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Josie Maran’s Blog: How I Gave Birth In My Backyard

08/15/2012 at 09:30 AM ET

Our blogger Josie Maran is now a mama twice over!

The face of Maybelline for years, the model, 33, has also dabbled in acting, appearing in Van Helsing, and reality TV, where she took a spin on Dancing with the Stars.

In 2007, Maran established Josie Maran Cosmetics, her own natural product line. Since the launch, the Argan oil-based skincare and cosmetics have been the recipient of various industry awards.

Having welcomed her second daughter on July 1, Maran resides in Pennsylvania and California with her husband, Ali Alborzi, 6-year-old Rumi Joon and 6-week-old Indi Joon.

You can find her on Facebook and on Twitter @josie_maran.

My new family of four – MB Anderson Photography


Hello my PEOPLE peeps,

There’ve been some pretty major changes in my life since I last wrote you in June. On July 1, I gave birth to my second little angel, Indi Joon Maran Alborzi.

Indi was born in the backyard of our Pennsylvania farmhouse, and we were surrounded by my family and friends. Talk about a labor of love! There was nothing but love in the air, and I’m sure that helped Indi make her way into our arms in only four hours.

I’d been having contractions for about a week before I finally went into labor. I kept waking up in the morning thinking, “Today’s the day.”

Being nine months pregnant in the heat and humidity of Pennsylvania was getting old, so I did what the modern mom does: I went on Twitter and asked if anyone had any tips to make a baby decide to move out of Mommy Hotel.

Sure enough, another mom recommended spicy food. I didn’t hesitate: I dragged my husband and daughter to dinner at a Mexican restaurant.

It worked! The next morning I was standing on the stairs in my farmhouse chatting with Ali’s mom when my water broke. Instantly I became giggly and giddy with excitement at meeting my new baby.

Soon I was sitting in a blow-up kiddie swimming pool in my backyard with my midwives, family, and friends gathered around. My dear husband was in the pool with me, encouraging me, telling me that I was powerful, capable and beautiful.

Laboring with Ali’s support – MB Anderson Photography

My older daughter, Rumi Joon, was dancing around, checking on me, then running off to make me clover crowns. She even came out with a plate of cookies for my guests — always the perfect little hostess. When I was struggling, she gave me lots of kisses to help me through.

It was a beautiful day. I took in the view around me as each contraction came and went through my body. I love being outside, so the choice to give birth in the great outdoors was a natural one for me.

Being surrounded by birds, plants, and my family was much better than being in a hospital with impatient doctors and lots of beeping monitors. A home birth was the perfect choice for me — that’s why I did it again.

I understand that this birth choice isn’t for everyone, but I believe in trusting my body to do what women have been doing for thousands of years. Childbirth isn’t scary; it’s a natural and powerful wonder. I encourage all women to explore their options, and know that they have control over how they give birth.

While my daughters’ births were very different — Rumi was born in 14 hours under a jasmine vine, while Indi was born in four hours under a honeysuckle bush — each was a truly magical experience. I brought my girls out of my body and into nature, and I hope this early experience inspires them to remember their ties to the earth.

During my labor, I wore a necklace hung with the charms that the women in my life gave me at my baby shower, each also offering an intention for my birth. The charms and the women’s wishes were all so different — some wished me strength and perseverance; others wished me lightness and freedom. The love and power in my necklace reminded me that I’m never alone, even when I’m in labor.

Indi Joon makes her debut – MB Anderson Photography

When it was finally time for Indi to arrive, Ali caught her in the water. At first, we were pretty shocked she was a girl — I had thought I was having a boy! That moment was a beautiful reminder that we don’t know or control everything.

We were filled with love and adoration for our little girl, with her beautiful, perfectly red lips. Rumi said, “She looks like Snow White!” Indi was born with a full head of dark hair, which was funny — Rumi was bald for months as an infant.

As soon as she was born, Indi let out a triumphant scream that sounded to me like, “Hi there, I’m alive and kickin’, guys!” She was instantly alert to the world and the sunshine on her face.

No labor is easy, but the intensity of giving birth prepares you to become a great mom. Childbirth has taught me about patience, focus, and confidence in my body and its power. At the same time, it teaches you lessons in surrendering to what is natural.

I have never felt such immense joy as I did when birthing my daughters. When I held Indi and Rumi for the very first time, I knew that I already had everything I needed to be a mom to them. The intensity of childbirth provides deep wisdom to a mother as her child passes through her.

Rumi kisses her sister – Courtesy Josie Maran

Ali and I kept Indi’s name a secret for a few days. We have always loved the name. It feels strong, independent, and full of life. The name itself means “gift,” which resonated with us because she is already such a blessing to our lives.

We chose to give her the same middle name as Rumi: Joon. Joon is a Farsi term of endearment meaning “my dear” or “my beloved.” It ties our daughters to their Persian heritage, and to each other.

In fact, Rumi is already inseparable from her little sister. She’s the best helper I could ask for. She burps Indi, sings her to sleep, kisses her and says, “Hi sweetheart, you’re my sister!”

Being a mother of two daughters is the most rewarding experience of my life. It’s definitely double the work of having one, but my love for my daughters has also doubled, if not quadrupled!

I hope they’ll grow up with a passion for making the world a better and more beautiful place. What more could a mother ask for?

Six weeks old already – Courtesy Josie Maran

With love,

– Josie Maran

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Abbie on

Beautiful blog, beautiful family, congrats Josie and thanks for sharing.

Lisa on

I almost wonder if any of that was made up. It just sounded TOO perfect. But hey it was a good choice for her. :)

Meetra on

A very nice story; however, it makes me hurt just reading about natural childbirth.

Kandyce on

I’m glad it was a good choice for her. And if an outside, water birth is the thing for her, the more power to her. BUT, having your friends and family around while in labor and giving birth – that’s a bit too much for me. Wish her the best.

erica on

What a wonderful birth story!

Jen on

We have hospitals for “just in case ” something happens with the mom or the baby. We also have doctors for “just in case”.

This is what we call civilisation.To give birth under a bush with your husband or partner in her case holding her because she couldn’t stay in the pool. No thanks! You would worry about germs because new borns don’t have anticorps.

Wow! She thinks that she is awesome. Really?

lucy on

are those disposable diapers on the baby? josie’s always blabbin about nature and how everyone should take care of the earth and make it a better place. on QVC, she’s always going on and on about her natural products, i wouldn’t think she would use disposable diapers…

SLW on

That was beautiful. I am really happy for you that you had such an amazing birth experience! Your daughters are beautiful.

ForeverMoore on

So incredible beautiful…baby, pics and family.

sapphire on

Best birth story I’ve read in a long time! If you are having a low risk pregnancy, than a homebirth is a perfectly reasonable and wonderful thing. Thank you for sharing!

Shiv on

I wonder if there were any unicorns walking on rainbows.

K.W. on

Congratulations on the birth of your new little girl – as a mom of 5 and a healthcare professional – I wish more women would remember that childbirth used to be one of the most dangerous times in a women’s life..doctors and hospitals have suddenly become the bad guys in the latest trend of proving your womanhood through homebirth – yet we lose sight that they have made labor/birth a safer experience for women.

And to compare statistics of the safety/ mortality rates of homebirths vs. hospital births is ridiculous. Responsible midwives do not take on high risk pregnanies as homebirthers – when you have hospitals taking care of the preemies, multiples and high risk moms – of course their statistics won’t look as good as the midwives who can turn away these patients.

I have seen too many “routine” pregnancies go the wrong way in seconds during labor – placing the lives of both mom and baby in danger. When you are doing chest compressions on a mom whose placenta has ruptured while her baby is crowning – or you’re in an ambulance trying to intubate an unresponsive infant born at home who became lodged in the birth canal and had to have both clavicles broken in order to be delivered – the idea of a “safe” homebirth suddenly becomes an oxymoron.

Emily on

Lucy, they look like honest company diapers which is Jessica Alba’s line of diapering that is safe for the environment.

ck on

those are actually cloth diapers lucy. They make them much differently now and they are actually really cute! I use them on my baby too, though i did choose to have my babies at the hospital.

Ada on

Listen people, it sounds so beautiful and idyllic to give birth under a honeysuckle bush. But I had a home birth and my son and I both almost died. I, too, wanted to avoid “impatient” doctors and yet a doctor saved my life–if it were up to the midwife I would have bled to death.

NatesMama on

Rather that criticize a personal birth choice I would not have made (because every mom and every body and each experience is vastly different) I’d just like to say congratulations to Josie and her beautiful family. Welcome to the world, Indi.

Rosey on

I chose the hospital. Secondly there are natural birthing centers in the hospital on the first floor where I was so that just in case anything went wrong they were just one floor away from the emergency room. To me the “my birth story” is second to the arrival of a healthy baby who arrived in the best way possible due to circumstances…..

Nonetheless, I’m happy the baby is doing well….

Lauren on

I really love this blog, she seems so down to earth. Congrats on your beautiful baby, you are a strong woman!

scrap on

I don’t have anything against homebirths, but I will never understand the need for an audience or why someone wants to be in the audience. I have 4 children and am glad that it was just me and my husband. Labor and delivery felt very private to me.

Sarah on

Those are diapers by Honest company, so they’re incredibly eco friendly. I had a home birth and can really appreciate everything she said. A woman should have the choice to birth at home if she wishes. She created a beautiful environment for bringing her baby into the world, and that is admirable. Germs aren’t something she needs to be worrying about. If you think about all of the germs/viruses/diseases in a hospital (that’s where we go when we’re very sick, you know), it’s silly to criticize someone who births in her own home. From my own experience, a home birth really can be that beautiful.

lucy on

see my previous post….no, those are not disposable diapers, it’s probably just one!! before anyone could point that out, thought i would :) but my point was/is, in another of her posts, she talks about the eco movement and how everyone should do their part to help protect our precious planet (to which i agree) but practice what you preach josie!

lucy on

actually emily, it probably is a type of environmentally safe diaper. thanks!

Kate on

That picture of her and her husband while she was laboring is absolutely beautiful.

Kelli on

Sounds beautiful, but please remember those “impatient doctors and beeping monitors” are priceless when your child needs help. I’m glad your babies are healthy and you didn’t have to experience any problems at home, but women should understand this idealistic picture you’re painting isn’t always reality.

