Heidi Klum: I’ve Learned the Hair Care Needs of All My Children

08/05/2011 at 10:00 AM ET
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When Heidi Klum welcomed her first child — daughter Leni, now 7 — the model never thought twice about her little girl’s locks.

“Growing up with straight hair myself, that was all I really knew how to work with,” Klum, 38, writes in an essay for the Huffington Post. “It was pretty straightforward: wash, air dry, done.”

However, shortly after starting a family with husband Seal — the couple are now parents to Henry, 5½, Johan, 4½, and Lou, 22 months — Klum quickly found herself in uncharted waters when it came to her children’s hair care needs.

“Henry, Johan, and Lou — my three youngest — have super beautiful locks,” she raves. “I’ve learned to never brush their curly hair when it’s dry because then it’ll frizz. I use lots of conditioner and detangler … and only go to hairdressers who really know how to cut and style curly hair.”

But despite learning the tips and tricks of dealing with their hair, Klum was thrown a curve ball when her sons suggested a summer shave.

“I’ve let my boys’ hair grow really, really long and just recently they asked me to cut off their beautiful hair!” she says. “I’ve been the one to carefully brush and help them care for it all these years, but I do want them to be who they want to be. I think that’s really important, to allow kids to express themselves — everything from the way they dress to how they want their hair.”

The boys’ request wasn’t just a “simple short,” Klum laughs, leaving her to turn to the experts for the final result.

“They wanted mohawks with special designs to them, so I asked Lamar Odom who did his cool design buzz, and then contacted his stylist,” she reveals. “He gave my kids these buzz cuts with amazing individual designs … great for the summer because they’re cool, in both senses of the word!”

— Anya Leon

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jessie on

that’s great, it’s funny though because a lot of people were commenting here and on other sites about how she needs to learn how to take care of their hair, so i guess she was reading some of it,lol

melissa on

I must say, I like her sons’ hair short. I am glad she is researching and trying to take care of her children’s hair. I guess Lamar’s hair design would be fun for a child.

Olivia on

I have straight hair, but my daughter is bi-racial like Heidi’s children with all those lovely curls. It really is a learning process! I think I’m finally getting it now that she’s 2 yrs old, lol.

Ali on

Honestly, I like it so much better the way non African American parents do African American hair. I can’t stand those hundreds of braids in kids’ hair.

Researching about hair-please Melissa! It’s just hair, and not everybody has to have the same cut/style, just because they are AA.

Adrienne on

I guess I was extremely ignorant because I had never even knew there were hair needs specific to African Americans until I got a job as a cna. I would be in charge of so many different individuals and one day I had to do a woman’s hair and she happened to be African American. It was a total eye opener!!

Elita on

Ali, thank you so much for sharing your opinion! As you can imagine, as an AA mom, I look to white women to decide how to do my kids’ hair. Thank goodness you are letting all of us know that you don’t like braids. No more braids for my kids, then! What would black women do without white women telling us how to do….well everything?

melissa on

Ali- I am unsure why my comment rubbed you the wrong way, but what to said to me was unnecessary. I never said all African American children should have the same hair design. I simply stated, I like the boys hair cut short.

As for researching hair, a lot of people do it. I research hair stylist and hair products all the time. Maybe I do view hair as very important, seeing I go to the salon a few times each week.

Anyways, I thought I should take time and address the comment you made towards me.

Sara on

That’s the first thing I thought of, too, Jessie. People always comment about how awful her kids hair looks (also Angelina and Zahara)!!

emmi995 on

@ Elita—lol! I totally agree with you. I will also stop braiding immediately!

aimeedus on

good for her for taking the time to learn …now if joely fisher would follow suit and find someone to hook olivia luna’s hair up .cause her hair looks like it hasnt seen any moisturizer or a comb or brush in months..

aimeedus on

ALI…obviously you know nothing about AA hair because if you did you would know that it comes in different textures etc and that it takes extra care to keep it healthy and maintained..so heidi angelina and joely all need to learn how to care for their daughters hair.Hair care is very important in the african american community we take hair very seriously and find it offensive when white mothers dont take the time to learn how to care for their childs hair so that it looks presentable and neat.Plus walking around looking a hotmess can not be good for these girls self esteem especially when their white sisters hair is done and neat looking they might develop a compkex about their hair and start to hate it

Indira on

“I like it so much better the way non African American parents do African American hair”.

I don’t know how someone comes to this observation. Those braids are the best way to protect black hair from breakage. Most black hair(tho it varies in texture), the longer it is exposed and, left out the more likely it will break an become uneven. That comment was so dumb! Thats why most black kids have braids in their hair. I’m assuming since black parents also have black hair they’re more inclined to realize this before parents who don’t have the same textured hair.

KP on

As an AA women having beautiful intricate hair is part of the culture. Braids are beautiful and will always be. Not sure if you are just Jealous that your hair can not stay in place but when you comment that you hate braid its a negative comment towards the culture. Hair no matter which culture can be adorned and made beautiful. We AA’s like some people seem to calling us here have all types of hair, from the kinky curly to the bone straight.

And to enlighten your self about antyhing research is neccesary. I didn’t come out knowing how to braid hair it is a learned talent. And i am sure none of you people came out knowing how to do your hair. Anyone who takes an interest in learning how to better there childs appearance and share there culture is a good person, how dare you try to down play someone for knowing the in and outs of their child. Doing a childs hair can be a a bonding experience, especially in my culture.

And to you commentors whatch what you say because you coming off as ignorant jerks who have no experience in life then going out you back door to the gates that have restricted your minds, hearts, and opinions.

Jodi on


I think not braiding your child’s hair and putting 5 pounds of cheap plastic bead and clips sounds like a wonderful idea. It is annoying when AA people’s hair makes noise because of all the stuff they have in it.

