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Katherine Heigl and Josh Kelley Welcome Second Daughter

04/25/2012 at 01:35 PM ET
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Katherine Heigl and Josh Kelley‘s family is growing.

The couple, already parents to 3-year-old daughter Naleigh — whom they adopted from South Korea — have welcomed a second little girl, the actress’s rep confirms to PEOPLE.

“Yes they have adopted a baby,” rep Jill Fritzo tells PEOPLE. “No further details [are available] at this time.”

Heigl says adoption was always in the plan she had for a family with her singer-songwriter husband, 32.

“Josh and I started talking about it before we were even engaged,” the actress, 33, said in January.

“We have talked about having biological children as well, but we decided to adopt first. I’d like to adopt again.”

ET Canada was first to confirm the news.

– Kristin Boehm and Sarah Michaud with reporting by Julie Jordan

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Crystal on

CONGRATS to them! I loved seeing Naleigh on The View with Katherine and in Josh’s video for her song. They seem like great parents!

klutzy_girl on

Whoa, wasn’t expecting that one! Literally said “Oh my God!” out loud.

Congratulations to them! Can’t wait to hear what they named the baby.

shaw_182 on

Congratulations! Although, one can’t help but think she might not want to have biological children with her husband out of fear he or she might get his nose! :-)

Betty Fernandez on

Congratulations!

Sandra on

Yay, I like these two. And I think this is so amazing. They seem like great parents :)

Kar on

Good for them, I’m sure Naleigh is excited for a sibling!

Haley on

That’s so great.

Misty on

Very cool!

Rhonda on

Thats great! I wish them the best but it does make me wonder if they can’t have children naturally????

Lisa on

Awww, that’s great news!

Congratulations to them!

Tina on

Aww that so cute, congratulations.

Ana on

Didnt she give an interview saying she felt like a bad mother how she had these adoption depresssion feelings and didnt feel like she bonded with her daughter? I think adoption is a great thing but you have to be mentally prepared. I hope those depression feelings are now gone and resolved and she can feel like a natural mother to these children.

Sandra on

Hi, that is absolutely great news that they have decided to adopt again, but it makes me wonder why even after adopting their first child, why she hasn’t thought about having a child biologically with Josh. I don’t know why, but maybe she could have gotten pregnant in the meantime since having Naleigh. Just curious. Anyways, congratulations!

Marky on

As an adoptive mom, who has a daughter from Korea, I have come to really like this couple. I can’t wait to hear more about their new baby girl. My daughter is a real fan and loves to relive her childhood, watching Naleigh. except for the fact we weren’t rich, LOL! So exciting! Naleigh is adorable, and hope she grows up to be as much a blessing as our daughter has always been.

tm on

Shaw_182 ……. what a nasty thing to say. I don’t see anything wrong with his nose ….. and Rhonda … it’s not that they CAN”T have children, they WANT to adopt first. Good for them. I wish the family a wonderful and happy life together. Think it’s wonderful they are adopting first …………..

Lizette on

It won’t be long before we’re hearing her story (over and over) about how she didn’t bond with this baby.

Kar on

Rhonda, doubtful. She grew up with an adopted sister, and people with adoption in the family adopt more often. Plus, unlike the average person, they have the money to do it!

Karen on

What a refreshing change if they chose to adopt 1st instead of finding they’re infertile & treating an adoptee like a consolation prize.

cat on

Children are a joy adopted or biological it doesn’t matter they will be loved. Congrats on the new addition!

Anne on

Rhonda, “naturally”? The proper term is biologically…adopted kids are not “unnatural”.

Kristy on

So happy for them! They seem like a terrific couple with their priorities in order. They’ve also been such advocates for adoption and have been so honest about their experiences.

skippy on

good for them…although it seems like katherine might not want to ruin her body……hope they are happy

skippy on

isn’t she a control freak, might want to keep her figure..jus sayin’

LL65 on

Congratulations to the the family!

Jenn on

I think it is wonderful they open their family to adoption… So many children need a loving family!

Sherry on

That’s fabulous! It takes a very “selfless” person to adopt a child and I have nothing but respect for people who do.

Daffygrams on

I agree with tm, not a nice thing to say at all, Shaw_182!! Would you like it if someone judged you by your looks alone?? They are a great looking couple, very happy and congratulations on the new arrival.

jones on

Very cool. @Rhonda, she has been very vocal about wanting to adopt since she has an adopted sibling, so I don’t think it is because they can’t have children. Who cares either way, though? A child is getting a permanent home, which is great.

Ladybug on

Best wishes to a great couple on the new addition to their family!

nacho mamma on

Good for them! Adopting children that don’t have a family of their own is wonderful! Happiness always to them!

Shelley on

Wow, Shaw_182, shallow much?? He is a handsome man. Children don’t always inherit their parent’s features, so even if YOU are a perfect beauty and have a perfectly handsome partner, what if YOUR child happens to have a large nose, or ears that stick out, are you disappointed or something?? Your comment says so much about who you are as a person, and it isn’t pretty at all.

Rhonda, there are so many children in this world in need of good homes, I think it is fantastic that they are adopting again! There is nothing “unnatural” about adoption. If I remember correctly, Katherine’s sister is adopted, so I am sure that was a big influence on their decision – a decision that is their personal business, and no need for speculating on their personal fertility.

Denise on

Best Wushes for the entire family on your newest addition!!!!! Enjoy them both :)

Tams on

Rhonda, little offended by your comment. Is it difficult to believe that she just wanted to adopt first? My husband and I are actually leaning toward adoption ourselves and it’s not because we have fertility issues. We just really want to adopt. As I have said to my parents, “blood doesn’t make you a family, it’s love that does.”

Anonymous on

I can handle their adoption better than the Jolie-Pitts. They seem to truly want children rather than creating their own mini me United Nations.

zoozie on

Can’t believe that people just can’t be happy on hearing such wonderful news and instead get all snippy about it. They can do whatever they want and I congratulate them on their new little bundle of happiness.

