311’s Nick Hexum Delivers Daughter Maxine

06/16/2011 at 04:00 PM ET

He’s a star on stage as the frontman of 311, but Nick Hexum has proven his talent out of the spotlight as well.

Despite having planned a midwife-assisted homebirth to deliver their second child — daughter Maxine Vita — the singer was forced to step in himself when wife Nikki suddenly went into labor.

However, things took a turn for the worse when the baby girl became lodged in the birth canal.

“After Max’s head popped out, the delivery stalled for the next couple of contractions. The baby’s head was blue and the umbilical cord was wrapped around her neck,” he tells PEOPLE of the May 1 birth. “I was worried the cord was choking her, keeping blood from getting to her brain.”

Courtesy Hexum Family

Fortunately, Hexum — who together with 311 will release their 10th studio album, Universal Pulse, on July 19 — was able to recall the couple’s elder daughter Echo‘s birth 21 months prior, and immediately began to coax the newborn out.

“I knew from observing and listening the first time around that sometimes the baby’s shoulder would get caught and they would have to reach in there and break its collar bone to free her,” he says. “I reached my fingers in there and felt the shoulders and rotated the baby back and forth.”

And with the next contraction, Maxine “slid out smoothly” — but Hexum’s work was not over yet, as his daughter was still not moving. “I jiggled her around until I heard a ‘wahhh!’ It was an amazing moment,” he remembers.

Ten minutes later, with the situation now under control, the midwife arrived to cut the cord.

“Everything was fine!” Hexum, 41, explains. “We never went to the hospital. We just sat in bed laughing and crying tears of joy about what a crazy experience it was.”

Courtesy Hexum Family

— Anya Leon

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Darian on

Very pretty baby!

AllisonJ on

Wow! What a story! I’m so glad little Maxine is OK and that her Daddy (and Mommy) stayed calm and were able to work through the difficult delivery.

Hopefully, a doctor or midwife checked out mom and baby to make sure both were OK and no serious damage had occured.

jessicamom#3 on

Congrats to them. I’m so glad he was able to stay calm and work thru the situation, but I will say this is why I have my babies in hospitals!!!

MS on

Um, why do people still do this at home?

This story could of been 100x worse.

Beautiful daughter and glad shes safe but, the alternative isnt worth avoiding medical professionals.

AA on

great story…..such a cute baby!

mindy on

Guys, it didn’t matter that they planned a home birth. If they’d planned a hospital birth, they would not have gotten there on time and dad would still have delivered the baby. He caught the baby because the birth happened so quickly that there was no time for the midwife to arrive.

There are good medical reasons why many of us have had planned home births and many safety and health benefits to doing so. I speak only for those of us who opted for planned home births with qualified midwifery care, not those who choose unassisted birth.

Margie on

Having a baby in a hospital doesn’t make you safe. Babies and mothers die in the hospital during childbirth every day. The US is ranked number 40 for maternal mortality rate..behind countries where midwives attend the majority of women.

Mike on

That could have been a “not so” Beautiful Disaster! Congrats Nick! See you guys in a month!! Can’t wait!

sarawara on

Uhm, the cord would have still been wrapped around her neck if she’d delivered at a hospital. Simmah down and be thankful. Congratulations Nick & Nikki! Maxine is beautiful!

Betty on

The baby looks like him… so beautiful together and what a story he will tell her all her life! and how proud she will feel about her father rising up to the occasion and being her hero. All went well that’s what counts!

annie on

as a nurse, i know all the considerations that need to go into delivering a baby, and all the complications that can occur. So i think it’s best to have a baby in a controlled setting, where everything (ex health professionals, medical equipment) is available IMMEDIATELY.. But I’m glad to hear it went well for them!!!

denise on

Why is everyone so happy about this? That baby could have died! Daddy is NO MD get real people!

marsha on

Having a baby at home would be ok if all the equipment were available for every possible scenario in the home as it is in the hospital setting. I have taken care of several severely brain damaged infants due to home delivery and the inability to do a stat c-section.

We need to remember that for centuries childbirth was the #1 cause of death in women and it wasnt unusual for babies to not survive.

Natalia on

Fortunately the baby is ok. Shoulder dystocia is just one of the reasons women are foolish for delivering at home. They are very lucky their baby was born alive, and hopefully will be neurologically intact in the future. Time will tell.

Cheryl Metrick on

hopefully the baby did not receive any brain damage. that unfortunately may not be noticeable until she is older.

911 should of been called as soon as mom went into labour

shalon on

Nothing wrong with having your children at home, i had two of mine there, then the stupid dr thought he was going to get paid for the delivery NOT

Hayley on

Congrats and way to go Nick!! She is beautiful! 🙂

Catherine on

Some posters: Err, really.

In this kind of situation, he did exactly what needed to be done NOT what a hospital provider would of done (and that would not have been in the best interest of resolving the situation). They both are to be commended in maintaining their composure.

And the midwife did evaluate both mom and baby!

MJ on

Not a great title. I’m pretty sure his WIFE delivered the baby and not him.

Crystal on

I agree with Jessicamom#3. I know that labor is unpredictable and at times can go really fast but to me being in a hospital setting is safer. Now, maybe she wasn’t able to make it to the hospital but for goodness sakes call an ambulance. There are just too many things that can go wrong with a home birth.

I for one am going to go the birthing center within a hospital route like Christy Turlington. That is the best of both worlds for a person like me.

Indira on

thats so wild! p.s, what a hottie he is.

Crystal on

I forgot to say I LOOOOVE the name Maxine!

Jen DC on

Good cool head. Also love “I LISTENED THE LAST TIME…” How many times have you heard a man say *that* and mean it?! (jk)

OK, I have no facts about home births v. hospital births, but it’s apparent that they can (and obviously do) go smoothly. Obviously speed was a factor in this one. But yeah, lucky baby, wife and man! More people should get emergency training if only for the benefit of remaining calm in chaos.

And she is ADORABLE. Look at all that hair!

mommytoane on

The ONLY reason women started going to the hopsital was because that was where DR’s started doing births…and it was considered a more *sterile* enviornment.

There is NOTHING wrong with home births. As long as baby, and mom are fine…theres no complications. Heck, I find her lucky! She gets to be in her OWN Bed after the baby is born. I would have loved to have done that!! Call me old fashioned but i see nothing wrong wtih home births.

Congratulations on the new little branch of the family tree. Shes precious!

vlamommy on

My baby died during my labor at a local hospital under the “care” of an OB/GYN. There are NO guarantees of a healthy delivery at a hospital. Congrats to Nick and family for the blessing of their baby girl 🙂

momto3 on

I had a PLANNED home birth and the exact same thing happened to me, my labour started and ended so quickly that my midwife never made it in time and My husband delivered our son!! And I agree with Nick, it was an AMAZING experience and I wouldn’t have done it any other way!!

Congratualtions to them, this will be an amazing story to share with the kids when they get older!!:)

Erin on

If the midwife hadn’t even gotten there yet, it’s unlikely they would have made it to a hospital anyway. They would have been in the car or something, which would have been much worse. They were at home, prepared with supplies and a set-up for giving birth. The fact that they had planned for a homebirth to begin with was probably the best thing that could have happened to them, in this case.

Lauren on

Loooove me some Nick Hexum..my only true celebrity obsession since the age of 14 =)

Congrats to you Nick, you are an amazing man in so many ways, look forward to your next concert in ATL =)

Sarah S. on

What a story to tell his children when they grow up!! Congrats to Nick on being a stand-up guy and Dad! 🙂

Lisa on

Congrats to them! Glad that everything was okay.

