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Elisabeth Röhm, best known for her role as Serena Southerlyn on Law & Order, is in the middle of a very busy year.
In her latest blog, Röhm and fiancé Ron Anthony are experiencing an unwanted blast from the past after 3-year-old daughter Easton August regresses in her potty-training and co-sleeping habits.
How do you deal when behavior from your child’s younger years recurs? What do you do for accidents and with little people climbing back in your bed? Elisabeth wants to know.
It was some months ago, right here on this very blog, PEOPLE.com readers, that I celebrated the potty-training achievements of Easton. It was also here, within this very tight-knit circle of ours, that we discussed the pros and cons of co-sleeping.
I was fighting the bed battle and on my way to a hopeful win, but I had slam-dunked the diaper challenge. And I might add that I was feeling mighty proud of myself and Easton. But to both subjects, many of you suggested that these behaviors could recur even after months of solid achievement, so you warned me not to get too excited just yet.
To which of course, as I read the comment section for my blog on those weeks, thought, “Nah … that can’t be. My baby is growing up!” I was convinced that we’d gone solidly around the bend on at least one of those subjects and we were progressing with the other.
Which one of you pointed this possibility out to me?! Seriously, I need you to identify yourselves because you were so right. How did you know that my certainty in the situation might be revised at some point?
I mean, it was obvious to me that the night-time struggle might pop up again because we travel so often and when we are on the road, Easton feels out-of-sorts sometimes and comes to us out of familiarity. But the pee-pee in the bed thing, really? I was so sure that was never gonna happen again. You remember this, of course, right? I was signed, sealed and delivered on that one!
Easton went so swiftly from no diaper all day, to none at night that I was blown away and proud as a peacock to share it with you all. You gotta watch out for pride, right? Then bam! Just when you think you are out … they pull you back in! What’s with that?
So needless to say, we’ve been having some accidents around the house.
Let me tell you, I’m becoming an expert launderer these days. I’ve been waking in the morning to discover that I have to wash her comforter, the sheets and the hypoallergenic cover for her mattress and then give the ole mattress itself a once over.
It’s not all the time, but it has reared its head recently. And it’s not just happening at night either — it’s begun to happen in the day time too. Again, it’s been very rare but enough to mention. Weird, right? I thought we were months away from this chapter. When was it ladies, seven months ago that Easton had conquered this?
Anyway, it’s only happened a couple of times in the day. But even still it has happened then, too … I’ve analyzed it. It seems as if she’s holding it in either because she’s playing with her friends or we are going to cuddle up to read books in bed. She’s so excited about something other than going to the bathroom and so … you get it. Then it’s beyond her control. Poor thing.
So now we’re working on reminding and suggesting and going to the bathroom for frequent visits like we were doing before, and it’s all working itself out. As it always does. But I had to give some of you moms credit for forewarning me. You were right.
That’s why I so appreciate doing this blog with you all. I learn from you every week and truly look forward to your comments. And I think all of you learn from each other too. It’s been amazing actually creating this network of support here with all of you!
Obviously the bed battle resurfacing is not the biggest surprise, is it? Ron and I kind of did that to ourselves, right? You all pointed that out too. Which we were fine with until we weren’t, as you may recall. But I must say we’d made excellent headway in that department also.
Her night-time visits were becoming tremendously infrequent. She might crawl in at about 5 a.m. once a week, but to me that was a perfect balance. I was thrilled to be sleeping through the night again or for the first time without having to bring her back to her room sometime in the middle of darkness. But I also enjoyed a little snuggle with her from time to time in the warmth of the early morning.
So it seemed as if we’d nailed that too and found the perfect balance. Not so fast, Mommy and Daddy! We’re suddenly at square one over these last two weeks. It seemed to happen when we were in N.Y.C. for a month. Everything got off track again, as it does when we are off our routine.
Now we are back in the battle zone for some sleep. And we are getting reacquainted with the potty! It happens to the best of us. The minute we think we’ve beat something, we find we haven’t!
Like I said, this is the week of being pulled back into some of the baby drama of the past. Any ideas why this happens, PEOPLE.com readers?! I’d love to continue the conversation that you all started those months ago!
Until next week, ladies!
– Elisabeth Röhm