Marissa Jaret Winokur’s Blog: Celebrating 10 Years Cancer-Free

12/10/2010 at 10:00 AM ET

Marissa Jaret Winokur co-hosts the new CBS daytime chat show, The Talk, and is mom to 2-year-old Zev Isaac with her husband Judah Miller. Winokur, 37, was diagnosed with cervical cancer 10 years ago, had a hysterectomy and later welcomed her son with the help of a surrogate. Though her road to motherhood had a few twists and turns, she faces the same joys — and challenges — as any working mom.

In her latest blog, Winokur celebrates an amazing 10 years of being cancer-free.

Judah, Zev and Marissa — Courtesy Marissa Jaret Winokur


Okay this week only — if you’re reading my blog to find problems with me and looking to write mean comments, please stop reading now. Seriously, if I annoy you so much that you can’t help but be mean, just stop reading. You can totally resume your negativity next week! But this week is all love and joy and happiness.

I want to share a very personal day with all of you, and my heart can’t tolerate reading anything bad. But next week, feel free to read and find me a whiny, insecure spaz.

Today marks 10 years of me being cancer-free! Ten years ago, I had been dealing with my cancer for a while – I was diagnosed in August of 2000. In December of that same year, I was lying in a hospital bed, questioning my life and wondering what was in store for me before doctors operated to try to remove the tumor.

It’s almost impossible to go back to that time. I was so deeply terrified and depressed. I was 27, an unemployed actress living in a really crappy studio apartment. I had just moved to Los Angeles alone, away from my family. I had cervical and uterine cancer and I was told that I would never be able to carry a baby. (Back then no one ever spoke of surrogates.) On Dec. 10, 2000 I learned I was free of cancer.

I have to admit that at the time of my surgery I was just thinking, “NO MORE CANCER.” I wasn’t thinking, “Oh no, I won’t have a baby.” But I can assure you those thoughts soon followed.

This blog, though, is not about the sadness cancer brought me. Instead, 10 years later I want to embrace it and share the happiness I have felt. Look, I try to have a very positive outlook on things in life but when you are told you have cancer you really don’t want to hear advice like, “Look for the silver lining.” You want to hear, “This totally sucks — let’s get a drink!”

But after that drink I made the decision to literally kick cancer’s ass. And after I did that, I was completely fearless. It wasn’t death that upset me exactly: It was more wondering, “What have I done and what do I want to do?!” So I began living life pretty hard and doing everything I ever wanted to do!

Then I got married and wanted a baby. That’s when it hit me. That’s when the stress and sadness about being unable to carry my own child set in. And oh my God you guys, I WENT CRAZY! When people talk about a biological clock they are not f—ing around! I remember hiking with my girlfriend, weeping about wanting a baby and wanting one NOW!!

It was like a bomb went off in me and I had to be a mother!! I say this only because if this is happening to you (or when it does) it’s totally normal. And if you have that bomb go off in you and you have to be a mom, then do it!

Best friend Jack and Zev — Courtesy Marissa Jaret Winokur


I learned quickly that it’s not easy for anyone — everyone has their own story or issues. But at the end of the day when you go home with that child, no matter where he or she comes from, none of the b.s. matters. I was literally just giving Zev a bath and smothering him with kisses. I am so incredibly emotional this week.

I wish that 10 years ago someone could have told me about my future and said, “Everything will be okay!” It’s better than okay, in fact! I love sleeping in my son’s silly racecar bed. I love watching hours of Yo Gabba Gabba. I love long playdates with his best friend Jack and traveling with Zev. Most of all I love coming home from work and seeing Zev run up to me saying, “My mommy’s home! My mommy’s home!”

I never give him enough credit, but I love my husband Judah, who sat by my side in the hospital all day and night 10 years ago. I feel so lucky and blessed for every day I have had since “The Big C,” and I’m just so happy to share this day with all of you!

I’m happy to share these memories for many reasons, but mostly because if there is someone out there reading my blog that just got crappy news themselves, I hope this inspires you to get up and start living! And know in 10 years it can all be “better then okay.”