Jess on

So happy they adopted again. As an adoptive mom I know how wonderful it feels to bring that baby into your home. I have to admit I envy her I want to adopt again so badly but finances just aren’t available right now. Hopefully things will turn around soon so we can bring another amazing baby into our home to love soon as well. Congrats to them they truely seem to have a wonderful family.

shaw_182 on

tm and Shelley, I thought the :-) at the end of that statement made it pretty obvious that I was completely joking. I’m sure they would have beautiful biological children. I also admire the fact that they have chose to adopt before having biological children, if they choose to do so. I was not being judgemental, or shallow. I, unfortunately, cannot say the same about you. And, once again, congratulations and best of luck to Katherine and Josh!

SadieA on

lol It’s amazing that people can hear this woman has adopted a second child needing a home and find a way to make it a negative thing. Some people really need to take a look in the mirror.

Ally on

Congrats to the growing family!

Felt the need to comment because I felt bad seeing so many comments like “can she not have a baby herself?” or “she must not want to ruin her figure”.

Adoption is a beautiful option for anyone who wants to become a parent. So many children in this world need loving homes. Why not help them out? I believe her motivation is to build a loving family, period.

Rhonda on

Congratulations to them and God bless them for adopting children.

Krayjee on

I am adopted as well from Seoul, S. Korea and bless them both for giving a child a home that does not have one. My parents have 2 biological children as well but wanted to give a baby a home that did not have one. And it’s a true blessing that they adopt internationally as well and I give kudos for couples who do! Maybe they will have their own but for now, thank goodness there are awesome people such as this couple and many others who continue to adopt :)

christa on

Great couple and congrats. Its so good they adopted again, they gave another little girl a home. It does not matter, how someone becomes a parent, it matters that they have an open heart and love for the child.

Pia on

They say they have talked about having biological children but have decided to adopt. Catherine and her husband are quite young but they have never mentioned to having any fertility problems. Might the decision to adopt be something of a choice rather than a medical problem? I think she and her husband would have beautiful biological children together.

wwmommy on

@Crystal…you are an ignorant MORON. she has a sister adopted from Korea so obviously it is near and dear to her heart. second, her 1st daughter had a heart defect and was sitting in an orphanage w/next to NO medical care. they got her the surgery and the life she deserved. You seriously have some major issues.

adrianna on

That’s fantastic!! Congrats to on their growing family!!

Amanda on

I guess I don’t understand why everyone’s so curious as to why they adopted again. Women who experience postpartum depression often go on to have more children – maybe she has worked through whatever issues she experienced the first time. Just because you are physically able to have children doesn’t mean you have to, adoption just happens to be what works best for them and their little (and adorable, if i might add) family. sheesh.

jackie on

I am so happy for them! Adopting a child who needs a loving family is a gift to this world. They are lucky. Many blessings to them. I also read that she grew up with a sister adopted from S. Korea, so this makes sense that she adopts, too. Best of LUCK!

Ouida on

What a blessing for the 3 of you, and the lil’ girl that u r adopting. Love and Light to all of you and a blessed life together.

Julianna on

That’s awesome. Can’t wait to hear how they named their new daughter. Congratulations, Josh, Katherine and Naleigh.

AllisonJ on

How exciting for them! I am thrilled! As a biological mom and adoptive mom, I love to see celebrities who adopt. Wonderful news!

KD on

That’s great…shame that so many ppl who can adopt seem to go outside the US as the US makes it so hard..believe me I know. Not sure why ppl care that this couple didn’t decide to have their own children first (if there aren’t any fertility issues)…our society puts so much stock on trying to tell ppl what they should do…the way I see it they are chosing to care and love and provide for a child who may not have that, instead of over populating our country even more.

lovemyboys on

Hey Crystal, here’s the one big difference b/c you and Katherine Heigl. it’s not that she has more money or fame…it’s that she’s beautiful inside and out and you’re ugly inside and most likely out too. Adoption is not an easy process nor is it easy afterward. It takes a very special person to adopt, something you’ll never know

Shannon on

OMG to the person who called adoption the “consolation” prize. My husband and I battled infertility for 3 years then turned to adoption. It was not something that we could have done at first, we had to be ready for it, it’s a very long process, and my girls are certainly not consolation prizes.

Looking back I am happy none of the IVF’s worked, our girls were meant for us and we were meant for them, we just had to wait to find each other. Our first daughters adoption was final last May and we are in the process of adopting her biological sister who was born 3 months ago, and I would not have it any other way. There is more to a family then just biology.

Way to go Katherine and Josh, I hope the family continues to be blessed.

Barb on

How wonderful for them! There are so many children in this world in need of a loving home. I personally know a few couples in my very small town who have chosen to adopt rather than add to the population crisis. Too bad that it is so hard, expensive and takes so long to adopt american children. There are so many here who need love.

Maryanne on

That is sweet. Motherhood agrees with her. Their daughter is cute as a button.

Shawna on

I think it is obvious why they have adopted again – because they are so thrilled with their first experience and their beautiful daughter Naleigh. Why should they have a biological child if they don’t want to? There are children in the world who need parents so why is there supposedly some unwritten rule that adoption should only be turned to because you can’t have biological children? Her sister is from Korea so obviously that put the idea of adoption in her mind from a very early age. I am thrilled for both of them and shocked by the ignorance and judgmental attitude of so many on here.

Barb on

Amen KD! You just saved me from writing a novel.
Blessings to the happy couple and all those who
choose to give an innocent child a happy, loving
home.