As a side note, the USA has the HIGHEST mom/baby MORTALITY rate of all DEVELOPED COUNTRIES. The USA has the highest number of hospital births, the highest number of c-sections & the lowest number of mid-wives per capita. Info from a little organization called the WORLD HEALTH ORGANIZATION.

Natalia on

Shoulder dystocia is one of the reasons why homebirthing is dangerous. Better off to be in a birthing center in a hospital where emergent interventions are possible. They’re lucky their baby didn’t die or end up with a broken clavicle or nerve damage in the shoulder/arm.

Aja on

My first baby came so quickly that I nearly delivered him in the car on the way to the hospital. My second was born peacefully and safely at home.

Anyone who says planning a home birth for a low-risk pregnancy is irresponsible doesn’t have their facts straight. Period.

Correy on

Congrats to Nick & his wife! I hope they enjoy many 8:16 AM’s with their two daughters!

Anonymous on

For those concerned about shoulder dystocia and why that makes home birth dangerous: being in a hospital doesn’t “fix” a shoulder dystocia. A stuck baby is a stuck baby and is only fixed with repositioning, turning, sometimes intentionally fracturing a baby’s arm/shoulder, or cutting an episiotomy. All the hospital trappings in the world, including c-section, will not fix a c-section. Cases that move to section after a dystocia have a nearly 100% mortality rate for the infant.

In fact, women without anesthesia are better able to move and reposition to allow a baby to move down and out FAR better than a woman flat on her back, numb, and often in stirrups, as is common in hospitals. And one of the most effective methods of resolving a dystocia was invented by a home birth midwife and is known as the Gaskin Maneuver.

So while I would not CHOOSE to experience a shoulder dystocia ANYWHERE, I see little advantage as far as morbidities (nerve damage, fractures, etc) in a hospital birth. Birth injuries, including brain injuries are common in hospital settings as well as home settings. Calling an educated consumer who choses home birth “irresponsible” is not only ignorant, but in a culture where infants and woman have the risks outlined by WHO and previous posters IN a hospital, is actually irresponsible in and of itself.

Been There on

She’s beautiful and I pray she is okay. Unfortunately, you cannot tell at this stage if she has any permanent damage.

My son was born blue, had an Apgar score of 1 at one minute and 2 at five minutes and was put on a respirator. The doctor stated that brain damage can show itself in many forms…delayed development, learning disabilities, even emotional disabilities. My son seemed perfectly normal and developed on “schedule”…until he was school-aged. Then, we realized there was damage, but we dealt with it and were happy he was alive.

A. on

Wow, what a story! Glad all turned out well for them!

AmandaK on

Congrats to them! What a dramatic entrance into the world for little Maxine. Props to daddy for knowing what to do. My husband probably would’ve had a heart attack on the spot!

C.Heston on

To all the people criticizing, which part of “suddenly going into labor” don’t you understand? Be happy that he was there to help his wife and that they have a beautiful baby! Jeez. Nick – way to go! New single rocks!

LRL on

was he on the phone with 911 or someone helping him deliver the baby?

Anya on

Love seeing Home birthing celebs! We have our babies at home and it’s incredible. I’d never set foot in a Hospital.. my first baby died in one.

melissa on

I’m having a home birth and proud of it!

Janice Pielert on

What a beautiful, precious man. The world needs more like him.

SadieA on

The fact that they planned on a home birth has absolutely nothing to do with the events that occurred. She went into labor suddenly and he had to step up.

If he hadn’t mentioned that they planned on using a midwife, everyone would be praising him. And I say this as someone who would never plan on giving birth outside of a hospital.

dori on

MS – please… people do this at home because it’s obvious that it’s possible. Go give The Business of Birth a watch. if i ever have another child she will be born at home, too.

Lisa on

Being at the hospital is nothing but false security, two of my babies died at birth, cord accidents, while an obgyn was standing right there.

Nicks daughter would have been born at home either way, im glad he was prepared and kept calm.

MamaGarcia on

I had my children at home. Both of them. My oldest was a similar delivery and we had a midwife standing by. Everything was FINE.

I dont see why people get so bent out of shape. Women deliver babies at home ALL the time and live. Society needs to stop treating pregnant women as sick people and start realizing that unless you have a medical condition there is no need to be at a hospital IF you have a trained medical profession (midwife) standing by.

CONGRATS to Nick and his wife on their beautiful little girl

christine on

I’m glad this worked out. I do not disagree with home birth and think for those who have low risk pregnancies and know the risks invovled in giving birth without the immediate care like that which a hospital setting could easily provide, it is a reasonable choice.

However I do not think the lack of homebirths and use of midwives or the increased number of hospital births in the U.S. that makes it rank among the highest in infant mortatlity rates in industrialized countries. i think it is our diet, habits, and lack of exercise. I bet you won’t find many French woman eating fast food every day. Nor will you find many other European women smoking, drinking, or doing illegal drugs. Americans live in excess and are in denial that it could be harming pregnancies.

MSW on

Dumbass! Baby was stuck, umbilical cord around the neck, baby was blue…. Never a thought to call 911. You might not even notice severe brain damage till the baby is a toddler. Your childs health should be a top priority.

Kayla on

Congrats to the whole family. A homebirth with a CNM for a low-risk Mom is safer than a hospital birth–numerous studies around the world have proven that.

As someone whose had two precipitous births, I can attest to the fact that even if one plans to go to the hospital–it doesn’t always work out that way. My second child came in 3 hours–we just made it, after getting stuck in NYC traffic. My fourth child arrived in 20 minutes after the start of labor. #1 and #3 were 18 and 20 hours labor.

Precipitous births are no fun–contractions are super intense with no breaks. Like pitocin on steroids. Everybody should know the basics of what to do just in case. You can get a handout on the Certified Nurse Midwives site.

Erika on

I’m glad everything is okay! She is a beautiful baby!

I agree with jessicamomof3, I would never have a baby at home either. Sure, a cord can get wrapped around the baby’s neck in a hospital, but God forbid it cuts off the oxygen supply, doctors can do an emergency c-section and get the baby out quickly. Nobody ever said that it can’t happen in a hospital, but there is more that they can do in that situation.

It seems better to be safe than sorry. It is a personal choice, and I don’t have anything against anyone who wants a homebirth, but I personally would rather be in the hands of medical professionals where I can get the best care. I’d rather be safe than sorry.

Lighten up folks on

The situation turned out just the way it was supposed to. The baby is fine and hospitals are for the ill, not for delivering babies. Educate yourselves about midwifery care and home births BEFORE you go off on your tangents about why they should have gone to a hospital.

Had they planned a hospital birth, they would have been in the same situation and the person delivering the baby would have hopefully done the same thing or worse, a C-Section,vacuum or forceps!

Good for them for handling that situation as calmly as they did. The baby is fine, they are fine so let it be!

Andrew Nelson on

Nick gave to the world, and the world gave back.

ashley on

it’s great that the baby was delivered safely but what if she hadn’t been?

when i was pregnant with my daughter, i had every intention of delivering her naturally at the hospital. but while i was in labor i had placenta abrupto and if a nurse hadn’t come in to check me when she did both myself and my daughter would have died if not for the emergency c-section that was performed. complications can occur anywhere but if i wasn’t in a hospital that night i wouldn’t be here today.