If you’re lucky enough to be healthy and strong, take today to look at how lucky you are. I mean really — you may hate your job but who cares? Enjoy your family or friends and leave work where it belongs! If you hate your family or friends, then throw yourself into your work. 🙂

I have no regrets. I had an amazing surrogate who carried my son for me. I am so grateful to her. I can even say I am grateful for having cancer. I was always meant to be a mom, but if I didn’t have cancer I never would have had Zev. I would have had a kid, but not Zev and I want Zev — tantrums and all.

At the end of the day, even cancer had a silver lining. It just took eight years for me to see it. Today I celebrate being cancer-free. What can you celebrate?! Please share with me, and more importantly, with yourself. Don’t wait for a tragedy to see how lucky you are!

Zev and Marissa at Yo Gabba Gabba Live — Courtesy Marissa Jaret Winokur


— Marissa Jaret Winokur

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Sharon on

Anyone who could write something mean about this post is heartless.

Congrats on this huge “anniversary”!!!

Steph on

I think you are such a wonderful person! I love reading your blogs, I am a young mom (23) and I love how you make me feel like I am a normal parent. Congradulations on the great news.

momto3 on

What an amazing woman, and an amazing spirit!! This Blog makes me like this woman so much more!! Good For you Marissa!! You fought and you won, and now you are at a place in your life where you were once told you may never be, such a HUGE accomplishment!!

Congratulations on your life & your Family, You deserve all the Happiness and Love in the world!! ♥

Kitty on

I have recently celebrated my 11th year anniversary of being cancer free from cervical cancer. I applaud you in your courageous battle and congratulations to you. I know how important these milestones are.

Lisa on

Surviving something horrible like cancer does give one a special appreciation for every single day, and all the little blessings (and big ones) that are easily taken for granted. Knowing if something had been done differently one might not even be here to witness each day makes life an even greater gift. Thank you for sharing your journey, and showing there is a silver lining after all!

Kim on

Congratulations!!! As a recent cancer survivor, I know how AWESOME it is to celebrate that! I had my 1 year cancer-free anniversary in September and each day, month, year that passes is a true blessing.

I was diagnosed 2 years ago, at 23 years old. I was just “starting” my life and getting married and having babies was the furthest thing from my mind. After going through a year of chemo, I now worry about the side effects it may have caused, primarily dealing with fertility. I’m 26 now, in an amazing relationship and I definitely know that I HAVE to be a mother one day. Your blogs have given me the inspiration and hope to realize that even though I may not be able to have my own children physically, I will be a mother one way or another!

Congratulations again! Zev is SUCH a cutie! You deserve everything you have and more!

Nelly on

I celebrate being healthy and being able to enjoy seeing my son grown. A week after he was born I was diagnosed with a heart condition. I was in the hospital for a week away from my baby and doctors did not know what was wrong with me. I too have grieved not being able to have another baby. But today I celebrate for you and for all of us who have survived a traumatic medical experience. I love how much I can relate to you as a woman and as a mother. Thank you for writing your blog and being such an inspiration!

Ellen Smith on

Mazel tov on 10 years cancer free! Enjoy every minute with your son. May you have continued good health and happiness with your family.

miameows on

Marissa, I think you are amazing and I cringe when I see the negative comments from some of these people. I certainly can’t apologize for anyone, but just know there are many of us who think you are wonderful and enjoy your blogs! Thank you so much for sharing!!

Dana on

Congrats! I celebrate having 2 beautiful, healthly adorable little girls! I love your blog. enjoy every second with Zev!

Mia on

Congratulations!! May great things and continued health continue into the upcoming new year-2011 to both you + your loved ones.

Melissa on

Congratulations on such a monumental moment!! I celebrate that after struggling for two yrs to concieve, I am proudly 20 weeks pregnant with my son. I also celebrate that at my 12 week OB visit I was tested/biopsied for cervical cancer after some unsettling pap results and just found out this week that it is not cancerous! I hope you have a wonderful holiday with your family!!

Pamela on

Congratulations! What an important and happy anniversary. My cousin just finished her chemo Monday, and my other cousin is cancer free for 3 years now. It’s an amazing accomplishment. And what a beautiful family!