Alid31 on

I think that is wonderful news. I am unsure why everybody is being so judgemental about their wanting to adopt instead. There are thousands of children with no homes that need a family. These two have decided to give those children a chance at family. Just because they want to adopt doesn’t mean that they have fertility issues or she is worried about her body. In Hollywood, none of those celeb moms seem to have difficulty getting their bodies back into shape. Some people always have to complain about what others are doing. She’s not out getting high, arrested, in fights. She is doing something positive for someone else.

charell on

I congradulate them both because being in that predictment is not easy at least she is loving and care person who gives their heart out to someone in need. at least u are going to provide the baby home,shelter and food. CONGRADULATIONS TO BOTH OF U!

charelle Smith on

I actually think that it’s your decision if u want to adopt.I GIVE MY HEART OUT TO BOTH OF YOU. CONGRADULATIONS!

Emily on

Just to point out, Katherine Heigl’s sister was adopted.

So she is doing the same wonderful act that her parents did when they adopted her sister.

I don’t believe it is about her body, or whatever people what to believe.

She has seen first hand how wonderful it is to love family, whether they are biologically your family or not.

They seem like they do love kids, and congrats to the couple, I am excited to get to see the pictures of the new baby, and learn more about her.

That is if the parents wish to share that information.

Stella Bella on

Congratulations to them! Can’t wait to hear the name.

Blondet on

With so many children in this country without parents and a good home to go to, why not adopt an American? However, if they did forget this comment.

Marky on

When Katherine shared how difficult it was to be totally bonded when her daughter, Naleigh, seemed to prefer Josh to Katherine, I could really relate.

Some of these children have been with a foster mother for several months and have formed some attachment to her before they come to your home. (I was a foster mom for years and worked with adoption, but it was after we had adopted, so I didn’t truly understand some of this when we adopted her).

When you are in the process of overseas adoption, you have several months of knowing who your child is and you have pictures, and info, so you are so excited as a mom for the moment that child actually comes to you. When they go straight for their new daddy, hug him and turn to him for everything—that’s such pain, you can’t imagine unless you’ve been there. Remember, these children are not coming as newborns.

It was several months before our daughter was totally attached to me, and she still is very attentive to her dad as an adult. It was worth every second and then some; we have a great relationship, BUT it wasn’t overnight, and might have taken longer if we hadn’t had a biological child she attached to instantaneously, LOL. He was 3 1/2, and his first clear memory is her arrival.

Her first year with us, I even had the food delivered to our house, because going anywhere was difficult since she thought we were going to leave her; we even had to take her in the bathroom with us, or listen to her scream in terror, because she thought we would never come back.

We all laugh now, but it was not easy then. Some of you really have no idea that adoption isn’t the “easy way out”, and that it is not your right to judge how someone builds their family, or why!!

Molly on

Katherine said that she wanted to adopt because there are so many children out there who need a home so Katherine going through all that pain seemed unnesessary.

Melissa Rivera on

Awww congrats to them.

Marky on

Blondet, I am curious as to how many children YOU have adopted from anywhere?

As for children being available for adoption from here, yes, there are children available and they do need homes. Many, however, are older, and have issues that many are not able or knowledgeable enough to deal with. There are some people, for instance Mariska Hargitay, who can and do adopt a child with multiple issues, can hire a nurse to care for that child’s needs, and honestly, I admire her for it. I did foster care for children with multiple issues because I had the background for it, but the nurse caring for those children was me. I didn’t have the money nor did I think i could do it the rest of my life, and I was right, because my husband I both became disabled ourselves.

When we stand in judgement of those who adopt from anywhere, we better be willing to do what we are asking of them, or we are just being jerks.

Many children here come with family relationships they cannot get past, and which are still in their lives since adoptions are in large part open in the states (not always, but very, very often). Not every couple can deal with the alcoholic, demanding bio parents that SOMETIMES come with “Tommy” or “Susie”. Sometimes it’s just a mother who feels guilty in stepping away and letting the child bond and grow in the adoptive family, so she keeps intervening and making the adoptive parents feel as if they are not the parents, but a babysitter.

Most foster parents treat the child in their care as their own. Mine had their own room, new clothes, new shoes, bikes and toys that went with them for placement, or to their bio home if they were placed back with their birth parents. I have one picture of my youngest son, because when he went back to his bio family after months of care, I sent an album of pictures (along with records of every little special moment and doctor’s visit) to them and when he came back into care later and we adopted him as his mother desired, I never had an opportunity to copy that album, which she still has and deserves.

Some of you just have no idea of what goes into the decision of what choice people make about who and from where they will adopt. Somehow, resist the inner devil that makes you want to insult, hurt, and be rude to, the adoptive parents and whatever choice they make. Smile, say congratulations, and wish them well. They’ve just travelled a long road of one kind or another, and it wasn’t easy.

Sarah on

There’s always someone who brings up the “why not adopt from here” issue. Trust that the person who asks this has never tried to adopt from here.

As Marky pointed out ( great post btw ) adopting from the US is difficult, more difficult than adopting from overseas. Many of the children that are up for adoption here are either older, or have medical issues which most people can not deal with. When someone dreams of a child often time they want a small child or baby, which if adopting in the US is next to impossible.

Look at Sandra Bullock, she waited 4 years because she wanted to adopt a baby… Many people just don’t want to wait that long.

Kasee on

A child in need of parents is a child in need of a parents. Why man-made national borders matter to some people is a complete mystery to me. American, African, Asian, whatever, they are HUMAN and they need someone to care for and raise them. That is all that should matter.

jean on

Whether you adopt a child or have a biological one, it makes no difference! People should stop being so judgmental! And for those who are making comments about why she isn’t having one herself, did you ever think that maybe she can’t? At least they are opening up their hearts and providing a good home for a child in need.

Amanda K on

Congrats to them! They seem like a lovely family and I enjoy her films as well.

Ms MLC on

I would be much more impressed if these rich and famous would adopt homeless children from the United States. Our homeless children need love and families too.

TarDaDa on

Geez people! Who are we to judge whether they have biological children or decide to adopt again? They should be supported in whatever life decision they make. Why should we always HARP on people who choose to live life differently?