When exploring options for birth women need to understand, too, that modern medical facilities are wonderful places to give birth and provide your child expert care in just moments should they need it. You have 40 weeks to find a compassionate doctor to care for you; someone that won’t be impatient. Labor and delivery nurses in my experience are some of the nicest people I’ve ever met are were with me 100% through birth (along with my family). The “beeping monitors” you referred to aren’t annoying, they allow you to hear you child’s heart beating, your own heart and give you peace of mind knowing your child is not in distress.

I urge women to find a doctor and facility specializing in newborn care so the birth is safe for the mother and especially the baby. It is a moving experience no matter where you are.

Katie on

I don’t think I have it in my for natural childbirth.. I tried for my first and only one so far and I was in labor for 15 hours and pushed for 3 hours and they said if I had not gotten my epidural there was no way I would have survived it and would have had to have a c-section.. but with those who can I praise you so much. I have always looked into water births but I just get so nervous!

Marie on

I know many women who have chosen home births, many. I did not meet then till later in life, I would have certainly thought about home birth had I known that choice when having my children.

No, home birth is not for everyone. Responsible midwives do not take risks. But I encourage all mothers to lift eachother up with encouragement for the different choices we make. Isn’t it wonderful we have a choice ??

Youknowdis@yourmom.com on

Beautiful birth story, and happy for her that she had a safe and quick delivery! I’m happy for a woman giving birth in the way she feels is the best for herself.

Bpdawson on

Congratulations to Josie and her family! I am so glad both of her homebirths worked out for her but the thing is, childbirth IS scary. So many women and babies have died during childbirth and it is only thanks to modern medicine that we rarely hear of that anymore and think giving birth is uncomplicated.

It is a big risk to take, even if you are a low risk mother. I was young, healthy and low risk but my little boy would not be here today had I not given birth in a hospital. I would have spent hours pushing out a stillborn baby and possibly lost my own life. Just my opinion!

Hi on

Absolutely right. I couldn’t have said it better myself.

Kim Kutcher on

Its a great story! Whatever she chooses to do for her and her birth, more power to her! I am glad it worked out so great for her!

My beef is this: I didn’t give birth to my children! They came to me thru the miracle that is the foster care system! They weren’t born under bushes….they lived in trucks and motels and under bushes! They are amazing children who love outdoors and animals and life!

I didn’t push them through my body and in that process making myself a great mom! I struggled for 3 years to “have” them! I was pregnant for 3 years before they became mine! I am no less of a mother because I didn’t birth them! While I don’t believe Josie intentionally meant to alienate anyone, there is definitely a certain “idea” implied here that giving birth AT ALL makes you a better parent!

Alas, this is not true…….just my 2 cents! I don’t want to take away from her beautiful experience….just keep in mind that everyone’s “beautiful experience” won’t be the same!

Penelope on

You sound like a sane person who isn’t jealous and who is comfortable with her own choices. Kudos to you!

afd on

Josie, I’m glad that you had such a great birth experience – good for you. However, since you’ve never given birth in a hospital, I think it is a bit premature and judgmental to assume that the experience is filled ” impatient doctors and lots of beeping monitors”. For many, a hospital birth includes amazing D&L nurses, having your OBGYN at your side and best medical care at your finger tips. Because of the “impatient doctors and bleeping monitors” my daughter, who was nearly lost in childbirth, is alive. She now has a lifetime to enjoy nature – how empowering is that?!

Courtney on

It sounds beatuiful! For her! I would never in a million years give birth in my backyard with my friends around. But that’s just me! I loved my hospital for both of my births, they were warm and welcoming and didn’t rush us, and I felt safe and cocooned against the world, first with the birth of my daughter, then with the birth of my son.

I think the point is, every woman can choose for herself where and how she wants to give birth!

Penelope on

Congrats Josie! Don’t listen to those people who don’t know how to criticize. I’m sure you did your research and elected the best choice for you and your baby given your own particular set of circumstances.

Summer on

“No labor is easy, but the intensity of giving birth prepares you to become a great mom.” I ave a real issue with this sentence…so if you don’t give birth with labor (c-secion) you are going to be a crummy mom…makes me mad!

Jeanine on

After having three hospital births with epidurals, I opted for a water homebirth with my fourth. Despite his coming after a little over an hour of labor and before the midwives could arrive, it was the most peaceful night of my life. My husband caught the baby which was a profound, life-changing experience. If we lived in an isolated area I too would be up for an outside birth. Good for her!

Anonymous on

Thank goodness there were no complications and her children were healthy! It could’ve gone bad if she had needed emergency hospital help. Things happen and people should be more careful of what they do to seem more eco- friendly!

leyna.williams@gmail.com on

My goodness. I can’t imagine saying anything negative at all to or about a woman who was so generous and open-spirited to share something as personal as her birth story with strangers. It doesn’t matter at all if you understand or agree with what she did–what matters is that the mother and her family did what they know to be best for their family, and it was BEAUTIFUL. We, as mothers, should all be so lucky. At the very least, we should all trust our instincts as to our own bodies and our own children.

(And, P.S.: as wonderful as modern medicine and technology and hospitals can be, they are by NO means perfect or free of their own brand of danger. I’d wager that Josie is an intelligent and very informed mama on this matter.)

Melle on

I totally agree with you Kelli. What an ignorant statement to use, “impatient doctors.” You are jus lucky enough to have a children that are healthy, but my mother is a neonatologist and I’ve seen some of the premature babies that are delivered that are seconds from death and doctors will be up their entire 24 hours shift trying to save that baby. What an idiot she is for making that statement.

shibs on

That was so beautiful!

Sarah on

First off I LOVE that her daughters have the same middle name. Both my sons and husband have the same middle name and I think it is cool. Second I am pretty sure with all the talking she does about the environment and being as natural as she is, she wouldn’t post a picture of her newborn wearing disposable diapers. Aren’t you supposed to use a kind of reusble a cover with cloth diapers anyway. I am pretty sure that is what it is. Plus cloth diapers have come a long way in the way they look since the old days of white cloth and big diaper pins…just saying.

natalie on

Seriously????? Although I am glad that everyone is safe and healthy, that birth story was a bit much. I mean COME ON!!!! Under bushes with family and friends looking on. The whole thing sounds made up.

RG on

Wow, why so many ugly comments about the birth of HER child. So happy to see a NATURAL birth. Remember ladies, this crazy thing called birth has been going on since the beginning of time! OMG!!! Imagine that! Anyways, congrats on a beautiful baby girl!!!

Big Fan on

Some weird names. What happened to her? She used to be stunning! Guess what they about girls robbing the mama’s beauty is true…….

mel on

While im glad her baby was born safe and nothing went wrong the beeping machines and hospitals are important in most situations. While in labor with my son I had a bad fever, he was born by forceps with a bad fever, broken collar bone, and strydor so he was sent to the nicu. There are no nicus in my back yard so im glad I was @ the hospital

Kate on

I for one, had a wonderful patient doctor when I had my daughter, and loved listenng to her heartbeat before I met her. I would rather deliver indoors anyday – sterile, climate controlled indoors :) To each her own. Congrats on the beautiful baby.

Megan on

Congratulations Josie and the birth of your beautiful daughter! I had a homebirth myself eighteen months ago it was a wonderful, beautiful, serene experience. I hate the cold clinical world of the hospital and I didn’t want to be rushed by deadlines of ‘you must deliver with in 24 hours of your water breaking”. My daughter was born after nine hours of labor in to her daddy’s waiting arms! Josie’s birth experience sounds perfect.

MMM on

The picture of her in labor with her husband in the pool with her is just breath taking. I hope they blow that one up and put it in their house. Very emotional, raw picture!

Jaybee on

Take a closer look… They’re obviously cloth diapers

cgil on

I love Josie, she is so uplifting and her products are great.

reagan on

What an amazing birth story! Yet another wonderful, loving home birth. Mazel tov and joy.

Katherine on

I’m sorry but I find home birth options incredibly dangerous and actually very selfish. Even the most routine pregnancies can have major complications at the end, some spring up in a matter of seconds during labor. The hospital may not be the most desirable location (no one wants to spend time there of course) but it’s certainly the safest option.

I’m happy that all turned out well for them but if something had happened to that baby or Mom the ENTIRE family would have felt guilt for the rest of their lives knowing that being in a hospital could have potentially saved them.

Jen on

Congrats to this beautiful family. Both of my step-daughters birthed all of their children in “sunken tubs” at birthing centers. It was not an option for me when my children were born, but it was a beautiful experience for them and us to share. Each mother should choose to birth where and how they wish and have the outcome they wish.

Liz on

I think its really great that Josie chose to have her baby in this manner…but again, let’s not pass judgement. She mentions this was better than having her child in a hospital with “impatient doctors”…I find this comment offensive. I’m sure this does happen at times, but to make a blanket statement is wrong. Not all doctors are like that, and I plan on having my baby in a hospital with monitors and doctors. So it’s great this worked for her, but it’s not for everyone and she needs to remember that.

Also, not every woman can have such an idyllic delivery as she had. Good for her, but it’s not what I want or would choose.

Nicole on

I had my children in a hospital because I’m a spaz. I wouldn’t be able to concentrate with all the what ifs. However, her way is beautiful too. To each their own.

JF on

When did giving birth become a spectator sport??? I don’t mind husbands and even s/o’s but kids, friends, relatives … why not sell tickets??? Far from being comforting, I would think having everyone crowded around observing my every move would be distracting and kind of creepy. And I agree with the many posts about home births; I’ve read horror stories about things going wrong in a split second and even though we have ambulances and can transport quickly, you’re still adding time to get that child and/or mother treated. Time you can ill afford depending upon what’s going on. Just my opinion but I’d want to be in the hospital.

Mom of a Fox on

Good for her! And congratulations to her family!

Alissa on

Loved this blog! Thank you for saying that childbirth prepares you for motherhood. I have long thought that, but never put it into words so simply. Congratulations and many blessings!

Devon on

I think some of you are missing the point. If you have a fever, trouble delivering, decreased heart tones, etc. during delivery, a midwife will immediately transfer to a hospital. They ONLY deal with normal, healthy births. And how wonderful that this is an option for women! Don’t get me wrong, I would hate to have my family around as I labored and the experience certainly isn’t for everyone, but what a beautiful experience she was able to have because she and her baby were healthy.