Toya L. on

I agree with others, I had strong Braxton Hicks and thought that was what I was having, needless to say I had my baby at home. It was that fast. Adorable baby and I’m glad everything was okay for them.

Miche on

I lost a dear college friend 6 years ago. She had a mid-wife assisted home birth. She labored for over a day and pushed for 3 hours. She finally pushed out her little boy but then started bleeding and losing consciousness. They called 911 and an ambulance came but she died before they could get her to the hospital. Her husband and baby lost their wife and mother that day. We were waiting for the call to tell us that she had the baby and what she had. Instead we got the call about her death. It is for this reason that I have had my kids in hospitals.

Childbirth used to kill many, many women and infants. My great grandmother had a sister who died giving birth and she lost the baby. In this day and age of medicine, I don’t know why anyone would choose to risk their health without assistance. Even in a hospital setting, you can choose the amount of intervention provided (no one straps anyone to a table and forces a Csection without their permission). But at least it is right there if you need it.

I realize that in this case they didn’t have time to get to the hospital, but I just don’t think people should preach about the evils of hospitals. Sure, women have been birthing children since the beginning of time, but many more women used to die in childbirth too. Why take the chance?

SAR on

I have no idea who Nick Hexum is, but that birth sounds harrowing. I’m glad both mother and baby are fine.

J on

Oh for Pete’s sake MJ.

amy on

What a TOTAL STUD! I am so impressed!

gungun on

I’m sure peoples have their own choice about how their babies should born, home birth or hospitals, i don’t think any parents think lightly about their babies birth, they know the best for their babies.

Congrats Nick, come again to Indonesia.

Tee on

Wow, what an awesome story! Way to go, Daddy, for staying calm and getting your daughter out safely! Homebirth is an amazing thing when done properly and I love to hear about celebrities bringing attention to such a great alternative! So many women are not even aware of this great alternative for a healthy pregnancy!

I’m not even going to read the comments on this post. I’m sure there are plenty of people that are not educated in this style of birth that are bashing both midwives and people that choose to birth at home. I don’t want to read about it because 95% of the time, they come from people that have chosen to remain ignorant and spout their fears off without bothering to research homebirth. And for those of you that think that way, four of my five nieces were born at home. The youngest one was 11 pounds, six weeks overdue and sunny side up. It can be done safely under all sorts of circumstances.

Sophia on

I didn’t read the whole story, but I’m definitely struck by their choice of names for their babies. Echo…then Maxine?! So unexpected! Baby is beautiful 🙂

rachael on

Women die in hospital births too. I’ve witnessed women who have died at caesarean, I’ve witnessed brutality in hospitals to both mother and babies, I’ve seen babies die from unnecessary interventions that go wrong, I talk with women who have been ‘birth raped’, suffer PTSD, PND… Hospital certainly isn’t the safest place to give birth for all women, it isn’t a one shoe fits all approach. 1-2-1 midwifery care is the gold standard of care, for all women. Homebirth is very safe for most women it is made even safer when hospital staff work with the woman and her midwife to make contingency plans. Of course some women/babies require contingency plans and hospital is the best place for them and they deserve to access to that care. I know women can usually get to a operating theatre quicker from home, than from the maternity ward to the operating theatre in many cases.

Sounds like this bub had a sticky shoulder and dad helped it to restitute. Great job to mum and dad. Birth has many variations, doesn’t make it dangerous, just special and unique.

PS. homebirth midwives are very skilled people, and carry all the medical equipment that may be necessary in an emergency. At the end of the day as sad as it is sometimes no matter where a woman gives birth the outcome is death. That is tragic. But life is a risk, we can’t always plan for.

Noelle on

Wow. I’m glad he stayed calm because the last thing any of them needed was him freaking out, BUT, I have to agree with a previous poster….DUMBASS. Under those circumstances, he should’ve called 911. The outcome of this situation could very well have been horribly bad. They are very lucky.

Nonetheless, I’m glad they’re all okay, but for me, it would be a little too soon to be “laughing” about it.

m on

@miche You can die in a hospital from a postpartum hemorrhage, things happen. It is really tragic what happened to your friend and it is a shame she couldn’t be saved but if she would have died in a car accident would you refuse to get in a car again? Also there are many women who are wheeled in to c-sections against their wills. Docs pump pitocin until the baby can’t recover anymore so they can section them. It happens! Hospitals do not equal safety.

Anonymous on

home is the best! if they had planned a hospital birth they would have been on the way stuck in a car, unclean, unsafe and making everything way more complicated because they planned a home birth I’m sure they had the place ready for when labor started and were prepared it sounds like the midwife was on the way – do more research into us birth rates hospitals and home births and compare them to world statics its pretty interesting

KathyH on

What a great story. I am so glad he was able to help his wife birth their daughter. But, make no mistake, his wife did most of the work. This article makes it seem like he did most of it! LOL! No way. The wife did most of it. He just provided a bit of assistance.

This is a great homebirth story. Babies should be born at home, with midwives, unless there is a dramatic medical reason otherwise. Birth is normal! Only emergencies need to go to the hospital!

frank armani on

Nod your head to that! Congrats.

Charmaine on

Congrats Nick & Nikki on your most awesome experience bringing Maxine into the world to join your beautiful family! I’m so happy for you and can’t wait to see you at the Pow Wow. Rock on!

Terri on

I’ve never heard of 311. Glad the birth ended with a happy result.

Amy on

Way to go Nick!! I’m so glad everything went well with little Maxine and your wife Nikki! I would love to try a home birth one day. Can’t wait to see you this summer and looking forward to Universal Pulse!

brandy on

I had a planned home birth and it was absolutely perfect (and I’ve never heard any of my friends that had hospital births say this!). The lights were dim, I delivered in a birth pool, just two people near me. It was my first baby and just 7 hours from start to finish because I was able to relax and focus. No medication, just visualization and focus (delivering in water helps tons).

AND my baby got stuck (shoulder dystocia) but the midwife just went in with her fingers and turned him and he slid right out, at 8.5 pounds! No episio and no tears. I was walking around and using the toilet right away, the easiest of recoveries! And there are absolutely no problems with my baby, he’s ahead of the developmental curve for everything and he’s in the 90th percentile for height and weight (solely breastmilk-fed).

Why would I need a doctor to intervene for something my body was made to do? I’m not sick and pregnancy is not a disease (although hospitals are full of these!)Giving birth in the hospital (most of the time)just leads to unnecessary interventions and stress, which leads to much longer and more stressful labors. It’s a woman’s choice where she gives birth but the American media has made home births seem dangerous and if you have a normal pregnancy, it’s just as safe as a hospital birth (and some studies from the Netherlands show it to be safer than hospital births). All the facts and statistics are referenced in Ina May Gaskin’s book: Ina May Gaskin’s Guide to Childbirth.

Also a great watch is The Business of Being Born. After watching that, it’s clear that hospitals, just like all for-profit companies, are out to maximize profit and there’s a lot of money to be made during labor (with expensive drugs, interventions, procedures, surgeries, etc).

I look back at my birth experience and I feel empowered and strong and I wouldn’t have changed a thing. I wish more women would feel empowered and confident enough in their own bodies to give home birth a try. There would be more happy mamas and happy babies!