October on

I have to admit, this conversation has always confused me. I think the braids on children are adorable and also very practical, but why is it bad to leave African American hair in it’s natural state? I’ve always thought that Heidi’s boys hair has looked gorgeous and well cared for.

I applaud her for learning how to care for it. My children are not AA, but they were born with curly hair and as a straight haired person, there was quite a learning curve for me!

Katy on

I’m sorry, when did this become a “white vs black” woman thing? These kids, or moms for that matter, don’t need to be given a complex about how their hair should look. Kids are kids,

I have a son with the straightest hair possible and if he takes a nap on it and it sticks in an Alfalfa position, I’m lucky if he lets me run water over it. Sometimes it’s the kids just not wanting to be messed with, not the “white” mothers having no knowledge and letting their hair look a mess, you pick your battles as a parent.

And as a former hairstylist – Ali, you may not like the braids, but they are so much easier to put in to maintain a child’s hair and keep it out of their face without having to use so much product on a daily basis.

And yes, it is personal preference, but you have to see how people could take offense to that. But I also don’t think the comment was necessary about how white women try to tell black women what to do all the time – hopefuly one day people can see past the color issue and realize it’s that particular woman, not a white woman, not a black woman, just a bossy know-it-all woman. Because believe me, I’m sure we’ve all heard our fair share of unwanted advice from people of all colors, shapes, sizes, etc.

AllisonJ on

I’m glad Heidi is checking into how to take care of non-Caucasian hair. I adopted a biracial child (half Asian/half Indonesian) in 2005. I thought I could take care of her hair just like I did my own (I’m white) or my son’s hair. I was wrong!

My daughter’s hair and skin were completely different than mine, and I had to learn what lotions to use on her skin so it didn’t become ashy, and what kinds of hair products she needed.

nelly on

@ Ali

Sweety since your an expert on how AA children’s hair should look we so thank you for saving us from our ignorance>>> ROLLS EYES

Jade Crystal on

keep the racial “do’s and don’ts” out of this forum. How did negative comments come from a positive article? Grow up…

Jade Crystal on

Jodi- You are a joke. Your common sense is lacking!

Indira on

Jodi you are disgusting.

Indira on

I hate how some people are using this an opportunity to be bigoted under the guise of talking about hair.

Jodi on

Indria wrote:
“Jodi you are disgusting.”

Just because you do not agree with my opinion does not give you the right to take personal jabs at me. Everyone has different opinions and views and that is what makes the world an intresting place.

Like I said earlier, I think it is annoying when AA people’s hair makes tons of noise because of all the “crap” they put in it.

e on

Sometimes opinions like yours make the world an *ugly* place. Some opinions are best kept to yourself.

Gal Capone on

Jodi: I think it’s annoying the tons of noise you make because of the crap coming out of your mouth!

M.E. on

@ Jodi

You are one ignorant heifer. Keep your racist comments to yourself. Just like I’ll keep my thought that White children smell like wet dogs when their hair is wet, to myself.

Dani on

Chris Rock did a documentery on Hair in general with an emphasis on AA hair. I saw the Oprah show about it. I never realized the different hair care needs and struggles of a lot of AA hair. Very enlightening as a non-AA. Could be a good thing to watch to gain more understanding, and for some maybe be not so quick to judge!

Jaime on

It’s just hair … jeeze ladies, can’t we all just get along.

skunknuggets on

I’m glad she takes the time to recognize that her children’s hair care needs are different than her own.

I do have to wonder why CBB even approves half the messages that make it through.

Jen DC on

@ Ali and Jodi: Yes, you are entitled to your narrow-minded, ignorant opinions.

@ Ali: One question: When was the last time *you* combed a black child’s hair? When it’s your turn, please feel free to lecture whomever about how to do it. Until then, please, if only to save yourself from looking like a bigoted fool, keep your mouth shut. FYI, hair is not just “hair.” Do you need to oil your scalp? If you are AA, it is likely that you do. Did you know that AA hair is more delicate and responds less well to heat, water-based moisture, and other environmental factors than non-AA hair? Even limiting your hair knowledge to caucasian hair, you must have noticed by now that some hair is thinner, thicker, wavier, etc, than other hair. And all those hair types respond differently to styling tools and agents.

Braids are a cultural connection to Africa, one of the few that has made it through all this time. You are also obviously ignorant of of what it takes to comb natural AA hair on a daily basis, so let me help you out. Braids save time, help hair grow, can prevent breakage, etc. So why you are out there hating on some little girl’s or little boy’s cornrows, there is some mother honestly glad that she did not have to style that baby’s hair. I, myself, am what’s known as tender-headed, meaning no matter who, what, when or where, I hate having my hair combed because it hurts. Badly. Braids were a lifesaver. Once every two weeks?! JOYOUS OCCASION.

@ Jodie: You’re just sad. (a) There are plenty of little white girls running around here with beads and barrettes copying (just like white culture eventually adopts AA culture in everything, from music to fashion). Do you hate their hair too? (b) Are you seeing this everyday? Are you a teacher? Are their braided-hair little girls clicking and clacking their way through your house or something? If not, please, keep your mean-spirited opinion to yourself. There are TONS of repetitive noises that are inflicted on you more often than the sound of some child’s hairstyle.

I really wish the two of you would approach a black parent with these statements… I would buy popcorn and sell tickets.

Sarah K. on

Jodi, Indira was expressing her opinion just like you were. Can’t take it? Then don’t dish it out.

Erica on

There is no shame in Heidi needing guidance to care for her children’s hair. AA hair does have special needs and its great that she cares enough to educate herself, rather than get defensive about her ignorance.

