If this is an ultimate act of mothering, something based purely on bonding and the beauty of the act, why would one notice or feel the need to “make shout-outs” to anybody?

And I really don’t like that, when noticing she was making people uncomfortable, she didn’t maybe examine if there were probably better ways to go about what she was doing. If I’m in a meeting with a client, I don’t announce “I need to pump,” cover up with a blanket, and start pumping while continuing my business with them. It’s not just about respecting them, but being professional and handling yourself professionally while working, not to mention respecting yourself.

It just seemed like she was looking to make people uncomfortable, then looking to push that into making a stand because she feels passionately about what she’s doing, which I guess is fine for her, but let’s not kid ourselves that, at that point, it’s about the beautiful experience you’re having with your child.

The whole thing about putting people in charge of monitoring her breast milk cooler was beyond silly. Why does it need to be monitored? Is it going to do tricks? Somebody going to steal it? Let’s be realistic here… A cooler of breast milk carried around the workplace with a monitor for said milk in tow is not something the average mother needs to do, or frankly should do, and it seems divaish and absurd… Right on down to confession of her storing her breast milk near her booze… Which, if she’s pumping, should she really be drinking? And if she’s not drinking, do people want her breast milk in a fridge with their alcohol?

Besides which, as one who formula fed from birth (I can hear the groans and cries of “of course she did, that’s why she doesn’t get it” from here), I can say that I had incredibly beautiful, moving, sweet bonding moments with my son through bottle feeding, as did my husband, as did my sons grandparents (especially my mother). Even my stepsons have wonderful “getting to know you” bonding moments with my son over bottle feeding. Something that, 3 years later, they still remember and actually cherish. These moments are not the exclusive domain of breast feeding moms, as I’m sure countless foster parents, adoptive parents, extended family members, bottle-feeding parents, and fathers will attest to.

In fact, it seems for every one woman where breast feeding was a beautiful, poignant experience, there’s one woman who had the exact opposite experience… Where it was frustrating, painful, ineffective, maybe even embarrassing and uncomfortable. Why the need to create this stigma around breast feeding vs bottle feeding that, first of all, isn’t particularly true, but secondly and most importantly, may shame women, make them feel inadequate, because they can’t/didn’t/chose not to breastfeed?

It just feels like articles like this that reinforce the supposed magic bond one has with their child that can only come by breastfeeding both downplays the roles and the bonds of the other caregivers in the life of the child (such as, oh I don’t know, the father… You know, that other person who helps raise the child, who’s also learning about being a parent and bonding over shared experiences with the child), serves to set those who breastfeed above those who don’t in terms of ability to parent and the degree of love they have for their child, and just seems overly self-righteous for no constructive reason.

It’s like breastfeeding has now become the first stop on the “this is why I’m a better parent than you” train, just after the warm-up of “I had a natural, drug-free birth in a pool” but just before the inevitable blog that outlines the wonderful, craft-filled life of family perfection that is their daily life.

What we should do is respect each parents (as in both of the parents) choice to breast or bottle feed… And leave it there. The reasons behind to breastfeed or not breastfeed are incredibly personal and may involve everything from a health issue to a private family matter (such as adoption or fostering) and it is really nobody’s place to step in and criticize another parent’s choice in breast or bottle feeding.

Quite frankly, should celebrate living in a society where we have multiple options to safely sustain our infants. Not to sound like a 50′s housewife, but there are women across the world who, when they can’t produce milk, only have the option to watch their infants die of starvation, drink dirty water, or hope that various regional substitutes can keep them alive long enough to be able to eat solids. There are plenty of women out there that, due to malnutrition, dehydration, lifestyle, illness, disease, can’t produce milk, who’d think this discussion is utterly ludicrous because we have the luxury to argue about what method of feeding which substantive food gives us a better experience as a parent, whereas they’d put powdered milk in an old Coke bottle if it meant their babies didn’t starve to death.

I think the people who write stuff like this, who brag about breast feeding over bottle feeding are missing the plot a bit… We should be bonding as new parents who are blessed enough to be able to feed our children, be it by bottle or breast, that we are able to give and sustain in multiple reasonable and safe ways. We are able to give a basic need to our children, food, regardless by how we do it, and that’s the first step in sustaining a life that we’ve created. That our kids, as infants, aren’t already acutely aware of, familiar with, and afraid of starvation and prolonged hunger. Let’s celebrate that instead of fixating on how we do it.

