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Elisabeth Röhm’s Blog: Embracing Change In the New Year

01/06/2011 at 09:00 AM ET
Kimberly Metz

PEOPLE Moms & Babies is happy to introduce our newest celebrity blogger — Elisabeth Röhm!

The actress, 37, best known for her role as Serena Southerlyn on Law & Order, wrapped a stint on Heroes last year and has a busy 2011 ahead of her.

She can be seen on the big screen in the upcoming films Chlorine, Transit and Abduction, and plans to continue her role as spokesmom for Juno Baby.

In her first blog, Röhm — who is mom to 2½-year-old daughter Easton August with fiancé Ron Anthony — tackles the topic of embracing change in the new year.

 

Change is constant. Our children show us this distilled truth, time and time again. As the new year unfolds before us, we are all contemplating what changes we will make to enrich our lives. We shouldn’t worry about that too much though, because rest assured, change will happen in our lives regardless of the decisions we make.

All we have to do, really, is just sit back and allow the changes to come. We must let go of fear and listen to our heart’s desire. As Martha Graham says, “We take leap after leap in the dark.” There is a beauty to not knowing and trusting our inner longing. Children teach us this. They are so brave and clear about what they want; it is truly inspiring.

Yesterday I was looking at a potential school for my 2½-year-old daughter, Easton. I was blown away by The New School-West in Los Angeles. They have achieved such a thoughtful approach to development and it was simply exciting to listen to the director speak. Her thoughts and deeds were aligned and expressed perfectly through the Reggio system.

Moms, you must explore these types of schools if you have not already. Reggio acknowledges children as having rights as individuals in every aspect of their lives. They are viewed as active participants in the organization of their identities, abilities and autonomy, through relationships and interaction with their peers, with adults, with ideas, with objects and with real and imaginary events in their various worlds. We, as parents, have to support their growth, knowledge of themselves and allow them the freedom they crave to be individuals. We must give them permission to be ever-changing beings that know what they want. We must listen to them.

The director of The New School-West impressed upon us how vital it was to allow our children the opportunity to do full days in school at the age of 3 as opposed to brief mornings where they could barely adjust to the separation and new environment. This was slightly overwhelming for me because being with Easton on a daily and hourly basis has defined me, or should I say, redefined me. Knowing that my world revolves around her every day and for all hours of the day has given me a strict purpose.

Moms, I know you’ll agree with me when I say that it has been a true struggle to find ourselves since our little ones came into our world. But we managed, didn’t we? To find the time for ourselves so that we could feel our own skin again. Now that we’ve gotten used to that first phase of life with our children, we are being faced with the next one: their first departure from us.

The director urged us to understand that our children want to be in school with their peers; that they want to share the day together with their friends and face their joys and challenges, meals and naps, hellos and goodbyes, together. Their friends and teachers are their community and they want to be with them.

They willingly embrace the changes in their lives without baggage or real fear. They accept and allow change because it is natural, inevitable and constant. They are wise. They know even if we don’t, that moving on doesn’t mean losing something. They still think of us every 20 minutes, even if they are enjoying their newfound freedom.

I sat there listening to this woman I didn’t know and knew she was teaching me something profound. She expressed the importance of supporting Easton’s independence and sense of community. She aptly said, “We have to accept that what we want for our little ones may not be what they want for themselves.”

So, I accepted the fact that Easton was changing and decided in this new year that I would provide her with a few full days at school. Exciting, right? What will I do with all that time for myself? I suppose I’ll have to grow and change as well; discover who I am in this new phase of my life, too.

I was not surprised at all by the poetic beauty this morning as I left Easton at school. She no longer clung to my leg or asked to be held. She ran off to a cluster of her friends in her cozy sweater and cowboy boots (which she had chosen to wear) and barely turned around as she said, “I love you, Mom. Bye.”

I couldn’t help but smile with anticipation at the unknown changes that were going to be coming my way now that I had embraced that life is always moving forward.