Rebecca on

Congrats, what an awesome anniversary to celebrate! Praise God! I celebrate the fact that I’ve recently started working on Broadway. It’s really been one of my dreams come true. I love reading reading your blog (even though I’m not a mom yet). Keep up the great work! 🙂

Sarah S. on

Congrats Marissa, now that’s something to celebrate in a big way!! My sister has survived 1 bout of ovarian cancer and 2 bouts of cervical cancer. She’s been cancer-free for almost 3 years and hopefully forever. 🙂

Sarah on

I’m so glad you could share your story with so many people that could be going through the same thing and don’t know what they are feeling and if it’s all normal..

Thank you also for always celebrating being a mom…it’s such a wonderful and amazing gift to be able to raise a child 🙂

John's Mom on

I was diagnosed in April 2009 with Thyroid Cancer. My son was only 2 at the time and I will never forget the day my doctor gave me those dreaded test results. I celebrate life today and knowing that all the pain and suffering does end and life does indeed get better!!!! I celebrate “Love” and all the wonderful, blessed people in my life and living one day at a time being “Happy”. Thank you for this blog.

Lilianne on

Congrats on your special anniversary and may you have many more to come! Today I celebrate every facet of my life. The happy, the sad, the stressful, the frustrations, the joy, the peace, the anger, the love…just ALL of it. The little and big moments that make up a day and a life. I endeavor to embrace it all and know how blessed I really am. 🙂

d on

congrats to you! They caught my mommy’s in her early stages and she is scheduled for surgery on my birthday, which is the 28th of this month.

Laura on

This woman rocks! I am so impressed by her positive attitude. It is a sure reason that she beat her cancer. Wish we could all be so optimistic. What a lucky boy she has to have a mom with such perspective, experience and love.

Lisa on

Thank God! What a blessing to be cancer free!

Amber on

CONGRATS, CONGRATS, CONGRATS!!! I’m so happy for you. I love reading your blog. You seem very down to earth. Cute son! 🙂

Danielle on

Hi Marissa,

You are an inspiration!

Keep up your great spirit!


kimberdee on

One of the best blogs I’ve ever read. How insanely inspiring can you be girl?? WOW. You.Are.Amazing. The way you wrote that, I just TOTALLY got IT. Like really got. IT.

Thank you.


DottiCharlee on

You have a very inspiring story to those who are ill, those who are older and want a baby, to anyone really. You have a beautiful son, and family. I hope you have a wonderful chanukah and have a happy and healthy new year!

Wendy on

Mazel-Tov to you and your GORGEOUS family!!

KS on

Thanks so much for sharing and congratulations on 10 years of being cancer free! I am 29 and coming up on my 5-yr anniversary of being cancer free! Get up and live and there is always one reason each day to smile 🙂

Ashley M on

LOVE to you & your family!!! 🙂 xoxo

torgster on

You are really something special and don’t you ever forget it! Your outlook on life makes me ashamed of myself, and to want to be a better person, a person like you.

Debbie on

You go girl!!!

Bella on

I was not one of the “haters” on her blog but this woman DROVE ME CRAZY!

But, After reading this article I am super impressed. What a fantastic outlook! The raw feelings and “who cares” attitude is a perfect combination that many people should really adopt!

Congrats on “kicking cancers ass”!!!

Jes on

I am so happy for you and your family. The picture of the three of you is wonderful. I wish many more happy, and healthy years for you. Thank you for sharing your highs and lows with us and especially your strength with us. I’m not a mom, but lost a terrific one to cancer, if I should one day be a mom I’m sure I’ll have the crazy and wonderfully fulfilling days that you’ve described to us over these past weeks.

Thank you!!!

hgks on

Your posts are absolutely adorable and sincere and this was an especially beautiful one! Congrats on this 10 year anniversary!

Lisa on

Uh-oh, I can’t stop crying!!! So happy for you! Congratulations, Marissa! …So, everything DOES happen for a reason!

Cricket on

I’m celebrating my 9th anniversary cancer free from throat cancer this week. I still have my voice and am raising it in thanks. Glad to hear other stories of survivorship as well !!!

Jennifer on

I wanted to give you a huge {{{hug}}} and congratulations on this anniversary, and for being in such a wonderful place right now with your husband, son and career! I enjoy you on The Talk!

Jeanine on

Your story was wonderful and touching. I am so happy to see that you came out on the other side with such a great outlook!! You are truly an amazing women and someone for everyone to look up too! Thank you so much for sharing your story with us….and here is to another 50 years of being cancer FREE!!!

