Elisabeth Röhm’s Blog: Love Hurts So Good

12/16/2011 at 08:00 AM ET
Sean Smith

Elisabeth Röhm, best known for her role as Serena Southerlyn on Law & Order, is ending a very busy year.

The actress recently appeared on the big screen in Abduction, has upcoming films Chlorine, Transit and Officer Down to come and is found online on Facebook and @ElisabethRohm on Twitter.

In her latest blog, Röhm — mom to 3½-year-old Easton August with fiancé Ron Anthony — finds her daughter dealing with all the emotions of having a new best friend, and starts thinking about her own childhood.

Are you still pals with your childhood BFFs? Tell Elisabeth about your experience in the comments.

Love hurts. You remember that song, PEOPLE.com?

Oh, the pain and drama of falling in love. The tears, the wakeful nights, the ache to be together every minute of the day and the utter ecstasy of seeing each other when you’ve been apart. The vast ocean of emotion that you can drown in at the mere thought of your beloved.

I’m sure each of you can conjure up memories of that person that drove you wild with enjoyment, anticipation and the deepest of woes. I certainly do!

But another kind of love affair dawned on me recently as I dialed back the hands of time, and that’s the blooming passion of new friendship that is equally as exciting as a new romance. How awesome it is to make a new BFF, whether young or old. With that comes the tender feelings of newness, the unknown and longing.

The drama of those highs and lows of a new relationship can dictate a household. My friend and I were just talking about all the door slamming going on in her house these days due to some current new BFF drama! Luckily I’m still close with some of my childhood buds.

Not a day goes by that I don’t wonder and hope that Easton can sustain her pals from these days of splendor in the grass. And to see these connections take place is at once tender, comical and bittersweet.

It’s as if they’ve fallen in love for the first time every time they meet a new bestie; they’ve been bitten by that love bug. And boy, when it burns hot, all I can say is ‘Whoa!’ We all better get some extra homeowners insurance! Reminds me of the guy that threw the bottle of wine against the wall, way back when.

So, yes you guessed it! Easton is madly in love these days and I’ve not seen anything quite like it. And yes, I know she’s 3½! First comes friendship and I think it’s just as profound in its euphoria and drama as any other love.

So Easton has met her newest best friend (I’d say it’s her second one so far) that is the center of her universe, inspires her every thought and motivates her desires. When she wakes up, she asks me when she can see her friend again and just as she gently closes her eyes to float off into dreamland, she mutters her name in a breathless whisper. I can relate. I’m sure we all can!

Oh it hurts so good, right?

They are swooning and punch drunk. A playdate just concluded at our home only moments ago between the girls. It climaxed with having to chase them around the house as they wailed in unison, “We want a sleepover, a sleepover, a sleepover! Aaaarghhh!”

“I don’t like your Mommy. I’m going to miss her! Don’t take her,” Easton whines. “I don’t like your Mommy. Don’t take me home, Moooooommeeeeee! Wah,” the other little girl moans.

And as I’m watching this, it looks all too familiar; tugging on those old heartstrings of mine, reminding me of all that drama that I shared with ghosts of my own childhood (which only ended quite recently, I might add).

Flashing before my eyes is the pain of all the past loves, romantic and otherwise. For hours after they part, they mope around with sad eyes, looking forlorn, humming songs that they’ve inserted each other’s names into.

Not to mention on our way to school in the a.m., Easton is chattering away about her fantabulous (thanks Fancy Nancy) new friend! It’s really cute.

So now we see this child almost every day at school and afterwards. It’s fun, actually, and makes me cherish my BFF all that much more for how hard won it was to find her having gone through several of them throughout the years myself.

Finally the girls are separated at the end of the playdate, and we’ve managed to get our own girls in our arms. As Easton and I walk our guests to the door to say our good-byes, they desperately try to grasp onto each other’s hands one last time.

“Hold my hand, Easton,” her friend cries out hurriedly. “Okay, I’ll hold your hand. I need you,” Easton replies as she tries to reach for her little friend’s hand wildly.

Us moms (who are now fast friends) can only look at each other with a small smirk, because as funny as it is to us, it is highly personal and emotional for them and we’d crush them if we laughed. Not to mention we have to draw a line in the sand about listening and boundaries, so we find ourselves swallowing our giggles.