Jody on

Hey eggplantskitchen, your entire post is a contradiction to what you’re supposedly promoting! You preach to moms about being supportive of one another yet you bashed the blogger. Pretty hypocritical if you ask me!

christine manzo on

Mallory thank you for sharing & thank you for your honesty. I’m so sorry you missed this incredible gift, but I want you to know you have nothing to feel guilty about because it was through no fault of your own. Even if you chose not to, it’s still ok. You did what you could & that’s what counts! You sound like a beautiful mother! Please try to concentrate on the gifts you do have & God bless!

christine manzo on

Sounds like a bitter mom who wasn’t sucessful in breastfeeding. I’m so sorry you missed the experience, but really, work through your own issues before you criticize breastfeeding moms!

Mom23 on

Tongue ties are extremely common and super easy to fix. Two of my children had them corrected. It’s a simple procedure done in the pediatrician’s or dentist’s office. If left untreated, children can have trouble feeding and severe speech delays/impediments.

To my knowledge no baby has ever died from a frenotomy (tongue tie clipping), but hundreds of babies die from circumcision and most people don’t think twice about that procedure.

Mom23 on

Believe it or not, most moms nursing in public would rather you not gawk at their baby and boobs either. Do everyone a favor and mind your own business…don’t like seeing it? Look the other way!

Life goes on for all moms, whether nursing or not. It’d be just as easy to say the sight of bottle feeding is offensive. A general rule- if you see a mother feeding her baby (no matter how), just leave her alone. She’s got more to worry about then whether or not you approve of her feeding choices.

Mom23 on

Seriously?

“For obvious reasons, the adoptive families I work with are unable to breastfeed and I do not believe this has impacted their ability to attach to their children.” Plenty of families induce lactation or feed with supplemental nursing systems to promote attachment during adoption.

“I believe today’s formulas are of excellent quality and are able to provide babies with all the nutrients they need.” You must not have ever read the ingredient label. Formula is nothing but dried cow’s milk (or soy) and corn syrup. Formula companies should be held accountable for the garbage they package and sell as nutrition. It’s shameful what they put in those cans.

Mom23 on

Don’t be heartbroken! Take pride in how hard you’re working. Pumping exclusively is so demanding. Give yourself credit for how hard you’re fighting to take care of your kids!

Heather A on

To breastfeed or not is a woman’s personal and should not be judged by anyone. I have a 6 year old and 4 year old twins. I did not breastfeed any of my children. I never had any desire to. They are all very healthy,smart and energetic kids. I have friends that have breastfed their children and some of the breastfed kids are sick all the time,have ear infections a lot,etc. Just for the record,during my twin pregnancy I gained 45 lbs and by my 6 week checkup after having them, I lost 58 lbs,all without breastfeeding!

I think the to breastfeed or not arguement is getting ridiculous. If u want to,great,if u don’t, great. Lets all just support eachother as mothers!

Mandy on

I am a nursing mom who had to go back to work after 6 weeks. At first I had absolutely no problems, but then my supply started to drop. I had to start supplementing with formula & I broke down & started crying because I felt like I was failing my baby. This wasn’t due to anything anyone said, just my own self being to harsh at judging me.

I had no problems with her latching on, sore nipples, or anything like that before so I thought I wouldn’t have any problems at all. I would never judge someone else for using formula. I know that what is most important is that my baby is getting what she needs.

I don’t understand someone being disgusted with the idea of breastfeeding though. That is what they were intended for. I know my mom didn’t breastfeed me & I turned out fine. Never sick a lot or anything. I think its a personal choice that every family has to make for themselves. I am hoping with my next one to stay home so I can be there more & not have the problem of supplementing.

Jennifer on

Ignore the Nursing Nazis, you did an amazing thing for your children by nursing them and doing it for as long as it worked for you , your’ children, your’ life and your family. Ignore the rest of the sanctimonious judgements. Biting is a good reason to stop nursing. Only you can make that decision. Its obvious you love your children and Im glad you were able to give them the immune benefits of breast milk.

Beth on

My 13 month old still nurses about once a day. I feel so lucky, especially since I have been back to work since he was 7 weeks old. He has bitten me a few times, but fortunately, it is not a regular problem. I should add that we formula fed, too! No amount of pumping was going to provide enough milk for my son while I was at work. Indeed, mothers need to do what is best for their babies, be that breast feeding or formula feeding!

Tiffany on

I loved reading your blog about the joys and trials of breastfeeding. I am still breastfeeding my son who is almost 12 months old. There were times I almost gave up because he wouldn’t latch on well (in the beginning), and the teeth! But I was very lucky to have a supportive husband. Andrew will be one next Sunday (with 9 teeth!) and I will continue to breastfeed until he doesn’t want to. Congratulations on your beautiful son

Samantha on

I loved nursing my son, but he was a big boy (9# 12.3oz) and I didn’t produce enough to keep him happy. I tried pumping to see if that would help production, but it didn’t. I only got to nurse him for 5mo, but at least I got to do it for a little while. I am proud of those that can nurse for as long as they are able. I will say that once my son got a taste of real food, momma wasn’t needed anymore.