And I would never say I was lucky, I would say that my story could be similar to that of many, many more women if they gave home births a chance. Sorry to post long but I’m passionate about women taking back control of their labors and not giving up their power to doctors who don’t always have your best interests in mind. 🙂

Julie Lowe on

Way to go Dad. My grandfather delivered all of his kids and I almost had to deliver one of my own so congragulations.Of course things can go wrong but back in the day people often delivered their own children and they were fine.I am glad things were ok and I know your going to cherish this moment always.Welcome to the world Baby Girl Maxine.

Anonymous on

“Fortunately, Hexum — who together with 311 will release their 10th studio album, Universal Pulse, on July 19 — was able to recall the couple’s elder daughter Echo‘s birth 21 months prior, and immediately began to coax the newborn out.”

Was that plug in the middle of a completely irrelevant story REALLY necessary??!

Rebecca on

A cord wrapped around the neck is a variation of normal. My youngest had this when she was born. She’s currently an active 3 1/2 year old that’s smart as a whip and progressing so quickly. It’s sad that so many women are so petrified of childbirth. Many have had NO experience with it until they have their own children.

cc on

DONT SOME OF YOU PEOPLE READ OR JUST READ WHAT PARTS YOU WANT. IT READS: “Despite having planned a midwife-assisted homebirth to deliver their second child — daughter Maxine — the singer was forced to step in himself when wife Nikki suddenly went into labor.”

She suddenlt went into labor dont you understand English? Get a grip and dont be so critical.

Jillian on

Congrats! I am glad that this all worked out and everyone involved is ok! Baby is beautiful and so is daddy! Not only did mom deliver baby…..but so did dad! Regardless if a homebirth had been planned, it sounded like this baby had a plan of it’s own. I am one who wanted in the hospital, but I know many who have had homebirths now and even 35 years ago successfully. I am glad they were one of them.

chelle on

He was much hotter in the early days with blonde hair.

Give him some credit for doing what it took to get the baby out. We can all agree and disagree but dont let it ruin this for them. I hope you all have a heartwarming story someday that you share with the world and people critisise you and crucify you for sharing your story. Good luck people. Whether it was a mistake or not, quit being so rude. its not attractive.

Alana on

6 weeks overdue!?!?! wow what an amazing mom she has.
Tee never heard of this long time overdue, but i’m really glad she’s ok and growing. God bless.

What matters in Nick’s story that it all went well, their daughter is hear happy and healthy. Way to go Dad, it’ll be an amazing story to share with Maxine once she’s older.

Lydia on

Although i don’t think this is the right place to have this discussion, I just have to say something because they’re are so many ignorant comments. Home births are totally safe. In fact studies Prove that home births assisted by registered midwives are as safe and some times even safer than hospital births.

I was born at home and I was lucky enough to have a home birth with my second child after a c section with my first. Midwives have everything they need in case of an emergency and can transport to the hospital vert quickly if needed. They know the signs to look for in case mother or baby need to go. So don’t judge people that chose to have their babies at home….it’s totally safe and non of your business! And congrats to the family.

Leyla on

Good Job momma and daddy!!!!!!!!!!!!

MiB on

Awesome dad for staying calm and keeping his head on, and for listening and learning the first time around! The fact that he was already prepared for a home birth probably helped him keep calm as did the fact that he had already been there for his older daughters birth. At least that helped according to a family friend who delivered his second at home while waiting for the midwife to arrive, she was 5 minutes late and she lived 15 minutes by car from their house, already had her gear packed and got in the car a couple of minutes after they realized she was actually in labour (she had had pretty strong Braxton Hicks for nearly a month, so she thought it was just that at first). Chances are that the baby would have been born at home even if they had called 911 as it was a friday night and the ambulances were pretty busy already.

I wanted to say that midwifes ARE trained medical professionals specialized in normal birth! That also means that they know (or at least should know) when to transfer to hospital. Midwifes are trained to deal with shoulder dystocia, wrapped cords and pp hemorrhaging. In many countries they are required to bring medical equipment like oxygen (for both mother and child) and picotin to home deliveries.

jessicad on

I’m one of those who feels more comfortable giving birth in a hospital, I work there and know people on every floor so I personally feel safer, but I respect the choice to have a home birth and I’m glad everything turned out ok in this situation. That’s awesome he really paid attention last time and knew what to do, it probably saved his daughter!

In my opinion, if Dr’s, nurses, and midwives would work together and respect each other more it would be better for women during labor. My sister just gave birth in a hospital and went completely natural, she had a great OB/GYN who stepped back and let us women do all the work and he came in to check occasionally and of course at the end for the actual delivery, he said most women just instinctively know what to do and he respects that. My sister was totally comfortable and had the experience she wanted!

SK on

My 2 year old daughter’s name is Max too 🙂

NatalieC on

I would never deliver a baby at home unless it were an emergency. Like this one. And, if I saw my baby BLUE, and I’m not a DOCTOR myself…I think we’d head to the hospital afterward to make sure the babies OK. Why do people feel the need to possibly put lives in jeopardy to deliver with a mid-wife at HOME? What a bunch of nuts. I’m sorry…

Olivia on

What a great daddy and what a fantastic birth partner!

Emilie on

Oh wow, he just got 100x times hotter!

Lisa on

Cracks me up when people think a hospital is so much safer than home (for low-risk women). When I give birth at home, my midwife is right next to me the entire time, monitoring me and the baby with the Doppler, her eyes, her ears, her whole body. The one time I gave birth in a hospital (to a preemie, nonetheless) I was alone in the room with my husband and a monitor on my belly that lost the baby’s heartrate every time I rolled over. The reading was monitored remotely by some random nurse at the nurse’s station (who didn’t even believe I was contracting since the monitor didn’t pick them up). So what happens if something goes wrong in the hospital? The nurse has to be paying attention, the nurse has to realize something’s wrong, the nurse has to call the doctor, the doctor has to come to the room (could take upwards of 20 minutes at my local hospital if it’s off-hours since they don’t stay on the premises), the doctor has to assess me, the doctor has to make the decision to act. So midwife with 100% of her attention focused on me and me alone, or random nurse in another room who may or may not be paying attention to me and possibly several other women? Hmmm, which is safer…?

rj on

If the midwife didn’t make it there on time, there’s no way they would have made it to the hospital in time had they planned to go that route. Worse, they probably would have ended up trying to deal with this on the road to the hospital.

The simple fact that they were planning a homebirth made them better prepared for this. He mentions that he had paid attention at the last birth and knew sometimes the shoulders get stuck. In general (and yes, it doesn’t apply to every person in every situation because it’s a generalization) people planning homebirths are opting to take more responsibility for their births, bodies, and babies, and do more research and learning to become prepared than those who are planning hospital births with doctors.

Care with a doctor at the hospital promotes handing over a fair amount of personal responsibility and allowing someone else to be the expert and decision maker over your body, birth and baby instead of the educated consultant who informs, discusses, educates and ultimately respects that it’s your body and your choice.

He was better prepared for this because they were planning a homebirth. I’ve seen doctors in the hospital freak out over a possible shoulder dystocia. And it didn’t even appear to be a true dystocia; shoulders just needed to restitute but doc didn’t have time to wait for another contraction. Baby looked bigger than expected and didn’t shoot right out after the head emerged so she started calling for all kinds of maneuvers in the first 30 seconds, which were barely performed before the bub came flying out, with no extra pushing from mom. So in that case, we had an “emergency” that wasn’t even an emergency. But at least the baby was saved.

shawn on

That is great news for you nick and your family . As a recent father myself i can relate to that amazing moment of that first breath . Keep on rocking and ill see you in ST.LOUIS and at the POW WOW !! 311 – 3 – 3 – 11 ps. can not wait fo the new album .