Snow on

Agree with you Ms MLC. There are alot of kids in foster care who never ever have a family or stability at all.

amie on

Shannon: Beautiful! Congratulations!

Mona on

To those who are speculating that she is adopting so as not to ruin her figure………if more people did that, there would be less fat people walking around, and less children growing up in foster care because no one wants them.

Reallove on

It is DISGUSTING to read the stupid catty comments here. People say if women ruled the world there would be peace, what a crock there would be more wars than ever and over the most idiotic things. To the women who judge others for not having bilogical children, wait until your child grows up and finds out they can’t have children biologically maybe then you won;t be so hideously judgemental. If you can have children biologically don’t feel so high and mighty you didn’t choose to be able to have children just as much as other women didn’t choose not to be able to.

And for crying out loud how stupid do you have to be to not realize that there are SO MANY children out there with no one to love them. More people should adopt and not because they can’t have kids biologically, but because they want to stop one child from growing up alone or abused in dysfunctional childcare systems. How dare any of you judgemental posters question someone who actively wants to help children who ALREADY EXIST. Adopting a child who is alone in the world is incredibly noble and it sickens me that so few people do it. Too many people just couldn’t care less about those namesles faceless children suffering alone. Adoption isn’t a back up plan, it’s a beautiful choice that more people should try making. This world is going to stay a horrible mess if more people don’t step up and start thinking about the children that already exist and are in desperate need and if you don’t have the ability, heart, or strength to be one those people then at least shut your mouth if you can’t say anything nice about people who are kinder and more compassioante than you’ll ever be.

Aunu1 on

I think it’s wonderful they have decided to adopt for a 2nd time. Good for them for giving a loving home to a child who needs a family to love and care for them. Congrats to you all on the new baby.

ericka on

congrats on your second daughter there are so many children to adopt may she be happy and healthy with the three of you

Anonymous on

Blondet- We don’t know where this new littlem girl is from yet, but she has said that one of the main reasons she adopted Naleigh from South Korea is because her sister was also adopted from there. It’s not like she just picked the country at random!

KD- Gues what? Children you adopt ARE your own!

Anyway, I’m surprised they haven’t given out more details. They don’t exactly seem to be private people, and with Naleigh we knew her name, country of origin, exact age, etc. right away. Why hide this new little girl’s info?! It just perplexes me when celebs are so open about their first child and then clam up when their second comes along.

All of that said, congrats to them…and I hope we get to hear more about the new little girl and see pictures soon!

Nadia on

I wondered why she didn’t adopt from America? But do you see Asians adopted white children? No that is the right answer No they do not. I have meant blacks who foster and adopted white children here in Canada. Anyways I am black and I was adopted by a white mother and a father who is white and native. I always wonder why people in America do not adopt American kids and my parents adopted a black child that happens to be black from America.

mimi on

im disgusted at some of the comments on here suggesting that an american child is more deserving of a home than a non-american child.

the are all CHILDREN and all of them deserve a loving home, regardless of nationality, race, gender, age, religion etc etc.

good for katherine and her family adopting!

hyper on

I am amazed how judgemental people are….if celebrities do not adopt but go through rounds of IVF then they are considered selfish…lots of children waiting to be adopted everywhere. Now this couple chose to adopt and people are saving nasty things about them not having their own biological children. Can’t win, can they?

Marky on

MsMLC, It might help some of you who keep saying “they should adopt homeless children from the States!” or “What about our children here in our own country!” if you just realize that many children who are homeless in this country, ARE HOMELESS WITH THEIR FAMILIES! Those children are NOT free for adoption, and each day, when they go to school from the shelter they and their family stays in at night, they have free breakfast, and free lunch.

That is not the case in many countries. Even most in foster care here have plenty of food, clothes and a decent bed to sleep in, though a very small percentage don’t. I’ve been involved for many years, as well as working with adoption, and I have never seen a child in this country being mistreated by their foster parents, let alone starving. In our schools (which I have volunteered in for years), I do see them going home with a discreet backpack of food, passed out by the school, and clothes provided by the moms who become aware of the needs.

No one has to be rich to adopt, either. If you want to adopt, you sign up, take the classes, get licensed, and start the process. The only fee in TX is the court fees and those are often waived. If the child is on Social Security, they will remain on it until 18. That payment can feed and clothe them, be saved for college, or used to send them to private school, for that matter–whatver they need.

When we adopted, we lived in a 1600 sq.ft. house, with little thought of moving out, and we spent all but the last $25 of our money, including our entire savings account. That’s right, all the money we had left was our $150 to pay for the trip to Chicago to pick her up. We managed to make it, even though we had another bio child within a year. It can be done, if you’re willing to drive one car or none, and do without some extras for awhile. She was more than worth it!

queenofhearts on

I definitely could see this one coming!!

Congratulations Katherine, Josh & Naleigh on your new arrival!! I can’t wait to hear the name they’ve picked.

I think Katherine is one of the best actress and role models for young women around at the moment!

tlc on

I have to agree with Marky here. I am also a foster parent AND an adoptive parent AND have a biological son as well. We adopted our daughter from foster care and she was MEANT to be here. She fit our family like a glove and was the missing piece. I couldn’t have more kids after delivering my son and we are so blessed to have had the oppourtunity to adopt our daughter after fostering her for 2 years. She is OURS…nobody else’s.

ALthough I don’t care for Katherine Hiegel, I think it’s great that she and her husband are giving children who most likely have a really poor or crappy start, a great family and a good home. Doesn’t matter if they adopted from Korea, Africa, the US or MARS for heaven’s sake…all that matters is that another child that was brought into horrific circumstances will now have a loving and stable home with a family that can provide neccisites of life and love. THAT is what is important!!!

Wowed on

@Anne:

Nobody said that adopting a baby was “unnatural”–except you. The fact is, things that our bodies do on their own are called “natural” processes. So yes, the “natural” way to have a baby is when a man and woman create one together…even in-vitro and medications are considered “unnatural.” It’s a term that describes the process, so relax!