Childbirth is not as “dangerous” as we have been taught. The danger is in not knowing if the baby is healthy, not screening for certain disorders so as to not be able to plan for complications, not having prenatal care…but if everything checks out, it is perfectly safe for a woman to have a home birth under the care of an experienced Certified Midwife (who, in Pennsylvania, are RNs with years of additional training).

Please be sure to do your own research before coming down on a woman who probably did her own.

cookie on

Congrats on your backyard delivery.You have a beautiful family.As you said this is not for everyone.I thank God for the person who invented the epidural. :)

Bpdawson on

Yes, you can be transferred to a hospital if things go awry, but it only takes minutes of decreased oxygen to the brain for your child to have permanent brain damage.

Melisa on

I had all three of my kids in the hospital, two with an epidural, one without. Different strokes for different folks. If we spent as much time empowering one another and raising up our children to be caring individuals, this world would be a beautiful place. Instead we all tear one another apart as mothers. It’s utterly ridiculous.

bh on

Why can’t these people keep their private moments to themselves? Yikes!

Mandy on

Congrats to her, but there is no way I could ever do a home birth. I’ve only had 1 baby & the pain was terrible. My epidural didn’t work & they had to turn the baby. My doctor & nurses were far from impatient. There was even a shift change of nurses while I was in labor & the out going ones wished me well & told me I was doing a great job. I didn’t think I was as I pushed for about 4 hours before she was born. Everyone is different though & I’ll stick with a hospital for all of my births.

lovely123 on

LOL, I was powerful, capable and beautiful in a hospital room!

Patricia on

I only have one word…Stupid

Leslie on

I’m grateful that Josie shared the intimate details and photos of her homebirth. It’s encouraging for me because if everything continues to go well in my pregnancy, I’m planning to have one too. It’s refreshing to hear a happy, beautiful story like hers to counterbalance all the negativity and fear that many people put out there.

Complications can happen with birth in any setting… including at the hospital. Josie isn’t wrong when she mentions “impatient doctors.” I experienced that with my first birth and so have many of my friends. The truth is that hospitals are very concerned with litigation and insurance issues so they have many restrictions on how long you can labor and they often try to speed things up with pitocin and other interventions.

Walking into a hospital for birth increases your c-section odds by 30%. They also have certain policies about how your baby is handled after birth that I find invasive to the child… hence my decision to labor at home.

So, if you are one of the people who find the hospital more comforting and secure, more power to you… but please don’t criticize or discourage people like Josie or me for making an informed choice to do it differently than you.

Tee Tee on

What an awesome birth story! Thanks for sharing it, Josie!

I can’t help but just sigh at some of these comments. Some people are wildly uneducated as to home birth.

Furthermore, some women that choose to birth in a hospital get so nasty and defensive when it comes to someone else sharing their home birth story. Josie wasn’t insulting your choices, she was simply sharing hers.

Anonymous on

There is nothing more amazing than a natural child birth. Having had two in hospitals and one at home, there is no comparison. Labor in general was easier and far more painless than in a hospital. Labor takes less time at home. In hospitals they provide epidurals which slow contractions and offer Pitocin to make them come more frequently. Perhaps it’s because of all the restrictions vs. letting one’s body do what it has to do that women don’t progress.

For the people who talk about giving birth outside or inside the home vs. hospital, the hospital has far more germs. Hospitals have sick people and dying people. Hospitals are a good place to give birth if you are a first time mom or have a high risk pregnancy. There is nothing about this birth story that is unicorns and rainbows…you still feel the labor. You are more aware of your surroundings and feeding off the energy of those present to support you. It is the single most amazing experience any mother can go through.

For centuries you saw deaths of mother’s and babies, but nobody seems to recall the time frame. Mother’s were young teen agers sometimes with bodies not equipped to deliver a baby. For others, their doctor was also the town’s vet who didn’t do much to be hygenic. Women had ether and other not to fantastic chemicals put on them. And as recently as the 50′s you had mothers hands and feet tied down while they delivered. But should something horrible happen, and it can, it will happen regardless of where you give birth.

With life, always comes death. It’s the saddest thing any parent will ever go through. But you can’t predict it. Deaths happen in hospitals. In fact, more frequently than home births. it’s not giving hospitals a bad name. It’s saying, that the choices are there and women who choose home birth, are quite informed. Most do vast amounts of research long before choosing that for their birth plan. It helps so much to have the support of your partner. Those who insult any mother who chooses what is right for her, regardless of where, clearly needs to be experienced themselves. Every woman has her reasons and they all decide on the best plan for their baby.

Congratulations to Josie for delivering a gorgeous baby and to her husband who supported her. This story wasn’t too perfect, it was just the perfect amount of happy. Perfect amount of right for them.

Ariel on

Jen – Of course she thinks she’s awesome. She had a birth that went as planned, from start to finish. She should feel awesome.

Good grief people. There is no one right way to give birth. You educate yourself and make the choice that’s right for you. Josie made the choice was right for her, had a wonderful experience and is now sharing that experience. Oh but wait, I almost forgot. You have different ideals for childbirth so she must be the crazy nut for not following your ideas.

Breanna on

I respect a woman’s decision to have a natural birth, but I don’t think you can classify all doctors as being “impatient.” As a mother of four and a sister of an OBGYN, I can say the medical team I delivered my children with were wonderful, patient, kind and loving. I wouldn’t have traded my experiences, nor the expertise of the medical professionals with whom I was surrounded by, for anything in the world.

I’m glad she had a wonderful experience and wish her family all the best.

esther on

This is one of the most inspiring stories I’ve ever read! Thank you, thank you! :)

Cassie on

Beautiful story!! Congrats on getting the birth you had hoped for.

I too would like to do an at home birth when the time comes for me to have children – this gives me hope :)

It’s very sad to read all of the very jealous, insecure and hateful comments. Just because it worked for her she isn’t saying it’s the only way to do it. Be happy with your choice and allow her to be happy with hers.

beazley on

Congratulations to you and your beautiful family! Reading this blog was very touching and made me smile. Blessings.

Lily on

What gorgeous photos!! I love her birth story and thinks it’s amazing how she choose to give birth.

I can’t believe some of you are slamming her for having a home birth. Shame on you! Do some research before you get down on any womans birth experience. It obviously went amazing for her and was the right choice for her.

I’ve seen 5 natural birth personally myself and they were all intense but beautiful. The one birth I witnessed in the hospital was the most nerve racking experience. I’m not staying all hospital births are bad. We have some of the best medical care out there- but when it’s needed! Do you know how many women get C-sections just because their labors are taking longer then the doctor wants? Maybe if they let the women move around and not stress, she would progress faster.

Whatever you choose (natural, epi or c-section) it’s every woman’s right to choose and we should be supporting each other.

Thanks for sharing your story Josie. You have a beautiful family!!!

Janae on

Josie: Congratulations on the birth of your baby! She’s beautiful, as is your birth story. The picture of you and your husband is pure awesome!

Statistics are obviously beyond the realm of understanding for many readers here. In a low risk situation, including adequate prenatal care and monitoring by a birth professional, there is statistically minor difference between mortality rates in hospitals vs. homebirth. In fact nearly ALL (if not actually all) studies that compare homebirth to hospital birth also include unplanned and unsupported out of hospital birth in the “homebirth” figures which by definition are NOT low risk.

For those of you capable of keeping up with me: That means it is highly likely that the statistics for *planned* homebirths are better than birth in a hospital. I’ve given birth at home under the capable care of profession midwives, twice, both times with the blessing of my very well read, well respected, senior tenured OB/Gyn.

And do people really think that there are less germs in a hospital than in a person’s own home? Seriously?

Mya on

Beautiful baby, beautiful story. I personally cannot fathom how a mother is ok with 30 people gawking at her Who Ha. It’s a very private thing, and beautiful experience or not, her vajay jay is on display for hours. Definitely not for me. But congrats on a complication free birth.

Leslie on

“Be happy with your choice and allow her to be happy with hers.”

AMEN TO THAT!

Alissa on

Yes, why are some women feeling hurt by Josie’s blog? If you are a loving mom, then youre awesome, no matter how your children came into your life….natural/epidural/c-section, hospital/homebirth, pregnancy/surrogate/adoption/foster care/step-parent…all are wonderful amazing experiences and all moms should feel empowered by their experiences.

And I think we assuming that Josie is advocating homebirth by having one, or two. I had three natural hospital births, but I in no way advocate natural birth. I advocate whatever birth needs to happen for mother and baby to be happy and healthy…all my friends had c-sections and/or epidurals and they are all great moms. I don’t think I’m a better mom because I suffered through pain…I think that was my choice.

Just like breastfeeding, which I did, doesn’t make me a better mom either. My sister had 2 emergency c-sections and 2 premature babies and breastfeeding didn’t work for her babies, so she had to do what was best for them. She is just as good of a mom as me or anyone. I have only sons, but I don’t feel that makes me less of a mother because I don’t have daughters and I don’t get offended when moms talk about the bond they have with their daughters.

How could I be offended by someone else’s life experience???

Shea on

KW- You’re absolutely spot on. Hospitals/Doctors get a bad rap now that we’re back in the organic/peaceandlight/allnatural/we are one with the earth movement. It’s a personal choice and if it’s right for the woman and there’s no issues with the pregnancy; wonderful, have a home birth. But don’t knock what modern medicine has given us. It’s possible to have a balance of both natural and modern without sacrificing the safety of mother and child.

Doreen on

Nature’s beautiful, sure BUT…huge BUT there…DON’T forget WHO created nature and every living and breathing thing out there~GOD, the Creator of everything!! Give Him the glory!

Jess on

Yes, she does paint a very beautiful picture. However, if I would have tried this at home I would have bleed to death and my baby would have died. I had a third degree tear and a moderate post postpartum hemorrhage which didn’t get worse because the doctors were right there to stop it. My baby had inhaled meconium which caused him to came out gray and not breathing with an Apgar score of 4 at one minute. The doctors were right there to revive him and by the 5 minute Apgar score he was a 9. I had a low risk pregnancy. By the time we would have called the ambulance and for it to get to our house, we both would have died.

AJ on

So sad to hear the same propaganda spewed like sweet poison from yet another home-birther…women have been giving birth for thousands of years yes, and they have died like flies doing it. I have a close friend who died 4 hrs after an uncomplicated second birth but the rareity of this is absolutely in thanks to modern medicine and medical professionals.