Before I took Easton to school this morning, my stepfather — who lives in Europe — called. He is a recent widower, as my mother just passed away a year ago. He had called to tell me that he had met a woman. He wanted my blessing to move on. He wanted to let me know that he was changing by allowing himself to love again.

His call came at the perfect time. Not only was I learning to release my daughter to her natural changes, but life was now providing me with another opportunity to confirm this absolute truth; change is constant, change is constructive and change is necessary. My stepfather, not unlike my daughter, wanted to be released to embrace his next chapter. They both had shown me that they wanted to change and to grow.

As they say, “If you love something, set it free.”

In this new year, I acknowledge that Easton is growing up right before my eyes and that it is a privilege for me to be on her journey with her. My mother used to say that I was her greatest teacher. I now know what she meant.

Dear reader, if we listen to our children, they will be our greatest teachers. They are pure and have intuitive clarity. As they change, they allow us to find ourselves again and again. What a blessing to be a mother. Happy New Year.

– Elisabeth Röhm

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Indira on

This is beautiful!

Debbie on

This is all so very true. However, please remember that you should let your kids be kids first and foremost. Don’t allow them to grow up to soon just because you think they are “mature” for their age. Also remember you are the parent and not a friend until they are adults themselves.

a REAL MOM on

2 1/2 already in preschool? Man, they do like to get rid of them early. what happened to keeping a child at home to grow and be involved with the parents before shipping them off to the world? This is actually a very sad commentary on today’s society. Nannies, preschool, all before the age of 3. Sick.

Wendy on

What a lovely blog. Everything you said is so true.

Jessie on

“Change is constant. Our children show us this distilled truth, time and time again.” quote from the Elizabeth Rohm’s blog

What a ridiculous statement … if truth is “distilled” then much of what makes “truth” truth is taken out of it … truth has to be taken as is … good, bad and the ugly … distilling it makes it “untruth” i.e. lies …

Jessica on

What a lovely blog, Elisabeth! And that photo is gorgeous. Of course school for 3 year olds is only a couple of hours and/or days per week. It is wonderful for socialization and early learning. Can’t wait to read your next installment.

Emily on

I loved this blog. Can’t wait to read more from Elisabeth. Beautiful picture!

JR Jake on

Change without focus and A plan with appropriate participation is akin to running off a cliff. I love it when people take on new projects but when the focus loses strength, participation from support system is paramount. I love that picture, it is cool.

Candice on

While it is a beautifully written blog, I must pause and questiosn whether or not she lives in reality.

Last time I checked, those upper-crest schools that teach kids to be individuals and expand their minds also cost a pretty penny. It is about $300-$500 more a month than the cost of regular daycare (which is also very expensive and a must for those of us who can’t afford nanies or to be stay-at-home moms). So if you don’t have a reguar job working as an actress on the hit show “Law & Order,” how exactly do you suggest I come up with the money to provide my child with this “opportunity to do full days in school at the age of 3 as opposed to brief mornings where they could barely adjust to the separation and new environment?”

Granted if I had the means, I would give my child every opportunity to excel and be a successful individual- but please do not blog to me as if you have had some kind of enlightening experience.

Ilene on

“A real mom” should understand that sending a child to pre-school is a very personal choice. It is wonderful to have the opportunity to be with your child 24-7. However, children receive such great benefit by learning how to interact with other children – how to play and share and sit and listen in a relaxed “class” environment.

Some parents like myself work full time and do not have the option to be home with their children. My heart aches when I drop my son off at pre-school. However, when I see him at the end of the day, he is all smiles and anxious to share his artwork and details of his day.

We shouldnt’ be critical of the choices other parents make. We should embrace our differences and be more understanding. In the end, we all want the same thing – healthy, happy and loving children.

marina on

It was a beautiful blog, I would love to read more.

Jen DC on

OK, so perhaps you can’t explore a full-day option due to financial constraints… but what about exploring nearby less costly options? Elisabeth Rohm isn’t here to tell you to do exactly as she does, but to (at least for me) trigger a thought process about your child and his/her needs. Obviously most of us aren’t on the same page financially, but that doesn’t mean that everything she says is automatically bunk.