KD on

@anonymous…you didn’t read my post I didn’t say at all that an adopted child is not your own, I said too many ppl in our society put pressure on us couples to have or own child – meaning biologically – so please don’t put words in my mouth.

I also think ppl who have never tried to adopt in the US are clueless as to the availablity of children, how old they are, the fact that many have issues stemming from foster care or their own parents, etc. The reality is it’s easy to tell other ppl what to do but let’s face it, those of us who want to have a child want to raise a baby…and many don’t have the time or money to support an older child through the vast issues they come with. It’s sad.

As a single mom with a son who has a hearing loss I’ve faced the time, work, money it takes to ensure his needs are all met….add more to that for a child in the US foster system and it can be overwhelming.

Diana on

How anyone can find anything to criticize in this article is beyond me. They adopted a child, how can that be seen as a negative thing. If they had a biological child there would be all these people on here saying why didn’t they adopt theirs so many children that need homes. You can’t win!

Theresa on

Congrats to the happy couple! However, how is it that my friends who can’t have children of their own & have been trying to adopt for close to 10 years are still waiting? The paperwork is never ending & the cost is substantial. I guess it depends on who you are and how rich you are…

Miss Kiki on

Adoption is a wonderful thing, especially with the planet so overpopulated and so many children without a home. To act like a woman is less than human for not wanting or needing to reproduce is garbage, and anyone that would even imply such a thing is a stupid narrow minded moron.

Missy on

I am so happy for them! I think it’s wonderful that they are bringing a little girl into their family who may not have such great opportunities elsewhere. And to everyone who says she must be infertile or, worse, worried about ruining her body, shame on you! Why not believe in the best in people, that maybe this couple sees the over-populated world and the horrendous number of children in need of a family and decide to unselfishly give them a home?

dsfg on

Missy, the child is an infant adopted from Louisiana . . . obviously you don’t know much about adoption . . . there are not a “horrendous” amount of infants “in need of a family” in the US. There are actually a horrendous amount of adults looking to adopt infants, but there just aren’t enough infants available. If Katherine and Josh hadn’t adopted this second child, someone else probably would have. I say this as someone who has tried in the past to adopt.

By the way, it’s Katherine’s body and she can do what she wants with it. She doesn’t have to get pregnant if she doesn’t want to. There’s no population crisis or need for her to procreate.

dsfg on

Theresa, rich people are able to adopt more quickly simply because they have more money to pay lawyers. Instead of hiring one lawyer to find them a baby, they have the money to hire ten lawyers to find them an infant, so the process moves much more quickly for them. Also, private adoptions, where the birth parents choose the parents, is more common. So it could be that many birth parents are impressed by wealth/celebrity. But the adoption agencies do not neccesarily give preferential treatment to people because they are celebrities.

In the end, it’s about providing a home for the children, not about providing children for potential adoptive parents.

dsfg on

Ms MLC, if you’re so concerned about the homeless children in the US, why don’t YOU adopt them?

MiB on

My first impression, considering their reps response, was that they weren’t ready to reveal the adoption yet, but that they didn’t want to lie either when asked by a reporter. Maybe the adoption isn’t finalised yet? Maybe they haven’t picked her up yet? Maybe there are still some legal issues? Maybe there are health issues that makes them want to wait a bit (after all, the did adopted a child off the special needs list last time)? I sincerely hope that they, like all other parents, will be allowed to announce their child to the world at their own pace.

Anyways, congratulations to Katherine, Josh and Naleigh!

adoptiongoddess on

As a mother of four who also ‘always knew’ I would adopt, I offer hearty congrats to Katherine & Josh! I love stories where adoption is not a ‘second choice,’ but an enthusiastic first choice!

Leslie on

Congrats on the new baby…

Anyone else watch the music video for “naleigh moon” that is on Josh Kelley’s website? http://www.joshkelley.com/naleigh_moon/
Thoughts?

Personally, I was a bit weirded out by the staged family videos and how stepford Katherine looked. Who goes to the park in full makeup and dress prancing around in heels on the grass with their toddler? It also felt like they were pimping their kid out a bit. I’m sure lots of people will find it to be a very heartfelt video… but I got the icks.

stef39 on

It isn’t difficult or expensive to adopt an orphan in the United States. The keyword being “orphan”. That is, children in the foster care system who truly need a home. If someone really wanted to do a wonderful selfless and loving thing, that’s where they’d go to adopt.

ScottK on

Must be at least 10 comments putting down others for being critical, yet I can’t see any of these negative comments. Some seem very quick to take offense.

I was adopted. It may be all rainbows and puppy dogs to some of you but for 30% of adoptees it is very painful to live with and some of the issues which arise make life as an adult difficult as well. I can’t rejoice hearing about a child that has to grow up bereft of kin, regardless of the circumstances. I was taken from a poor family and given to a wealthy one. Money didn’t fix anything. Reuniting with my poor mother did.

Take a moment out of all your celebrating and remind yourself that the whole reason this is happening is that a baby has lost his parents, brothers, sisters, aunts, uncles, grandparents and worst of all, his own identity. Even orphans grow up knowing who they are and know some family members. Try singing this and see how celebratory it sounds: “A baby lost his mom, a baby lost his mom, hi ho the derry-o, a baby lost his mom!”

Your joy comes at the expense of others. Adoption always starts with a loss, the biggest loss most people will ever face.

meghan on

ScottK, just because adoption was an unhappy experience for you, doesn’t make it bad. 30% is hardly bombshell numbers. Take an informal poll, you’ll probably find a good 30% of people wishing they hadn’t been raised by their biological parents. But that would be anecdotal evidence. That doesn’t mean people shouldn’t have kids. Unhappy homes exsist biologically and adopted. Adoption can be a wonderful thing.