Plus, we know something that they don’t from years of experience — and that’s that they will surely burn out on each other if they spend too much time together. So we’re trying to pace their passion for each other just to keep the flame going.

And then there was our version of World War III the other night, as they endured the breakdown of their first overnight that never came to be. They were so eager to stay together, but not quite ready to be away from their mommies — we all know how that goes.

And let me tell you, they were bummed, humiliated and heartbroken that they couldn’t spend the night together. Once Easton’s friend called for her mom, the tears came at an inconsolable rate. Easton’s flowed for being left and the other little girl for being confused at needing Easton and her mom equally, but not being able to choose between them.

That night after separating, they cried themselves to sleep at their different homes in bed with their moms. I think you get the point! And let me tell you every night since her friend’s meltdown for Mommy, they’ve asked for a redo, which we will gladly oblige over the weekend. It was all a hot mess of emotion. Oh, the drama of love!

Tell me some of your most passionate flames! Are you still friends with your childhood BFF? Which ones have crashed and burned? Do tell of those that have endured the test of time with all the highs and lows of love.

Until next week…

— Elisabeth Röhm

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Melanie on

Growing up, I had two best friends – my next door neighbor, and my recess partner at school. Once we turned 12-13 years old, my school friend became very “mean girl” and our friendship never recovered. She did try to reach out to me on Facebook last year but almost 20 years later, the wounds still cut too deep for me and I did not respond.

However, my neighbor (who was a year older and attended a different school) is still one of my closest friends. She walked me through first dates, prom, college applications, was in my wedding and our own daughters are only two years apart and enjoy playing together every few months. I cherish our relationship and hope our girls come to have a similar one.

Sara on

Growing up, my very best friend was a boy who had a younger brother the same age as my brother. I practically knew this family since birth and I slept over at their house quite frequently. I think it made it easier because my brother usually spent the night as well. When we were in preschool, we use to tell people we were going to get married one day. We would join the same kiddie sport teams, but spend the whole time talking on the field and running around holding hands.

But then my family moved far away. We’re still friends, we visit each other once every few years and email back and forth, but the distance was too much for two 12 year olds. But there’s something to be said that his family is the only family I’m still in contact with from that time in my life. All the other childhood friends from that area faded away. However, the friends I made once I moved, I am still close friends with to this day.

K on

I desperately wanted a BEST friend growing up. I talked about it with my neighbor across the street, who I spent nearly all of my time with. When she informed me that another friend of hers was actually her best friend, and not me, I cried myself to sleep in my mother’s arms. She did everything to soothe the hurt, and told me that she would always be there as my best friend. How true a statement that was!

I did go through various ‘best’ friend stages, I had at least four total. They all hold a special place in my heart, and I see them all occasionally when I visit my hometown. It is absolutely amazing though, when I think of past memories, how emotional the relationship can be.

Great post! I loved it. It really brought back some great memories for me.

lac's mom on

My two best friends from high school and I drifted apart through college and our twenties. We discovered that we were all expecting our first children within weeks of each other and formed a little email “Mommy Club”.

I would be totally lost without them. Two of us had our second child within weeks of each other again. Even now, almost 5 years later, we discuss so much – our family, marriages, children, jobs, etc.

I am so grateful that they have remained in my life. It’s hard to believe we have been friends for over 20 years. Having grown up together and going through the high school years together, they definitely hold a more special place in my heart than women I become friends with today.


J on

I remember having BFFs in primary school and through high school. The closeness was reassuring, but in hindsight, sometimes limiting. In high school, as my interests shifted, the idea of having my locker on a different floor, or spending my time with others seemed like a betrayal of friendship at first, but I think it was really part of growing up.

Today, as an adult, I find the notion of a BFF to be childish. I have close friends — some I’ve known since high school and others that I’ve met through work and elsewhere — and honestly, I can’t imagine singling one person out as “best”. They are all just simply, close and dear.

Pamela on

I don’t talk with my childhood bffs, but my kindergarten arch-enemy is now one of my best friends!!!!

JM on

this makes me want to call my best friend. we’ve know each other since we were 5 and 6 (she’s a year younger than me and was my neighbour growing up).

we went through everything together and always have that unique connection. when we were teenagers her twin sister, whom i was also very close to, died and that kind of experience bonds two friends for life.

it’s important to keep at least some ties to childhood friends. they knew you before you became the person you are today.