Shannon on

I usually don’t comment on things, but I want you to know that I think it is wonderful that you write about your real experiences as a mom. I’m not a mom yet but you help me become more comfortable with the thought that not everyone has it all together all the time and that’s ok. Thanks for writing a real blog and not a glossed over one.

Congratulations on your milestone as well!

ev on

More power to you and congratulations on being cancer free. You and your baby are beautiful and I loved watching you cover the Thanksgiving day parade this year. Love that baby and hubs for all you’re worth, they make life worth living, as my 7 yr. old boy and his dad do for me. Blessings to you all.

Karen on

I love you girl. You are so amazing. Your son is so adorable. Best to you and your family and Merry Christmas.

PS I loved you on Dancing with The Stars. You are my inspiration.

Erika on

Congratulations on ten years of being cancer free! While I hope that most of us will never have to celebrate a milestone like that, I am so happy for you and everyone else who has beat cancer!

Melanie on

Congratulations! You have a great outlook on life after cancer. Your son is so adorable. God Bless!

Meghan on

Yeah!! Congratulations on ten years cancer-free!!! I told my Mom about your anniversary and her first question was “How old was she when she was treated?” I told her and she CANNOT believe you are 37! She’s right, you look amazing! Happy and healthy with a beautiful husband and son to love! It doesn’t get better then that!

I just want to say, I for one have been enjoying your blog. You have been very candid with things that some parents don’t like to own up to. We don’t always do everything right (especially with our first born) but only by admitting it can we have an honest dialogue as parents and hopefully improve as parents. Our children are the ones who benefit if we as parents support one another.

jmk on

Congrats on your good health. I enjoy your blog, even though my kids are in college. Looking forward to next week! Happy Holidays!

Jeanne on

Congratulations to you on your anniversary! I love the perspective you have and realizing that while that whole thing really sucked it has shaped you and your family to who you are today, and so in a strange way it was a journey worth taking.

I love that you love your kid with all of your might. Keep it up, and don’t listen to negative people out there!

Here’s to many many more anniversaries like today!!

Karen on

The best anniversary ever!! So happy for you 🙂 As far as the people writing mean things, can you have someone read the postings first and delete the bad ones? Then you can just enjoy the 99.9% of us who care about you!

Hilary on

Wow I needed to read this just now. I just recived news that my mom’s tumor markers for ovarian cancer have gone back up and I’ve been devastated, crying for an hour. To distract my self I started reading and your blog. Thanks for the reminder that having my mom here today is worth celebrating and that it’s my job to help her live all the todays she has left. Blessings to you and yours.

kw75 on

Congratulations on 10 years being Cancer free! God bless you and your loved ones and may you always be as healthy as you are today! In Jesus name, amen! So happy for you!

Jenn on

I love this! I celebrate ‘Happy Heart Attack Day’ every January 24th. In 2011 it will be the 10 year anniversary of experimental heart surgery (septal alcohol ablation) to thin out my heart walls that were too thick. I was maxed out on my medications and facing a ‘roto rooter’ surgery like my Uncle, where they open your heart and scrape out the extra tissue. The surgery I had instead just went in through a vein in my leg and injected alcohol into my heart, causing a heart attack. My husband and I had been married less than a year when I had it done, and you’ve never seen a more scared man. I feel fantastic now, although the tissue can always grow back. My daughters are 7 and 3, and I call them my miracle babies. Without surgery, I wouldn’t have them. Congrats on 10 years cancer free! Life is good, isn’t it?

Tina Gaspard on

I think people’s issue is not the touching story but the fact that People has been posting more about Marisa than any other currently viable celebrity in Speidi-like fashion. If this had been the follow up to, say, an article about the birth of her child…then I think it would have been more well-received. Publicists need to realize that posting pointless articles about people who are not currently in the limelight for their current professional accomplishments OR when they are not serious celebrities with real staying power, doesn’t boost said “celebrities’ popularity. It just annoys people.

kimberly on

Congratulations Marissa on a wonderful milestone! I am currently in treatment for breast cancer and had a PET scan yesterday and hope to hear those beautiful words “cancer free” on Monday. After Mrs. Edwards death this week, I’ve been a little more scared than usual, your story has come just in time to renew my spirit…God is so faithful to me that way. God bless you and your family! I hope ya’ll are having a big celebration tonight!