As far as “getting rid of children at 2 or 3,” geez, Real Mom, I think most of us would prefer to have our kids at home but can’t afford *that*. Does that make someone less of a mother, that they need a preschool for their kids? And frankly, I was one of those kids who couldn’t wait to get away from her mother; not because I was unloved or abused, but because that was just my personality. I wanted to explore more than my own backyard with my dog and my cousins. I wanted to see what the other little people were doing when they talked about school. Was it wrong of my mother to recognize this streak of independence in me and let me go? Was she less of a “Real Mom” for recognizing that what she wanted (me at home, under her wing and watchful eye) and what I wanted (the giant tricycle and reading circles) were divergent and maybe I needed to go? Wow.

I’ve found in reading the blogs that it’s best to take what applies to your life and think about it and leave what doesn’t. Why does everything have to be so personal? She’s not talking to *you* you, she’s not saying you’re doing it wrong! And maybe there are things in here you’re not familiar with that afterward get you to think about other stuff you could incorporate. Why is that so hard?

Nicole on

Before I became a SAHM, I taught toddlers with special needs and I used Reggio curriculum. Reggio inspires child to be active participants in their world, to work at their level, not to where you think the child “should be”. My school was in the inner city and was often on lock down due to shootings/situations happening in the neighborhood. Many schools follow Reggio, not just wealthy ones.

Reggio is very easy to incorporate into your child’s everyday life! Do a little research and you’ll probably see that you’re already doing a lot of Reggio! I continue to use Reggio at home with my daughter and other kids I babysit.

JB on

In my opinion, she just repeats everything all the “feel” good types of our generation have been beating into our heads for the last 30 years. Whatever……..

TM on

My daughter will start part-time preschool when she is 3 years old, and full time preschool when she is four. I love teaching her at home, but I know that she will greatly benefit from the social environment that preschool provides. Every family I know has a different philosophy on this matter, and I think that’s great!

What works for some families doesn’t work for all. Great blog post! I’m extremely excited to do some research on the Reggio philosophy.

Anna on

A touching and wonderful post! thanks

jessicad on

This made me cry for some reason, beautiful and thoughtful. My daughter is 3 and does the Mother’s morning out 3 days a week, she absolutely loves it and has learned so much from being there. I chose to put her in because she never went to daycare, she transitioned easily and I’m so glad I decided to give it a try. It’s definitely a personal decision and what works for one family may not work for another.

I hate to see such negative comments on this already, we should build each other up with confidence instead of tearing each other down with nasty and rude comments.

Cate on

Why would anyone be negative about such a wonderful post? I don’t think some of you really realize how many awful parents there are in this country, world, whatever, and here is a mom who obviously has the best interest in mind for her child. Take away the fact that she is wealthier than most, money doesn’t matter.

Here is a mom stating that she is recognizing that her little one will eventually need to fly from the nest, and yes, it DOES happen at 2! It starts at birth! My 2 year old goes to a preschool, daycare, whatever you want to call it, because I work full-time, and although there are days I would love to be home with her, I just can’t, I HAVE to work. So she gets to go and do art projects, sing songs, read books, and play outside with 6 other kids her age. I dare anyone to say that there is something wrong with that! Geez people. Get a clue.

miameows on

this blog rubbed me the wrong way and I have absolutely no idea why. I read it this morning and I was waiting to read other comments to see if anyone else had that feeling. Guess it’s just me! I will definitely read her next one and hope I was just in a cranky mood this morning lol

Scarlett on

I have to comment on many of the negative posts I have seen here (not just today) by people upset that others get “rid” of their children by sending them to preschool at 2 or 3 yrs.

As an American living overseas for several years now, I have experienced several schools and teaching methods. I have 4 children, the older ones started preschool in the US at age 3 and went 3 half-days a week. The younger ones have started here in France (also at 3) and, as is the tradition, they go 5 full-days a week. My youngest daughter (age 3) loves school and loves being with her friends. I certainly don’t feel as though I have gotten rid of her or that she is missing out by being away from me all day.

