Matt Damon: Four Kids Is a ‘Whole New Dynamic’

11/15/2010 at 04:00 PM ET
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A near barroom brawl — and a quick escape! — eight years ago left Matt Damon with a sweet memory he will never forget: meeting his wife Luciana for the first time.

“I was hiding behind the bar because I was getting hassled … I went [back] and [Lucy] said, ‘What the hell are you doing here?’ because I didn’t work there and I was behind her bar,” laughs the Hereafter star, 40, to Hello! Canada.

“I genuinely feel like — people have that saying about seeing someone across a crowded room — I swear to God, that happened to me … something incredible happened the first time I saw her.”

Discovering Luciana was the mother of daughter Alexia from a previous relationship didn’t faze the actor in the least, he says.

“I moved and suddenly it wasn’t just my wife. It was her 4-year-old little girl — who’s now 12,” he explains. “There was never a choice. It was just the way it was, and I was happy for that.”

The couple have since welcomed three more daughters — Isabella, 4, Gia, 2, and 4-week-old Stella — and life in the Damon household is anything but peaceful!

“It’s been pretty crazy. The baby came a couple of weeks early. It’s our fourth, so we’ve done it before — but it’s a whole new dynamic,” Damon notes.

While organizing a family of six will “take a little getting used to,” the Damons believe they can do it all — until they realize they’re outnumbered!

“In terms of juggling responsibilities, you’re going, ‘I’ll do that. No problem, I’ll do that,’” he jokes. “After a week you go, ‘Wait a minute! We have to figure out a plan here.’ The girls … all require different things.”

That said, Damon wouldn’t change a thing. “It was very different, it’s true,” he says of his path to fatherhood, “but I can’t imagine my life having not gone down that road. I can’t imagine what my life would be now. I don’t want to imagine it.”

– Anya Leon

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mommyof2 on

oh my how sweet!!! he truly seems like a down to earth man!! so cute how they met, and how he never even thought twice about her daughter. I am so happy for them!!

Mallory on

What a way to meet your future wife! Haha. Such a cute story. He seems like a guy that is honestly so in love with ALL of his girls.

Beautee on

Sweet. sweet interview. My husband will tell anyone that, the minute he saw me he knew I was the one he’d marry. = )

robinepowell on

I’d like Matt to explain why his two youngest daughters have the same middle name. Is there some significance to it? ;)

jessicad on

I love reading stories like this since I’m a single Mother to a 3 year old little girl. At times it feels like I’ll never find someone but when I read about Matt or Seal it gives me hope!

Precious precious family and no doubt he loves all of his girls:)

Erin on

jessicad – I always enjoy reading your posts and I believe there’s a great guy out there that you’re going to find. Most likely when it’s not convenient – that’s how it always goes! But love has a tricky way of finding you, right? When it does happen, let us know! Good luck!

Charity on

Well, I’m sure the fact that she’s gorgeous helped! ;) He seems like such a great family man.

fuzibuni on

i dont know if i’ve ever seen a picture of his little girls… they do a good job keeping them away from the limelight.

simi on

jessicad love will find you, don’t worry. i know waiting and wanting to be loved sucks, but look at it this way, that little girl loves you unconditionally, there is not love in this world like love of a child. we all have someone out there yours just has not come along yet, but he will. and if you are worried cause you already have a little girl, all men that I know (my husband is in the military I know mostly men) will love her as if she was born of their blood.

just trust yourself, be yourself, always put her first, be honest to any man you meet that she comes first, and you will find the right guy for her and you. if i can sit here without a heart in my chest while i am waiting for my transplant, which we have, and chances of that were 1 in 37 million, you can find love for both you and your princess:):):)

i love matt and his family every time he talks about them, if you are luck to see the interview his face lights up. you know that to this daddy there is nothing more important in the world than his baby girls and their mom. what more could anyone ask for. well someday the 14 year old in me, wishes that he was madly in love with me, well him, jon bon jovi, and lets not forget the ever sexy johnny depp :):):):):)i’ll take all three of them if no one objects:)

Anonymous on

jessicad, i, too, enjoy your posts. you seem like such a level headed and great person among the sea of negative nancys on this site. i’m positive you will meet an equally great man who will accept your baby girl as his own. i wish you all the best.

simi on

Jessicad you are getting so much support on this site it’s very nice to see, in the sea of mostly negative comments. Who ever you are I hope love find you soon, and hopefully he is better looking that Matt Damon, but love you and your little girl just as much as Matt loves his, and hopefully little more.