Megan on

Congrats Marissa, happy for you! I love your upbeat spirit and positive attitude. You were my fave on DWTS.

Beth on

OMG He is just the cutest little boy. I love that hair. Enjoy every minute with him. The years fly by too quickly!

Charlotte on

Happy Cancerversary, Marissa! You are truly an inspiration. I love your blog posts!

Suziesunshine on

Marissa you are such an amazing woman when I read your articles it makes me feel like I am listening to a friend. Congrats on 10 years w/o the BIG C!! You and your family are gorgeous!

Anna on

Raising a sippy cup in celebration!! 🙂

Tina on

congrats.I to had cervical cancer in 1990 and was 23 but I had 2 kids was a very hard time, my mom died the day before my first chemo treatment so I had to wait a week.I got down to 68 pds towards the end of treatment.after i was cancer free my dad died a year after my it’s been 20 years and still cancer free.see you in ten more years.

K on

This was such a wonderful entry. So beautifully written and truly inspiring. People get bad news every day, too often, as far as I’m concerned and a little positivity goes a long way. You have given that to people. Thank you for that.

Congratulations. I wish for you many many more years of health and happiness!

Hanna on

LOVE your blog!!!!!!!!!!!! This one today tugged at my heart strings!!!!!!!!! Thank you for being honest!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! My friend lost her father to cancer 7 years ago and it completely sucked!!!!!!!!!!!!! Happy for you in surviving and being a mommy!!!!!!!!!!!

Cretia on

Congratulations on being cancer free for 10 years! Your story brought tears to my eyes, and we all should thank GOD everyday for every breath we take. I want to have your outlook on life. Live everyday to the fullest, and be grateful for all the good things that come our way. I’m not a Mom yet, but I hope to be someday. And you are truly an inspiration to all woman out there. GOD Bless you and your Family. May you have a lifetime of Health, Happiness, and Love!

Janae on

Today I celebrate the fact that I have a beautiful family and was able to give one to another family as well. I was a surrogate recently and next week (Dec 14) the triplets I carried as a surrogate turn 6 months old. I hope everyone can choose to be happy and celebrate all the good that life brings!! Congratulations on 10 years Marissa!! You are a beautiful woman, so full of life and I love reading your posts!!

April on

Congratulations on being cancer free for 10 years. I love your story and how you have beat cancer. My Sister died of lung cancer 2 years ago. She was told she was in stage 4 in June of that year and she died in October. It’s good to see cancer does not always win.

Karen on


I am in tears as I read this, but they are tears of joy! I too was diagnosed with cervical cancer in August 2000 at age 27! My son was almost 4 years old when I was diagnosed. In September I too celebrated 10 years of being cancer-free. It is an anniversary I proudly celebrate every year! Congratulations on your anniversary!!

Traci on

Marissa, anyone who makes snide remarks to you is truly heartless.

I applaud you for your courage to fight cancer’s ass as you said.

You are an amazing woman and have a beautiful family.

Zev is just too cute and even looks like you.

Toya L. on

You rock Marissa!

Kiersten W on

Many congratulations to you for making it to the ten year mark. May there be many more years to come for you to carry on celebrating. I myself was diagnosed with CML last year. I guess it must of laid dormant from the time I carried my middle daughter. She is now 15. Only recently I have found out that I am in full remission. It is a blessing to know you’re gna live. Many happy holidays to you and your beautiful family. xxx

Mama on

Marissa you are an inspiring woman. Congratulations on so many personal joys in your life.


becca on

I am 34. I had thyroid cancer 2 years ago and have been cancer free since. I just found out 4 days ago that I am pregnant for the first time in my life! Me and my husband are elated because we were told it could be difficult to get pregnant…..hormones and all. So happy for your cancer free anniversary!!! Your son is SO precious. We can’t wait to have a healthy baby boy/girl ourselves. HUGS!

Tee on

Ten years, wow! Congratulations, Marissa! I certainly can’t think of a better thing to celebrate. You’re right, a positive attitude goes a long way… that stands true whether you win or lose whatever health battle you’re facing.