Mike on

LOL Nick and his wife beaters…

jennifer on

I’ve been a 311 fan since the very beginning. Nick Hexum is the most amazing, beautiful person to ever grace this planet. He’s not just beautiful on the outside, but he’s beautiful on the inside too. He has an amazing, poetic heart and his lyrics have inspired my life in ways I can’t even begin to describe.

Congrats to the second-time dad… and Happy Father’s Day!

Maggie McDonald on

What an awesome dad! Not many daughters can talk about their birth experience like Max will. Blessings to the Hexum Familiy!!

Jill on

Proud Papa! Congratulations! Nick Hexum–the only man I know that makes a wife beater look sexy! Can’t wait for the new album, and the shows this summer!

shannon on

Can we all come to an agreement on something? Clearly there is not a “one size fits all” means of where and how to deliver children. The best thing for everyone is to research their options and decide for themselves which is best for them (hospital, home, birthing center, etc.). Discuss it with doctors, nurses, and midwives and make the decision from there. Of course, since childbirth can be unpredictable—as Nick and his wife learned—it’s always a good idea to have a plan B if things go awry.

We need to be educated about the benefits and risks of all available means of delivery and childbirth in order to make the decision that is best of us as individuals. Hospital births aren’t for everyone. Then again, neither is home birth.

Morgan on

Good job daddy! It’s a good thing they were planning a homebirth anyway!

Erin L on

Congrats to them! To everybody saying he should have called 911: EMTs are not OBs or midwives, I can almost guarantee you they wouldn’t have had a clue what to do, and wouldn’t have been as calm and cool as Nick. In fact, once the baby was born, they probably would have clamped or tied off her cord immediately, which would have been the worst thing for her.

I had a homebirth and was hemorrhaging a few hours later. We called 911 because we thought it was the responsible, safe thing to do. WRONG! It was the worst thing we could have done. The EMT’s didn’t know what they were doing. One of them didn’t even know the difference between the placenta and the uterus. And she was a woman. Their panic and inexperience just made the situation worse. They didn’t even try to treat me, because they were so focused on “saving” the baby (who was perfectly fine and had already nursed and gone to sleep at that point). I ended up being fine, and would have been better off if we had just waited it out. The midwife was doing her job just fine, but we thought we should call 911 to be “better safe than sorry”. Well it wasn’t better and we were sorry.

MammaDucky on

They did the right thing, leaving the cord intact till the midwife arrived. Allowed the baby to recover a little longer! Cord around the neck isn’t really an emergency, in most cases, and is quite common. A tight nuchal chord that impedes delivery may be dangerous but can often times be remedied via the somersault technique. The “management” of these chord issues (clamping and cutting nuchal chords) is often times what causes a problem. Google it people. Become more educated on how birth really works.

Lovetooteach on

Anyone who bashes a Home Birth is very uneducated about it!!!! They are not unassisted in most cases. Most home births are attended by a trained midwife, many of whom are state certified and have been in the medical profession as either a former OBGYN or LD Nurse. If you do your research on a home birth you will discover that they are much safer than you know, and in most cases are safer than a hospital birth. Do your research before you bash something you know nothing about! All of the things that could go wrong in a home birth can go wrong in a hospital as well.

I find Nick and his wife very brave and was very happy to hear about their choices to have a home birth!

Tee on

Jessicad, thank you for the comment you left here. More often than not, people that are pro hospital birth are so ugly towards homebirthers. (And vice versa at times!) It’s nice to read a reasonable comment supporting other people’s decisions!

NatalieC, you said “I would never deliver a baby at home unless it were an emergency. Like this one. And, if I saw my baby BLUE, and I’m not a DOCTOR myself…I think we’d head to the hospital afterward to make sure the babies OK. Why do people feel the need to possibly put lives in jeopardy to deliver with a mid-wife at HOME? What a bunch of nuts. I’m sorry…”

I don’t understand your comment. Why are people that birth at home “putting lives in jeopardy?” Have you ever researched homebirth? More women and babies die in the hospital than they do at home. I’m not trying to argue with you but I am trying to understand where you’re coming from. Seems awfully harsh to call people nuts without bothering to check the facts first.

Alana, we thought Vivi was never going to grace us with her presence! Thank you for your sweet words! Yes, my sister is an amazing Mom and Vivi is an amazing kid! She’ll be two in September and is such a blessing to our family.

laurelcanyonfashionista on

i have always wondered about that statistic “more babies/women die from childbirth in hosptials than during a homebirth…”

the reason that statement always gives me pause is because usually if there is any sort of emergency in a homebirth, then there is a hosptial transfer and the woman delivers at the hospital and not at home.

also, in most of the cases where babies are born prematurely, they are born and attempted to be saved at the hospital. not many midwives would suggest that a woman 27 weeks pregnant give birth at home should she go into labor- but at a hosptial, a woman who is 27 weeks pregnant will deliver and all measures will be taken to save the life of her child.

many children are delivered now at 23 or 24 weeks- just the cusp of viability- and many of those babies die in the hospital. they would obviously have no better chance in a homebirth situation (much much worse in fact).

and then when statistics cite how horrible infant mortality rates are in the US, i also often wonder about the methodology. Many countries do not try to save babies born at 23, 24, 25, 26, and even 27 or 28 weeks. In the US, if your baby is born near viability (23 1/2 weeks), they will intubate and try to save your baby.

I was once someone who wanted to have a homebirth (i watched the business of being born and read mothering magazine, etc.)– but for all three of my deliveries, i have delivered in a hospital and am so glad i did.

my first birth i had pre-eclampsia and would have died in a homebirth setting (my grandmother did die from eclampsia in her homebirth with my uncle).

my second birth- i had stillborn twins (they both died prior to delivery)- and had i not been in a hosptial, i would have died because my placenta would not detach and i started bleeding to death. it took 5 doctors at cedars-sinai to save my life (it was a vaginal delivery…so no c-section complications).

my third birth- my daughter was born not breathing and the nicu team worked on her to get her started- and maybe she would have been okay in a homebirth- but i kinda doubt it because again, it was a lot of people working on her to get her to breathe, and the equipment they used was very advanced.

so there ya have it. i used to be a big proponent of homebirth, but more often than not now when i hear about a homebirth i think it is foolish to take risks when we have medical technology at our fingertips that can save the lives of mother/child.

yes- a hosptial birth may not be the PERFECT birth experience…but having buried two of my babies, I know that the perfect birth experience is the one where your baby comes home alive.

I know some people can have uncomplicated homebirths- it is just something that has never happened for me- and I am a healthy, young, fit woman and prior to my first delivery, no reason to believe that I wouldn’t be able to deliver at home.

so i guess for me, the stakes are just too high knowing the risks, the benefits, and what can happen during a birth.

Just my two cents from someone who has been there…

m on

@laurel- Preeclampsia would have risked you out of a home birth with a licensed midwife. It would have been caught and maybe even corrected earlier in your pregnancy w/ a midwife. Your placenta not detaching, a midwife would have taken you to the hospital, not just let you bleed to death at home. Midwives are trained in Neonatal Resuscitation and are qualified to help babies breath who don’t breathe right away. There may have been a lot of people working on her but there may not have needed to be.

