Elisabeth Röhm’s Blog: Roadtrippin’ Ritual

01/20/2011 at 09:00 AM ET

Thanks for welcoming our newest celebrity blogger — Elisabeth Röhm! The actress, 37, best known for her role as Serena Southerlyn on Law & Order, wrapped a stint on Heroes last year and has a busy 2011 ahead of her. She can be seen on the big screen in the upcoming films Chlorine, Transit and Abduction, and plans to continue her role as spokesmom for Juno Baby.

In her latest blog, Röhm — who is mom to 2½-year-old daughter Easton August with fiancé Ron Anthony — shares a new ritual with her toddler — roadtrippin’!

Courtesy Elisabeth Röhm


We take off in a blaze of glory! Just call us Thelma and Louise — or Mommy and Easton.

Of course we all know how important a little alone time is, right moms? An hour away can do wonders for the mini-breakdown we are sometimes verging on. Same goes for the alone time ‘date night’ prescribes to couples. Without this uninterrupted time together we might be wondering on a somewhat frequent basis, “Who is this roommate of mine?”

At our core, we crave adventure and desire to step away from the day’s monotony. Whether it’s girls night out, a weekend trip with your sister, a long-awaited getaway with your man or just a mani/pedi that gets us out of the house and away from the simple tasks that pile up around us, making us feel not nearly as spontaneous as we once were. We need to take off and leave our worries behind.

I’ve decided that the same ‘getaway’ theory brings a new joy to my parenting and puts a pep in my step. Easton and I have started a ritual — one that I hope sticks with us until we are having Eat, Pray, Love moments well into her thirties. We have come to love our roadtrips.

Sometimes when I wake bleary from her sweet feet pushing me to the edge of my bed and it’s been a particular tossy-turny night, I find that I am far from the enthusiastic mother I see myself as. Instead of bouncing out of bed, we stumble towards our routine for the morning. We have our usual breakfast with some cartoons and the morning news. I check my e-mails and find that there is plenty of work to do. The house is slightly upside down, what with the toys, clothes and daily chores.

I take a sip of my coffee and think, “We need an adventure.” Just like date night or a girly routine of some kind, Easton and I are seeking some R&R, some alone time that’s all about she and I; a chance to see each other without life’s little tasks getting in the way and distracting us. For her that would be Scooby-Doo, and for me it might be some work-related something that will still be there when we return from our hour, afternoon or slumber party at some destination a few hours from home.

Now you get the Thelma and Louise reference! Not only are these outings more fun than going to the park again and again, but it is deeply satisfying sharing special memories that are ours alone. We are creating a thread of consistency and discovery that we can share for a lifetime. Not to mention that it is super-duper cute to pile into the car and hear Easton’s sweet voice say, “Let’s hit it!” I return with, “Let’s hit the road!” and we are off on an adventure — even if it’s merely for an hour. There is something to be said when the alone time isn’t about consumerism but about seeing something new.

I always felt like my mother had a deep respect for me as an individual, even as a little girl. The time she spent with me outside of our routine made me feel as if we were friends. It started us on a road that we continued on as good communicators. We loved sharing our time together. Until my mother passed away last year, I told her everything. Most importantly it opened the door to the best club around: The Girl’s Club!

The alone time also applies to daddies. I have seen Easton blossom when she spends time with her dad. Even if it’s a park visit for just the two of them, a certain confidence emerges when they have returned home. It’s as if Easton has been initiated into a secret adult world where she sees and does things differently from the norm when a parent truly hangs with her. I learned early on to support them having ‘their’ time so that Mommy wasn’t a distraction in them building a meaningful relationship.

So, Easton and I constantly “hit it” and do activities that aren’t run of the mill. There is something to be said about singing loudly to tunes in the car, the wind blowing through our hair as we take off to see a corner of the world — or at least our neighborhood.

Rituals of all kinds are important. Even if it’s the simple memories I have of my mom and I going to the local Greek diner to eat cheeseburgers and disco fries, read Archie comics and our latest horoscopes. It was something we did together and nothing seemed to distract her from me when we’d have our outings.