There are as many different ways to parent as there are parents. We all have to do what is best for us and our children. In the end I am sure our goals are the same…..to raise happy, independent children.

Jurnee on

Elisabeth sounds lovely and caring. I do have to say that the Director of the New School – West really irritated me. How does she know what’s best for each child? How does she know that full days versus half days are better because that’s really what children want?? Seriously. I’m sure full days versus half days are what the *school* wants because the tuition is higher. Every child is different. Some might thrive in a full-day environment, others just a few mornings, and others perhaps being at home with relatives or mom…so many options. I take exception to the Director’s remarks. She sounds pompous.

Maddie on

Elisabeth, welcome to CBB! I’ve always loved your work on Law & Order, and Easton is just gorgeous… I’m a preschool teacher, and our philosophy is very similar to that of Reggio as well as RIE (http://www.rie.org). It is amazing what children can achieve when you put trust in them to direct their own learning. It is exciting that you have found a school you and your partner are comfortable with, that shares your values and ideas, and most importantly, that Easton loves!

I think 2 and a half is a great age to be starting preschool for little Easton, some children can become a bit bored when it is just Mum at home. It sounds like she is a very social wee girl!

I look forward to reading more of your blog in the coming weeks

Maddie on

Junree, I agree in part. Each child is different – maybe going full day is what is best for Easton. It gives a child more time to adjust to the people and new environment, like Elizabeth pointed out. At my preschool, we had a wee boy who came three afternoons a week for 2-3 hours and was very unsettled. Due to work commitments, his parents upped his hours to 3 full days a week.

When he started coming full time, he was like a different child. He became very social, laughing and chatting away. I believe this was because he had a chance to get used to us and the other children. 2-3 hours twice a week is not enough, we had to re-settle him everytime he came in. He had to be re-introduced to everything, because he did not remember and it was confusing. But he was young, maybe 15 months old.

The temperament of the child is a big factor like you say, but also the age. During early childhood (age 1- 3ish) children are naturally resistant to change, and crave security… so any change can be scary… it’s that whole separation anxiety. Infants in particular like stability.

I do agree with you though, the individual child *must* be taken into account. Maybe that is how they start off, and then if there are problems, they talk to the parents about it… who knows maybe Elisabeth and Ron’s work commitments means that Easton needs to be there full time…

jill on

That was beautiful. I actually got tears in my eyes.

Her daughter will be 3 on April 11th, so almost 3 and in preschool, seems pretty accurate to me.

a REAL MOM, it is crazy huh…. Crazy that some mom and dad’s put their children in school and day care to interact with other children so they can get educated and have socialization with other children and educators. Or because their parent or parents work.

Marina, I agree. It ended and I wanted more!

Jurnee, Pompous? It is the Director’s experience and education that makes her able to make that assessment. I am unsure how you were able to make such a harsh judgement from a statement.

Shannon on

Nice blog…but it’s obvious this is her first child. I’ll leave it at that. :)

Vanessa on

Great blog Liz “Elizabeth.” You are a wonderful writer. I had no idea your mom passed. She was a beautiful soul and I loved going on Dunkin Donut runs for her.

Your words about how children are our greatest teachers is so true. My little guy will be 5 months tomorrow and I have grown (spiritually) more in the past 5 months than in the past 5 years just by watching him. Again, great post. Happy New Year.

Anna on

Another example of an actress thinking she is the Dahli Lama. From the first sentence forward, Rohm gives new meaning to the phrase “purple prose.” Just a bunch of flowery writing with no meaning or usefulness behind it. Snooze.

erin on

@ “a REAL mom” I was in preschool at the age of two and met my best friend there. I come from a household where BOTH parents work. Many people do for either financial reasons or because quite simply both parents have (GASP) jobs that they LIKE, and therefore preschool and/or nannies is necessary. Or maybe they just want their children so socialize with other kids.

