Ricky Martin: The Twins Have Polar-Opposite Personalities

03/19/2012 at 09:00 AM ET
Courtesy The Advocate

Since welcoming his fraternal twin sons in 2008, Ricky Martin has been livin’ la vida of fatherhood — and loving every second.

“Every decision I make and everything I do is based on their needs,” the singer, who is currently appearing on Broadway in Evita, tells The Advocate in their April issue.

“I don’t want to sound cliché, but they teach me new things every day.”

Valentino and Matteo, now 3½, were born via a surrogate after Martin fertilized a second woman’s donor eggs with his sperm, never revealing his identity to either.

But, apart from both boys sharing their father’s good looks — Martin jokes he “ate a lot of protein” and rested “before he got the cup” — the brothers couldn’t have more polar opposite personalities.

“Valentino is mister peace and love. He loves flowers and nature. If I ever wonder where he is, he’ll be somewhere behind the bushes covered in mud,” the proud dad shares.

“I know this sounds crazy, but I think he mediates. He goes under the water. I’m like, ‘He’s gone. He’s traveling right now.’ He’s very Zen and noble.”

Matteo, on the other hand, much prefers to take charge — even if it’s over his own brother!

“He’s more alpha and a leader,” Martin, 40, says. “He’s like, ‘You don’t do that, this is what you do.’ He tells his brother what to do and what not to do.”

Determined to be a hands-on father, Martin brought his sons on the road during his promotional tour for his latest album Musica + Alma + Sexo, and while the group were “every other night … on a plane,” the twins’ company proved to be priceless.

“The crew was building the sets and they’d stop what they were doing and smile and say, ‘Hi Valentino, hi Matteo,'” Martin recalls.

“They are tools of healing, of love, these two. The crew would go back to focusing on their work and dealing with their stress, but those five seconds with the kids were very beautiful for them.”

Martin has surrounded himself and his boys with a loving support system, which not only includes his mom and the family nanny, but his partner of four years, Carlos Gonzalez Abella, as well.

“He leaves the house every day in a suit and tie and that is so sexy. It’s two different worlds — his and mine,” the singer reveals. “I know as much about his world as he knows about my world, which makes it really cool.”

However, while they may be on two different pages professionally, the couple are completely in sync in their personal lives; Both Martin and Gonzalez Abella are determined to provide Valentino and Matteo with stability.

“There’s a lot of love and a lot of communication. He’s guided by the approach I take with the kids, he imitates it perfectly,” Martin says.

“The other day [Carlos] said, ‘I was looking for a boyfriend and God gave me a family.’ I said, ‘That’s beautiful, but you were looking for a real man with a family and you got it.'”

— Anya Leon

FILED UNDER: Multiples , News , Parenting

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Melissa on

he seems so happy 🙂

nicole on

I’m glad to see that BS about Eduardo Verastegui being the twins’ father has died down. They look just like Ricky.

Brooke on

He seems so at peace with Carlos and the boys. So happy for them all.

victoria on

i am so happpy for him- i love his music and his spirit- he seems like he is a wonderful dad to his boys =)

Shannon on

When is the wedding? Make an honest man out of him!

Erika on

For some reason, I thought that Ricky was single when the twins were born, and that he began his relationship with Carlos after they were born but I guess I was wrong lol. Doesn’t matter either way.

He sounds happy with his partner and twins, and I am glad for him. From the pictures I have seen, the twins are adorable and I’m sure he is a great father!

I know a few people who have had the pleasure of meeting him, and they all said he was one of the nicest people they had ever met, and was so normal and down to earth despite his fame.

Anna on

All the best to Ricky and his family 🙂

B.J. on

I love reading articles like this. Ricky sounds like an amazing dad, with wonderful kids and a loving partner. It makes me so very happy for them all!

Also, how appropriate is it that Valentino is the twin with the loving, peaceful personality!

klutzy_girl on

I literally “awwed” out loud (in the school library!) when I heard what he said to his partner. That’s so cute!