Nancy on

Katy, well said. Everybody said that with a mixed race president, that racial talk would cease. On the internet, I see just the opposite, people are more racially charged than ever!!!

Nancy on

I just have a question because I AM ignorant of AA hair. Why does Beyonce and others color their hair blonde? I am just curious because I see women like Chanel Iman and Jennifer Hudson and I think their dark hair is stunning! I personally don’t think the blonde look is stunning on AA women. Is it a style thing?

Lilianne on

The ignorance and hatred of some people is just appalling!

I am a white woman and would NEVER presume that I know ANYTHING about how to maintain or care for African American hair..which I can only assume is VERY different from Caucasian curly hair? My own daughter(17) has very curly hair and I don’t even pretend to know the best way to make it presentable. Because I don’t have hair like that! She doesn’t like her hair to be touched or messed with once she has it “done” for the day because she says it makes it frizzy and the structure of the curl is “compromised”.

Maybe some people here should remember the saying…”don’t presume you know about others unless you have walked a mile in their shoes”.

I think it is terrific that Heidi Klum has done her homework and learned to properly care for her children’s hair..ALL of them!

Lilianne on

Nancy, I am not African American. Therefore, I cannot answer your question from the perspective of one; but I can only imagine that they color their hair for the same reason any of the rest of us do. They want a change. I personally get tired of my hair being or looking the same and while I don’t color mine(gets too expensive to maintain), I do get different cuts and styles. If I am wrong about this, I hope someone corrects me. 🙂

sara on

Nancy, Beyonce doesn’t color her hair blonde. Or at least, it’s not her real hair. It’s a wig. Same with Tyra Banks. And I don’t know about those others you mentioned, but I would not be surprised if they also wore wigs (or weaves).

soph on

“You are one ignorant heifer. Keep your racist comments to yourself. Just like I’ll keep my thought that White children smell like wet dogs when their hair is wet, to myself. -M.E.”

Lol. Very mature.

Marcie on


People color because they want to, regardless of their race.

HeatherR on

I am saddened by the racial comments on here 😦 I think black children with braids or beads in their hair are adorable. I think white children with braids or beads or adorable too. Different races have different hair types and it should just be left at that. There is no right or wrong on this one.

Jodi on

M.E. wrote:
“Jodi You are one ignorant heifer. Keep your racist comments to yourself. Just like I’ll keep my thought that White children smell like wet dogs when their hair is wet, to myself.”

I could sit here and say the same thing about how black people smell like baby powder and coconut oil and do not use proper English.

Reesca on

WOW M.E., stooping down to her level and making a racist remark in return. That makes you no better than the person you’re criticizing. And I take personal offense that you say white children smell like wet dogs when their hair is wet. You seem to be the racist one here, not the person you are quoting.

Grow up.

Jodi on

M.E. wrote:
“@ Jodi You are one ignorant heifer. Keep your racist comments to yourself. Just like I’ll keep my thought that White children smell like wet dogs when their hair is wet, to myself.”

I never made a racist comment, I simply stated I think it is annoying when black people’s hair makes noise because of all of the “crap” (beads, etc.) they put in it. M.E. maybe you should look up the definiton of racist before you try and call someone a racist.

Siera on

@Jen DC well said, I agree with every single word. You are one of my favorite commenters on PEOPLE.

@Jodi “I could sit here and say the same thing about how black people smell like baby powder and coconut oil and do not use proper English.”

You made yourself sound racist and ignorant…again.

andrea on

M.E, wow, you absolutely sound so ignorant from your comment! Some of the comments in here make me laugh and are pretty sad. Just shows your lack of intelligence. There are so many different types of hair textures, doesn’t matter the race.

My mother is black hispanic(Dominican Republic) and my father is japanese and white. I have straight black hair, a different texture then my mothers. I am not a fan of braids and beads myself, but that is other other persons perogative.

Ladies, black and white, or whatever ethnicity you may be behind your screen, think about what you say before you angrily type it, because man I am just astounded at the ridiculous comments that are being said.

J-Lin on

Jodi – Do you think it’s just as annoying when all the white children come back from their Caribbean vacations with tons of those noisy beads in their heads?

I for one am so glad Heidi has been tutored in black hair care. Boys are one thing, but I felt bad for Lou.

andrea on

Elita, lets not be dramatic here, seriously grow up!

Katy on

wow – white children smell like wet dogs? Really now? A couple ignorant people make a misinformed comment and so people turn to racism and name calling? And btw, my son is white and smells like baby powder, I love the smell Jodi. Just FYI – racism works both ways. ALL CHILDREN ARE BEAUTIFUL, REGARDLESS OF THEIR HAIR OR HOW THEY SMELL OR TALK OR WHATEVER. Geez, this world really has no hope if people can argue about HAIR!

And seriously, white people copy black people in everything? It’s a cohesive culture – all trends and fashions and fads blend between races and cultures as each makes it uniquely theres, no one is responsible for everything. How about you really stop and think about what you are posting and not try and sound superior and high and mighty. I didn’t know people weren’t entitled to like whath they like without it being labled as African American culture that the whities have adopted. Music is music and fashion is fashion. Grow up and stop placing labels.

J on

If Beyonce doesn’t color her hair blonde than would that make her commercials for Feria hair color false advertising since she is wearing a blonde shade in those commercials?

J on

Nancy, WHO said that since we had a biracial president the race talk would cease? Good Lord, people sure put too much into that guy to think everything would be perfect when he was pres.

showbizmom on

I’m not even going to comment on the racist comments that are on here. I’m pretty sure everything I would say has already been said.

To answer the question about black hair being dyed blonde. Sometimes it is dyed but my sister who is black and my mother who is black both were born with what I call black/blonde hair. It’s blonde but not like Hiedi Klum blonde. Hairdressers use to ask my parents all the time ‘why did you dye this babies hair?” always assuring it’s not dyed. We think it has something to do with out Great Great Grandma being German. So yea, some blacks folks do have natural blonde hair.