Being there and loving in a consistent manner are the cornerstones of parenting. Really listening, catching the hints of who they are, knowing them and accepting that maybe they are different from us and seeing these nuances in their personalities is also a part of our promise of parenting.

But let’s face it moms, life gets trying and the routine sometimes gets stale. I have found that the more we get out of our environment the more we truly notice each other. This is equally applicable to our marriages and friendships. Everyone needs a little alone time and sometimes we really need it together far more than we know. Most importantly we need to help each other keep life spontaneous, joyous and exciting!

Here’s to your next adventure — even if it’s just around the block!

Courtesy Elisabeth Röhm


— Elisabeth Röhm

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amandamay on

I’m really trying to like Elisabeth’s blogs and have reserved commenting until now, to see if maybe things would change – But they haven’t. Her blogs seem to come across as trying to teach mothers how to be, well, mothers. I enjoy hearing about her life and her daughter but can’t get past the tone and formal, “parenting book” like lessons she is apparently trying to teach us… “right, moms?”

I am having a hard time relating to Elisabeth, moreso than the previous bloggers because her blogs always feel like reading a creative writing assignment – Trying too hard to be deep and profound. Sorry, but this is the last one I will be reading.

Mommy of 2 on

amandamay….i agree with you, having a hard time trying to connect to her. Not the best choice for a celebrity blogger.

tadeja on

OMG i LOVE YOUR BLOG, Elisabeth Rőhm! Finally a celebrity blogger to whom i can relate! I have found myself nodding to your words as they reflect so well on my own musings and on some topics i get some more additional information from your writing.

Top celebrity blog so far! 🙂

Keep up the great writing!

Kristin on

I agree with the above comments. I enjoyed the previous bloggers who share their funny stories or journeys to become parents. There is something about Elisabeth’s blogs that don’t appeal to me. Maybe if she included more road trips that her and her daughter took, I would enjoy it more. The other “celebrity parent” bloggers were more relatable. I think she can be too, it’s just how she blogs…it’s more of an informative blog (not that it is bad, but I like to see how I can relate to her as a mother and her blogs don’t do that for me).

Patricia on

I think this is the best celebrity blog out there… All others are so superficial! C’mon! If you think she is preaching you, maybe you should pay attention since it seems she touched a nerve on you two… Oh well, keep it up Elisabeth! Most people that comment usually have nothing nice to say, dont let haters bring you down.

I love your blog and is the only one I keep on checking. Thank you for your lovely ideas and reminding us that being a mom is the most wonderful thing in the world!

lac's mom on

I would agree with the first comments that the tone of Elisabeth’s blog is very different from the others.

Personally it is not my style. I prefer the more humorous stories. But it’s not a bad thing to have different styles.

And from the other comments, I am glad that there are people relating to these blogs, even if I am not. I can appreciate the diversity in styles in the celebrity bloggers and the readers.

lac's mom on

I forgot to add, even if it isn’t my style, I can still relate. I love adventures with my 3 year old daughter. Even if it just going for “coffee” (hot chocolate) at the local coffee shop and chatting.

Lily on

She is an articulate writer and that makes her blog posts quite different than the previous celebrity blog posts. Yes, she doesn’t write about funny stories, but she shares her own experiences in a sincere way. I really enjoy reading her blog.

Meghan on

I like her blogs and think she is good at writing, but I agree that relating is hard. I also feel like there is no reference to the readers, or an introduction or anything. On her first blog, she just jumped right in to writing. That threw me off because I was expecting a bit of an introduction. That right away makes it hard for me to connect.