And shame on her for insinuating that a painful and vaginal birth process is what gives people the characteristics of a good mother: patients, perseverance and other such qualities. What an insult to adoptive and other types of parents who didn’t labor or deliver in the same way. Just because you use beautiful colors doesn’t mean the picture you paint isn’t ugly and untrue.

AJ on

Oh I know, then to say it gives you wisdom to push a baby out of you, how stupid was she before?

smb on

Hi Jen…it’s civilization not civilisation

Alia on

I have to admit part of me DOES feel jealous that she had a fairytale type birthing. I on the other hand went through 14 hours of pain after being given drugs to induce my baby, and of course I did the epidural since I later found out that inducing causes more pain than “natural”! (It wasn’t my choice, but the doctor thought it was best so I did…they do have after all, this thing called MEDICAL TRAINING).

Also after 13 hours the baby still wasn’t coming out so they had to prepare for emergency C-section, luckily the last hour was my lucky hour. So compare this story to…”my baby was born under a honeysuckle bush, with birds chirping, family and friends chattering, cookies passed around”, etc. etc.. I’m sorry, but it does seem like these models like Gisele, Miranda, and Josie…just seem to wanna push their perfect lives down everyone’s throats.

I agree with the healthcare professional and others who point out the real risks of having births without medical professionals…if you saw how many babies and mothers die from childbirth in underdeveloped countries, you would not take hospitals and good doctors so lightly.

This goes down the same line as Jenny McCarthy forever scaring new mothers from giving their infants vaccinations, which in the long-term will affect everyone. If she would go to a third-world country and actually see real people with polio or other diseases, she would not put babies at risk.

I also blame People mag and other publications for giving them free reign to espouse these potentially dangerous ideas.

April on

Thank you for sharing! What a beautiful birth story! I wish you and your sweet family the best!

Ava on

Sounds almost perfect…I’d nix the friends & family and just have my husband (and a midwife) and then it would be amazing.

Shay on

First, I want to address the big thing before getting caught in the personal anecdotes and comments.

Women should know that options do exist. They should be informed what it means to take these options and the possible complications that may arise with them. What the next course of action will be if those complications do present themselves.

They should be apart of their own health care when decisions get made, and understand why they are being made . Because at the end of the day, the only one that has to square with fall out from any bad outcome (hospital or at home) is the mother. As it is her body and is her choice.

A great example would be a woman who is offered induction on or before 40 weeks because of ‘possible big baby’. Ultrasounds late in the game are more of a guestimate than an actual estimate. And estimated due date can be days if not upwards of two weeks off since it is based on a 30 day cycle with the woman ovulating on day 12. Anyone who has charted can tell you that their length of cycle and ovulation times vary from month to month.

If the woman is low risk**, has no history of GD*** or has not been malnourished, there is not a strong reasoning why to go on this course of action based on the ‘possible big baby’.

The other things that play apart in this suggestion is the Dr. concern of possible complications should *shoulder dystocia come into play , or being sued.

It is however important to note here, that risks for shoulder dystocia also go up with deliveries that require forceps or vacuums. Which as you may have guessed, the risk for those go up significantly when a woman has an induction.

So, it is about weighing the pros and cons. Looking at all the information available and working with your health team for the best possible choice for you.

Anonymous on

Both of your daughters are just beautiful! Just like you! I watch you on QVC and love your products… I just got the TSV in the mail yesterday and used the products today.. Beautiful blessings to you and your family Josis..

Jenny on

I think it’s great that she did what’s best for her family, but I do have to say that when our second child was born I was SO very thankful to be in a hospital & I am so thankful that my doctor was impatient b/c everything was fine until he came out & wouldn’t breathe, he had to be transferred to the nicu & I couldn’t even touch him for hours, I started hemmoraging (sp?) after he was born too. Crazy time for us, if it wasnt for the doctors my son wouldn’t be here & I might not either.

My point in sharing that is that many times things seem fine until the baby comes out & is having problems then you will be rushing them to the hospital in real trouble, my son was already without oxygen for a bit & wouldn’t have made it waiting for an emergency vehicle.

Happy that all went well though!!! Congrats, she is beautiful :)

Danielle on

Actually, they *are* reusable cloth diapers. Technology is not the only thing in our modern world that has improved.

Miche on

I am so thankful for the “impatient” (what a crock) doctor and beeping monitors that recognized something was wrong with my daughter and was able to preform an emergency CSection, saving her life.

Don’t make assumptions and generalizations about my birth choices and I won’t make any about yours.

jane tyler on

I guess to each their own, but as we live in a world where there is immediate medical care available in case something goes wrong (which is fairly common in childbirth) why take the risk and have your birth at home?

Amber on

Wow, my first thought was: “friends and family were around for the birth?!?!” :D. I really wanted to be alone while I was in labor, and the thought of having friends and family around would’ve irritated the hell out of me, lol. But well, it clearly worked very well for Josie, so that’s all that matters. Her birth story sounds like an amazing one, but like several others have mentioned before, I don’t think I would feel safe if I was not in a hospital.

Gigi on

I believe those are the Jessica Alba/Honest bio degradable diapers. Good for her. Not my choice. However, I appreciate that we all are able to make our own choices. Home births are considerably cheaper than hospital births for those who are self pay, so that is sometimes the reason people choose home birth. I am guessing Josie just loves the out doors!

Paige on

Thank you for sharing your beautiful story!

Ignore the ignorance! The majority of folks in this country are afraid of birth and have no idea what kind of care midwives give, equipment they carry, or about when or what necessitates a transfer to a hospital…or that they even have a transport plan. Folks don’t know about risks of infection in hospital vs home and certainly about how the machines that go beep can cause problems and are not appropriately used much of the time… Sometimes I think posters just think midwives come and pray by the ‘bedside’ and that is it…LOL!

The pros and cons to the internet…great for sharing info but people will post the most ignorant and rude things…

To you beautiful mama I say happy babymoon and thanks again for being brave and sharing your story on, OMG!!!, homebirth, lol!!!

Emma on

Had I not been in a hospital with impatient doctors and beeping machines, my son would have died. While I longed for the type of birth described in this article, the criticism of the hospital birth makes me feel like my experience is somehow less. I began naturally, but not all can have this. The experience is beautiful, but can be deadly.

Connie on

Very happy for you and your new little one and I don’t mean to be negative in any way, but many of these statements are true about homebirths vs hospital statistics. However, even a low risk pregnancy isn’t a no-risk pregnancy and frankly any risk is too much to take with the life of my child. Had something gone wrong only hindsight would have made these negative statements be true.

Very happy you had absolutely no complications during or after birth. Your family looks happy and beautiful.

Jen DC on

I love how all you naysayers and negative Nellys miss this sentence right here: “I encourage all women to explore their options, and know that they have control over how they give birth.”

How is she being judgmental toward you? How is she saying she’s better than you because she gave birth naturally, outside, as was her option? The birth story was about HER, HER experience with HER doctors, HER experience with HER body and family. Notice all the “I’s” and “me’s”? Where is there a “you”?

Nowhere does she say being a natural mom of a child lessens the love, affection, difficulties, or sorrows of having a child come to you in any other way. NOWHERE.

I’m not even a Mom. I don’t plan to become a Mom. So should I be offended by her joy in her childbirths and her children?

Why are you freaks so self-centered?

Melissa on

Loved every minute of my home birth last September. Good for her, and beautiful pictures!! Wherever you choose to birth is your right, women just need to remember they have a right in the first place.

boohoobytch on

adorable children, sounds like h3ll though…I don’t want kids

Alissa on

Thanks JenDC…you are a wonderful person and thanks for your perspective as a non mother!!!!

Heidi on

To Big Fan or anyone else who said it. How ignorant can you be? Those photos were obviously taken shortly after Indi was born and you have the nerve to say something about her looks. Wow. I don’t have kids myself, yet, but honestly I’d like to see you go through labor and childbirth and come out looking absolutely stunning. Get over yourselves.

Ariel on

If she’d blogged about having a c-section she would be called a typical Hollywood diva who’s to posh to push. If she would have had a medicated birth she would be seen has cowardly for not wanting to experience pain. BUT, if she had a unmedicated hospital birth she would be called selfish for putting her body and baby through unnecessary pain.

There’s no winning with you people. Respect your choice. Respect her choice. Move on.

Miss Trinia on

It’s always amazing to me how people can take a happy time in someone elses life and make it all about them and how they feel.. she’s sharing her happiness, why are you so unhappy?! Nothing about her comments say “You should be doing the same thing I am” She made it clear her choice may not be for everyone else.. but it was FOR HER.. silly people find some happiness and hold on to it…

ivy on

i wish i could have had a home birth, but i am so glad i didn’t opt for that, because my son was lodged inside, unable to descend with the cord wrapped around his neck, after 30 hours of trying for a natural birth i had to have a emergency csection and if i was at home that car ride would have been hell. she is lucky both of her babies had a smooth easy birth at home. some of us just didn’t have the choice.

Cher630 on

Wow – giving birth in the backyard with your loved ones around you sounds magical and beautiful. I’m glad you had a relatively easy birth…unfortunately, some moms need to be in a hospital because of medical complications.

I love how you wore a necklace with charms from the women in your life. If I ever become a mom, I’m borrowing that idea!

Your daughters are beautiful :)

SHar on

Reading these comments I think people misread the article completely. All she really said is that people should explore the options and seek out what is best for them. I just wasnt into home births and nowadays our hospitals here have a birthing room which is set up like a living room actually. You have a DVD player – and huge tub if you choose water birth and it is not the hospital like scene that it used to be. I didnt have that but my daughter did.

With the epidural – with my first one they wouldnt give me so much as an aspirin so I laboured 18 long hard hours and they ended up using forcips to take her out. The second one I refused the epidural because I had heard of cases of women being paralyzed from it. I had a 2 hour labour – not too bad at all. With the third one I was spotting and when I went into hospital they discovered that my son was covered with macomium and they induced labour immediately as they had to get him out. I didnt get an epidural and it was only 4 hours of labour but the intensity was like 20 hours of it. They monitored the heartbeat because babies with this can get pneumonia and die which I didnt know going into this. They had a team of doctors standing by to suction him out and not letting him cry to inhale any of this. I was scared cause I had never heard of this. He went right off into an incubator where he stayed for 2 days.