Elizabeth on

I met my best friend when we were 8. My grandparents lived in Ga and I lived in TN. My friend lived in the same neighborhood as my grandparents. We would play together when I visited. My Mother and I moved to GA during my junior year.

Traci and I became best friends. We went to college together and were roommates. Twenty five years later, we have the most beautiful friendship. We have been through life’s ups and downs but we catch each other during the tough times. She is like a sister to me.

And as luck would have it, we both have girls. They were born 9 months and 1 day apart. They are good friends. The 4 of us have so much fun together! I am so blessed to have her in my life!

Thuma on

My best friend since 2nd grade is now my sis in law, she married my brother and we have kids who are a year apart. She has been my best friend for over 29 years and now she is part of my family.. I cant imagine a life without her…

Catca on

Completely off topic of bff’s, but does anyone know if that is her kitchen in the photo op or just used as a stage setting?

I only ask because when I first saw the pic, something looked weird to me that I couldn’t immediately place, and then I realized that there is nothing on the counters at all! No toaster over, decorative canisters, etc. It looks like a kitchen with expensive high end appliances that are never used because it doesn’t look like anyone cooks in that kitchen!

Dawn on

My childhood best friend lives next door to me! We may not have much time to spend together, but it is a comfort to know that we are a few steps away when we need each other. Our kids are growing up together and have a brother/sister/big sister love and hate relationship.

It is interesting how people react when they find out that we intentionally moved into houses next door to each other. I am blessed to have her so close. Our friendship is a great example for our children and a reminder to us how fortunate we are.

Cathleen on

Growing up in a tiny town in Ireland, there weren’t really that many other kids around, so pretty much everyone was friends. I went to an all girls school and had anywhere from 7-11 girls along with me in my grade during my time at school.

My current husband grew up in the same town as I did and went to the all boys school a while down the road from my school. Since we lived a few miles from school, me and my brothers would walk to school with him and his brothers and sisters, and in the winter his dad would drive all of us to our respective schools.

My husband and I became fast friends even though he was two years older than me. Now we’re married and have spent time living in America and England, and we’ll be returning to our hometown in a few months time. One of my childhood friends married my older brother, and everyone in our town seems to be somehow connected. It’s funny how those things work sometimes!

Lauren on

Interesting topic. Nobody ever really talks about love between two friends, particularly female friends (much more common for the “bromance” to be portrayed and discussed), but I am a firm believer that platonic love for a friend can be just as strong as romantic love for a partner. In fact, I think oftentimes, it’s stronger-since you have no attraction to your friend, your love for them is fully pure, a deep admiration and respect for who they are, and when it’s powerful, it’s overwhelming.

I’ve had many acquaintences throughout my life, but I never had that BFF growing up that I always longed for. I was an only child, so I think what I really wanted was that sister-like connection that I felt I missed out on. Today, still being fairly young in my early twenties, I’ve had five friends I would consider the best in terms of quality, and three of those are friends I love dearly, more than myself in some ways.

I don’t think you’ve fully lived until you’ve been friends with someone whom you love more than yourself, and the sooner you find that friendship, the better. I hope Easton’s friendship with this girl lasts through thick and thin, because as long as you have even one friend to walk through life with, you can survive anything.

Missy on

I met my best friend over 25 years ago and we are still as close today as we were when we first met. We live not far from each other and I see her everyday. She is more than a friend to me, she is a sister. We always said to eachother that we were going to grow old together and live close to eachother. So far, that is the road we are on.

J on

I enjoyed the article and found myself longing for a best girlfriend.

Too many friends have come and gone throughout my life. I moved going into the 7th grade and lost all connections with my friends at that time and tried to establish new ones. The new ones who I thought were best friends turned out to be horribly mean and cruel which carried over into my high school years.

Now at 38yrs old I really never established the true friends and best friend(s) that I’ve always wanted…I still speak with a select few, but the hurt I had gone through from “best” friend(s) over the years still remains with me today…

Kendell on

I was just thinking today about my best friend growing up. I knew her since we were born. When I was a pre-teen, my mom told me that my friend and her family were probably going to move to a different city. I was ABSOLUTELY devastated at the thought of having to live without her. I couldn’t stop crying. They never moved… But we stayed friends until about the summer before our senior year of high school when she got engaged and decided she’d rather spend time with him, and called me one day to tell me our friendship was over… that was a very difficult time for me.