Vanessa on

I’ve had the pleasure of meeting him on 2 occasions and yes, he’s really nice and very accommodating (not to mention damn sexy IRL!).

I wish Ricky all the best for the future with his boys and Carlos.

Anonymous on

In one of the articles linked to from this one, Ricky mentions that he’s thinking of “doing it again” in regards to having a child later this year (and that he hopes for a little girl, which I find sweet!). I find it interesting that Carlos isn’t the genetic father of either of these boys and apparently won’t be the genetic father of the next child, either.

Why isn’t he being included that way in building their family? I also get the impression from this interview and other interviews Ricky has done that the boys are more “his” than Carlos’s, rather than Carlos being a second dad to them (the way Ricky talks, you’d think he and Carlos had just started dating rather than being together for four years!). Just seems kind of odd to me, but maybe I’m mis-reading things. It also appears that English is not Ricky’s native tongue (as he’s Spanish and, from what I can tell from other articles, lives primarily in Spain), so perhaps language issues are a factor as well.

That being said, Ricky sounds like a great dad and the way he talks about his boys is adorable! 🙂

Anonymous on

I just want to make it clear that I wasn’t trying to criticize Ricky in my last comment. Rather I was simply saying that I find some of his comments a bit confusing. 🙂

Maria on

Ricky is not Spanish (as in someone from Spain), he is Puerto Rican.

Jillian on


Carlos couldn’t be the twins father because they are 3/12 and Ricky and Carlos have only been together for four years. Not sure if you are aware but the process for surrogacy takes time, so it began before they were an item. As regards to the baby girl Ricky wants to have. No one did I read him say that genetically it would be his. In fact, I read, “we would be irresponsible” if they waited. Which concludes the two of them. If Carlos isnt the genetic parent, I don’t really see issue with this but it could be, he can’t have children, they want the children to have the same genetic parents…just some thoughts. But, you can tell he loves them. I just loved this…“The other day [Carlos] said, ‘I was looking for a boyfriend and God gave me a family.’ I said, ‘That’s beautiful, but you were looking for a real man with a family and you got it.’”


Yasminda on

He seems to love being a father very much. He’s boys are adorable and there seems to be a lot of love between the three. Thanks for showing that men too can be awesome and dedicated fathers even when single. Best of luck to them.


There r just not enough words in the dictionary to describe how much i adore that beautiful man…really! Saw Evita last nite and received an autograph by him afterwards(the best 2 hours of my life btw…front row!:) he was wonderful needless to say! Ricky Martin has to b one of the most charismatic people around…everyone around him feels that…he has such a presence…such a light about him, his smile alone lights up a room. Just seeing his picture or reading an article about him has me grinning from ear to ear!

To conclude, those boys r one of the luckiest kids on earth being raised by such a beautiful person like Ricky Martin. Lets face it…he is incredibly gorgeous…but u can tell hes even more so on the inside…thats y people gravitate towards him. He is full of love and spirituality…if more people were like that, this would b a much much better world to live in.

Lori on

Lord Have Mercy Ricky is so HOT

BBB on

Ricky is Puerto Rican, I’m pretty sure there’s not language barrier thing going on, as “anonymous” ponders, because in PR people pretty much speak both languages given that PR is a territory of the US. Also, have you ever heard him speak in English? It doesn’t sound like he’s struggling at all…probably because he’s not.

Guest on

He sounds like a great father 🙂

mom of twins on

I am a proud mother of twins and my kids are the same way.. one is mellow and the other one is the leader… I LOVE THEM BOTH for who they are. They are each other’s best friends.

Anonymous on

BBB- Nope, never heard him speak. This site and PEOPLE magazine are pretty much the extent of my celebrity following. 🙂

Katie on

Just saw Evita last night and he was AMAZING! And he was oh-so-cute with his little Argentinean mustache.

Ida on

@Maria Ricky is not only Puertorican, but also he’s Spanish. He got the Spanish nationality sometime ago 😉

Sher on

WOW So happy for him….God bless them all.