I then learned that this macomium is the No. 1 killer of babies if not handled immediately and proper. Even my pediatrition showed up at the hospital on a Sunday to check him out. I guess what I am saying is that you just never know what is going to happen at the last minute before birth. I never expected this scene and scare. I thank God for the team of doctors there who did what they did and saved him. And I was so glad that I was in the hospital for this because even to transfer him to hospital how long before they could have kept him from breathing while waiting to suction him out preventing the pneumonia.

But I also know several people who have had home births and have done fine. Everyone now seems to get an epidural – I didnt want them and had to tell them no. I wasnt trying to be brave I just didnt trust them and that was just me. But you know all in all it was my aunt that was responsible for me even considering another child after the first birth by saying *it is the worst pain in the world but the most easily forgotten.* And I had two more after that and it is so true.

Everyone is different and everyone has choices and we have no right to judge their decisions anymore than they have the right to judge ours. I think this is a beautiful story and I wish I could have experienced it her way so I am glad she is so serene and happy. It just wasnt for me!!!

Cassie on

@Miche.

Please tell me where does she state “Miche I am making generalizations about your birth story when I say…” It’s because she IS NOT!

To all the ladies that feel “attacked” – Please get over yourselves! This is HER birth story! If you can’t separate that from your own, I feel sorry for you.

Women need to stop being such catty, childish brats and stop thinking everyone is talking about them when in fact no one is! I mean dear god…..

Bri on

I am APPALLED at the rude and judgmental comments on this thread. She shared a beautiful experience, and many are tearing her down…really? Plus the comments are just plain ignorant. It’s all about educating ourselves and having the choice available to us. Like she said, homebirth is not for everyone, and that’s OK.

I’ll tell you what though, it can be an incredible experience, just like a hospital birth can be incredible. I myself have given birth in a hospital and recently my second babe at home. Both were beautiful, but my homebirth was very easy (also because it was my second baby, first unmedicated birth). People here are saying what a dumb choice this is, but obviously have not done their research.

The Netherlands has some of the best outcomes for birth of any country, and a THIRD of their women are birthing at home. I’m not here to say it is the better way, cause it depends on the person. I am married to a surgeon who took a bit of warming up to the idea, but loved it. And we knew we had a skilled midwife attending us who would be able to make decisions if things weren’t going smoothly to transfer to the hospital.

It does bug me when homebirthers use the phrase that they are doing something women have done for thousands of years because the anti-hombirthers are right about how many women and babies died. BUT we now have hospitals as backup, and most people choosing homebirth are low risk. K, I am done. I just get so annoyed with mean women judging each other. I say birth how you feel is best for you!

Helen on

KW- actually, you are wrong about childbirth being the most dangerous time in a woman’s life UNTIL doctors and hospitals came about. Mother and infant mortality rates didn’t skyrocket until the 18th and 19th centuries, when doctors started assisting births and introducing their germy, unwashed hands and instruments into the delivery area.

There is a journal from a Flemish midwife in the 16th century that gives the details of all her deliveries, and the number of births that required some kind of intervention was around 6% – this is the same number that the natural birth midwives in “The Farm” in Tennessee have. Contrast that with the number of C-sections performed in hospitals today – the national average is upwards of 30%, 3x what the World Health Organization recommends.

The fact is that doctors and hospitals HAVE done harm to the very natural process of birthing. One-third of women do not need major abdominal surgery (and the risks and traumas that come with it) to deliver a child. Having a natural birth isn’t about proving one’s womanhood, it’s about making a safe, healthy choice for oneself and one’s child.

Anonymous on

if i could go back and do them both again, i would totally birth outside at home. so cool!

Nadia on

Great Birth! I had my first child in hospital and was greatful for my doctor but hated the nurses making me feel bad about trying to labor naturally. I did homebirth with my second. It was a wonderful experience!

Lots of the comments against homebirths are by uneducated in subject people. If you researched it and spoke to midwives and its not for you great, have an opinion otherwise you are commenting without basis. It is ignorant to assume that mothers would put their child at risk clearly homebirth for a select group is as safe as a hospital, and I qoute my highly experienced and regarded Obgyn.

To say that midwives are not as good as obs is also ignorant. Doctors are great for non vaginal births or complicated births, if u have these then homebirth is not even an option. Midwives go to school, practice under another midwive and are regulated by state just like docs. They usully see more normal vaginal births than most obs, mine had done over a thousand when I hired her and she brought all the skills and tools a doc or nurse would use if all hell broke lose at the birth, including iv and oxygen.

Lets stop critizing each other as women for our choices but rather empower each other. And if she made her birth romantic, you cant blame her! Looking back on my births I only too remember the beautiful things and might sound too romantic if you hear me tell it to my friends.

megan on

“and know that they have control over how they give birth”

I guess the moms with babies turned in the wrong position or in distress, requiring a hospital birth, should’ve wished harder or believed in themselves more *eyeroll*

Alice Slater on

Love Josie’s updates and her products. I am basically addicted to argan oil. I found a code for 15% off and just ordered. It worked! Thought I’d pass it on in case anyone else is an argan addict out there;) Its argan15.

Leslie on

I obviously dont know the details of the previous poster’s birth, but i often hear people say they were glad they were at the hospital because the cord was wrapped around their baby’s neck.

For the sake of clarity… Approximately 30% of all babies have the cord around their neck at birth. It is rarely dangerous because the baby isnt “breathing” yet. The umbilical cord has padding around it to allow oxygenated blood to flow even if it is wrapped around the neck.

Alice Slater on

Amazing story – thank you so much for sharing! I am a big fan of Josie’s Argan Oil – in fact I started using it when I was pregnant with my first daughter. It works wonders!!!

Diana on

Love her and this story! Beautiful. Way to go Josie and thank you for being willing to share your story.

Sam on

I think I’m going to throw up!!!

Pathetic that this lady is promoting herself with this birth story….Is this what this world has turned to? Honeysuckle bush… Which pr person thought of that…. And necklace charms…. Geez this husband and wife couple should be ashamed of themselves….

Catca on

I chose a hospital birth but I will not judge another mother for choosing a home birth. Josie clearly states it’s not for everyone and she doesn’t give any misinformation regarding the safety. It’s not as safe as a birth in a hospital setting, but it is a reasonable choice to make in a low risk pregnancy if a mother chooses it knowing the risks involved.

For me the birth experience was a private and intimate one even though medical personnel were present. To have family and friends there for the actual birth, natural an experience as it is, would be a bit like inviting them into the bedroom for the baby making itself – another natural experience. But I know that’s just my preference, I can understand how the support of family and friends can feel empowering for someone else.

I also am amazed at how supportive Josie’s husband is. There are many men who would not support their wives to the extent Josie’s husband does, and she really does seem to have a beautiful close knit family. I think it’s absolutely wonderful.

Leslie on

You’re right Sam! How dare she share the story of her daughter’s birth?! What a horrible thing for a woman to talk about! Things like this should never be mentioned! Off with her head!

All joking aside, congratulations to Josie on her beautiful new daughter… Thanks for sharing :)

momma on

Congrats Josie! Having just had my own wonderful homebirth following a c-section, I love reading all birth stories, but homebirth stories are my favorite.

It’s amazing to me just how many women get upset about another woman’s journey to motherhood. It should be celebrated regardless of the route!

Amen Alissa – “If you are a loving mom, then your awesome, no matter how your children came into your life….natural/epidural/c-section, hospital/homebirth, pregnancy/surrogate/adoption/foster care/step-parent…all are wonderful amazing experiences and all moms should feel empowered by their experiences.”

Mya on

I also had a homebirth and if my baby had been due in warmer weather an outside birth would have been my ideal.. however we just curled up in our bedroom and he arrived there.

Beautiful story and lovely photos. And YAY for women becoming more aware that Birth is normal.

momma on

Congrats Josie! Homebirth is an amazing option for healthy babies and healthy women, it is not for everyone. Thank goodness we live in a time and, in most states, place where we can choose to birth where and how we choose. And thank goodness there are medical options that do in fact save lives.

However for those of you who feel safer in a hospital it might be worth noting that the US has one of worst infant and maternal mortality rates in the industrialized world. The national c-section rate is almost 40% when the World Health Organization feels it should be less then 10%. We are most likely to die in childbirth in 2012 then our mothers were. That’s pretty scary!!

galen on

Her labor, her choice. I agree (as an OB/GYN nurse) about the “just in case” part…too many things can go wrong, ya know?

galen on

Amen! I was trying to be nice in an earlier comment, but you are SO right! Very perceptive and well thought out comments!

momma on

Congrats on the beautiful, empowering birth!

Ava on

LOL it does sound pretty perfect. But good for her! Her daughters are adorable and she sounds like an awesome mom.

April on

Hahahaha so many naive people. I work at a hospital and if you saw how “sanitary” it really was you would have your child in the parking lot! Outside of a hospital, birth is safe if you are not high risk. My mother had 3 POINTLESS c sections and because of the “family history” my OB said oh well you will need one to. Um no. I found a midwife the next day have delivered two beautiful boys in a softtub and have had ZERO complications and felt GREAT! wootwoot!

EM on

I am writing this as a health care professional and an aunt to a little boy who almost didn’t make it. The idea of a home birth is simply terrifying. I am glad it worked out for Josie but a healthy, uncomplicated pregnancy doesn’t guarentee a safe delivery or a healthy infant (or mom for that matter).

My sister had the dream pregnancy and a nightmare delivery that no one could have predicted or guessed. Very talented doctors had no idea anything was wrong until it was almost to late for both my sister and my nephew. This was almost 11 months ago and still brings me to tears when I talk about it.

Women have the right to deliver how they chose but I hope they have all the information when making this decision. My amazing super little man would not be here if it weren’t for the fast acting doctors and nurses that saved both his life and my sister’s.

Anonymous on

Spicy food doesn’t cause labor. That is just sheer coincidence. Baby was ready, nothing more to it.

Jenski on

I cant believe someone would actually hate on this. Its a beautiful story and I think some people are jealous. And who are you to judge so harshly?

Jenski on

Have we ever heard of survival of the fittest?

Jenski on

How stupid are you for judging people you dont know?

CS on

Josie chose to view her labor and her birth positively; just as you are choosing to be negative. We may not all agree in this world with so many viewpoints but we are capable of being able to agree to disagree.