Leslie on

Way to be a b*tch Meghan.

meghan on

Leslie, not sure how what I said was bitchy, but thank you for the mature dialogue.

Anonymous on

Why not adopt an orphan here in the U.S?

simartful on

Ana where did you read about that? Out of your ass? The only thing Katherine said was that it took Naleigh awhile to know her as her mother and touched on how hard that was. I’m assuming you don’t have any friends who have adopted or you would know that every adoption goes through this phase, it’s a process to get to where she is now.

kristan on

ok, wait a minute. at all those saying that people don’t like to adopt from the states because the kids are older and have “issues”, you are cold hearted. sounds like you are saying that they don’t deserve to have a loving home because they are older or may have some issues. what a horrible thing to say, think, or insinuate. every child deserves to have a family that loves them regardless of their age or “issues”. my husband and i have one biological son together and hope that when i am done with nursing school that we will be able to foster a child and then hopefully adopt them, regardless of age. every child needs love.

Anonymous on

dsfg- Where did you read that Katherine and Josh’s new daughter is from Louisiana? They only thing they’ve confirmed thus far is that they’ve adopted.

kristan- Of course those children deserve homes! However, not everyone can handle an older child with “issues”.

MiB- You might be right. I got a bit carried away!

ScottK on

It’s not just an “experience”, it’s an entire life. Dismissing it as just one single experience is trivializing, belittling.

30% is the number that seek counseling, get locked up or commit suicide. It doesn’t count those who suffer in silence and say nothing for fear of being dismissed as an ungrateful bastard.

If you cannot even empathize with the loss an adoptee faces at birth, how will you possibly understand later when they really need someone who can understand them. How can you help them resolve identity issues when you don’t even have a clue what they are?

Daniel Ibn Zayd on

Adoption as a practice and an institution is based on underpinnings of indentured servitude, colonialism, Orientalism, racism, and classism. This is unrefutable, so please, stop telling adoptees who speak up against the practice to “get over” what is not a normal state of affairs. Adoption is the modern-day version of slavery, in terms of human trafficking, power differential, and destruction of culture, language, place, and voice.

http://www.transracialeyes.com/

Emilie on

as an adoptee who has lived adoption my whole life-I feel strongly that it is not a beautiful thing. For adoption to happen at all the child has to be SEPARATED from their mother, ancestry, heritage, genetics,familiar people and given to a new unfamiliar family. This causes a trauma to the child that can and most of the time does last a life time. For a child to be adopted they must first be given away. IT is not a beautiful thing, but a sad and tragic situation for both the biological parents and the adopted person.

meghan on

To the people bashing adoption, I ask, what do you suggest? What’s the alternative.

Anonymous on

meghan- Hear, hear! Do people REALLY want children without families to be left in orphanages or foster homes? I realize there are cases where parents are tricked into giving their child up for adoption and there’s child trafficking and all. But many, many cases of adoption are due to the brith parents either dying or being unable to care for the child.

In the former situation, the child would forever be without a family if it wasn’t for adoption (unless, of course, another family member like a grandparent, aunt, or uncle can take them in, but often that’s not possible), and in the latter they probably would be hurt far, far worse by being left in that situation than by being adopted (a lot of cases of child neglect, abuse, and even murder by parents occur when the parents either didn’t want the child or couldn’t take care of him/her).

And before anyone says that abortion would be a solution, I’m sorry, but I strongly disagree. A baby should not have to die just because his or her parents don’t want or can’t care for him/her!

ScottK on

The solution is to stop destroying natural families and to support them instead. Those who are ‘bashing’ adoption here have been adopted, we know what it’s like.

meghan on

So…welfare? Great solution. The welfare system works SO great. Natural families? Seriously? None of the people I know who are adopted would call their adoptive families “Unnatural” or fake or place holders for their “real” families. You act like all adopted children were wanted children torn from their loving mothers. It happens, but it’s just as likely that it’s a ‘mother’ who DOESN’T WANT THE RESPONSIBILITY OF BEING A MOTHER.

You make adoption sound like this ugly thing. If that’s how you feel great, but don’t speak for all adopted children. You want to blame all your problems on the “destruction” of your “real” famiy, great. If you had been raised by your birth mother, odds are you would have something else to whine about, like being raised poor and disadvantaged, instead of owning your shortcomings. Must be nice to have something to blame all your problems on.

ScottK on

I have responded to you without being abusive Meghan. If that’s how you choose to address others, I see no point in any further reply.

Ali on

Meghan, I really, really hope you are not an adoptive parent. Your insensitivity and unwillingness to listen to the adoptees expressing their feelings on this board is staggering.

Anonymous on

ScottK and Ali- While I agree that meghan could have worried especially the last part of her post better, I agree with her. Not all adoptees feel the way you do, nor do all of them want adoption stopped (and like Meghan, that includes all the adoptees that I know…and I know quite a few!).

In addition to what Meghan said, what about kids who are adopted because they’ve been orphaned? Should they just be left to languish in an orphanage or spending their childhood bounced from one foster home to another?

Also, some children wouldn’t even be alive if it weren’t for adoption. For example, some mothers abandon their babies in alleys, dumpsters, garbage cans, etc. If it weren’t for kind, loving people finding those babies and handing them over to the state to be placed for adoption, they would die (and sadly, some of them do. Those that are thrown in a dumpster or garbage can, for example, often aren’t found until it’s too late).

And finally, I want to point out that adoption doesn’t mean that a person is forever going to lose their birth culture. Quite a few adoptive families embrace the culture of the adoptee, doing things such as visiting the child’s birth country, learning about the birth country, celebrating holidays from the birth country, etc.

Jillian on

Meghan, I agree with all of your posts. I ask the same question of, if not adoption than what? Example, my nieces birth mom got pregnant at 14 and had her at 15. She was in no financial or emotional shape to raise her. Her choice. Scott, Curious what you feel she should have done. No complaints from anyone in this situation.