Your situations were all unique of each other and of any other woman. Because hospital birth was the right decision for you doesn’t mean it is for everyone. Medical technology is not always a good thing. OBs used dangerous medicines and do dangerous procedures because they have the safety net of an OR. I don’t know about you but I don’t ever want to be experimented on. Midwives are trained to save lives. The dad in this story saved his baby life w/ no training at home. No hospital needed.

Holly on

Yeah a homebirth…….I’ve had two of my babies at home and felt safer than at a hospital.

G. on

Yes, Daddy! Well done. Even though there were a few hairy moments, your daughter was still better off at him with Dad than in a hospital where medical protocol would have taken over plain ‘ole good sense. As the Mom of two home-birthed babies, I congratulate and applause you!

Jennifer on

Great job dad! And congrats on a wonderful home birth

Lolita on

CONGRATS and THANK GOD for having a beautiful daughter. I witnessed my lil sisters delivery and it was amazing. Thank God for your family and the band giving us many amazing years of great music.


Denise on

The best thing about this article is the fact that they did not call an ambulance but waited for the midwife to arrive. This will help impact American’s perspective tremendously on home births even though we have a long way to go. This is awesome. So happy Max made it safely by way of her dad not letting fear overtake his instincts. ♥ Congrats to the Hexum family!!!

Molly on

Nick Hexum is awesome and his wife is totally LUCKY to have him.

kimmie on

To all those saying that the hospital birth is the safest, you should google up Claudia Melia, or read http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,274116,00.html

Kayla on

People.. please watch the business of being born or something. Im so tired of homebirth being frowned upon. I have had 2 hospital births, both with an uneeded episiotomy and one with a face presentation where they tried taking me in for a c section while I pushed him out myself 2 seconds later. Horrible experiences for me. My last baby (3 weeks ago) was born at home into the water. My midwife did not make it and walked in within 5 minutes after baby. I pushed for 2 minutes max… he came out purple with the cord around his neck sunny side up and cried within 5 seconds. 2 weeks late still covered in vernix, completely healthy placenta after a 45 minute total labour and birth. It was perfection. Babies can die at home, they can die at the hospital, babies sometimes just die and its something out of our control.

sagefemme on

I’m a CNM. This dad did an excellent job catching his baby during a precipitous birth. Yay for him and his cool thinking!

For those who seem to think a) that a nuchal cord is an emergency and b) that a hospital is a kind of magic shield against disaster, there are some excellent peer-reviewed studies that disagree with you. The Pang study on home birth in Washington State is a good place to begin.

As a labor nurse, I caught plenty of precip births in the hospital when the doc didn’t show up in time. If a birth is going that quickly, it’s almost always because it’s gong fine. Fear of birth is common in our culture, but fear shouldn’t replace respect.

Jeffrey R on

What a story, Hexum has allways been an inspiration to me and this tops it all. With two kids of my own I know what he was feeliing when this was going down. So glad for the sake of the newborn and Congrates to the Hexum family to their new angel. Cant imagine going out on tour as soon as he is after that but works work no matter what you do. I’m sure hes got something positive to say about that.
Livin, rockin, laughin, and lovin

Natasha on

Since the midwife didn’t have time to get to them do you really think they would have made it to a hospital? Better off that he assisted his wife at home than try to do it on the side of the road.

Joy on

I wish I could have had a home birth. i think it would be so much more comforting to be in my own bed, with my own things surrounding me, my own familiarity, and there’s no reason (except in the case of there not being enough time, like this instance!) for one to be without medical help…and the incredible wonder it would be to have my DH deliver our baby! Unfortunately, it did not work out this way for us–our baby got caught, turned blue, had a broken clavicle, etc…reading this was like a deja vu, only we were stuck in the hospital due to prior complications…good thing her daddy remained calm! and what a brave mommy too! just a beautiful thing to hear about…in the midst of all the crazy.

meg on

As a mother who has had two c/secs, one stillbirth and one amazing homebirth after it all, I know without a doubt that home is the safest place to be. At home a midwife is with you, focussed on you, not what time her shift ends, or another woman in another room. At home, all the decisions are based on your health and your baby’s health, not on hospital protocol (which is designed to prevent litigation above all).

So. WRT this specific birth:

The baby came fast. They would have been in transit, not in the hospital when the baby got stuck.

Calling 911 would have been no help unless the father knew what was wrong to begin with. He knew what was wrong, he fixed it.

Claiming that hospitals are teh safest place to give birth is a symptom of brain washing. The statistics on hospital birth don’t favour this claim. The US ranks 40th in the world, behind countries like Lebanon, and many African countries. Study after study shows that this is because of the medical mismanagement of birth. Unhindered birth is ALWAYS safest. Intervention is ONLY when necessary, not for convenience, to follow hospital protocol, or to avoid litigation.

Midwifery care for low risk women (which is that VAST MAJORITY of healthy, normal women) is recommended by that well known bunch of hippies at THE WORLD HEALTH ORGANISATION. In fact, midwifery care is known as THE GOLD STANDARD OF CARE.

I notice that many of the previous comments state that the baby should be checked out in case it has brain damage. Will checking the baby out mean they can prevent or cure the brain damage? No! From the sounds of it, this baby is just fine, thanks to a quick thinking dad.

I see a distinct over reliance on obstetrics in this long list of comments. Interestingly though, that over reliance only applies to birth. People have little faith in other areas of medicine, in the treatment they receive in hospitals, people are constantly concerned about medical errors, and rightly so! Think outside the box! Hospitals are for sick people, not perfectly healthy women and their babies. A midwife can do everything a hospital can do. In fact from the angle of this article AN UNTRAINED FATHER can be a deft hand too!

kimmie on

you dont call 911 the moment your wife goes to labor especially when you planned a home birth. a friend’s baby died in the hospital cause she was told she must not push yet cuase the doctor is still on the way. they held her legs together and she screamed cuase it was unbearable to stop. her cord was wrapped around her neck twice and squeezed in the birth canal so she was not getting any oxygen and as the nurses prevented her to get out quickly to wait for the doctor, she was born blue and they couldnt resuscitate her. so when someone says you must go to the hospital to have the medical help, i would say no, thanks.

Capello Stagnola on

Some of these comments are just completely missing the point. This 2nd baby was a FAST labor. Many women are caught by surprise when it’s this fast and deliver without a professional in their homes. The outcomes are not always good, especially when complications arise.

The POINT here is that had the Hexums not already been educated homebirth advocates who knew what to do, the baby & mother likely would have had problems and not been ok. This is an example of how being educated and pro-homebirth SAVED lives. The Hexums are both heroes.

Molly on

@Noelle, how is calling him dumbass helping anyone? Oh yeah, it’s not. Why was her comment allowed to be posted? It shouldn’t be here

Glad everyone is healthy and okay 🙂

home sweet home birth on

I’ve had 3 homebirths – 2 of them in the water – they were amazing, beautiful, special events that made me feel strong and powerful. If more women had their babies at home, they would discover the true power they possess. My homebirthed babies (kids now…) are peaceful, well adjusted, and SMART. Having homebirths was one of the greatest gifts I gave to my kids AND to myself. I also breastfed each of them for one year. These two things combined are SO important for the best development of babies – WAY TO GO HEXUM FAMILY!!