Years later, I found out from her grandma that she felt bad that she did that because I did nothing wrong. She never apologized to me, and we’ve never spoken since that phone call. I am really happy with the good friends I have now, realizing that she wasn’t as good of a friend as I thought she was at that time. I know that those friends would never do anything like that to me, or me to them!

Anut on

I met my BFF in 2nd grade. We are in our 40’s now and closer than ever. We’ve been through boyfriends, other friends, jobs, kids etc..Her family is mine and mine is hers, including our pets! I cherish our friendship and we both know how blessed we are!

Julie on

I met my BFF in the 7th grade and we were inseperable. We would have our ups and downs but we would always make up and “hang out” together and then when I was in high school her family moved and I felt just lost and confused and it took awhile but they did move back to our town a few years later and it was just like she had never left.

She passed away this last summer and I have to tell you that it was the most hurt and emptiness I have ever felt. The saddest thing through it all is that I had kind of lost touch with her and had not spoken to her in a couple of years but I did think about her often.

I miss her everyday!!!

Marlene on

I feel extremely blessed to still call my childhood bestie, my nearest and dearest friend.

We started our friendship at the tender age of 3 as our sisters who are 3 years older than us were friends and our mom’s just put us together by default playdates.

Now we are in our early 40’s, and not only are we still the best of friends, we are a fantastic group of 4 women who are the best of friends with our sisters.

My best friend is an amazing gift to me, has been through everything with me (knows WAY too much about me…lol) and I know that she would drop everything if I needed her and vice versa.

We have kids the same age, and 2 kids from each of us are now best of friends with each other. We go on annual family camping trips, and our husbands have also become wonderful friends.

This type of friendship is a true gift, and I am so thankful for it and will never take it for granted.

I hope and pray our daughters and sons will experience the same lifelong friendship with each other as well.

Snoopy on

Even the more reason for Easton to have a sibling as they are the type of best friend that never goes away!

larkin on

I don’t think she understands what a war is. It doesn’t really work as a metaphor for a child’s crying about missing her mother and wanting to be with her friend. Warring emotions, maybe? That’s a reach, and a big one.

I don’t understand why she hopes “every day” (not a day goes by) that this friendship and others will endure. What’s wrong with new friendships? I grew up a military brat, and I left friends behind and made new ones, and I don’t feel I suffered at all; I loved fresh environs and fascinating new people. Now that I am grown up and more settled, I have had the same best friend since 1983, but it doesn’t bother me I don’t know anyone from my elementary school, high school, or college years. I still, after all, know my siblings ;-).

I like getting new pets too.

Tammy on

My childhood BF and I met when we were nine years old. It was in our neighborhood ball park and her family rented the house next door to my family. We had many ups and downs that put our friendship to the test and at times drifted apart.

As we got older we stayed in touch more, visited more and shared every experience together from secrets to engagements, weddings, births, deaths, heartaches, professional & personal struggles & happy times that we were going through both with children and in marriage.

We now try to do a girls weekend every year with each other along with other childhood & current friends. We have been friends for nearly 30 years now and I know that although we don’t talk or see each other as often as we would like, and we have other priorities with family and new friends in our lives that we still have a bond that ties us for the rest of our lives.

She is someone that no matter how long it has been since we spoke that I could call her when I needed her and she would drop everything to listen. She is someone I admire and respect for all the struggles she has had in her life and she has come through them and been very successful in life doing it all on her own with kindness instead of bitterness.

I feel very lucky to have been the little girl on the see saw that day, because out of it I got a friend for life.

Jana on

My best friend and I have been friends since we were very small. Now in our 30’s we have been friends for almost 3 decades! I know everything there is to know about her, and she is the same way with me. She is the Godmother to both of my children.

She moved kind of far away a few years back, and we don’t see each other as much as we wish, but are always there for each other when we need to be. My Ex-Husband and father of my daughter passed away last month. We talked on the phone for hours upon hours and she made sure she was at the funeral and wake from the time it started till the time it ended.

I imagine we will be seniors living in a home racing our wheelchairs way down the line!

Julie on

Elisabeth…so beautiful and inspiring! I have a 3 year old daughter and I hope she can find the kind of friendship I have been blessed with in my best friend of almost 30 years!