Kactus-Kat on

🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂

Wow! What a great blog message, Marissa, and congrats to you for beating your cancer! Just having the strength to fight it is a miracle! Any mother who had to go through ANY trial/cause for having a baby can relate, too. It’s so hard to want one in a world where it feels like EVERYONE else can get pregnant so easily! I’m glad to hear you made having a child a priority in your life, and even more than the cancer defining you, the joy of the birth of your son will define you forever. I hope all women – battling with whatever they have to: illnesses, economy, faithful/strong relationships, and whatever else gains some strength within themselves to conquer their fears, and be pro-active in their lives.

My sister is presently fighting Stage 4 breast cancer, and has an 11 yr. old daughter. Doctors told her that her daughter was her very last egg. She’s fighting very very hard to deal for her daughter’s sake, but although I “have” told her this sucks, she knows it’s also a miracle she’s brought into this world as a legacy who will never ever love her as her “Mama”. She IS dwelling on her positives, too!

Thanks for sharing such deeply personal moments in your beautiful life!

🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂

ATX Mommy on

Congrats on your special achievment!!! I have read some of your blogs and I think you are a really down to earth person. I hated that they didn’t have you back for Dance Your A$$ Off! I actually stopped watching it. Mel B is ok but not for a fitness show! Anyways…

So what if you “whine” in a blog? Who doesn’t? Sometimes we need to release! If people don’t want to read it….then don’t! People need to chill…

I hope you continue to be in great health and no worries… you have a beautiful family and that is what really matters doesn’t it? Looking into your son’s face and having that rush of love come over you….yeah that’s all that matters.

Annick on

First – Congratulations Marissa on 10 years! You are a lovely, honest and hilarious woman! Your complete honesty is a breath of fresh air.

@Tina Gaspard – wow…..they’re covering her more than any other celebrity? She’s writing a blog! She sends one in frequently. Don’t click on the link then. There are several other items on this website you could click on. Do so. Your comment had ZERO purpose on this site.

Jai on

Nobody cares!!

I’m completely kidding. I LOVE you to death and am so grateful that you’re still here and now have a beautiful little boy. You’re amazing and beautiful in so many ways. ❤ Eff the haters and love who you are. ;D

Michele Hampton on

Hi Marissa!

Congratulations on being cancer free!

God bless!!

Meghan on

This is so amazing! What an inspiring blog. You have really embraced life and all the blessings it can bring, we all need to folow your example! Congratulations on this huge event and on your beautiful family!!

Deborah on

Congrats and God Bless you

jessicad on

What a special day for you, congrats!!! Your blog brought me tears of happiness and your family is absolutely beautiful.

You aren’t any more of a spaz than most us Moms out here, which is why I love reading your honest and hilarious blogs, keep it up:)

Meghan on

I just want to offer my congratulations to @becca! What wonderful news!

Melissa on

Congratulations Marissa! You are truly amazing and so strong. To face cancer must be one of the hardest things anyone could ever go through. To cope with the side effect of infertility because of it must have been a terrible blow. I’m so glad you found your path to your gorgeous son and have found happiness and peace! I hope your joy only increases as time passes!

I think from now on, anyone who dares mouth off on one of your blogs will be shouted down! No one deserves that kind of treatment. You are putting yourself out there to try to help others. We ask you to share! Anyone who comments negatively is just looking for attention and is just plain mean. Just know that your supporters far outnumber those haters!

cait42 on

janae, you have done a wonderful thing for another family!

Marissa, congratulations on being cancer free for 10 years. i remember when we celebrated my aunt’s ten year cancer free anniversary. we were all elated. i have seen the toll cancer takes on people as well as their families. while one of my aunts has made it ten years cancer free, my other aunt was not as lucky. she spent seven years fighting cervical cancer, and this past june she lost her life to cancer. i watched as the cancer made her weak, and how she bought a wig not because she was self conscious about the hair loss but because she was sick of the looks of pity she received from strangers. my aunt was strong and caring and i miss her greatly. i also lost my grandmother this past may to cancer, she had been diagnosed three weeks before she died. its a great accomplishment to beat cancer, and i think it is important to keep cancer in the minds of everyone. to hope that the cure will be discovered.