My cousins mom was a drug addict and a drunk. Had my cousin and they would hotel hop. She would leave her alone in the room for hours at a time to score. Finally at 3, she was given up for adoption. She doesn’t sing “a baby lost a mom.” Maybe I finally found one. Many adopted children don’t have a parent until they become adopted. I know so many and have yet to find one who said they “lost their mom.”

Scott, I am so sorry your birth parents and adoption had so much negative affect on you. If you haven’t, you should speak to someone. It’s unhealthy to feel the way you are projecting. I think they can also help you realize it’s not societies job to “help” everyone who got pregnant keep their baby bc it is not possible……cmon

Mary

Mary

ScottK on

@Mary or Jillian. Reuniting with my natural mother is healing the damage, not causing it. I’ve been through adoption therapy as well. I was fortunate enough to find someone who understood primal wound and how to deal with it. My adopters are no longer part of my life and the adoption order has been terminated. It is my adopters who have had a negative effect, not my birth mother. Odd how PAPs/APs seem so incapable of understanding what an adoptee is actually saying.

ScottK on

It’s also not societies job to ‘help’ everyone get a baby.

Lori on

adoption can be a beautiful thing IF there was no money involved, and the government and lawyers didn’t make a business out of selling us as kids, IF we had the same rights as non-adoptee’s, IF we can access our records, and IF the adoption is an open one and the child is allowed to learn his/her roots and learn who he/she came from.

Before you assume I had a crappy adoption, I didn’t. I have been very fortunate in my life and have had expedriences most haven’t because my adoptive parents were able to provide me with them. I love them very much, however I always lived my life in pain, in secrecy, because society tells me to shut up when i state how adoption affects me, and they tell me that I am ungrateful for feeling these feelings. and 100% of those people that have said that to me, are NOT adopted. So of course they wouldn’t understand. Fortunately, I have been able to heal but only after I discovered my biological family. I am in contact with them daily and finally I am able to fit in somewhere and look like somebody. That may sound silly but it’s a hole in my heart I’ve finally been able to fill. All us adoptees ever ask is that you listen to us without judging. I feel that no one should judge anyone for anything unless they’ve walked a mile in their shoes.

Marky on

There are adoptees who feel the way you do, Scott and Lori, and there are adoptees who do not. My experience has been that a great deal of the pain which exists in some adoptees’ hearts depends on how the adoption is handled by the adoptive family, whether or not the child’s origins are embraced as a part of that child in a positive way, and whether the adoptive family is adopting because they really want a child in their lives, or whether they think they “should” have a child.

My daughter was abandoned with no identification in a foreign country, so there has never been an option to find her bio family. However, we always talked about how much her parents must have loved her to have left her where she could be found, since at that time it was common in Korea, to throw baby girls in the garbage or drown them in buckets if they couldn’t or didn’t want to care for them. She knew they wanted her to have a home and to have a good life. She also knew we loved her and wanted the same for her that her bio family desired. She always has enjoyed Korean food, as has the whole family, and we have shared many special meals and lovely family times celebrating her and her original culture. She is, however, very much American and doesn’t think we are not her family. In fact, she and her husband chose to name their children after her grandfathers, who she loved very much. She grew up with many friends who were also adopted, and only one had issues with being adopted. She actually had one adopted friend who placed her child for adoption due to circumstances which made it nearly impossible for her to raise her child herself. There were no regrets or even any hesitation regarding her decision. I know my son’s bio family and have offered to reunite him with them, but he has no desire to do so. He has never heard anything negative about them from us, quite the opposite, but he still doesn’t want to reunite, and he is a parent himself. My children aare adults with families, and it wouldn’t be difficult to talk to me about it (since we are open about it), or just do it and tell me later.

I know there are adoptees who feel as you do, and I would never denigrate your feelings, but by the same token, it is important to realize everyone doesn’t feel the same as you do, and that doesn’t mean they are lying or fooling themselves. I actually had two cousins who were placed for adoption when my aunt and uncle abandoned their 6 children because they were alcoholics. One cousin was interested in reuniting with the family, and the other said he was very happy with his family, and had no interest in reuniting, even with his siblings. Both were in their 40’s at the time. Another cousin had the opportunity to reunite with his bio mother when he was 9, because of very unusual circumstances, and his comment was, “I’m glad I saw what she looked like, but I don’t want to leave with her.” He never showed any interest again. for the rest of his life.

Adoption, handled properly, and done for the right reasons, can be wonderful, but it can be heart-breaking when not done correctly. When handled properly, no child is wrenched from a loving home and given to another family for any reason. And the adoptive family rarely forgets that their child came to them because of what is essentially a tragedy in the biological (or family of origin). It does seem to make a difference if the bio family has spent time saying good-by, made the decision themselves, and been part of the placement. If you want people to really “hear” you, Scott, you need to realize your experience is just that–your experience. Some share it, and others don’t. As my friend said once, “I whined and screamed my way through my teenage years because I was adopted and taken away from my birth family. When I went looking for them, my father was a drunk I can’t get rid of, and my mother said, ‘I told everyone you were dead and as far as I’m concerned , you are!’ I wish I hadn’t found them!” She was in her late 30’s by the time she talked to me. That was HER experience. Yours is different and both are valid.

And to the person who said adoption was rooted in indentured servitude and slavery; no, it is rooted in the customs of very early Judeo-middle-eastern society, when family members took as their own, the children of relatives who died or were too ill to take care of their children. Usually, it was a family member who had no children. and desired to have a family. Adoption as you describe, had it’s roots in later times when poverty and disease caused so many children to be orphaned, and people to need help on farms, or in a trade. That was long ago, and has nothing to do with today.

NikNak on

I don’t see why so much emphasis is placed on giving birth to a child over adopting. I have a feeling it has to do with vanity. A baby is a baby, no? Why is it so important that the baby came out of HER vagina, instead of someone else’s?