We met in 6th grade, and, other than one snafu in high school, have been inseperable, even though we have not lived in the same place since the mid 1990s! We have seen each other through the birth of each others 3 children, the loss of each others fathers to cancer, both of us have, at one time, relocated to a brand new state, knowing nobody. We have shared miscarriages, depression, other health ailments, vacations, concerts. We have introduced each other to our other friends and overlapped our circles.

Our husbands know they can’t hold a candle to the power that our bond has and we both will treasure it forever! I am so blessed and lucky 🙂

Rose on

I just celebrated an early Christmas and cookie exchange with the two girls who became my best friends in the second grade when I moved to a new school. That was in 1978. I know how lucky we are, and I wish every person had that same comfort and friendship.

sal on

I met my childhood best friend when we were in 4th grade. We were thisclose…we had a falling out when we were 18 and lost touch. Im 31 now and I STILL think about her! I miss her so much. I wish we both had been more mature back then and mended our friendship. I hope she is doing wonderful!

Sharon on

I have had many BFF’s over the years – but only one has stuck with me since we were 5 and 6 years old. She is as near and dear to me as my husband. We have so many secrets and stories that no one but us knows.

It is so special to have someone in your life like this, and almost necessary. We can go without talking for months, or talk every day, it doesn’t matter. I love her with all my heart and am so grateful for her friendship.

Loretta on

I loved reading this (and I will follow your blog from now on). You wonderfully capture the passionate and precious feelings of friendship between the girls.

Cindy Pletcher on

My friend and I met in 7th grade. We were friends and more like sisters until she passed away in May of 2009. She lived in Iowa and I live in Texas but we still managed to stay bff for 48 yrs. So keep friends and family really close!

Jesse on

Well Larkin you did not disapoint, I knew there would be one Negative Nelly in the bunch. Just because you’re emotionless don’t bash her blog.

I think it’s sweet how the little ones are learning about friendship and developing a relationship that they feel at this time is needed in their lives. No where did she say that she doesn’t hope her daughter will never make other friends. You said you’re a military brat, I just see brat.

MontanaMom on

I grew up moving every year or so due to my father being in the navy. I remember alot of childhood friends but did not stay in contact over all the years. Once my father retired, the family moved to MT and from that point on, I am still best friends with the first friend that I made upon moving here.

I have now lived here for 32 years and my BFF is still one of my BFF’s (along with a few others I met after moving here). We still to this day continue to have all the friends families hook up for birthdays, holidays, any reason really.

I just hope that my daughter will be as blessed as I am with the best friends anyone could ask for.

Jenn on

I am friends with a couple guys from childhood and one girl, but no one from when I was 3. I think I met most of these people between the ages of 5-10. We don’t talk everyday or anything, but I treasure our friendships and the times we do get to hang out and reminisce about the past are great. I know we’ll always be in each others’ lives. Great blog!

Aubree on

I had a lot of friends growing up. You could say I was involved with the Popular Crowd, especially from grades 5-6.

The summer before grade 5 started, my best friend moved away. Before she moved, we were like two peas in a pod. She only lived a five minute walk down the road from my Grandparent’s house, and we would always call each other on the phone. I had her phone number memorized, and she had mine. We would share a can of drink with two straws, and dream of a famous future together. I can see us dancing in her room now. Her parents were like second parents to me almost.

But then after she moved, I had no best friend. Yes, I had other friends. But they all had other friends too, and I felt like a third wheel when we hung out together. And then they started not liking my best friend. But to this day, my best friend from 6th grade lives next door to me, and I keep in touch with the rest by email, texts, phone calls and visits with each other.

My daughter Easton Madeline and my neighbour’s daughter Westlyn Adeleide are both 2 years old, and happened to be born on the same day. They spend all their time together, and her fiancee and mine are best buds now, and our families have bbq’s together, got camping, go shopping, exchange christmas gifts, spend new year’s eve together, and go to the park with our kids together, and on vacations.

The friend that moved away when I was young has twins, Madison Ameila and Kaitlyn Martha. They are 3, and we visit ocansinally. Our kids get along well too. And then my other friend, Macie has 2 sons, Ryker Tim and Ryder Tom,who are 2 weeks and Lindzee has 1 son, Charles Jace, he is 9 months. And Kaia has 4 year old Alexa Hope. 🙂

Donna on

I met my BFF, Jeanne, when I was 3 and she was 4. We lived next door to each other for 6 years, went to school together, and played together every day. My family moved to a suburb when i was 10…six months later Jeanne’s family followed us.