Nancy on

J, I do remember hearing that out of his mouth on the campaign trail during one of his speeches. I also heard others talking about it.

I just heard a story today about 100 black kids beating up cars and people and the ones they targeted were white. I hope this is not true! Racism DOES work both ways and I have seen plenty of it on this board today.

BTW, I think Beyonce looks good no matter what her hair looks like, I just think she looked better with a little darker hair. And just for the record, black kids with braids in their hair or dreds or colorful hair pieces look adorable and the noise doesn’t bother me.

aeg on

Now political nonsense. Good God J aka Jodi your opinions are yours but keep it on topic…not everything a is a forum for whatever you want to go on about. This a site about babies & children…thats why People doesn’t have this labelled Politics.

Jen DC on

@ Jodi: By limiting your comment to BLACK CHILDREN and not ALL CHILDREN (because more than black children wear noisy hair beads and barrettes), it was AT LEAST racially insensitive if not all out racist. But hey, if you are comfortable with that stance…

I can’t even front on the COCOA BUTTER (not coconut oil, hon; that’s what ppl who want to tan wear) – I wear it, I smell like it and have been told more than once that I smell delicious. And that my skin is soft and smooth. With which I wholeheartedly agree. 😉

June on

I love African American hair, it’s so beautiful. Everytime I see an AA woman with her curls I am so jealous!

andrea on

Yea Ol pres has been in office for awhile and I have yet to see a “change”, there is always going to be ignorant people with ridiculous comments. Just do not realize why people are making such a big deal. The comment about how white women leave there mixed kids hair looking crazy and untames, well I can say the same thing for AA. Does not matter the race, it matters about teh parent who is letting there child walk around looking unkept!

j on

Please don’t turn this into an Obama bashing thread. Take it to a political blog.

andrea on

J, I was simply saying no matter who is in office there will always be ignorant people, not trying bash anyone!

Lisa on

Hey Ali and Jodi, you both remind me of this teacher.

Tell me ladies, why are OUR cultural traditions so disgusting to you? We as AA don’t have many of them thanks to the slave trade, so why knock them?

I also find it funny that both of you are upset that people call you racist, however, the words YOU posted on this site suggests that, not any one else. If you don’t want ppl to think that maybe you shouldn’t project that.

Indira on

I generally don’t go calling people names but, Jodi’s comment really bother me. I’m biracial black and arab. I wore braids the first 14 years of my life and, I loved having beads clips and ribbons in my hair. It just bothers me to think that anyone would think negatively of a childs appearance. I was once a baby powder smelling, coco butter wearing, noisy bead and ribbons girl myself. I loved the sound they made when I walked it was the best part.

“And seriously, white people copy black people in everything? It’s a cohesive culture – all trends and fashions and fads blend between races and cultures as each makes it uniquely theres, no one is responsible for everything. ”

what is now mainstream originated in black culture or subculture. I’m gonna go ahead and say that blacks are largely responsibly for hip-hop, rap, reggae, dancehall, blues, rock and roll.

So, while all of these things have now transcended race and are mainstream to the point where the origins are irrelevant(thanks elvis), credit should be given where credit is due. African Americans and blacks in general contribute massively to mainstream culture.

There’s nothing wrong in acknowledging that, each group adds to the melting pot.

M on

Stop using the word “racist” if you do not know its true meaning! Just STOP! This is getting to be SO irritating. The word racist is so overused that it has lost its true meaning.

Definition of RACISM

: a belief that race is the primary determinant of human traits and capacities and that racial differences produce an inherent superiority of a particular race.

I did not see ANY racist comments on here. Some things said were politically incorrect, but they were NOT racist! Learn the difference, please!

nettrice on

Some you all need to get out more.

andrea on

“We as AA don’t have many of them thanks to the slave trade, so why knock them?”

Lisa, seriously, this comment is a bit over the top. I am so sick of hearing these types of comments, like you AA being oppressed, and not getting a fair shake. I do not agree with those idiotic comments about braids and beads, and seashells or whatever people put in there hair but comments like these just anger me. My mother is black(Dominican) and it just sickens me when peopel spout comments like this, like they were back in the “slave trade days”. My dear, YOU didn’t suffer back in the slave trade, I am not sure how your life was growing up, but I am pretty confident yours did not compare, why make comments like that? Seriously, its just hair, peopel are entitled to their opinions, no matter how ridiculous they sound, but lets not bring up a part of history that has passed.

JMO on

I think whether you are black, white, asian, indian etc etc etc your hair should be maintained in a style that best suits you. I know white people with dread locks. I know black people who dye their hair all kinds of colors or wear blue contacts. I know people with straight hair who get perms. People with curly hair who spend tons of money to put massive amounts of chemicals in their hair to make it straight. There probably isn’t one person on this board who hasn’t tried something different.

As far as the nasty comments about what kids smell like or what they wear in their hair that makes them “annoying” it’s all ignorance. I don’t know about ya’ll but when I wake up in the morning I worry about ME. I don’t have a concern about how others will think I look or if my appearance is going to offend them. May you all should try it yourselves.

HappyGoLucky on

It goes beyond being politically incorrect. Maybe this fits them better.


a (1) : preconceived judgment or opinion (2) : an adverse opinion or leaning formed without just grounds or before sufficient knowledge

c : an irrational attitude of hostility directed against an individual, a group, a race, or their supposed characteristics

Jen DC on

@ Andrea: Why does it bother you to acknowledge that there was a significant loss in AA’s purely African culture due to the slave trade? It’s an historical fact. I’m doing my family tree and I’m back to the 1830s. Going much farther back is going to be difficult because of what? The slave trade. Forced illiteracy, the routine break up of families for sale, loss of language, inability to practice one’s own religion, speak one’s own language, etc. all contribute to the FACT that AA’s only have a limited idea of their specific-country African culture. It’s not a cry of victimhood, it’s an acknowledgment of a usually-ignored F-A-C-T.