AJ on

Seriously people who seem so confused by the quote negativity and judgemental comments need to READ her article again. She actually says that the experience of childbirth prepares you to be a good mom. Not me but YOU. If that isn’t inflammatory than I don’t know what is…of course people should be offended by her article, she insinuated among other things that wisdom, patients and other such admiral qualities come from a painful out the vajayjay birth which is not only offensive but total RUBBISH!

meghan on

Have any of you big ‘hospitals are safer’ advocates ever heard of MRSA?

Tee Tee on

Jess, you said “Yes, she does paint a very beautiful picture. However, if I would have tried this at home I would have bleed to death and my baby would have died. I had a third degree tear and a moderate post postpartum hemorrhage which didn’t get worse because the doctors were right there to stop it. My baby had inhaled meconium which caused him to came out gray and not breathing with an Apgar score of 4 at one minute. The doctors were right there to revive him and by the 5 minute Apgar score he was a 9. I had a low risk pregnancy. By the time we would have called the ambulance and for it to get to our house, we both would have died.”

A properly trained midwife carries the same drugs that a hospital uses for hemorrhage. They also carry suctioning equipment for the baby. Don’t misunderstand me, I’m not saying you should have birthed at home. That’s a decision everyone has to make for themselves. I just feel like it’s important to correct the common misconception that those two situations can’t be controlled at home.

Crystal on

Beautiful story. Unfortunately people are wildly uneducated about birth.

The United States ranks extremely poorly compared to other countries in the world. Countries where the midwifery model of care is the norm do much better. You can find the current ranking on the World Health Organizations web site. In the years that I have been watching the statistics we have ranged between the high twenties and low forties in infant mortality, meaning there are that many other countries where more babies survive childbirth than the United States.

When women choose midwifery care and home birth, they are most often doing so because of sound evidence. Obstetrics is useful and life saving, but in our system they are most often saving from complications that they unintentionally inflict.

traceyroselive on

What a beautiful birth story Josie … An inspiration to many that I will be sharing on my natural birthing facebook page.

Congratulations to you and your family .. XXX

Leslie on

It’s amazing how many comments here are from women who said if they hadn’t been to the hospital they would have died along with their baby.

Seems like a really high percentage considering that in sub-Saharan Africa, with some of the worst birth morbidity rates in the world, where up to 50% of women labor without any skilled attendants, the maternal death rate is 1% and the neonatal death rate at birth is around 4%.

So all these near death claims from western women make me wonder… Is it an attempt to validate hospital birth (“you almost died, and we saved you!”) or caused by the interventions of hospital birth?

Simone on

What a beautiful birth story and how encouraging it is to hear a woman accessing the strength, trust and faith in life. It truly is beyond just trusting in our bodies as women, it is in trusting a deeper knowing, trusting life.

When I hear women say “my homebirth went wrong and thank god I made it to the hospital” (in other words, hospital right, homebirth wrong) I am saddened because those women failed to access and become aware that it was their own innate wisdom, their own trust in life that brought them to hospital at the right time. It’s not hospital or home birth is better. It’s having trust in your own ability, in your own knowledge (education) and trust in life to make the right decision, for you (and your babies), in the right moment.

Welcome Indi – a perfect being for a perfect world!

selmamcmama on

I also chose home birth for 4 children. The oldest is 34 and the youngest 20. I wasn’t so young with the last one!!! There are risks whenever and wherever you give birth. My midwives were very careful and made careful choices as we discussed my “wants”. Always I knew, the MD and ambulance on call were for my safety and the safety of my precious babies. I am do grateful for my birth experiences. A week ago, I shared in the birth experience of my first grandchild.

Recovery from Raw on

Wow some of the comments on here. Congrats to her, beautiful birth story! I love homebirth, all 6 of mine were born easily at home (including my first two – identical twins as well as my last born a year ago on my 45th birthday). Many women in our society have bought into the collective fear surrounding birth. I believe as a woman birth should be empowering, successful homebirth is just that. Kudos to all the other homebirthing celebs out there.

Katie on

This is a totally ridiculous blog post. Having gone through the death of my daughter while I was in labor and hadn’t made it to the hospital yet (totally normal, second pregnancy, no risk factors at all!!!), I can assure all of you that you would MUCH rather have “impatient doctors” and “beeping” around you than grieve the death of your completely healthy, normal newborn baby, who just couldn’t tolerate labor.

Everyone forgets how normal it used to be for women and children to die in labor and delivery. We have modern medicine for a reason!! If you want an intervention-free delivery, wonderful! Just do your research, shop around for a doctor or nurse-midwife (NOT lay-midwife!!) who supports you in your decisions. Decorate up the hospital room, play whatever music you want, invite whoever you want to be there, ask them to silence the beeps so you can’t hear it, but make sure that baby is ok. In the end, I can COMPLETELY assure you that you would take an emergency c-section and everything that comes with it any day over delivering a dead baby and having to explain to your 4 year old what happened and why he has to say goodbye to his sister before he ever got a chance to say hello.

Josie thinks this was the best decision for her, but no, it was a stupid decision that just happened to work out in the end for her. That is called luck, not intelligence.

leopardhorse on

I admit, I feel like gagging with the whole rainbows and unicorns and garden fairies sentimentality of her “perfect’ birth. And the husband? I’d think my husband was demented if he whispered all of that in my ear.

The real test is how they function as parents in the long term. Will the beautiful, perfect marriage last? How will they deal with the kids when they’re older and have some very obnoxious moments? Or when they’re teenagers? I promise that won’t be sunshine and roses.

I don’t have kids, which is fine with me. I do know my sister in law had scheduled C sections. Supposedly the babies were to big to come out the natural way. The kids, a boy and a girl, are happy, healthy, and off-the-charts smart. I guess they weren’t damaged. A friend of mine also had a scheduled C section for the same reason. Her first daughter was an emergency C section, and the second one was scheduled. Both of her kids are fine. Not as fine as my niece and nephew, but fine. Both my friend and my sister in law are very good parents, so their mothering abilities weren’t hampered by the C sections.

Finally, I don’t understand why labor and delivery should be spectator sports. The last thing I’d want would be my family standing around. What if they decided to start a betting pool? Also, putting the baby in wasn’t a spectator sport. Who’d want it to be?

Like I said, I just want to gag at all the emotional superlatives…..empowerment, capability, yadda yadda yadda. If you want to have your baby at home, then hopefully you’re confident and won’t need others mouthing platitudes. You either have what it takes and you know it, or you don’t.

I might not have kids, but I believe that it can become a life or death situation very very fast and mothers should reasearch the benefits AND the risks of home births. Realize that if something goes wrong in a split second you or the baby might be damaged or dead. Make a decision after research, not romanticized accounts of sparkly ponies and glittery kitties.

kleinstfamilie on

@jen: I’m sure there was a midwife at the birth. most births in hospitals are led only by midwifes, you don’t need a doctor as long as everything is okay. and a midwifes job is to judge if everything is okay. if not, I’m sure they would have headed instantly to the nearest hospital. like they do in alterneative birthhouses too. that would never have been my choice, but lots of people do that. and you have waterbirths in hospitals too, a birth is not a sterile thing anyway.

saoirsewoman on

I’ve had 4 homebirths and one waterbirth. I recommend it! Blissful.

lovely123 on

Katie, totally agree and I am very sorry for your loss. My third pregnancy went smoothly until I sat up from labor and blood gushed out. A small piece of placenta was still inside. It took the doctors 45 minutes to find it, and I was glad I was at the hospital when it happened. NEVER had I been so grateful to be in a hospital than on that day!

Jenna on

Ladies, I really encourage you to please do research for not only yourselves but your bodies and babies. The United States has one of the highest rates for infant and maternal mortality and also one of the highest csection rates. Countries with the best rates have higher amounts of midwives and utilize them as long as it is a low risk pregnancy. OBGYN are trained surgeons.

Birth was brought into the medical industry in the Industrial Revolution when men realized that birth was a daily occurrence and they could make a profit off it. They began propaganda that midwives were stupid, old, housewives and the hospitals were the best place. Hospitals are for the ill, birth is a natural process, not an illness.

It is normal throughout our history for women to birth with support whether that be friends, family, a doula, or spouse. It is a joyus event in our lives that many enjoy celebrating. Midwives are trained to handle emergency events and a proper midwife will transfer at the first sign of issue.

I delivered my baby at home this past April and I am also a Childbirth Educator and Doula and we as women really need to realize birth is a natural, normal process that our bodies were made for and midwives are very understand of the natural labor process without putting birth on a time clock. Not every woman labors the same way, time, ect. And hospitals like to get people in and out to make their profits leading to unnecessary interventions. Please do your research!!

Many parents will use an Eco friendly disposable during the first couple days for a newborn until meconium has passed to avoid staining diapers then switch to cloth.

Jen DC on

I don’t have a complete understanding of the politics of home births in the U.S. but from what I’ve read, there seems to be an antagonistic relationship between midwives, doctors and hospitals that doesn’t exist in many European countries, where midwives have hospital privileges and work more closely with OB/GYNs throughout women’s pregnancies. That antagonistic or even lack of relationship is what appears to be driving the bulk of bad outcomes for home births in the U.S.

Thanks, Alissa. I loved your post as well because it seems that so many people want to find a reason to be offended by JM’s very personal experience. I love my earth mama friends as much as I love my techno geek friends. I’ve made homemade babyfood and squirted breast milk into cuts and scrapes and used it for pink eye as much as I’ve opened up bottles of baby food, mixed formula and gone to the cabinet to get Neosporin. AS LONG AS YOU LOVE YOUR KIDS, as long as you care for them and they are healthy, happy, loving and respectful, I don’t care how you did it. (I just don’t plan to do it!)

And it’s the same with birth: As long as you did it the way you wanted to do it, the way you perceived as safest, and your baby is loved, wanted and safe at the end of it – then you have had as successful a birth as you could have hoped for.

As far as the “Mommy wars” thing goes – lordamercy, you guys are seriously making this crap up in your heads. It’s like high school all over again: You hear a rumor of someone doing it differently from you (whatever “it” is) and suddenly it’s “Who does she think she is?! Bet she thinks she’s better than me!” I never understood that dynamic in high school and I don’t understand that dynamic now. Her choices have nothing to do with you; your choices have nothing to do with her.