It was certainly that way with me. I still spent time with my family on weekends and after school. It’s not like I (or Easton for that matter) was sent off to boarding school at the age of 2 and a half. And I still (at the age of 23) have a good relationship with my family. Just because YOU made different decisions than Elisabeth or my parents does not make you anymore (or any less) of a real mom. I hope that you will teach your child(ren) that there is not ONE right way to be a parent.

Shana on

I really think that you should reconsider putting your two year old in full time preschool. Your blog shows that you love your daughter and are willing to do what you feel is best for her…even if that is not what you would like to do. The evidence does not support putting children in child care/preschool as being what is best for them, nor is that what children want.

Children want to be with their parents. Most kids do not love to go to daycare or preschool. They do not like to be seperated from mom. Sometimes, due to financial circumstances there are no other options but when you have the option of keeping them home you should appreciate it. Many adults have lasting emotional wounds from having been removed from their parents early…especially boys.

For those who think that early preschool is a good way to get your children a jump start on schooling and put them ahead of the pack, this is also incorrect. Studies show that the longer you wait to put children in public school the more ahead they are. They generally thrive in the home environment and those who don’t go to preschool are often ahead academically of those who did. Moms have an amazing ability to teach children if they are willing to put in the effort.

Many people do not have this special opportunity to spend extra time with their children. You will not get their toddler years back. They are not looking to be independent at this young age. They are looking for parents to love them, nurture them, guide them and make them feel safe.

wow on

What a bunch of “mean girls” some of you people are.

For the record, the cost for that school are “Tuition and Fees 2010-2011
Full Time 7:30 am – 5:30 pm
5 days a week $1125 per month
4 days a week $1025 per month
3 days a week $925 per month

Part Time 8:30 am – 12:15 pm or 2:00 pm –5:15 pm
5 days a week $925 per month
4 days a week $885 per month
3 days a week $835 per month P

art Time 2:00pm – 5:15pm afternoons 4 days a week (M-Th)
$825 per month
Single Day rates (if needed/if available) 7:30 am – 5:30 pm
$80 per day 7:30 am – 12:15 pm
$50 per morning 2:30 pm – 5:30 pm
$35 per afternoon ”

Sure that costs, but compared to school fees, a nanny or day care, I think it’s not that much money. If both parents are working then that’s pretty sweet, it also means no harried parents trying to juggle work hours and drop offs and pick ups.

Every kid is different, some prefer to socialise earlier, others prefer to be at home. Sooner or later kids need to socialise and learn the skills it will take in upper schooling and the workforce.

Jhene Erwin on

Lovely post! I look forward more! Congratulations!

Indira on

I’m not sure I would put my child in preschool for that amount of time. 730am-5:30pm??? You’d barely see your child at all.

Alberto Panegassi on

It really is remarkable how much the little girl is growing.
And that, for the vast majority of mothers who have children old enough to enter into a proper school, is a major dilemma with respect to be detached when the child leaves the mother’s arms to go into a new reality .
But as it is necessary for the emotional and social development of children, it is understandable that many mothers feel the first time that impact.
And with time it will pass.
Cheers, Lis!
That’s what I wish you from my heart.

Jash on

I have been reading a lot of these celebrity blogs and have been struck by how much criticism and negativity has been directed toward these celebrities who are just sharing their thoughts and experiences about being a parent. Why is there a wrong way and a right way? Why can’t people be open-minded to other ways of thinking and other beliefs? At the end of the day, we all strive to be good parents and want our children to be happy, healthy and safe. There are all different means to this end. Why does one have to be considered better than another?

I am a working mom of an almost 3 and 5 year old. I would have loved to have stayed home when my children were babies, but it was not financially feasible. Also, I actually like working and like my job. Is that so hard for women to understand? It is not considered strange when men do this. I have had my children in an in-home day care with more one on one interaction and now my son is in a Montessori preschool, whose methods sound a lot like the Reggie method that Elisabeth describes. My children are very bright, happy and loving children. I don’t judge my friends that are stay at home moms and I hope that they don’t judge me.