Frankly, Lisa (like I did) sounds pretty matter-of-fact about it. It is what it is; she ain’t crying about or acting as if she personally was a victim of the time period (although she arguably is). She’s not asking for her 40 acres and a mule. She’s simply stating that one of the few things we as AAs have left of our continental African culture (since very few of us know from which country our ancestors came) is braiding and decorating hair.

And if your hair is just your hair, then great. My hair is not just “hair.” Over time, it has been a sticking point, a moot point, a point of pride, a point of anguish and now – to my poor, slow to update family – a political sticking point. (Short, natural hair, where I am from and live, generally gives rise to the idea that one is a lesbian, whether one is or not. I am not, but don’t mind being mistaken for one because there are worse things to be mistaken for. Like a teen-aged boy. But that’s a different story.)

HappyGoLucky on

“Lisa, seriously, this comment is a bit over the top. I am so sick of hearing these types of comments, like you AA being oppressed, and not getting a fair shake.”

First I don’t think she was comparing her life to life during the slave trade. She spoke of a culture and traditions that were lost. Maybe this is something you should learn more about? Then study institutional racism, racial disparity in education, health care, and the criminal justice system. I could go on. But I feel badly that I’m discussing this on a baby blog.

Ashlee on

It’s also an ignorant assumption that Ali is a white woman.

HappyGoLucky on

Good for Heidi Klum. She and Seal have a created a beautiful family.

Most Afican Americans/Blacks are of mixed race to some degree. Our history as a nation should explain that. African American/Black hair is diverse. Our hair is as diverse as the color of our skin. It comes in all textures from straight to kinky. Kinky meaning that the hair is very tightly curled. Our hair can be extremely fragile and is often very soft. Great care has to be taken with the hair especially when it’s wet. The hair is often more prone to breakage when it’s wet. It can tangle easily. Our hair often needs moisture. We usually don’t have oily hair or scalps and don’t need to wash our hair as frequently.

andrea on

i commend her for doin some ethnic styles with her childs hair, good for her and way to make it racial, get over it, it happened now move on.

on a side note, arent we all “americans” i didnt know i needed to specify my heritages country of origin, you know whats good about nostalgia is the fact its a waste of time. so in the future if you are american , just say american, because nine times out of ten you dont know anyone or have any relation to your country of origin.

andrea on

Jen it does not bother me at all that there was a significant loss due to the slave trade. My point is that we all know what happened due to the slave trade, trust me it is not forgotten nor will it ever be forgotten, but move past it already.

Seriously, why do we always have to go back to that. We KNOW it happened, we know it is a FACT of history, among other things, but come on get off that same topic that keeps getting brought up when someone makes an idiotic comment about AA. That topic gets used as a crutch so much, let it rest.

I am half black, but I dont start bringing a part of history that is in the past. You all have the freedom to practice religion, date who you want, go where you want.

Jen DC on

@ Ashlee: If it’s “ignorant” to assume that Ali is a caucasian woman, please provide me a logical explanation as to why someone of a third race would bother to make the comment. Other than “this is a public message board.” And I say a third race because unless she is a self-hating AA woman, it’s highly unlikely that she’d publicly admit ANYWHERE to ANYONE that she prefers the way a white woman fixes black children’s hair…

andrea on

Jen your post was funny about worse things to get mistaken for and luckily a boy was not one of them haha. After reading all these comments it just makes me laugh now how we got to this, from a purely innocent story about a mother trying to make sure her kids don’t look unkept, to asinine posts about what other cultures put in their hair. Whether its fried, dyed or laid to the side someone is always going to have an opinion about it. We have all had some crazy hairstyle back in the day that looking now probably wasn’t our proudest moment, I know I have had a few 🙂

MommytoanE on

Its Awesome Heidi is taking the time to learn. 🙂 Parenting is all one huge learning curve….and it does not come with a handbook.

For all the bashing ladies. Step away from the computer. Yup, that’s right. Go play with your children (Since you are all wonderful mom’s right) and stop bashing on eachother. Is this how you teach your kids? Bash on people because they said something you don’t agree with? Opinions are like Aholes. Everyone has one. Don’t like someone’s…stop being a dog and sniffin it. Just walk away. Take a deep breath. Hug that sweet little angel looking up at you for attention while you sit here tying away bashing on someone over th einternet…and remember. Life is too short to stay angry. Its too short to go ahole sniffin.

Janna on

@Indira: As a black woman, I’m not too proud that “blacks are largely responsibly for” rap music since the ***overwhelming*** majority of it is trash designed to degrade women and promote racism, promiscuous behavior, violence and crime.

andrea on

Mommytoane, well said, you made me laugh, I am currently expecting so I am going to blame my internet rage on hormones hahha, jk! 🙂

Indira on

Janna- Your comment about “overwhelming majority” is anecdotal. Rap is about as broad as pop music or any other genre. Gangsta rap isn’t social rap or pop rap. It’s the equivalent chastising rock music because you don’t like death metal.

Indira on

@ mommytoane

Luckily I have no kids being neglected. Just 3 months of summer vacation and a lot of free time lol!

nettrice on

Everyone needs to STOP the assumptions. In 2006, a young filmmaker named Kiri Davis made a little movie called “Girl Like Me” (don’t be lazy, Google it). In this film, she re-stages a social experiment conducted by Drs Kenneth and Mamie Clark in 1940. They found that black children often preferred to play with white dolls over black; that, asked to fill in a human figure with the color of their own skin, they frequently chose a lighter shade than was accurate; and that the children gave the color “white” attributes such as good and pretty, but “black” was qualified as bad and ugly. The Clarks viewed the results as evidence that the children had internalized racism caused by being discriminated against and stigmatized by segregation. The 2006 experiment yielded the similar to the SAME results. Imagine that!