Bonnie B. Matheson on

Interesting difference of opinion about home birth versus hospital birth, but I am very gratifide to see that it seems about evenly divided. To me that is huge progress, and a great sign that home birth is becoming mainstream again. (Of course it was once totally normal and preferred. Only poor women went to the hospital a hundred years ago.)

Home birth is not for everyone. If you are one of the people who posted here who clearly fears birth, then you must either educate yourself or go to the hospital. But for the woman who has asked home birth mothers about their experiences, who has talked ot a midwife, read some of the wonderful books like Ina May Gaskin’s or watched “The Business of Being Born”, they know birth is safe.

Birth is natural. It is NOT a medical emergency.

It can erupt into an emergency but it is actually rare as long as a woman has not been subjected to Interventions by the hospital staff or a doctor.

Birth is safe, interventions are risky. Take a look at http://www.childbirthsolutions.com to learn more about safe natural birth.

thekeoghfamily on

laurelcanyonfashionista: Your story sounds a bit fishy…you say you watched The Business of Being Born, released in Spring 2008 then went on to have THREE births …it’s June 2011…hmmm…

Yay for another great homebirth! A cord wrapped around the neck is NOT an emergency, it happens often!!

Betty on

Nick, She is absolutely beautiful! These people with all the negative comments have no clue that you are all about positivity. Can’t wait to see you in the ATL.

Melanie on

Congrats to Nick and Nikki on their beautiful second addition. Glad everything went well and that Nick was the big hero! Can’t wait for your new album! 🙂

Nursemomof3 on

I’m a nurse who chose to have a midwife attended homebirth after having two hospital births for reasons to numerous to go into here. Here’s a little info for all yal haters. The OR needs to be prepared and on call people need to be called. There are no such thing as an immediate C-Sec. It takes an average of 20min to even be ready to begin a C-Sec. Low risk homebirths are safer for mom AND baby than hospital births, FACT, period, numerous studies have shown this. Shoulder dystocia is most effectively fixed by the gaskin maneuver (mom moving to hands and knees), NOT by hospital intervention, C-sec is NOT an option for shoulder dystocia…the baby’s head is not going to go back in to be able to be pulled out from the other way. Nuchal cords (cord around the neck) is VERY common and RARELY causes complications.

Brains damage from stalling for TWO contractions?! Please. Stop trying to make these parents fear that their baby will have brain damage, their baby is beautiful and perfect and soooo lucky to have informed parents who want to avoid unecessary and often deadly medical intervention. Doesn’t sound like shoulder dystocia anyway if all he had to do was move baby around a bit and then she slid right out. Why should he call 911??? He was in the middle of delivering a baby…hello! He knew what to do, calling 911 would have just wasted time if it was a true emergency (which it doesn’t sound like it was 😉 I know what to do if my child is chocking, it would serve them better for me to respond immediately than to waste time calling 911.

ANYWAY….Congradulations to the proud parents! What a blessing! Not only to have such a beautiful new little person in their lives but to have the gift of the intimacy of doing it at home and having dad so involved in the delivery. How empowering for mom and dad. Don’t listen to the people telling you otherwise Nick, they are just not as informed as you, you’re family is so lucky to have you!!! What a wonderful story for little Maxine someday!!! Beautiful.

fuzibuni on

My husband was born at home… labor came on quickly and they couldn’t make it to the hospital. They called 911 right away, but he was born before the paramedics arrived.

blessedwithboys on

Thank goodness this variation of normal didn’t happen in hospital! The poor mother would have been cut all the way to her butt and then baby would have been forcibly yanked out, which is more likely to cause brain damage than the nuchal cord itself.

Another “HB saves a baby” story! Love it. 🙂

S on

I didn’t read all the comments, but did anyone note that even if he had called 911, that the baby needed to be delivered long before they would have arrived?

Also, doctors sometimes break clavicles because babies heal so quickly, and brachial plexus injuries from birth usually resolve during the first year. I am also sure, knowing the media that they want us all to think this child’s head was turning horrendous dark blue rather than the slight blue that can accompany a slight delay. Since he was able to wiggle her out, it sounds as though it was not even a true dystocia. Sticky shoulders happen and children are fine after they transition to the outside world, which takes a few minutes. Please don’t scare people with cries of “brain damage.” Those are the exceptions, not the rule. Home birth is safe for normal, low-risk pregnancies with a trained professional, but birth will happen wherever it needs to happen!

Shawn Elyce on

I’m going to repeat an obviously well-thought-out comment, cause it’s that good:

“I’m a nurse who chose to have a midwife attended homebirth after having two hospital births for reasons to numerous to go into here. Here’s a little info for all yal haters. The OR needs to be prepared and on call people need to be called. There are no such thing as an immediate C-Sec. It takes an average of 20min to even be ready to begin a C-Sec. Low risk homebirths are safer for mom AND baby than hospital births, FACT, period, numerous studies have shown this. Shoulder dystocia is most effectively fixed by the gaskin maneuver (mom moving to hands and knees), NOT by hospital intervention, C-sec is NOT an option for shoulder dystocia…the baby’s head is not going to go back in to be able to be pulled out from the other way. Nuchal cords (cord around the neck) is VERY common and RARELY causes complications.

Brains damage from stalling for TWO contractions?! Please. Stop trying to make these parents fear that their baby will have brain damage, their baby is beautiful and perfect and soooo lucky to have informed parents who want to avoid unecessary and often deadly medical intervention. Doesn’t sound like shoulder dystocia anyway if all he had to do was move baby around a bit and then she slid right out. Why should he call 911??? He was in the middle of delivering a baby…hello! He knew what to do, calling 911 would have just wasted time if it was a true emergency (which it doesn’t sound like it was I know what to do if my child is chocking, it would serve them better for me to respond immediately than to waste time calling 911.”

I am NOT a nurse, but I am a homebirth midwife. Birth is as safe as life is and you CANNOT completely remove risk no matter where you have your baby.

Josh Roepke on

“have always wondered about that statistic “more babies/women die from childbirth in hosptials than during a homebirth…”

the reason that statement always gives me pause is because usually if there is any sort of emergency in a homebirth, then there is a hosptial transfer and the woman delivers at the hospital and not at home.”

-A transfer to the hospital due to complications during a home birth is categorized in home birth statistics, and the doctors by law are required to label the medical records to say intended home birth. Also there are categories for pre-term, full term, and post term infant mortality rates. And the time of delivery is taken into consideration when these statistics are calculated.

Jillian on

Thekeogjfamily, ummmm, she could have been pregnant when it came out for starters. And sadly she had stillborn twins who may not have been full term. Either way the movie came out 39 months ago and three full term preg are about 27 months, so anything is possible!! Some people like their children close in age.

Serenyd on

Thank goodness he was knowledgeable enough to know what to do in this situation. Kudos Chris! Most guys would have no idea what to do. If the average parent studied as hard as most parents who plan homebirths do, they would be much better prepared for the births of their children, and able to act appropriately when faced with an emergency like this one, instead of being clueless and speeding down the highway like a maniac, trying to get to the hospital, while endangering mom, baby and everyone else on the road!

angelmom07 on

wow some people are very uneducated when it comes to birth. Way to go Nick you stayed calm and did what needed to be done. And I am glad you and your wife stayed home like you planned. Baby is beautiful. It doesnt matter where you are at a birth is going to have the same out come no matter what. Besides even if he had called 911 what would the paramedic do oh wait the same thing daddy just did at home. Oh yeah. And besides waiting for the paramedics to come would have taken too long. I am sure that since they were having a home birth even with a midwife they prepared for emergency situations like this. And why would they go to the hospital or call 911 when she went into labor if they were planning to stay home. Use some common sense. Woman give birth at home all the time its no big deal. Why would we want to go to a hospital where baby is exposed to germs and diseases. Child birth is not an illness. Hospitals are for emergencies and childbirth is not one of them.

sarah Heaton on

You people that are all behind the MD and hospital births, should know that we are one of very few countries who have hospital births as a normal part of child birth. You are more likely to have a c-section or complication or interference. We have one of the highest section rates because its easier,I will pass on that one. Birth is a natural part of life, its not a disease, its not a sickness yet we treat it like it is. Women birthed babies long before OBGYN’s were around and yet the human species has survived.