We should all be supporting one another despite what choices we make and our circumstances.

Shannon on

What? 7:30 am – 5:30 pm? I don’t even work that many hours in a day at my full-time job! Why have children if you can’t spend time with them? No wonder so many children look to others outside the family. Horrible!

Lisa on

Elisabeth’s blog was thought provoking. I understand where she is coming from. She is expressing how searching for an appropriate preschool, for her daughter, has given her food for thought. She realizes that some day, possibly Monday, she will have to let her daughter go to explore the world. A world where her daughter is the center of, not Elisabeth herself. And this in itself is very profound. At some point all of us mothers reach this step.

I have a 2.5 year old who is developmentally an 18 month old and he still comes to me for everything. But I know in 6 months to a year, which will be here in a blink of an eye, he will be ready to explore the world without me there all the time. And I will have to LEARN to let go. But for now, I am dealing with therapy 3/4 times per week with him, reminding myself each day that I only truly have TODAY. And TODAY I choose to appreciate that we all have different requirements in order to feel happy and fulfilled.

Thank you Elisabeth for such a beautiful and thoughtful blog. Good luck with your year to come!!!

Lika on

I wonder why anyone would listen to or take advice from a celebrity mom who has been a mom for fewer than 3 years!? What could she possibly know about being a mother and what really goes into finding the “right” school, having a child find his/her way?
Ask someone who’s been through it…I have 8 kids…2 sets of triplets and 2 singles. Wanna know what being a mom is like?

C on

Here is something profound . . . you will blink and your daughter will be grown. She has her whole life for schedules and you get but a few short years when she is with you all day. She will learn and become a wonderful person regardless if she is in school all day at 3. Your daughter wants to be with her parents. She is still a baby. Take your time, school will still be there when she is 5.

Angela on

To the readers commenting on her sending her child to school at 2 1/2, the article said she’s looking at potential schools for her daughter, not that she’s already enrolled. Easton’s birthday is in April, so she likely won’t start school until she’s at least three.

Anonymous on

I really wish some moms would stay away from this site. If you are such a perfect mother and know everything about motherhood there is to know, then why bother reading these articles? You all seem to think anyone who doesn’t spend 24 hours a day with their child are horrible people, but you find an awful lot of time to read articles about these horrible people and comment about wonderful you are in comparison.

I think the most obnoxious kids I’ve ever met are the ones whose parents treated them as if they were the center of the universe. I grew up with two extremely hard working parents, and I can honestly never remember a time when I felt like they weren’t there for me or had “abandoned” me in any way. There really are bad parents out there, so I don’t like making people who are doing the best for their kids feel like they belong in that category.

Sheena on

I couldn’t even get through this whole blog…it wasn’t personal and it was dribble. Boring!

Lisa on

This is beautiful and it made me cry.

Annette on

Is she being paid to promote the school? It sounds like that, rather than a real mom’s quest for what is right for their child. Maybe that is right for her child-but some kids aren’t ready to be gone a whole day when they are 2 1/2! I think pre-school can be great for socialization and learning, of course, but the idea of having them there all day every day is sad to me-at that age. My daughter was in pre-school 3 days a week at that age and I definitely think it was a positive experience for her, especially as an only child, but I wouldn’t have wanted her there more than that.

And yes, she does live in an entirely different world than most of us. I was looking forward to reading something that could bridge that gap, but alas–nothing.

Kimberly Metz on

Elisabeth is an incredible soul who is real and VERY down to earth! You are so genuine in a sea of lost individuals! you are the best!

Cristen on

She has every right to make the decision to send her daughter to school for a few days a week. Maybe we should be more outraged about negligent and abusive parents rather than about someone who obviously loves her daughter very much.

April on

People can be so judgmental.