We went to the same grammar school, and the same High School. I went to college locally, and she went away. During summer breaks we worked together at a local theatre.

Jeanne was my maid of honor when I got married, my daughter’s godmother and helped me through the loss of my parents, the end of my first marriage, and the death of my second husband. We have worked together for the last 12 years.

I am 51 now, and Jeanne is more than my BFF, she is my family!

ZD on

I have two friends I consider my two closest Friends… aka BFF’s…

I’ve known both of them since I was a freshman in High School. One was in my first period Algebra class and the other was her good friend who was not yet in HS. The friend who shares my graduating class and I were very close friends throughout HS and those tumultuous 20’s, but without taking her place entirely, her friend, who was one year behind us, sort of became the stronger friendship–We both had children within a year of each other (actually during a period when we weren’t really friends). But once we both had kids and started spending more time with each other, we realized we had more in common, even without the kids, than we were aware of. The friend that graduated with me is still a really close friend and we all still hang out and spend holidays with each other, but it’s interesting how friendships dynamics change for varying reasons.

Now i’m watching my son and her daughter (who is 10 months my son’s senior) interact with each other and how much their relationship has changed and they’ve known each other since he was born! She is 10 now and all about fashion, friends and socializing. He’s 9 and stays solitary at times but has his guy friends he hangs with if he’s not with his dad or playing video games. They sleep over each other’s house still, they play games together, nurture each other’s pets, make fun of each other and yell at each other. They really are little versions of my friend and I. I love watching them grow and noticing those little things that make them just like us and those things that make them stand out.

J on

Kid’s getting to be as neurotic as mommy from the description of this story…

AWG on

I rarely read these posts because I am not a mother but this really caught my eye. My first best friend set the bar pretty high for all of those that followed. Her name was Mo and she lived down the street from our house in Ohio. I am told we met when I was 2 and she was 3. I don’t remember that but I do remember being allowed to walk the 2 houses down to her house with my brothers and being walked home by her older brother. We were kindred spirits from the start. Large Irish Catholic families; military families and middle children.

She and I loved to cook with our mothers, read, tell stories and terrorize our younger siblings together. I learned how to ride a bike because of her and have a scar from that experience to this day! We loved each other to death and fought like wildcats sometimes too!

Our families were reassigned and moved away from each other although our parents stayed in touch and we had visits over the years; even as college students in California. Mo set the standard for my friends that followed to be sure.

Sadly our lifelong friendship took a turn when she passed from brain cancer in our mid-thirties. But she is always in my heart and I think I look for her welcoming smile in the new friends I meet. It has been 15 years and I carry her in my heart always.

cheryl on

This is the first time I have read this blog and have really been touched by all the stories.

I met my best friend when I was 13. That was 30 years ago. Tracy is still a part of my life today and I love her dearly.

In 2004, due to new marriages and moves we had last contact. We both tried to find one another. In January of 2008, I lost my twin sister to suicide and was devestated. That week my older sister was standing in a fast food line and standing behind her was my best friend Tracy. Talk about being in the right place at the right time. Numbers were exchanged and we haven’t lost touch since. She came to my twin sisters funreal giving me support that only a true best friend can. Our relationship did not suffer just because time had passed.

On Christmas Eve this year we spoke about this very topic. We vowed this year, as we do when the new year will begin, to stay in touch better. We both agree whether one month or a year goes by without seeing or talking, that we have history and a friendship that will last a lifetime. We love each other dearly.


Amele on

I met my very first best friend when I was 11. When I was 10 my dad and two sisters died and in the small town we lived, I was known more for the tragedy of loss than anything else. When I met her, she didn’t ask about my dad or my sisters or any other probing question. There was no morbid curiosity or nosiness. Just a sincere interest in getting to know me. I’m not sure as a child how I recognized that quality of character in her but I valued her friendship above just about anything else. I ached to be normal and she gave me a place to be just that. I have no doubt we’d still be friends, but when we were 16 she was diagnosed with leukemia and passed away at 20. Although I have friends now who I cherish just as deeply, her friendship at a time when I needed a friend will always remain for me a story of love.

Shawn on

My very first best friend, Sara, and I are still friends to this day. Our friendship is going on 30 plus years.

There are many many stories of adventures, barbies and ballet yet the BEST part is that she is still my Best Friend. 🙂

CAMommy3 on

I have two best friends from my childhood. One, a neighbor of mine when I was 7 years old, is no longer a close friend. Though we have tried to repair the damage done when we became adults, rash and hurtful decisions caused massive damage to our friendship.