WHY must we sit in judgment on others’ choices in this unhealthy, speculative, un-confirm-able way? I mean, honestly: Who is going to call up JM and ask her point blank whether she was mocking or denigrating their choice to be in hospital for birth? Does she seem the kind of person to do that? She gave birth under a honeysuckle for the love of … She’s a dirty freaking hippy and happy about it – can’t you just be joyful at her joy?! It made me happy! I even cried!

And her husband holding her as she labored? My God that man is sexy. If he weren’t already taken – so taken that he’s kneeling in a pool of blood, amniotic fluid, pee and other stuff – I’d go looking for him myself! She’s supremely lucky and I think she realizes it…

Amanda on

Beautiful birth story. I gave birth with midwives in the hospital. I would love the experience of a homebirth (except we have 4 children and are done, so not going to happen) but I chose the hospital. Mainly for after the birth. We aren’t surrounded by a lot of help and my husband could not realistically take much time off so I stayed at the hospital as long as they let me and then he took a few days off work to help. It was nice to get a break and have someone feed and care for me for a few days and time alone with baby to bond with just him before we went home and I had to divide my attention between kids.

Congrats on the birth of Indi! My mom and her sister have the same middle name, my mom passed it down to me and I gave my oldest daughter the same middle name too. I chose to not give it to my second daughter because we had another name with special meaning we wanted to use but I’m glad I continued to pass it down to at least one of my children.

MamaMama on

Congratulations on your beautiful home birth. I had one too and it is nice to see others sharing the belief that it can be a great option for a low-risk pregnancy.

Georgie on

Seriously people? Put your judgment aside for a second and celebrate the birth of a healthy baby.

Anonymous on

Absolutely BEAUTIFUL. She is such an astounding woman. Many blessings to her & her family!

ClaireSamsmom on

Maybe a Disney princess was one of her midwives? Look, I am glad it was easy and nature was abundant and the charm necklace and the backyard and all…that is awesome it went well….for her. My perfect delivery was in a hospital bed, with a great epidural, my husband, sister and mom surrounding me, making me laugh and telling me how great I was doing….no charm necklaces or honeysuckle bushes….

cheryl on

Not medically safe, and it is VERY scary. Two kids without painkillers/two with

Melle on

Nicely said, melissa

peta on

Thankyou to josie for sharing your beautiful, positive and empowering birth with us. I love so many things about it, the belief in yourself, the support from family and friends, the inclusion of your daughter, and being totally comfor
table with your birth choice.

It is incredibly sad how society have lost faith in nature now, and rely so heavily on intervention under the misguidance that its safer.

It upsets me to also see people having digs at you rather than celebrating your amazing strength as a woman. For some its easier to be cynical and jaded than allow love and acceptance to shine.

Ignorance and fear are dangerous, mix it with the internet and hidden identities, and congratulations, you have the above responses.

Guest on

Very glad your home birth went so well but don’t sound too smug about “not needing the medical profession”. Yes, women have been giving birth for thousands of years but for most of those years we accepted a certain maternal and infant mortality rate and now we don’t. We expect 100% success and the “natural way” can’t always deliver that. Things can go wrong at home and then you are using an ambulance that should be used for a true emergency. I think midwife in hospital is a good choice. But that’s another important thing — respect women’s informed choices and don’t look down on people who are comfortable in a hospital.

Michelle on

It’s a cool idea, but I’d be so scared of emergencies.

Leslie on

No one is telling you not to go to the hospital folks. All we are saying is to make an informed decision about what you feel most comfortable with and own it. That way you won’t feel so personally attacked, fearful and jealous when another woman decides to do things differently than you.

Mom4girls on

Weird. I wish women wouldn’t make such a big deal about the birth itself. It is such a tiny part (actually plays no part) in the parenting of one’s children. I wish moms would be more ecstatic in raising their toddlers, school-aged kids, and teenagers as they are at giving birth and breast feeding their babies. Maybe then our society would have more kids that are kinder, respectful, less materialistic, well behaved and value family. I know that giving birth and the newborn stage is a fleeting time, but so is every stage in childhood. Enough of the birth stories and baby gear already, geesh.

lovely123 on

Forget all the home birth hoopla and evil bad hospital stories. I am having my baby on Mars!!!

rachel on

Beautiful.

kirsten on

Thank-you so much Josie, and PEOPLE, for sharing this birth story. It is nice to read some details about a celebrity’s out-of-hospital birth and to not have the story be pushed under the rug, as they often seem to be.

Both my babies were born at home, and I agree with Josie that while an at-home birth is not for everyone, it can potentially be a beautiful and safe way to bring a child into the world if it’s a healthy/low-risk pregnancy and under the right circumstances.

My older child is a wonderful “helper” as well and it has made these first months so much fun! Congrats on your beautiful family!

ANJ on

Anonymous stated:

“Deaths happen in hospitals. In fact, more frequently than home births.”

Would she like to back that up with some facts?

ANJ

Jenna on

http://www.gentlebirth.org/ronnie/homejjg.html

America with their most expensive medical care and technology has one of the worst ratings for maternal death

brittb2990 on

for the people discussing the diaper the baby is wearing. it looks like they might be from the honest company by jessica alba.look at the pinkish detailing

LuvBigCity on

She is pretty delusional to think everyone has control over their birth and when she states,”The intensity of childbirth provides deep wisdom to a mother as her child passes through her.” and “No labor is easy, but the intensity of giving birth prepares you to become a great mom”, what about adoptive parents. Not everyone has this kind of magical birth x2 with an audience, it’s actually very rare for a birth to go 100% exactly as planned. You girls can go on and on about how it went your way but you a small percentage of birthing mothers, you would need millions of people sharing their stories to see that. Look I think it’s great what she got to go through but it is a fairy tale and after awhile it just got real braggy.

Andera on

I love hearing stories like this, as a FTM I was scared of childbirth and the pain, until I made the decision to do it at home and since that decision and throughout my pregnancy I felt so much peace and serenity.

The experience was amazing, my son was born in a kiddie pool (in the living room) with my husband by my side, I pulled him out of the water and my heart melted the very second our eyes met. I wouldn’t change my experience for anything, if I had to go back and do it all over again, I would do it EXACTLY the same. Natural childbirth is such an amazing, overwhelming, and powerful experience, there is nothing on this earth like it.

Chicken Little on

I’m all for natural childbirth, but this sounds too way over the top for me. Who wants to have an audience watching while you give birth? It should be a private event between a husband and wife. Not to mention how clean it can be to do it in an outdoor swimming pool. Poor baby.

whatever on

So I’m a crap mom if I don’t care if I’m empowered by a home drug free birth. If you have a headache you take a pill, you don’t go “wow I’m really enjoying this natural empowering headache”. You get exactly the same baby no matter how it comes out but in hospital you have more chance of it being an alive baby if something goes wrong.

I don’t care how anyone has their baby but I find “the intensity of giving birth prepares you to become a great mom” offensive. Insinuating that being in agony for a few hours proves you are a better mom than everyone else is stupid. I would have thought choosing the safety of my child over my own ego and desire to be empowered and have a great birth story to impress the other moms at the park would make me the better mother but anyway….

I’m actually really over the whole “women have been doing it for thousands of years” and “women never used to use hospitals” guess what women and babies used to die quite regularly back then too. You can have a natural birth in hospital the baby’s safety should come first. As someone who has had an emergency cs I cannot imagine what would have happened if I was at home. Having an uncompliated pregnancy does not mean anything, my pregnancy was perfect. In Australia even one of the leading home birth advocates had her baby die during her homebirth. Yes going to hospital increases your risk of a cs….because that’s where cs are performed. You can’t have a cs at home can you? I’m so sick of the type of birth you have and how long you breastfeed for being the measuring stick for how good a mother you are.

vlamommy on

It’s interesting to read the notes from health care professionals and moms so anti-home birth. I had a doctor who specialized in high risk pregnancies, and went in to the hospital on my daughter’s due date to give birth. My daughter was perfectly healthy, and I had a great pregnancy. Due to the errors of the “professional”, my daughter died during labor.

Congrats to Josie & family on their healthy newborn. Doctors and hospitals aren’t always the best option.

Missy on

While having your dad and brothers around staring at your crotch while you roll around in a kiddy pool with no medical professionals anywhere near you sounds like a really great idea an all, I think I will stick to having an actual doctor present. Yes, people have been giving birth in the woods for millions of years, but the infant mortality rate as also extremely high. Yay for modern medicine!

Cara on

What a beautiful story!! How about being supportive of a new mother instead of critizing her birth experience? Not to say things couldn’t change in an instant, but I’m sure Josie took precautions to ensure a safe delivery….

Anonymous on

With all due respect, she’s nuts. The only way I would ever give birth (and I never intend too) would be under a powerful anesthetic with strict commands not to wake me up until the thing is out.

Sandy on

I respect any women who can make it thru natural childbirth! No women should feel bad or guilty about their birth experience or birth plan. Many would like their child born in a garden but feel more safe in a hospital in case anything should go wrong.

Sandy on

Beautiful story. Glad it worked out perfect- you are very lucky. If something would have happened it would have been a differnt type of story.

susan on

Another “I am Woman” speech from someone who was just plain LUCKY… My first labor went HORRIBLY wrong in the final SECONDS necessitating an emerncy section that saved BOTH our lives!!! I thnk GOS every day for the skilled ob/surgeon who delivered my son within SECONDS to ensure we both survived. The lives of myself and my (eventual) four children were not to be gambled with to be in a friggin’ germy field with my friends munching on cookies around me… BTW – I am SURE she will probably not vaccinate her kids, eityher, so that they can bering measles to school and infect others. PLEASE GROW UP and be resposible!!! JMO>

Patricia on

That is the dumbest thing I have ever heard. Outside with all your friends it was a birth not a bar b que. Sounds like someone needed a little attention thank God nothing bad happen.

larsengirls4 on

This is absolutely beautiful in every way. Birth can be such a simple beautiful process if we can trust and have faith in what are bodies are made to do. Very inspiring. Thank you for sharing.

radical feminist on

thank you for sharing your experience. i can’t agree with you more about home birth versus hospital birth. women have been giving birth at home or in caves or fields for literally THOUSANDS of years; it wasn’t until AMA and the knife wielding maniacs of ACOG (amer coll of ob/gyn) coopted pregnancy, labor and delivery and turned it into a high risk, emergency event, that pregnancy and birth became so damn terrifying.

i urge all women to read an Ina May Gaskin book or check out Henci Goer at lamaze.com or watch the Riki Lake film “Business of Being Born.” Wake up WOMEN! You are the ones giving birth. How patriarchy took over this inherently female task is beyond me.