I know my 3 year old daughter loves to spend time with her friends at daycare and on the weekend she often asks if she can go to daycare. 7:30 to 5:30 sounds about right if you work far away from where your daycare is. My daughter is in daycare from 7:45 a.m. to 4:45 p.m. because my hours are 8:30 to 4:30 and I need to have time to get to work and I often have to be at work early to get all my work done on time.

Even if I did not work full time or was a stay-at-home Mom I would have my daughter in a program of some kind every day so that she would have the chance to interact with other children which I feel is the best way to raise your child. I know my daughter loves to hang around with kids her own age so why wouldn’t I let her instead of deciding that because I am at home with her she has to be with me all the time.

I thought this blog was well written and showed a stage in her life that she is taking with the raising of her child.

Denise on

I have three children, ages 18, 15 and 7. The eldest son was in daycare all day from 10 weeks until 18 months. I missed him terribly and cried every time I left him. I was 30 years old and had waited along time to have this child. My second son was born when I was 34. Then I suffered a miscarriage at 39 and then had a daughter at 41. Each child attended nursery school part-time and I selected 3 different programs based on the individual needs of each child. The eldest needed a more playful environment; #2 son needed challenge and structure (he is gifted and an honor student) and my daughter needed a more creative atmosphere.

My husband and I made huge sacrifices so I could stay home (no expensive cars, trips, jewelry, shows, dinners out). Children grow fast and I wanted to be the primary teacher for the first 5 years, not someone else. Once the school system gets your child, they are gone all day. I will never regret financial sacrifice for time with my kids! Many families aren’t willing to sacrifice but it can be done. Kids don’t want things; they want their parent’s time, love and complete attention when they are little.

My eldest is 18 now and a college freshman. My children have always known that they are my priority. I have not worked for 17 years, but I have volunteered for our church and school, giving many hours with no pay to help my children and their classmates. Hollywood women and mothers have lots of money and help. These women should be able to stay home for their child’s first five years. They love the limelight and stardom plus fear that the younger actress will get the role. The most courageous mothers are the women who serve in the Armed Forces, leaving their children for months to protect us.

marina on

I went preschool and later school from 7.30 to 5.30 when I was a child, and I love it! I had many friends and playmates all day long! I know perfectly that my parents raise me, they were always for me, I don’t have a single memory with one them. Don’t criticize things because it doesn’t work for you.

Esonia Johnson-Knight on

Everyone is entitled to their view point on a topic. If Elizabeth feels the ways she does, so be it. I want to address how “we” as “woman” don’t hold each other down. We have 2 girls (11 years and 6 years old) I train them to not only support each other but other girls. We don’t get that. We live in a neighborhood where there are more mommies than their are wives. So many women are bitter, so are their children.

Now, I come from a single parent family back ground, I remember being really sick (flu) in middle school and having to wait for my mom for most of the day to get off of work to come get me. She had a menial job and leaving would have cost her money. I remember thinking when I grow up I am going to marry someone that will be able to provide and I’ll be able to stay home.

Fast forward 20 odd years. I’m a stay at home mom of 3. But I remember how my mom struggled to make ends meet without getting assistance and having humble beginnings. I don’t look down on women who have to, or choose to work. EVERYONE is different. Some people can be content with staying home, while others would get restless. I am saying don’t knock another woman down to make yourself feel better. Obviously there is something missing in your life that you must do that. In my experience a lot of times women who are so hard on other women husbands ignore them, they put their career first or mistress first. Whatever it is, check yourself and support one another. We should not be each other enemies.

Au-roar-A on

That was a very beautiful blog post. I’m very sorry for your loss Elizabeth. I hope your daughter enjoys her new school.

Alva on

Hmmm mommy has to go back to work to help support that lifestyle (debt) that we have all grown accustomed to. Dump two and a half year old in over priced pee-wee educational institute (fancy named daycare) and everyone is guilt free.

Here’s a thought…live within your means and stay home with your kids until they are 5 or 6 years old and ready to leave the nest. Stop having other people raise them for you while you justify having a career. Even better try driving that soccer mobile for an extra couple of years instead of getting a new ride every 3 years on a front loaded lease!

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