Denise on

Such an uplifting blog!! Made me smile many times!! MANY, MANY, MANY CONGRATULATIONS!!!! Sooo nice to see you enjoying this time with your husband and little boy after something so traumatic. Your son is adorable and its so great to see the joy he brings you!! I’d have to agree with the others here… one of the best blogs I have read! THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR POSTING! 🙂

B.J. on

Marissa – I am so very happy for you. You’ve been blessed in the last decade and you appreciate it totally! It’s wonderful to see.

I have a chronic, incurable illness that will prevent me from carrying a child, but seeing your journey gives me hope. I am 26 years old.

And I love Yo Gabba Gabba… even without a toddler to watch it with!

Gina on

Marissa, what an inspiring post! Congrats on your anniversary and the immense joy you feel from being a mom. I can relate to the overwhelming desire to become a mother… I have known since I was around 10 that I’ve wanted to be somebody’s mother. Not there yet but I look forward to that day when it comes.

Health, love, and happiness to you, Zev and your husband.


amandamay on

@Tina Gaspard – People has been posting Marissa’s blog in the Celebrity Baby section – This is an on-going People/Celeb Baby thing. They have a celebrity write several blogs about their experiences as parents – There have been many (like Train frontman Pat Monahan, Kourtney Kardashian and Mark McGrath from Sugar Ray) People isn’t just writing random articles about Marissa, they’ve ASKED her to contribute a blog!

Pamela MacPhee on

What a joy to celebrate! I carried a baby girl as a surrogate for my cousin who was diagnosed with cervical cancer and subsequent infertility from radiation treatment……….and they are a wonderfully happy family now just like you….grateful for all they have. And I am so grateful that I was able to be there for them. Congrats to you on a special day:)!

Esther on

Thank you for sharing your amazing story. I’ve lost two friends to cancer and sometimes I forget that it is possible for people to kick cancers ass. Mazel tov on your anniversary. I look forward to reading about many more.

Hea on

Congrats! I’ll hopefully celebrate 10 years of no recurrence in March myself. It’s a pretty wonderful thing!

Hea on

becca – A million congrats to you and your husband and happy holidays to the three of you! Or four, who knows? 😉

Leah on

What a wonderful wonderful thing to be celebrating. I have tears brimming in my eyes – such a beautifully honest “Fairytale” (well, as fairytale as you can get with the C word)

I so needed to read this post today – I am having some issues with my 5 year old. Reading the ” I want Zev, tantrums and all” definitely hit home. I went thru so many struggles to have my son.. a heartbreaking miscarriage of my first pregnancy at 16 weeks, then getting pregnant with twins, but losing his twin sister at 13 weeks of pregnancy,several long months of bedrest, a scary crash csection. I remember crying, so overwhelmed with love for this little being….so amazed he was really here..and that he was mine.

Now I’m a mom to three (5,2 and 9 months)….and when the chaos erupts (and believe me, it does) sometimes I forget how blessed I truly am. I need to remember that feeling of pure love for my babies…and remember that even when they are fighting, throwing tantrums etc….in the big picture, that stuff doesn’t matter. What matters is that we are together, we have our health, a roof over our heads and most importantly…that we have love.

Thank you for sharing this milestone with us – you gave me some perspective I sorely needed today!

FLH on

Congrats Marissa…this was a great post. I am grateful for my own health, my wonderful husband and our first baby on the way. I am grateful that I still have a job despite this economy and that my husband and I have weathered this storm pretty well. I am grateful for my friends and family… and grateful that my good friend has also beaten cancer – stage 4 non-hodgkins lymphoma too. It’s amazing what a positive spirit can do!

Janice on

I like to think that with all the negativity and sadness out there, there are people out there reading your blog who got just the positivity and optimism they needed from your story. Congratulations on your ten-year!!!!!!!

Amy on

Congratulations on being 10 years cancer free Marissa! That’s so incredible. Thank you so much for sharing your heartfelt personal stories with us each week. I have found myself looking forward to reading them each week 🙂

Pearl on

Mazel Tov, Marissa, on this tremendous milestone.

You and Judah have yourselves a beautiful and wonderful child in Zev; may you each be blessed to watch one another grow old — in good health.

Halley on

Congratulations on the wonderful milestone!! I am thrilled for you and your beautiful family. Everytime I see one of your pictures of you and your son, it just radiates happiness. Its beautiful to see! Here’s hoping that the next 10 years bring you even more happiness and blessings, you deserve it!!