It great to read about such a lovely family and how he met his wife, and how he without a question accepted and fell in love with her baby girl as well and just as quick.

I wish them and you Jessica all the best in the future.

CelebBabyLover on

robinepowell- They’ve never actually announced Isabella’s middle name, so all three girls may have the same middle name. And I’m curious, too. :)

Michelle on

Matt will have to add an ‘a’ to the end of his first name to fit in with his “girls”!!

jessicad on

You guys just made my week, thank you so much:)

simi, what an amazing story!

Trish on

Damon is really impressive. In an industry that swallows you whole, this man manages to live a very normal, balanced life – and he has been this way since the beginning. No lapses of public insanity, meltdowns, arrogant and entitled episodes. Nope, not Damon. At 40, he is a dedicated family man, a very talented actor (talk about the ability to take on different roles and put out solid performances!), a humanitarian, and just an all around decent person. Best of luck to him and his wife Luciana.

Joscelyne on

Hi jessicad,

I haven’t read any your prior posts but I will just assume that what the others said is true and that you are a lovely person. As a former single momma myself, I know how difficult it can be to find that special someone. I thought it would be even more difficult because I had a very protective little boy who never wanted to share me with anyone yet alone another man! But as the others had said, love happens when you least expect it. I was introduced to my husband by his mother (she worked for the car dealership where I had just purchased my first car).

When we first met, I thought he was cute but a little too young (we are the same age but I prefer older men). At the time we were only 22 and I didn’t think that a 22 yr old young man would want to be involved with a woman with a small child. I couldn’t been more wrong. We started off as friends because I wasn’t looking for anything serious but the more we hung out together, the more I fell in love with him.

I met my husband in February 2007 and we were married on May 11, 2007, less than 3 months later! Everyone thought that we were either crazy or pregnant but neither was true (we welcome our first child together 14 months later). I hope this is of an encouragement to you and that you don’t give up on love. Don’t stop believing ! :)

Jes on

Jessicad I agree completely with Joscelyne and the others. I was in a very bad relationship and thought it was the best that was out there for me then 1 day I woke up and realized I couldn’t do it anymore. I gave my X the boot that day. 1 week later I went out on a date with a guy I had met through friends years earlier and 4 months later we were married.

That was 8 years ago and I am more happy today then I ever imagined I could be. We adopted a little girl in 2008. With her arrival every dream I ever had came true. So keep the faith love will find you when you least expect it.

Esme on

There is nothing sweeter and sexier than a man who is actively involved in his children’s lives. Love the couple and their four beautiful princesses. They are blessed!

Esme on

Jessicad, Concentrate on being the best mom and person you can be and that special someone will walk into your life.

It happened to my sister with two small children and along came my brother-in-law. One of the most wonderful men I know. My sister passed away from breast cancer and he is now a single Dad raising teenagers. That person will walk into your life as you are keeping busy.

Jenny on

Matt Damon is great. I think it’s wonderful that he fell in love with someone outside the “Hollywood Glamore”.

melissa on

OK I always loved Matt Damon because he chose a normal single non-famous girl to make his wife.

sonya on

Matt and his wife have done an amazing job of keeping their private life private. Congrats to them for not selling the baby pics to the highest bidder.

Allison J on

I love this couple! What a great family and great story. You can tell that Matt totally adores his wife.

I am a single mom to a 10 year old and 7 year old. Been divorced 5 years. Just like Jessica, I hope there is a man out there who will love me and love my kids. I keep the faith and know it will happen someday!