We were nearly inseparable as kids, but within weeks of turning 18, our 10+ years friendship was shattered… it has taken over 10 years to even get back to speaking terms. I remain distant, as I admit my stubborn streak and a unwavering sense of morals means that my trust level remains at “polite acquaintance” and no more. Maybe it’s wrong, but my grandma always told me, “burn me once, shame on you… burn me twice, shame on me.” Words to live by, I think.

My other best friend, from the 7th grade on, is still my best friend to this very day. She’s my children’s godmother, she sees them frequently, as she lives less than an hour away from me… she really is a godsend. My children love their “Unca C” (they call her Uncle, I dont know why, but she refuses to correct them.) I could not imagine her NOT in my life, as we’ve been thru hell and back and still we’re best friends. Breakups, marriages, divorces, college, parenthood, everything- we’ve gone through it all! I’m grateful everyday to have her in my life.

I think it’s beautiful that Easton has found such a wonderful friend. And you never know- they may be best friends for life. May we all be blessed like that!

Heidi C on

I just found my first BFF on facebook. We haven’t seen each other since we were 12. I broke my leg, in her back yard, on a snowmobile. The other night we talked for an hour using facebook messaging. Very cool!!

Jen Rykert on

this girl bores me to tears.


I met my best friend when we were both 3 years old. We grew up on the same street, went to the same schools, and had mostly the same friends, at least until after high school when we disconnected for a couple of years. Now, 56 years later, we are still best friends. We have been through so much together – childhood, marriage, having children, divorce, health issues, death of parents and siblings, and too many other things to mention. She tells people that I am her memory because hers isn’t as good as mine. I have shared secrets with her that I wouldn’t tell one of my sisters and she has done the same. We are “sisters of the heart” and I love her.

Grandma on

Why do you set your child up for failure?

A three year old is NOT ready for a sleepover. Period. (Grandparent,aunt, etc house might be different IF there is a LONG standing trust-relationsip bn the child and the ADULT. But, even this is hard on a 3 yr old).

They each went to sleep in their own homes in tears – but you are going to have them ‘try again’ this weeknd. Are you crazy? Be a PARENT and say NO- done, end of story. She might think ‘mean mommy’ but that is exactly when you will be a good mommy.

Gina on

My best friend and I met at a mud puddle when we were 5 years old.

We’re still friends today (48 years later) and we share a 2 year old granddaughter! Lots of wonderful memories together and we’re making more all the time.

Jacqueline on

Growing up I had several best friends and I’m still friends with two of them. One, Brianne, I’ve been friends with since we were 5 and starting kindergarten. Two, Mary, I’ve been friends with since she moved to the area when we were 10 and we were in the same 5th grade class. The three of us are still best friends to this day and just made our first ‘girls’ trip’ in November to New Orleans. We have many more planned for the future as our friendship continues to grow. 🙂

J on

She’s certainly something alright, Jen Rykert…lol! 🙂

Gloria on

Pat and I are in our 60s. We became BFFs in Jr.High. Inseparable for a couple of years, until we discovered BOYS. She married young and I went away to college and we lost touch.

We rediscovered each other on classmates.com about 7 years ago and we set aside a weekend a year to just be girls. We don’t live close to each other, so the first year, all wedding videos and family pix showed up at an all night slumber party at her home.

The next year, she came my way and we spent it in Memphis on Beale St. I moved to the East Coast, so we had to make do with long chats on the phone, but after I had been here 2 years, she came to visit and we were still as giggly as ever…but a very mature giggle, of course.

Now, I am planning a return to “home” and she was the first one I told.

Love that girl. We fuss, tell each other what to do, and that BFF love still shines through. She’s awesome and I couldn’t ask for a better friend. Sooooo glad she is still in my world

Amanda on

still friends with both of my childhood BFFs. We have been to the end of the world and back..through divorced, babies and inferitality we have stayed strong for each other.

brendalaura on

41 years ago two little girls started their first day of kindergarten. They entered the classroom at the exact same time, looked at each other an instantly became best friends. We cherish out friendship everyday, and thank God for each other.

Guest53 on

so sweet, thanks for sharing. brings back memories of my first love, a little boy, gosh I might have been 3. lovely memories