I’m also getting the feeling that some people look at adopting as babysitting. Or that the relationship between a parent and child is less real when the child is adopted.

Whether adopting or giving birth, it really should not matter how the child came to be. Unless you are those people really concerned with passing on your genetics b/c for some reason that is really special to you.

mg on

Must be nice to be rich. Want a baby? Here ya go!

Tina on

As a mom to 2 adopted daughters, it is insulting for those of you who seem to think adopted children are somehow a second choice. My children are my children, whether from my womb or from China. I love them so much!

Congratulations to this family.

ruby on

I wish we had the $$$ to adopt from SK. There are a lot of sweet little boys and children of both sexes with special needs there who need parents. Of course there are a lot of children in the US who do, too. Either way we can’t afford the $25K+ :(

Congrats to them!

Farzeen on

I hadn’t realized that adoption was so expensive. Too bad it isn’t reasonable for the average person. More kids need permanent homes filled with love and guidance, not to mention basic life necessities. Didn’t realize you had to be rich or else take a 2nd out on your mortgage.

donna on

we have two biological sons and we have one adopted daughter…she came to us as a three-day old baby…we have as much love for our daughter as we do for our sons and everyday with each of our children is a true blessing

Marky on

mg and Ruby, adoption is not just for the rich, and they don’t have different rules, no matter what the rules were 75 years ago. That is sooo obnoxious, and usually means you can’t adopt and still buy that 3500 square foot house and buy 2 new cars every 3 years, plus go on vacation, at least that’s what I see among many people I have met. Lots of us also adopted foster children we had for years while we worked diligently to help reunite the biological family, and when it failed for the 15th time, we adopted the child we loved and had raised for several years. My son’s bio mother asked us to adopt him because she knew she would never be able to raise him herself, she had so many problems her family could not meet his needs and hers, and she believed he would be better off adopted then in permanent foster care. She had not even showed up for visitation for 2 years by then and he was nearly 4. There are inexpensive routes to adoption, and several have said so, yet you keep stating you have to have a lot of money. We NEVER were rich or more than middle-class!

When we adopted our daughter, we were 27 and 28, totally middle-class, and parents of a 3 1/2 year old. We were happily living in a 1600 sq. ft. house, thought we might live in it forever, and certainly were willing to live in it if it enabled us to parent another child who didn’t have a home. We spent every dollar we had, except for the $25 we had to leave in our savings account so it wouldn’t be closed. We did all the paperwork, went through the endless process to be approved, and waited a long time for her to come. We didn’t have a lot of money; in fact we were young and just starting out, living on one income. How many sacrifices are you willing to make, and what do you consider is enough money? See? You might not be “adoptive parent material”, because most people who adopt are not rich, they just want a child badly enough to make the sacrifices.

rhiannonstanfieldphotography on

The article says that they wanted to adopt first. There is nothing wrong with them adopting. I find it very admirable. There are so many children out there without parents that need help. Kudos to them!

MammaMia on

Boy, some people can’t win for trying! If she’d had her second biological child, sure as shootin someone would say “why keep procreating when so many children need homes”. Good for them. And it’s nobody’s business if she can/will/wants to have biological children. Love is love and a mom is a mom.

ScottK on

“I would never denigrate your feelings”
Your entire post appears to be written to do just that, especially the inference that I am just “whining and screaming”. S’alright, just dismiss me as another whiny bastard.

I say again: “Odd how PAPs/APs seem so incapable of understanding what an adoptee is actually saying.”

ScottK on

“I would never denigrate your feelings.” Reread your post.

“it is important to realize everyone doesn’t feel the same as you do, and that doesn’t mean they are lying”

I’m not lying either and don’t appreciate the implication that I am. Neither my mother nor father is a drunk. I’m closer to my mom than I’ve been to most people and she has never wished me dead or told anyone I was

“My experience has been that a great deal of the pain which exists in some adoptees’ hearts…”

You’ve never been adopted, you CANNOT know the pain.

“I whined and screamed my way through my teenage years because I was adopted…”

I have tried to write civilly and coherently, being as clear and concise as possible. A little insulting seeing it dismissed as whining and screaming. At the least, these are ASCII text files, you cannot determine tone or volume from them. Those who do not want to listen do not hear no matter what.

“If you want people to really “hear” you,”

I say again. Odd how PAPs/APs seem so incapable of understanding what an adoptee is actually saying.

My final word on this thread is that I wish celebrities would stick to adopting teacup puppies as fashion accessories.

Emilie on

I feel the money people put into adopting- 30,000 + should be put towards keeping families together. No one should have to endure the trauma that adoption causes a birth mother and the adopted child.

Marky on

Scott, I read my post multiple times before I posted it, and after reading your reply, I read it over again several times. Unless you misunderstood my “tone” as often happens with posts or emails, I was not being insulting, or denigrating your feelings. I ACKNOWLEDGED your feelings; I also said I knew people who felt differently. I know, accept, and understand, that some adoptees feel the way you do. I know some who don’t. Do you think they are lying, because they don’t agree with you? That is not being rude, I genuinely am asking a question because i sincerely want to understand why there is no room for discussion and only for agreeing with your point of view, because I’m not adopted, even though my cousins were placed outside the family as preschoolers.

i probably know 50 adoptees of various ages, all of whom I am close enough to, to have that kind of conversation. Does that make me smarter, wiser, more amazing in this area than you? No, it doesn’t, nor does being an adoptee negate any information another person has learned over years of being in adoption as a parent, worker, educator, and being from a family with both adoptees and children who were placed outside the family and contacted as adults. Really, doesn’t everyone bring something to the table in a debate or discussion? Isn’t part of the discussion or debate, the opportunity to hear what others have to say? Everyone doesn’t have to agree at the end of the day, but it’s nice when we listen to each other.

I hear you, Scott, whether you believe that or not, and I know you are not alone.

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