Summer on

Great article. Thank you People

Monica on

Unfortunately, I was never able to nurse my oldest daughter, who’s now 4. My milk supply never came in no matter what I did. I cried for 5 weeks straight until I finally accepted defeat.

When my youngest daughter came along, she’s 2 now, I produced enough milk to feed her for a solid 4 months. And then one day (poof!) my milk just went away and there was nothing left to give her. I cried for weeks, feeling like such a failure – not understanding why my body wasn’t doing what it had been made to do.

I’ve shed many tears over my struggles with my inability to nurse my children the way I had wanted. That said, I am so grateful for both experiences and believe that everything happens for a reason. God has given me an opportunity to relate to women who also struggle, but also with women who get the chance to breastfeed.

And for the record, my girls are both healthy and I have amazing bonds with both of them regardless of how they were fed! Shame on those individuals who judge women that don’t nurse – you don’t know the story behind it!

Thank you for sharing your story.

Cat on

Ali,
Thank you for sharing. I got lucky with my daughter in that she only bit me once or twice and I was able to to 14 months. I am currently waiting to see if I’m expecting my second and hoping do go the same with the next one. Such great stories to share and lots of neat things to tell your kids when they get older!

Lena on

Thank you for sharing your story. The same thing happened to me with the biting. I am annoyed by the comments from people who said, “Oh, my baby bit too but I just worked through it.” They have obviously not gone through the same thing. I tried desperately for four weeks to bring my son back to the breast and endured horrible pain when he refused to latch and only chomped down. I was in tears every time I tried to nurse him. It is a very sad thing for the mother when a baby does this. Not to mention the painful engorgement and sudden hormonal crash.

Breastfeeding is wonderful, but it’s also difficult for many mothers. Not everyone can afford a lactation consultant. Please try to be more open minded.

Mandy on

To Bullies, I would never tell anyone else what to do. Breasts are for the purpose of breastfeeding. While I have never fed my daughter in public & probably never will, this is a personal choice for me. I like my private quiet time with my baby when I nurse her. I always take a bottle when we do go out in case she gets hungry. I am glad I did try to breastfeed as I gained more from the experience than I thought I would. I get that its not for everyone for one reason or another. I think women in general are hard on ourselves & always think we should be doing more for our kids than we already do.

RE on

Not everyone has problems when teeth come in! My son just turned one and has 6 teeth! I’m still nursing him.

He bit me once or twice and I googled … And read what to do and it worked. Once they bite down, you pull their face into your boob and they release and you release. Don’t say anything or do anything. Don’t even react. That all happens in a matter of seconds. Baby might cry, .. But they wont bite you again!

Also, I noticed that if I’m nursing and get into a heated argument or even stressful talking with my husband, my son will start to clamp down (happened once) and I did that and it was enough to show him he does not want to bite mommy!

Heather Neville on

Congratulations on nursing your children for so long and kudos for sharing your experiences!

The book “The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding” (LLL) has a lot of great suggestions for nursing moms at all stages – from newborn to toddler – including tips on how to prevent your baby from biting you once her teeth come in. I suggested reading that section to a mom I know who was having this problem a while ago. After reading it and following the advice it gave, she says that her son never bit her again. He’s nearly 18 months and still nursing. I won’t try to explain it all here, but I would strongly recommend that book to all nursing moms or moms-to-be.

Heather
http://www.labourdoula.com

Ginny on

Great blog! and love the pictures!

Mommyto3 on

Please don’t feel bad, you tried! And you are right there is way too much judgement flung around in all directions. I struggle with birth stories in this same way as none of my births went even close to natural or “right”. But in the end I have 3 amazingly awesom healthy kids who I love and they live me… And I’m sure you feel the same about your child… In the long run its love that matters :) give yourself a hug and forgive your body (I had to forgive mine too).

JMO on

Breastfeeding is great if you can do it!

But to everyone who did it bc they said it was what is best for their child. How many of you still currently do what’s best for them by cooking them the best meals they can possibly have? And providing them with healthy snacks as they continue to grow?

I only ask because my cousin was all about the breast. She nursed for 16 mos and bragged about how healthy it was and the best thing for him yet now at 3 his diet pretty much consist of bacon, hotdogs, potato chips, french fries, donuts, goldfish crackers etc.

If your going to start off feeding your kids the best how come many don’t follow through all the way through childhood? just curious.

Amanda on

Thank you for that information. It has helped me alot. :)

Linda on

Breast feeding for myself and daughter was the best. I nursed her at basketball games, football games, concerts, the mall and when we dined out. Anywhere and everywhere. Would do it again in a heart beat. She weaned herself at 11 months. One of the best experiences I have ever had. Good luck to those who will at least try.