For those of you who say, “Get over it. Slavery days are over,” these social experiments were done well after the Emancipation and, in fact, these children often grow up to hate the non-European aspects of themselves so much that they straighten and weave in straighter hair, lighten their skin with chemicals and change their eye color with fake lenses to simulate the European appearance. So I am sure many of you are wondering how this could happen in the 21st century. Well take a look at mainstream media. Where are the African/Black American people who have mostly African features? In this thread, Jodi and others even have the nerve to negate African cultural attributes. Is it any wonder that it still happens in America?

Crystal on

Wow! The ignorance of some of the posters on this site is RIDICULOUS! I think it’s wonderful that Heidi is taking strides to care for her children’s hair. It IS different and the sooner non women of color who have biracial children learn that the better off their hair will be. I commend Heidi for going that extra mile to ensure her children have healthy hair. People of ALL races could learn from Heidi!

SAshley on

I don’t understand all the hostility. I think any discussion about race issues tends to snowball… I sincerely hope no one on here meant harm by their original statements.

I honestly don’t believe it’s wrong to express a personal preference. For example, I don’t care for the look of braids. I think they look uncomfortable and tight, and I always wonder if it’s hard for the children to scratch their scalp when they need to! I think AA curls are absolutely GORGEOUS, especially on a little girl with sparkly headbands.

It’s not racist, or prejudiced, or whatever other definitions are being thrown into the ring. It’s observing something and using your brain to form an opinion as to what is pleasing to the eye. Period.

L on

@M.E. Your comment doesn’t make you any better than Jodi. While your opinions differ, you apparently both have issues with racism. Also, I never in my life has encountered a white child who’s wet hair smelt like wet dog.. Grow up!

@Jodi, I’m white and I’ve never heard a black child’s hair make noise because of ‘5lbs of beads and crap’. While it might not be attractive to you, those children might love the look of beads in their hair!!

Maybe y’all should watch Bambi and learn a little from Thumper, ‘If you can’t say something nice, don’t say nothin’ at all.’!!

Lisa on

I cannot sit back and read comments written by i’m guessing a grown woman, about something as stupid as “how annoying it is to listen to the noise made by beads and barettes” in little girls hair. It’s absolutely disgusting. Get some ear plugs if it bothers you that much and GROW UP. Being a positive person is not that hard. Don’t turn a simple conversation about hair into a racist issue

As for PEOPLE.com, I have no idea who monitors these conversations, but they really need to do some removal of messages asap, not just with this board, but with many of the insulting crap that people constantly spew and think it’s ok to say because they are hiding behind a computer.

With that said, good for Heidi to take the time to learn how to do her kid’s hair! She sounds like a great mom based on everything I’ve read about her! Bravo!

Tia on

Wow,may god have mercy on us all.

HappyGoLucky on

“I honestly don’t believe it’s wrong to express a personal preference. For example, I don’t care for the look of braids. I think they look uncomfortable and tight, and I always wonder if it’s hard for the children to scratch their scalp when they need to! I think AA curls are absolutely GORGEOUS, especially on a little girl with sparkly headbands.”

It can be tight if they done improperly.

Not all children will have curls if they wear it natural.

Healthy hair should be the gosl.

Lo on

Why is it when an AA woman gives her opinion on this site, it’s great but if a non AA woman does then she is a racist? Double standards annoy me. The majority of us commenting on here are women. Why can’t we be strong and opinionated women, no matter what our race? Why is it only acceptable that certain races have that right? Racism will continue on as long as people feed into it……..

ecl on

Thank you, thank you, thank you Nettrice!! Nothing is “just” something. Everything has some meaning behind it. People have a hard time understanding racism except in the form of a burning cross.

Mia on

Heidi’s kids are well loved and cute. Braids have been worn by all cultures to keep hair out of the eyes and because it is easier to maintain. I am wearing my hair in a long braid down my back right now. Is Jodi getting upset about it? Oh, uh Jodi- I am European and Native American. Let’s hear something critical about Euro-Indians wearing braids. We’ve been doing it for thousands of years. LOL I really do not understand why people are so negative about the way different cultures express themselves through minor things like hairstyles. Just be glad that you have hair.

Chasity on

Everyone is black. First people in the world were black. So everyone is the same. Get over it.

nettrice on

SAshley, Jodi, etc. should look two responses up, then check out the film, “Girl Like Me” on YouTube.

When I was in middle school home economics class we had to discuss hygiene and the issue of hair came up. In the book, the authors claimed that (all) people needed to wash their hair frequently throughout the week (every day or every other day) and I raised my hand to tell the teacher what I knew about black hair. Frequent washings can caught certain textures of black hair (like mine) to dry and break. I knew this at age 10 or 11 but the teacher (who was white) did not know. She also did not know that my hair actually grew faster, longer and stayed healthier when twisted or braided. The same is true today.

Take a look at black hair under a microscope and the structure is flat – even in some mixed children – which means it can more easily be damaged due to chemicals and hard or frequent combing. Braids/twists are good for girls but not always a preference for growing boys. Because I am curious about everything I research and experiment BEFORE I pass judgement on something I don’t really know or understand.