Best to the Damon Family…

Terri on

Cute story.

alice jane on

jessicad, kudos to you for posting an honest comment (that you probably weren’t expecting this kind of response to!) and turning this into one of the nicest, well-meaning posts I’ve seen for awhile here! :) I’m more of a lurker here and post occasionally, but like the others I’ve noticed some of your posts and I always agree 100% with what you’re saying. Best of luck to you and your little girl, and as it’s already been said, I think that when you least expect it that Matt Damon-esque man will come into your lives. I’m waiting for mine too… ;)

Now speaking of Matt Damon, he really is something else… Such a beautiful family! I’m curious too as to the meaning behind Gia and Stella’s middle names, but I think it’s really cute. Maybe all the girls have the same middle name?

Elle on

To all the curious of his youngest daughters’ middle name…
In Latin America its pretty common to have a single name (it can be two, though) and both parent’s last names. Since Luciana is Argentinian they probably gave them her last name as a middle name to a) pay homage to their family name; b) legal procedures. So it’s not about sharing the same name, BUT her mother’s last name.

Bancie1031 on

AWE what a sweet and loving story …… I think Matt and Luciana make such a cute couple not to mention they have gorgeous children :D Matt definitely seems like a loving husband and father :)

CelebBabyLover on

Elle- Zavala is not Lucy’s maiden name though. Lucy’s maiden name was Bozen (and when her first married name, when she was married to Alexia’s father, was Barriso, which is also Alexia’s last name). :)

jessicad on

I feel so special! :) I really appreciate you guys sharing stories and I’m glad some of you notice my comments, it’s easy to get wrapped up in the negative! This site has been a favorite of mine for years and I try to keep it a positive escape:)

I actually recently met someone who definitely has potential, I try not to get my hopes up though. I haven’t dated much since my daughter was born, I decided to focus on her and enjoy the time she was little because I knew it would go fast. So, we’ll see! I’ll keep you guys posted:)

poppy on

will he try for a boy?

CelebBabyLover on

poppy- He’s said that this is it for them for kids. :)

GigĂ­ on

I was thinking that maybe Zavala is a family name from Luciana’s side (Luciana and her family are from Argentina where Zavala is a known last name) and they just follow a family tradition. You know,Matt’s middle name is Paige:Matthew Paige Damon. His mom’s name is Nancy Carlsson-Paige,so maybe they do the same with Gia and Stella: they use a family name as middle name.We don’t know if the others two daughters share the same name too.Well,it’s just a thought.

Kaci on

Every time I read an article about him I love him more. I mean celebrity crush love. Not crazy love. LOL!

I too was a single mom with a young daughter. I met my husband when she was four. We have been married 5.5 years now and could not be happier. I thank my lucky stars every single day that I met him and have him in my life. My daughter calls him dad. It melts my heart when he tells people he has three children. He never says, oh I have a step-daughter, a daughter and a son.

We were introduced by my boss at a baseball game. I can remember the first time I saw him…I knew I was going to marry him.

Awww love.

Wow on

My husband caught my eye when I was 9 and he was 13. He tried to beat my brother up at the park in our small town. 23 years later…we have been married for 6 and 1/2 years! I can’t imagine my life without him. He’s always been there.

Elizabeth on

sounds so sweet!! My husband and I met in school (high school sweethearts) he said as he first lay his eyes on me, I just wowed him. From there on he felt these feeling for me, couldn’t explain. I was 16 and he was 17. Now! we have been married going on 27 years, 3 kids(boys) and 2 Grandsons and 1 granddaughter on the way. We are pretty much still inlove. Still can’t totally keep our hands off each other after 26 years…. Now! if that is not love than I don’t know what it is.

joann on

I enjoy watching Matt in his films, and he is even more appealing to read how he is portrayed as a down to earth, family man. He is a good looking man who respects and loves his beautiful wife. I’m happy for the both of them and glad that this children have two wonderful, caring, loving, nurturing parents.

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