Canita on

I really enjoy Elisabeth Rohm’s blogs. Her parenting style is very similar to mine & I very much connect to her pearls of wisdom. It’s obvious that she is a new mother experiencing all the wonders of parenting her first child. I think it’s precious to witness & I appreciate her willingness to share her experiences.

jamie on

Agree….”feel like reading a creative writing assignment” – terrible!

amandamay on

Patricia – how am I a “hater” for saying I don’t enjoy or relate to the way she writes? Did I say that I think she’s a bad mom or anything even remotely rude? No. In fact, I would say that my parenting style is similar to Elisabeth’s. I also think she seems like an intelligent, caring mother. That being said, I do not like her blogs. How exactly does that show that she has “touched a nerve” with me, Patricia? Your comment is off base – You are the one being “reactive”

jessicad on

I find her extremely honest and refreshing and she reminds me of myself. A lot of women can’t admit they need time away and pretend like everything is perfect, hate that attitude or the attitude other women get when you open up and admit it, like it makes you a bad parent for wanting to go to dinner with your girls or out with your significant other, please.

I take little adventures with my daughter as well and enjoy that time just watching her experience new things. We are summer girls so I kind of have to force us out during the colder months, we’ll go to the pet store for hours, or just build forts at home with couch cushions and blankets and pretend play all day.

I love Easton’s shirt in that first picture, so cute!

T on

I really enjoy the celeb blogs, but I have no idea what Elisabeth is talking about. Okay so she wrote about a “roadtrip” but at the same thime never REALLY wrote about a roadtrip. I guess she said they went around the block? huh? It was a long explaination of nothing..I got her connection to her mom, but I was left wanting to know more about what she does with Easton. Not sure if I’m the only one, but I’m just not feelin it.

Patricia on

Amanda: If you’ve got nothing nice to say, dont say anything AT ALL!

Gaia and Laban's mom on

I agreed with the poster who said elisabeth is more articulate. I didn’t care for some other celeb bloggers, I found some of their entries inane. As a daughter and a mother I can relate to her entry. Alone time, adventure and tradition are important to children and parents alike.

I did not get the impression that she’s being preachy; I thought her tone was introspective. She’s got a two year old and she’s discovering what is important to HER with every new day! I don’t always share her opinion but, I applaud her being so thoughtful and eloquent!

Tee on

It sounds like you and Easton have some fun adventures, Elisabeth! I’m so glad that you understand the importance of just putting “life” aside on occasion and taking off with your family!

Yes, Elisabeth’s blog is very different than a lot of the other blogs here. I haven’t agreed with everything she has said and I’m glad for that! It’s nice to hear a different opinion on child raising.

amandamay on

Patricia – Um, what?? All I have done is politely state that I’m not a fan of her writing style – How is that “not nice”? Grown ups can have thoughtful discussions with differences of opinions. Just because I don’t agree with you doesn’t make me mean or in need of a reprimand from you.

Judy Schwartz-Naber on

I love the description of your daughter. It is wonderful that you value the closeness…..

SusiQ on

I’m sure she’s a good mommy to Easton but a little wordy & preachy to be enjoyable reading. Needs to lighten up. Would it kill her to tell a story where she’s less than perfect? Or thinks she is?

threadman on

She is freakin pretty. Always loved her natural look. Her writing is progressing, albeit slowly

elle on

i feel like she is one of those moms at the park thats asking questions about your child simply for comparison. she comes across as someone who would gasp if she knew that you fed your kid non-organic food or if they were allowed to watch something other than parent selected ,pre-recorded pbs documentaries.obviously i dont know her and as moms we should try to support eachother, but this seems to be one to avoid.

we are all learning one day at a time as parents but i think there is a huge difference in sharing your insight or point of view, and coming across as know-it-all. if it works for her family,thats great, but she definitely isnt someone i would sit next to at the park more than once.

threadman on

Maybe not the best writer in the world, but Rohm and those stunning eyes.

Ms. Jordan on

Today was the first I’d read the blog and totally loved it.

Especially when comparing it to my “roadtrip” adventures with my son from around 20 years ago. I was a single mother on a tight budget and didn’t have the money to go to amusement parks and other places with high costs of admission. I had a car that got great mpg so would frequently ask my son, “Anthony, do you want to go get lost today?” Then off we would go in the car with a packed lunch listening to our favorite radio station singing at the top of our lungs. We never had a set route to go and merely drove around til we saw something interesting to explore.

