Monica Says Sons Were ‘Very Patient’ on Tour

10/11/2010 at 05:00 PM ET
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Like all working moms, Monica says she’s striving for balance.

To that end, when it became apparent that sons Rocko, 5, and Romelo, 2½, had grown weary of life on the road Monica knew instinctively it was time to make a change.

“They have been very patient throughout this tour,” she points out to the Los Angeles Times, “but my 5-year-old just said, ‘Mama, I love the bus, but is this almost over?'”

For the R&B singer, 29, the choice was clear.

“That means it’s time for me to give them my undivided attention for a month or two,” she explains. “[But] I’ll go back in the studio. I want to find that balance again of catering to my relationship, my children and my family. But not disappearing in it the way I have the last time.”

And while she’s been open and honest about who she is — appearing on the reality show Still Standing, which chronicled her life while making the album of the same name — Monica says that the only approval she needs or seeks comes from Rocko and Romelo.

“I know that I have two young sons that are watching me on a daily basis,” she notes. “They will have to be able to look to me and be able to feel good about the person that raised them. I think about my kids and how they’ll feel even before I record certain records.”

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Patsy on

Way to go girl! I’m sure it’s not easy stepping back and sacrificing for your children while your at the peak of your career. However, I think that decision deserves kudos!

CelebBabyLover on

Are she and the boys’ father (I forget his name) not together anymore? Also, I see that eldest boy has outgrown his orignal nickname of Lil Rock! 🙂

M926 on

Monica has a very positive outlook on things. Her boys are beautiful and it seems that in every moment she caters to their needs and does things with the mindset of any giving mother worrying about how it will all affect her boys. An amazing career woman and she seems to be an even more fascinating mommy. Way 2 go 🙂

Tee on

She and Rocko aren’t together anymore, she’s dating Shannon Brown (of the Lakers)

Lady on

Monica is clearly a good mommy…Rocko has already tested in the 1st grade…so she must be doing something right…love her!!

Beautee on

She seems to be a great mother and the boys are handsome.

Shaunie on

I love Monica!

From what I’ve seen and heard Monica is an amazing mother… I’ve seen videos of her oldest and he is so intelligent, and well spoken. She also wrote on her twitter that he is already doing 2nd grade level school work!