Jen DC on

@ Andrea: Again, it doesn’t mean that we “haven’t gotten past it.” To talk about something occurring doesn’t mean we are constantly reliving it or claiming to be victimized by it. Also, it was a single point in several rather long diatribes full of other points. The fact that you pull out THAT ONE means that YOU are hyper-sensitive to it – not the other way around. Furthermore, it was pertinent to the conversation being had as a counter to the insulting insinuations of others. I reiterate: Why is it bothering you to have someone else say “I claim this as part of my culture and I don’t want it insulted”?

You are speaking of other conversations at other times when you talk about history being used as a “crutch.” You need to go back to those people and have this discussion because your anger is misplaced.

And who is this “we” you speak of when you talk about “knows what happened”? Trust me when I tell you that everyone does not know. Actually, don’t trust me. Look around you; read the paper. Hit up google for info on the state of the American education system and ask yourself whether those kids are really getting a thorough grounding in the history of the slave trade, the Civil War, Jim Crow and what followed. And not from a victimization standpoint – just as part of the history of this country, which is relevant. Sad to admit, but Americans can barely keep up with current events, let alone apply the lessons of history.

Taking a stab in the dark, I gonna guess that since you are obviously multiracial and this is your line of thinking, you’re tired of being pigeonholed as “black” and merely being identified BY OTHERS as having a victimized past. That’s too bad. But that’s not what’s happening here.

Miss Ann on

About time !!! Now if you can please put some ribbon in Lou’s hair… The kids hair has improved so much recently.

andrea on

Ha no actually I love my ethnicity, I look more hispanic and get confused with mexican more than anything. My mother and her side of the family is what gets confused with being AA. Your stab in the dark couldn’t be farther from the truth, and I am definitely not tired of being “pigeonholed as black”. I am just a multiracial woman who is tired of hearing that same statement about how these types of things are lost within AA culture because of the slave trade. Man I can name a few things that are lost becuase of a lot of parts in our history, it always turns to something racial.

The we I speak of is this country, I live in AZ, yes AZ and this place is a melting pot of cultures and people have not forgotten. Hell, you can’t forget everytime something like this happens and I can always bet that someone will bring up the slave days. I didn’t suffer like those people did, you didn’t suffer like those people did, but it is a part of our history that will always be remembered, I am not disputing that.

Miss Ann on

@ Nancy… Beyonce wears weave. The weave is sewn to her hair, which is braided underneath, more than likely. She probably does not color ‘her hair’. Instead she just buys color weave. But I tell yah, her weave be ‘on the money’. Her weave is on point all the time.

Jen DC on

You’re tired of hearing the truth? Ok… I don’t really have an answer for that. Like I said, you’re the hyper-sensitive one. To be perturbed that someone “brings it up”? You chose to come here and join the conversation. Whenever “it” comes up, you’re free to leave. But I’m not about to stop using true statements to support my theories just because you’re tired of hearing historical fact. I’m not telling you how to define yourself within the context of American history; I demand the same respect, particularly if I am not using it to claim victimhood or, you know, WRONG. And you have yet to provide an adequate reason WHY it bothers you… other than repetition. But I suspect that there’s a deeper reason and maybe you’re not introspective enough or mature enough or something else to dig into it. Not my problem, though.

As far as the “we,” I don’t agree that this knowledge is universal. The political climate and some of the off-the-wall statements made by both parties and especially their fringe elements prove that your “we” doesn’t exist. And even if people have knowledge of the facts, that is not the same thing as saying they understand why its relevant to a particular conversation or personally relevant to a speaker. It’s only by making it personal that this “we” can come into being. And not talking about it isn’t an effective method of overcoming racism or increasing understanding of America’s multiculturalism. Which in many ways was what this thread turned into.

It’s only because of this history that your parents relationship (if they are/were married) was allowed to exist! Loving v Virginia mean anything to you?

Anyway, good luck encouraging others to downplay their history. I think it’s sad that discussing race discomfits you so.

andrea on

Oh Jen…you that is your opinion, and you are entitled to it, however off it may be, and yes I cam on here because the story was cute until it became some race verbal bashing..anyways, thank you for wishing me luck but you can keep it. Again, this all started about a childs hair and now look. I am proud of what I am, and I move forward, I am not someone who feels because my ancestors didn’t get a fair shake that I have to unleash history on everyone.The deeper reason is same song and dance my friend, heard it all before. You should probably get a job in teaching AA history since you are so hot on the subject, remember our misguided youths need it 🙂 Cheers!

Riche' on

As a black woman with three children who are mixed, there is a huge difference between their hair and mine. However, even though I knew how to take of my hair, I still had to figure out what worked best for their hair.

With just commenting on the plain fact that Heidi Klum finally took the initiative to find out how to take care of her children’s hair was the best thing she could have done for them. I wish that all mothers would realized that learning how to take care of their childrens’ hair is a reflection on them. Children deserve to have clean, properly combed hair no matter how it is styled, braids or no braids.

Lastly, I firmly believe the idea that for little boys short hair that is nicely combed is best and will never go out of style.

Riche' on

I beleive that little boys look best with short hair no matter the color. As a mother of three mixed raced children I had to learn what worked best for their hair, because even I knew how to do my hair (I am black) their hair is different. No matter what color the mom is she owes it to her kids to learn how to comb and style their hair. I believe that kids should have their hair combed to some kind of functioning condition everyday not just a couple of times a week.

Tove on

Wow, the comments in this thread are BEYOND sad. A poignant example of how little progress has been made in America.. Where is the monitoring to keep comments civil, appropriate, and on topic? People.com- this is unacceptable.

Tove on

P.S- People.com- to avoid these gutter-filled comments and make it a more appropriate forum for people who do want to share considerate, thoughtful, on-topic comments, you MUST make people more accountable: make it mandatory that people must sign-up before posting a comment, or provide their e-mail addresses and have messages vetted by a monitoring system to avoid this type of bile.
People with their minds in the gutter tend to think twice when websites have this type of scrutiny. Otherwise, if you have no intention of getting rid of the garbage that is suffocating these threads, get rid of the “add a comment” section altogether.

