David Basche Was Initially ‘Weirded Out’ By Breastfeeding

06/16/2011 at 09:00 AM ET
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When David Alan Basche imagined his then-pregnant wife Alysia Reiner one day nursing their child, the actor was initially turned off — completely.

“I hate to admit this, but before we had a baby I was kind of weirded out by breastfeeding,” the actor, 42, tells Best for Babes.

“It looked strange and I was always like, ‘Look away! Ignore it, ignore the boobs in the room, move along, nothing to see here!'”

However, all that changed the first time Basche witnessed the incredible bond between Reiner and their newborn Livia Charles, now 2½.

“The first moment I saw my wife breastfeed our daughter minutes after birth, I was hit with a thunderbolt of understanding and awe for the miracle of it all, and I still feel that way,” he explains.

Despite a few road bumps along the way — including Livia’s difficulty with latching — Basche, who recently appeared on Law & Order: Criminal Intent and White Collar, maintained his strong support and was never quick to throw in the towel.

“If it really hurt Alysia or didn’t feel right, I’d say, ‘Okey dokey, pop her off and let’s start again, I’m staying awake here with you … you can do it sweetheart,'” he recalls.

As for his occasional bouts of envy? Those eventually passed too, Basche reveals.

“I gotta admit, I was jealous there for awhile. I mean, when would it be me playing with those boobs again?” he jokes. “Hang in there, partners, you’ll be fumbling with a bra and feeling like a teenager in the back seat of a car soon enough.”

And, although hoping to avoid “sounding preachy,” Basche wants to offer advice — and encouragement — for future fathers who find themselves in the same mindset he once experienced.

“To a spouse or partner, I’d say learn about it, read about it, see a couple boobalicious videos (not those kind!) to really get a sense of the awesomeness,” he says. “Then just support your girl and bask in the divine miracle of it all.”

— Anya Leon

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Dinah on

I have no idea why this dude is a celebrity, but he’s a good man. And I can say, having recently survived the first few weeks of breastfeeding with a very supportive partner, that his advice is SPOT ON. If you know expectant parents that are planning to breastfeed, I would totally pass this along to both mom and dad.

blessedwithboys on

YAY! Great article, love his quotes…don’t know who he is though! LOL

mary on

My brother was the same way. If he came over and I was nursing he would say “freak” and walk out of the room. I of course would just roll my eyes. But it wasn’t until his wife had their first child. She was born early, my sister n law being a doctor always intended to breastfeed. And at that moment my brother who also happens to be in the medical field, was very supportive of his wife breastfeeding. I knew that moment would come, my brother would ‘grow up’ and not be so negative.

I respect those who don’t breastfeed, but don’t put someone down who does and vice versa!

meme on

Cute article.

Olivia on

Such good advice for partners. He sounds awesome.

meri on

He’s a actor. Mostly been in small roles on lots of different TV shows. He also played Todd Beamer in the movie United 93.

Toya L. on

Really cute article.

Shannon on

Funny and cute to hear a guys perspective 🙂

Kaci on

I think it’s funny that sometimes the dads become even more passionate about breastfeeding than the moms.

I know my husband was very supportive with our kids. Behind closed doors he is even pretty judgmental about non-breastfeeding moms. I don’t why it shocks me to hear him be that way…but it kind of makes me love him more.

It’s so nice to hear about men being so supportive. It’s so important in those early weeks!

Micheley on

Good article.

Back in the day I used to be uncomfortable around family and friends who were breast feeding.

I agree with the above poster that we shouldn’t post judgement on those who do or don’t breastfeed. We don’t know why and being cruel isn’t helping. My mom tried and tried to breastfeed and she wasn’t able to, and people would always assume that she just didn’t want to which always bothered her.

Tee on

Wow, this was such a great and refreshing article to read! It takes a good man to admit that he had a problem with nursing to begin with. Sounds like he became a really supportive husband and helped his wife in any way possible while she fed their child!

Kara on

Awesome! A supportive partner can make all the difference when it comes to successful breastfeeding.

Carrie Jo on

Awww, that was really sweet!