Pat Monahan’s Blog: Phases of Fatherhood
Thanks for welcoming our newest celebrity blogger — Pat Monahan!
The Train frontman is dad to two teens — Patrick, 17, and Emelia, 13 — as well as Autumn, his 2-year-old daughter with wife Amber.
In addition to Train — whose latest album Save Me, San Francisco has spawned the hit singles “Hey, Soul Sister,” “If It’s Love” and “Marry Me” — Monahan also voices the lead character on Sprout’s Driver Dan’s Story Train.
In his latest blog, Monahan, 41, discusses the tradeoffs that come with being a dad on the road — and why if you bring your children to a Train show, they may just end up on stage!
|Autumn joins Dad for a shave – Courtesy Pat Monahan|
Over the years, I’ve been asked a lot about having children — how it has affected my music and how it is touring with a family. There are a ton of answers to these questions. First of all, having children has really defined me as a person, a musician and mostly as a writer. The responsibility that comes with trying to be a good parent really forms everything for you without having to force it.
I was 23 years old when my son Patrick was born; 28 years old when my daughter Emelia was born and I was 39 years old when Autumn was born. Each phase of life as an artist was also a phase as a father. I have no idea what my music would be without children. I don’t want to know.
I’ve always been a guy who felt like I was getting to the real meanings of life through children way more than music. Music, however, has been my healer and energy force and I am so lucky to have both a voice and a family.
|Patrick and Emelia horse around – Courtesy Pat Monahan|
As the last of seven kids myself, I’ve always been surrounded by children. I was an uncle at age 5! Having children around me just feels right. This is why I usually choose kids to come onstage and be “trainettes” at Train shows. They’re so much fun and they’re really sincere — I love sincerity most in life.
Speaking of, I sincerely miss my children right now. I’m in Argentina with the band and without Skype and a cell phone, I’d be a crazy (well, crazier) person.
Being a father has been natural for me, but I am sad about all the time I miss with my children. I don’t get to go to games, see plays, attend PTA meetings, etc. I do, however, get to be with my kids in beautiful places and do amazing things that I only dreamed of as a child.
So, I suppose there really is no perfect way to live life. Loving your family is what you all deserve in the end. Someone has to believe in you and have your back. I love my family and we have each other’s backs.
My father taught me at a very young age that blood is thicker than water. Not sure exactly what that means, but I plan to say it to my children a lot as time goes on. Thanks, Dad … I think? 🙂
|Daddy’s girls – Courtesy Pat Monahan|
Sending you love,
— Pat Monahan