Jen DC on

I have a job with which I am perfectly comfortable and it entails using facts to support theories and suppositions. Which is why I don’t shy away from using ANY factual information at my disposal.

I too “move forward” but that does not mean I have to downplay my ancestral past or my interest in it. I don’t spend my day-to-day thinking “oh, I am the descendents of slaves” – there is a middle ground between remembering and honoring it and living victimhood. You just need to respect that your line is elsewhere and it is not up to you to decide where others should draw their own.

ChloeRAWR! on

*is thankful I have straight “white-people” hair*
I’m way too lazy to put that much effort into my hair everyday.’The only effort I put in is making sure I wash it every night and keeping my alopecia covered 🙂

J-Lin on

Jen DC – You know the Dominicans have over 100 different terms to identify themselves as anything but black. Andrea epitomizes someone who has grown up ina confused culture.

andrea on

J-Lin, you are the one is confused, because I am sure you have been to the Dominican Republic several times, ThINK about what you say before you post my dear. Didn’t know we have “100 terms” to identify, I though we are just Dominican, but you are obviously so well traveled and educated, J-Lin!

Jillian on

There are comments that I find offensive on here. Wonder if People will do anything about these comments as some are beyond nasty. They did remove and close the comments on another thread. First time in years I have ever seen that. It really needed to be done. After some of the comments I read, I couldn’t believe my eyes. There is a difference between expressing your opinion and spewing hatred, bullying, attacking, etc. Some don’t get it.

Debbie on

This is very sad… To see all this bickering between people is shameful.. I’m a biracial woman. White father and black mother and I didn’t come on here to read about two races attacking each other. It’s about hair. I have curly hair and I was interested in the feedback thinking there would be good advice about products and treatments for hair. I would have never thought it was about bashing races. That’s what’s wrong with the world today..

i have curly hair and my daughter has hair like an AA(since everyone is race dropping) and it hurts my feelings that people can post cruel things about beads and smelling like wet dog. My daughter wears braids and she just begged me for beads and I let her do it. She’s 5. I dare anyone to say anything to my child about her beads. She loves them. If it makes her happy then I’m happy.

I’ll be the first to admit it’s a struggle with her hair bc it’s not the same texture as mine but I found that the braids stop the crying and the pain of combing through her hair for a while. I on the other hand have to wash my hair every 3 days and I have been told that I smell like a wet dog also.. But so what..I just use herbal essence bc who said wet dogs smell bad.. I also use coco butter(Palmers) lotion. All these things on here are offensive in everyway…to every race..They have nothing to do with the topic…let’s get back to hair and keep all the negative comments to yourself…

Debbie on


Jane on

I am not african american or what a like prefer to call them black americans. I am Haitian and was adopted by a white women and a men who is 1/4 native. My white mother took her time to learn how to take care of our hair thanks mom. My son is white and black his hair is a white peron hair but beautiful bouncy curls. I must say what Jodi said was so stupid point blank. Because what she said was so wrong in all levels. Black people from the Americas,all over Africa, Middle East and Asia bread their hair because thats part of there cultures. Some tribes the more beads who have the prettier you are and the richer you are ect it means so many different things. Also the natives of the americas used beads in all diffrent ways just like the Africans do. Blacks should be able to were there hair like in anyway they feel like just like whites can where there hair in anyway there want.

JenDC I agree with you 100% like someone said forgive but never forget the pass. History is the key to understand our nature as humans so we cannot do the horrible things our ancrstors did.

Jane on

Oh Jodi one more things all black people that is putting people one race into a box.Another comment you made blacks can not speak proper english stop living under a rock because that is so far from the truth. I have meant many white pople that cannot speak proper english those are called the white trash of the white race and so that means all white people cannot speak english? I also didn’t agree with the other comment about white people smelling like wet dog really that is also putting a race in a box.By the way racism goes both ways a racist is a racist period doesn’t matter the color.

gimma a break on

It saddens me what people will say things from in front of their computers that they wouldn’t dare say in person. Jodi you need God in your life.

AmbyNYC on

I’m a blond stepmom to a mixed-race step-daughter. I am very concerned about her coveting her classmates’ straight hair and want to encourage her self-esteem because she is gorgeous just the way she is. She has very fine, very curly hair and she likes to wear it out in big curls with pretty headbands or other hair accessories. When she came to visit for a month this summer, I spent several weeks emailing questions back and forth with her mom to make sure I knew exactly what hair products to have on hand, and how to use them, because I want my step-daughter to feel beautiful and cared for every time she walks out of my house. If that means that I spend 45 minutes each night gently teasing the tangles out of her hair, putting them in twists so they don’t tangle overnight and working in the right hair products so she has great looking curls the next day– then that’s what I’m going to do. It’s great bonding time for us, and I felt so good when she saw the products I got for her and she said “that’s exactly what I have at mommy’s house”. Even with the dry mountain air here, I got a compliment from her mom for how good her hair looked when she returned back to her house.

Kira on

I cannot believe that people are turning such a wonderful article about Heidi Klum taking the time to learn about her children’s hair needs into something so negative and disgusting.

Jomm on

I think some people need to stay out of trying tell other cultures about their hair. Sorry but that is going to create outroar. Sorry but white woman has no business telling blacks about their hair and history does not help the issue. As for Heidi, I hope she does really know. Like it or not, the kids will be judged.

Jomm on

Sorry but no white person has no right to tell a black person how to do black hair. Sorry but that is just the way it does just like a single person has no business trying to tell a married person about marriage. As for Heidi, glad she is learning. Like it or not, she and those kids will be judged.