Nicole on

Thank you SOOO much for ending your beautiful story in that way. You validated the 3 1/2 months of nursing that I was able to give to my children when others categorize me as a breast feeding failure. I think that the way you put it is best- hold on as long as you can and then pat yourself on the back for what you were able to do. Maybe if that was the message that all moms received, more mothers would be willing to take on the challenge. :)

Meghan on

I loved reading this! I nursed my daughter for 14 months (I was 8 weeks pregnant when she weaned) and I’m at about 7.5 months with my son. It’s amazing how different nursing these two have been. My daughter was a very lazy nurser and would be content to suck forever.

My son, however, is very active, and it’s been so difficult to get him to nurse consistently and efficiently. He is always distracted or just not interested. Our pediatrician told me at 6 months that it sounded like he was self-weaning, which is so unusual for a baby that age. I refused to give in and have continued to nurse since, but I am getting increasingly worried that we are coming to the end. Even in a dark, quiet room, he’s climbing up on me, taking himself off every few sucks (even during a letdown). With a 2year old around, it’s been so hard to really devote the time as I had the first time around.

It makes me sad, but at this point, I feel like I’ve put up a good fight, given it my all, and it would be far less stressful for everyone if I just continued to pump as long as I can (back at work) and if I go dry, so be it. I’ll be sad, but as much as I love nursing, this time around hasn’t been the peaceful experience it was with my first child.

zoe on

I kind of feel bad for the fathers and other family members. Were they not involved in the process of creating the child as well? Also what about adoptive mothers or women who cannot have children. It is nice that you breastfeed but many women who do (NOT ALL!!) come off sounding superior and condescending to women who cannot or do not want to have children and who cannot or do not want to breast feed. I was brought up to believe that women stood together, apparently not.

RJL on

I’m proud of you for breastfeeding as long as you did, Ali! My goal with my son was 1 year. Anything after that I considered a bonus. After he started getting teeth, it definitely got harder…he would bite me (but usually only at the end of feedings, kind of as a sign that he was done) but my big issue was that he never did figure out how to latch properly with teeth, even with the help of lactation consultants and different ways of holding him. So his sharp little teeth would rub against the base of my nipples and actually caused open sores! Talk about painful! When he was nine months old, I decided I just couldn’t keep going “straight from the tap” and bought a breast pump, as I was still determined that he should have breast milk until he was 1. My supply dipped, likely from the stress and pain of nursing, but I happily mixed breast milk and whole milk together and he didn’t notice the difference. By the time his first birthday rolled around, I was barely getting any milk when I pumped, so the day after his birthday, I put the pump away. I had reached my goal and was happy for it, as I know a lot of people who barely make it to six weeks, or six months. And that’s okay too, if that happens! Any amount of breast milk is good, and you did your best, just as I did. And if you can’t breastfeed at all, for whatever reason (such as my mother, who could not breastfeed me for medical reasons) and have to use formula (or if you choose to use formula right from the start, and not give breastfeeding a try), there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that either. :)

Emily on

way to go Ali for nursing as long as you did! I am a mother of 1 that is now 2 1/2 and I nursed until just about 2 months ago. I kept it up after teeth and stuck with it. I loved every moment and the bond between us. I really thought she was going to wean herself but I had to do it myself. I can’t wait to have another baby to go through the experiance again. It is alot of work but totally worth every moment. Yes nobody ever gives you the facts of blistering nipples and more sleepless nights but it is a blur in the past and I look at my daughter now and the bond that we shared!

Marth on

I commend any woman and understand all breast feeding mothers. I nursed my first until he was 18 months old and 5 months pregnant with number 2 – as long as you are not dilating it is fine. (At 7 months the milk turns into colostrum and baby 1 will most likely wean himself.) The first 3 ½ months my son had me on 45 minute feedings, everyone said I wasn’t making enough milk and for me to feed him formula. I refused, kept to the promise I made to offer him the best, while I can. He went from boob to cup.

I’m sorry you couldn’t get through the biting, when my kids started to bite, I would firmly tell them “No” and remove them. Just one time and that’s all I took. (An hour after my daughter was born she latched on so hard that as I tried to take my nipple out of her mouth, it stretched it about 2″ — yeah “ouch!”)

Today, she is almost a year old, and still breast feeding and proud. I can care less if I’m in a mall, restaurant, visiting – my child’s needs are way more important than what ignorance may say.

Advertisement

Squeals & Deals

Sign-up for the Mom's &s Babies Free Weekly Newsletter

Free Weekly Newsletter

Mom Said It

"We weren't trying to have kids. We left it up to fate. I knew there was a possibility, but I was really excited. Even if you are trying, just to see a positive result is shocking!"

 

From Our Partners

Sign up for our daily newsletter and other special offers.
    Choose your newsletters
Thank you for signing up! Your request may take up to one week to be processed.
    see all newsletters