Query Eve on

PEOPLE.COM: Please consider giving credit to the MOTHER who gave birth to the baby instead of praising whoever happened to be in the room when it happened as the one who “delivered the baby”

thanks for correcting this common oversight.

esbar on

In regards to hemorrhaging after delivery, there are instances where even in the hospital, it is difficult to save the mom, despite an unlimited blood supply readily available. Unexpected instances of using 30+ pints of packed red blood cells in 5-10 minutes. A home delivery mom can be transported to a hospital, but time may be an issue, with a poor outcome. There are often “normal” pregnancies that suddenly go bad. Why would someone potentially put their life and the baby’s life at risk? My sister insisted on delivering in a smaller community hospital because it was “closer to home.” Well, the moment I heard the baby breathing loudly over the phone, I knew she needed an immediate transfer to a level 4 neonatal intensive care nursery at a larger medical center. The baby was finally transferred per helicopter 24 hrs. later, and after multiple complications and an extended stay, the baby eventually went home. But the delay contributed to complications of several collapsed lungs, which put her life needlessly at risk. The idea of a home delivery sounds wonderful, but hospitals admit the disaterous outcomes of home deliveries all the time. Why take this risk after 9 long months of planning? People tend to believe complications won’t happen to them, or if they do occur, a 10 min delay will not be an issue, and often they are right. But when they are wrong . . .


That is SOOOOO AWESOME!!! Why? because We experienced almost the same exact situation minus the cord around the neck. We had a planned mid-wife assisted home birth and “fortunately” my wife went into labor before the midwife got to our home. I had to step in myself. our baby was blue so we jiggled the baby a little with small mouth breaths and after a couple of seconds he was crying. as my two other children (4 years and 2 years) were giggling their little faces off watching the baby coming out. It was scary but towards the end we were very ecstatic and excited. It was such an amazing time. So upon reading this article it gave me the chills for being errilly similar. glad to read and hear about more people taking this approach for specific reason.
WAY TO GO NICK HEXUM AND WIFE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Sarah on

I don’t get it. With all the evidence, all the research, all the stories, all the documentaries, why do people still use the tired old “but people used to DIE before hospital birth!” That’s an ignorant argument ignoring all medical advancement, the discovery of germs, and the fact that a midwife is a TRAINED BABY CATCHER. Midwives have more training and experience in delivering vaginal births than OB’s. Why would anyone think an OB is a better choice for low-risk, normal birth? The OB rarely has experience with natural birth, never has any schooling in the sit back and watch” approach which is proven to be safest for everyone involved.

Midwives are trained to know when medical aid is necessary. OB’s are NOT trained to let the mother birth her child without their interfering “help”. Yet people continue to live in their ignorance, assuming birth is, by nature, a risky medical event that needs managing…and our c-section, mortality, and morbidity rates climb. The only risky thing about birth is walking into a hospital without AT LEAST asking what their section rate is and demanding an unmedicated birth with no intervention until someone is in danger.

Marky on

Every time an article like this comes out, I just want to scream because of the arguing and constant insistence on both sides clamoring about how they are right. Listen carefully……if you are informed about the pluses and minuses of each way of having your child–home or hospital–then choose FOR YOURSELF. Stop insisting you have the only true insight into how to have a baby. Unless someone wants to pull the baby out your nose, you have several options to choose from.

To the ignorant person who insists OBs have very little knowledge about vaginal deliveries, you are full of it. They are highly experienced, prefer you deliver calmly and, as much as possible, on your own with their presence around, just in case. It is not the common rule to perform an episiotomy, even though many women request it, and Pitocin is given in cases where women have labored for many hours or don’t go into labor and the baby begins to fail to thrive, thus it is given to help avoid possible stillbirth. You do not do your point a favor by bad-mouthing doctors and nurses who have only a goal of making sure you have the best delivery possible, including very home-like rooms. You also have the option of a midwife attending you in the hospital, if you prefer. Why make it an argument? To each her own. The terrible thing is making a woman feel like a failure because she choose a hospital, instead of a homebirth–or vice-versa. How crazy! I was a L&D nurse and I can assure you, we always felt sad if someone had to have a C-section instead of a vaginal delivery. Harder to recover and baby is better with a vag also. Still, isn’t it all about the baby, not just your experience? Many of you seem consumed with your “experience” more than your baby’s situation.

Marky on

Why would I base my birthing experience and the safety of my child on what Ricki Lake says, for goodness’ sake? I may like her as an actress, but BS on her opinion of how every baby ought to be born! Amazing–you are the same people who think Angelina Jolie is an idiot when it comes to what is happening in 3rd world countries, but Ricki knows it all when it comes to childbirth. Go figure.

SF on

It is a choice which should be made carefully. Complications can happen at home or in the hospital and one needs to beable to accept the consequences of that choice. I am glad that all went well and that everyone is healthy and happy.

Jillian on

Query eye, the way I read it is the mom gave birth to the baby and the father delivered the baby! In mine and most cases, the father is not delivering the baby……get it? Not many dads can say they did that! Pretty awesome!

max on

never mind the baby, i love that man! he is so hot and highly underrated

Janet Stephenson on

I’ve been a huge 311 fan since 1995. Now I have one more reason to keep every cd blaring in the minivan and kitchen. Nick is an amazing artist and this homebirth story shows what an amazing man he is. What an awesome job keeping his cool through the delivery. As a mother of 2, I turn to 311’s songs for solace and me time. They help me get through the ups and downs of life.

Thank you Nick. You and the band give a lot.

Much love from Maine!

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Sherri P on

I had an emergency c-section, obviously in a hospital, my experience was wonderful! I recovered quickly, it does happen! My sister had a mid wife in the hospital, she tore all sorts of ways that were horrible, her recovery was aweful because the midwife didn’t feel the need to really help with anything (your body is made to do it!)

The reality is some bodies aren’t made to give birth, just like some aren’t made to carry babies, and yet some are capable of carrying 20 babies To each his own I guess, but I’ll keep with my hospital deliveries. No doctor wants to get sued and no doctor or nurse wants to tell you your baby died or tell your husband/partner that you died. People need to stop thinking everyone is out to get them, the doctor included.

Bgmom on

Way to go for having your baby at home! I wish more people would do the same. And congrats to both of you. And more congrats for being married when you gave birth to your children.

ohyesidid on

Gawd. Love the birth nazis on this board. Ring side know it alls who see fit to judge any and everyone on their birth experience. “Ooohh, she could’ve died!!”

Don’t you have children of your own to tend to? Seriously. Some folks give birth at the hospital. Some folks give birth at home. Some babies live. Some don’t make it. Birth is about as ordinary a miracle as it gets.