One day we stopped at a parking garage to check out a city close to home. While parking the car Joan Jett came on the radio with the song, “I Hate Myself For Loving You” and my son and I were loudly singing to it face to face in an almost shouting manner. (Oddly enough my young son felt it was OUR SONG, lol.) Oops, we didn’t notice someone enter to get their car and was staring at us dumbfounded. When we did notice we both burst out laughing, enjoying our accidental concert.

My son is now 28 and very much remembers our adventures of “going out to get lost” and OUR SONG. I feel certain Easton will remember her adventures with her mom then pass them on to her own children one day just like my son has with his 3 children. One on one time with children is very precious and oh so meaningful to both parent and child. Thanks for sharing your experiences Ms Rohm.

Jen on

I love her blog, it’s so relatable to me with a testing 3 yr old. I never knew who Elisabeth was before this. I love it, thank you!

Valerie on

I find her blog to be beautifully written and I really enjoy her insights and observations.

Shannon on

I don’t care for her blogging but her little girl is adorable!

Valerie on

Ms. Jordan- I loved that story of your times of getting lost with your son. These are the moments of true bonding. Often these are the times that children hold most dear to their hearts. Your story made me teary.
My Mom and I have had many times like this where we have just gotten in the car and had a wonderful day – the best!

Jenn on

I love this blog! I find it refreshing and informative! I hope that when I have children I can be as close to them and share special adventures like Elisabeth does with her kids. Great job! Will keep reading! 🙂

KimDione on

I agree with some of the first posters,I kept expecting to hear a cute story about a trip Elizabeth took with her daughter. Yet,that never came.

Not leaving me with that warm & fuzzy feeling like Marissa Jaret Winokurs blog or even the story in the comments about the lady & her son singing in the car. That was cute,maybe SHE should have a blog;)

Also I dont see how Amanda or anyone else who politely disagrees with others is a hater.Sometimes we just have a difference of opinion.Good Grief!

Annalise on

When you ship your 3 year old off to “independence” from 7:30a-5:30p everyday, I would imagine you would need some time with her at some point.

It is very obvious that she has only one kid.

I am not a fan of her parenting style, but I wish her the best.

lovinlife on

I really enjoyed this blog, she’s speaking from the heart! Great suggestions as well. Keep blogging, can’t wait to read the next one!

Abby on

An idea: Instead of reading other people’s blgos for the things that YOU wish they would say, try reading it as a creation from someone else’s mind. You don’t have to like it, but you can’t expect to connect to EVERY mom, nor is every mom obligated to share personal stories of their time with their own children.

Obviously there are people who LOVE what Elisabeth has to say because they, naturally, can relate to her personality. Instead of negativity, try the positive energy that Miss Rohm’s blogs are all about. If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say it.

lindsey on

When did Elisabeth’s mother pass away?

anna on

I love this! Such a great idea and so important to remember how critical taking time away from the daily routine of things is for a relationship, whether it’s with a child or spouse. 🙂

anna on

I love Elisabeth’s parenting style. I want to do something like that with my children when I have them. Such an important thing to remember to take time out of your busy life to spend quality time with loved ones creating new memories! Beautiful writing.

JulieA on

I like Elizabeth. She seems to really enjoy parenting, and I’m sure she’s doing her best to be the best mom she can be.

That being said, I am not a fan of her blog. I totally agree with “amadamay” that it comes across rather preachy and kind of condescending. A little humour…and a lot of humility…would work better. I wish her all the best, though.

Patricia on

Abby: Wow just wow, you couldn’t have said it better!

blessedwithboys on

I’m not sure whether or not I actually enjoy this blog, but one thing is for sure: Elisabeth certainly RESPECTS her daughter and obviously puts lots of thought into what kind of parent she wants to be and that I love!