Janelle on

I just wanted to say that I love love love your blogs, they are so real and somthing I totally look forward to. Congrats on your 10 years.

Janice on

Congrats on being cancer free!!! Your blog is always fun to read. I love how you talk about being a mom. I am the same way. My biological clock went off Christmas of 2008 and I was pregnant by May it really is all you think about.

Molly on

I applaud your passion and appreciation of being a parent!

Sue on

Congrats! I LOVE your blog!! Congrats on your 10th year of being cancer free! I dont know how anyone can write a neg comment about your blog. You are so down to earth and I really relate to you! Thank you so much for your honestly and putting it all out there!

Katie on

I needed this today! my hubs and I tried for 4 1/2 years to get pg. august of ’09 I found out I was pregnant. 1 year ago this friday (on my birthday no less) at 18 weeks pregnant my son was diagnosed with spina bifida. I didn’t know what to expect and was scared to death. My Ryder was born in april, he had a few surgeries but all is well now…I’m right there with you, I love rolling on the floor with him, watching him discover everything in the house he shouldn’t lol and everything that comes with being a mom. Thanks for reminding us to never take anything for granted. and WOO-HOO for 10 years! screw cancer!…oh and Zev is B-E-A-U-tiful!

Sherrie on

GREAT POST!!! If you annoy others maybe they should stop reading your blog!!! OBVIOUSLY THEY LOVE YOU!!!! They keep coming back right??


tony on

Conglats Marissa love and keep your husband and children close.I have lost 4family members to cancer.It is nice to hear a happy ending for once. May God hold you and your love ones close. Bless you Marissa and may you have a long happy life.


I live each day as if it were my last because one day it will be.
There was a survey done, and 10 out of 10 poeple die.
We all would be prudent to enjoy life to the full while we can.

Melissa on


I’m 40 and I’m facing health issues of my own right now. With the holidays and family issues I’m an emotional mess. I’m sad and crying all the time and your blog just gave me my first “real” smile in quite some time. It truly touched me in a way that I didn’t expect it to when I started reading. Thank you for sharing the story of your blessings, your spirit is as beautiful as you and your family are. Congratulations and may God continue to bless you and your family.

Happy Holidays and thanks again for sharing this, I needed to read it,

aime on


Thank you for being God’s servant. You are taking whatever he gives you with such a positive and joyful heart.

You inspire, really you do. It’s great to have someone to relate to who is in the spotlight but also has faced the same issues many women in this world go thru.

I have PCOS, I tried several things to try to have a baby, nothing has worked yet. But your words have inspired me to keep trying and to keep my hope and faith in God who will soon give me the blessing of my heart’s desire to have a baby, no matter how the baby comes to me.

Thank you so much for opening and sharing your life.

Many blessings.

Jan on

Congrats on being cancer free for 10 years. I wish you a lifetime of continued cancer free days. Surrogacy is a wonderful gift from one human to another. But, let us know forget… a child is a child is a child. I have two of the most precisous children in the world, both of whom were given up by very loving birth mothers for adoption. Please let us all as we strive to have families of our own, not get so wrapped up in having “our own children” and forget about the one’s already here in desperate need of a loving home. My children are MY CHILDREN and they were and will always will be my greatest treasures and joys.

silvia on

beautiful! simply inspiring! i lost my mother to that same kind of Cancer.she put up a huge fight.. i truly congratulate you on your 10 years ! you ARE lucky! we all are!!As you point out ( and i have recently discovered personally) we all have something to feel extremely grateful for!

gratitude is the attitude!


Jax on

I have only known you from this website with you and your family. I must that you are absolutely gorgous and I hope someday I find a woman as amazing as you are. I am so happy for you and your family. You are such a strong woman! Your right– We all have our stories and issues, but at the end of the day when you bring that baby home, nothing else matters! Good for you Girl! 🙂

Melissa on

What a joyful story to read during this holiday season. Thank you for sharing!

josh on

I myself, have never had cancer or any disease. I read and loved the story…way to go. My girlfriend is at her yearly appointment at Duke today. Today is her 10th anniversary as well. I wasn’t with her at the time of her cancer struggles. But I’m happy I am with her now.