Thank you again for sharing.You have a WONDERFUL husband and beautiful kids.

S.Ross on

Lucy, those loom line honest diapers from Jessica albas Li.e of all natural baby products …no chemicals! And what a bunch of HATERS, YOU ALL ARE!! If a home birth is not for you, and drugs are…then make your choice…do you really have to slam her choice to make yourself feel better?! Judgmental people out there….

Amanda on

Stupid and irresponsible

Anne on

Lots of people up in arms about the “impatient doctors” line, but it IS common. Plenty of women I know were pressured by doctors and nurses to have a C-section because their labor was “taking too long”.

As long as the baby and mother aren’t in distress, there is no “too long”. It’s a fake condition doctors invented to push people into quick, expensive surgeries instead of letting nature take its course.

Too many hospitals are more concerned with quick turnarounds and large bills to insurance companies than they are your baby, and they prey upon the sense of security evident in so many of these posts.

Shannon on

To put things into perspective, a woman and her baby have a greater lifetime risk of being killed in a car crash than either dying during a home birth. So, are all of the just-in-casers going to stop riding in cars? Just something to consider.

cloudtripper on

not made up i had an all-natural 3 hour birth and it is just as she describes, the best moment of my life!

Josie, your blog made me cry, I’d love to call you friend we need more people like you in the world. Although I did not hate the hospital experience, for personal reasons I hope to have my next childbirth experience with midwives and outdoors also <3

B on

Beautiful photos…

whatever on

@radical feminist- as I said in my earlier post women and their babies used to die more a thousand years ago too.

@shannon- no I still go in a car, but I also make sure I drive the safest car I can afford and use the safest car seats just in case I have an accident. So your example doesn’t exactly fly. I don’t have to give birth (which would be the safest option) but I have to if I want to have children but I will do so in the safest way possible (at the hospital). Likewise I don’t have to drive a car (the safest option) but I do have to i I want to get somewhere which is not within walking distance but I will do so in the safest way possible (seatbelts, carseats, airbags, not being drunk).

I agree that sometimes maybe cs are given out too early to free up beds. I’m still not sure if this was true in my case, but I’m not a doctor so I’ll trust their professional opinion. I know of someone who was in exactly in the same situation and refused a cs and her baby went into distress and they did not get it out in time and it died.

feministmama on

Lots of jealous mama I see!

Nat on

Beautiful story, and I am truly happy for her and her new baby girl.

However, the problem is that she does not just describe her own wonderful birth, but she is too bias. Women can not control the way their birth goes, you have control, but you can not imagine with positive thinking all the dangers on the way. Home births are more dangerous than hospital ones. In most countries where women do not have a choice the child mortality numbers are much higher and also the mortality for the mothers are way up compared to western countries like the US or in Europe.

Yes, a woman has control over her own birth and so on. But even after an easy pregnancy, and initially easy birth, things can go wrong in seconds. “Bleeping monitors” saves thousands of women’s lives every day. My first birth took 48 h, and I eventually had an epidural, my second was took 6 h and was “natural” but I am nevertheless grateful for the hospital for their care in a situation that is not “scary”, but always potentially dangerous.

Women survive their pregnancies now. They didn’t always before. Let’s appreciate that and respect each other.

Jenn on

Beautiful birth story.

Sarah on

So happy for you! I just gave birth to my second son in our bedroom. It was just right for me also. And yes, such joy! Never to be taken from us, that moment of meeting our loves!

Ann on

I wouldn’t take that chance with my baby. I wouldn’t deliver where emergency care wasn’t near. Glad it worked for her. And, a bit odd to have family and friends in a backyard. Sounds like a picnic in which she was the entertainment.

Zen on

W o w . . . this was just beautiful to read… I love her daughters names… congrats to all… I must say that my hat’s off to any woman who can deliver naturally with no pain meds whatsoever. Kudos. However, if there was to be a problem–any problem– a hospital or at very least a birthing center is the safest option… You just never know.. Delivering my fourth child, he had ingested meconium, and as many may know, the baby must receive critical care immediately upon birth, and it took a medical team of 4 … Other than that, the pregnancy & delivery was fine… as were my previous… Your child’s life is not worth risking just to rpove how “natural” you are. Sorry!

Hannah on

Oh my gosh @Jen. You are worried about germs. You do realize some people in the hospital have life threating illnesses right? A hospital is just as germy.

Jennifer on

You’re all just so beautiful. Your’ family, you, the photos … just so lovely. Be well, be blessed. xoxo

Shannon on

Just ewwwwwww. Birth in a kiddie pool, surrounded by a crowd of spectators. Just ewwwwww.

Jeff on

OHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH no way!!

Shannon on

Who is the lucky one that gets to wash the after birth out of the kiddie pool?

mihunny on

Good for her! Sounds great! I can’t believe how nasty and judgmental some of these fellow women and mothers are. What do you give a holy whoo-haaa what another person does. She thinks she’s awesome,…I think she’s awesome too. H*ll I think all you people are awesome too! Mazel tov to the new family.

Barbara on

Congratulations on a beautiful birth experience. For me that experience would have been great with just my husband, my healthcare professional and a private yard with mild weather.

However, my reality was much different. My doctor sent me for an ultrasound after I made the observation the baby wasn’t dropping like my first one had, almost like something was “blocking” the way. They thought they saw the umbilical cord in between the baby’s head and the cervix, a prolapse that if the cord came first, the baby could die because of lack of oxygen. They immediately transferred me for an emergency C-section.

It turned out I had an aneurysm inside my uterus, ballooning out between the baby’s head and the cervix. The doctor said if I had gone into labor, it would have burst and I would have bled out and died before they would have been able to wheel me across the hall to the operating room, and the baby would have died as well. Because of that experience, I am forever grateful to being in the right place at the right time and having a hospital and doctors. A home birth would have resulted in the death of myself and my baby.

clmiller2 on

congrats on the baby, she is beautiful and her name is awesome as well.. I had my son in a hospital and I am glad I did. He became stuck on my pelvis and with each contraction my pelvic bone was pressing into his head.. when he was born he had an impression of my pelvic bone across his head that stayed for about a week.. so I had to have a c section. I had such an wonderful group of dr’s and the hospital staff was amazing. my nurses shift was over and she went with me to the OR and stayed until I was brought back to my room.. how is that for “impatient”..

LAURA on

I’ll start with the positive. The pictures of her and her husband are beautiful, I’m glad she had an uneventful birth in a setting that made her happy, and she seems very loving and sweet. I really wish her and her family the best.

Now for the negative. The freebird nature bit is a little too much for me. She should not categorize doctors as impatient because that’s not true for the most part. The beeping monitors are not to bother anyone – they are there as a safety feature and safety is a key element in anyone’s birth experience. She’s lucky there were no complications because being in her backyard won’t help anything in case of an emergency (which CAN happen to anyone – even those who like an organic life). The transit time to the hospital is time a baby may not have to spare. Sitting in a toxic plastic blow up pool doesn’t sound very “earthy” to me.

EG on

Sorry, but it’s just irresponsible to publish this stuff. Sunshine and flowers until there is a problem. I had natural childbirth with both of my children, but chose to do it in a hospital. My first birth went beautifully and the second went horribly wrong. The dreaded “intervention” of doctors and nurses saved my child’s life. My 41 week, full term baby was in distress, but not so much to do a c-section, so we kept going naturally because I was progressing quickly. Once born, she didn’t breath for 3 minutes and developed TTN which turned into pnuemonia. Wonderful that it worked out for you, but it was simply “lucky” that you didn’t have any problems. The odds of anything bad happening are low, but when it’s happening to you, it doesn’t matter what the statistics show.

lovemymoos on

Absolutely beautiful birth story, just magic. I’m so happy to hear you spreading the joy and triumph of the amazing moment that is labor and delivery. It’s not a scary thing, it’s an empowering thing!

Sun on

What a beautiful story — loved it. I, too, gave birth at home both times, although not in my backyard — not private enough — I birthed both my girls in my bedroom with a certified nurse-midwife (CNM) in attendance.

I had EXCELLENT prenatal care and all the tests that a mom giving birth in the hospital would have. As to Jen asserting that hospitals are somehow cleaner or safer to give birth because of all the “germs” at home, that is patently untrue and false.

Where do you think MRSA came from? — yes, that’s right — HOSPITALS! Hospitals are the biggest source of antibiotic-resistant infections because, well, they’re filled with sick people! More people die in the US each year from hospital-acquired infections than they do from HIV/AIDS — that’s a fact — google it, and you’ll find articles on NY Times and CNN backing that up.

Aurelie on

Amazing pics, she looks terrific. Having friends and family there would be a no no for me, too. Also I am not entirely sure about having my kids witness this but to each their own I guess. Congrats!

Anber mommy of 3 on

I commend her on the waterbirth/homebitrth choice and wish more women would see this as an option. Last month I had my beautiful son Jaxx at home, in a pool, without medication and he weighed 9lbs!!! In response to K.W. I am also a heathcare professional and have worked in a hospital for the last 8 years. I delivered my other 2 children in a hospital setting and GOD willing will never do it again, home was such a wonderful experience, one I highly recommend.

Suze on

that’s beautiful baby but I’m sorry, did she say she gave birth in the backyard – on purpose????

alison on

God, so many of you women must be miserable. So many haters!

Jenny on

Josie must have forgotten how many women(and their children) used to die during labour just 100 years ago. I really hope that she had a doctor on standby.

There is no anyone can predict how the labour will go – even the most routine pregnancies can go wrong and vice versa.

So please, take this story with a word of caution!

laura on

beautiful home birth story, love it! I also had an outdoor water birth this past July – my fourth child, a baby girl was born under the night sky in a birth tub on our deck. Birth is normal – women need to trust their bodies and find a good midwife – childbirth is not an illness that needs to be treated in a hospital.

elisey on

Summer, so if someone says that a trial in their life made them stronger are they implying that you are not strong if you didn’t experience that same trial? No.

Mandy R on

Jen, you should really learn how to spell, moron!

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